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Foreplay – Why You Never Want To Skip It, Ever

Foreplay is something that you should always do, every single time you have sex. Here’s why foreplay is absolutely essential to great sex.

Foreplay is often understood as the set of activities done before actual intercourse. The typical menu includes kissing, caressing, getting & giving head, touching, groping, hugging, fingering etc. Men feel like dogs if they don’t engage in it, and they’ve heard or read somewhere that plenty of it makes them a great lay – so they sign up. Foreplay makes gentlemen out of horny boys.

Doesn’t matter if you’re a newbie or an expert, foreplay works like a charm – definitely gets a woman going.

A guy only falls short when he thinks of it merely as a ploy to get his woman worked up and pre-heat her ovens. If he sees foreplay simply as a preliminary, he will effectively dismiss it the moment he considers her ready to receive him. That’s how a goal-oriented person behaves! When the goal is struck, one moves on to other things.

Why Women Love It

Because it largely embodies what women, the XX gender, are all about.

They want it far, far more than any other part of the program, yes, even penetration. Not because they need extra ticks to heat up, but because it is in foreplay that their physical and emotional needs are met.

She wants to feel needed, wanted and appreciated. Kissing, caressing and gazing into her eyes accomplish exactly that. It makes her gasp, “Wow, he thinks more of me than just a vagina on heels!” It’s the most personal part of the act, and probably the only time her presence is being fully recognized. (Because when the pumping begins, men often fly off to their own worlds and forget about their partners.)

But foreplay bridges the emotional and the physical. To her, it captures the essence of the phrase: Being with a man.

And something very interesting happens during foreplay. Eve not only senses the touch, the physical connection, but the emotional underpinnings as well. For example, when you kiss her, she doesn’t just feel the lips touching, she relishes the emotional bond. (This connection is what women fuss about.)

In addition to this, it is especially designed for the senses. The sensual bombardment is so remarkable, and the potential for pleasure so high, that it rivals the ecstasy of an orgasm. Being multi-sensory, significantly fascinated by process and details, women relish every drop of the stuff going on. The smell of candles, the sound of lip-locks, the caress of your fingers, the slow and steady build-up of sexual heat – women are sucker for these.

Not that sensual bliss is solely found in foreplay, but tastefully done, it can be like one long orgasm.

The Grossly Underplayed Card

In a committed relationship, there are certain physical accesses and privileges that only YOU, her partner, can avail of.

Foreplay is one.

No one else is licensed to connect with her in the manner that you are encouraged to. Not even her long time girlfriend can do that to her body, as society limits them to hugs & kisses. Only you are tolerated to caress her breasts, lick her body or slip your fingers without a lawsuit. Nobody else has that privilege of ravishing and indulging her.

Only you. Hands, tongue, any part of you, can mesh with hers – without apologies and without restraint.

Unfortunately, this is an underused card. Men take foreplay for granted, not understanding their total franchise of her body, mistaking kisses and caresses as means to an end.

The irony, is that out of the many uncontrollable emotional forces operating inside your woman’s body, one of the most potent is the yearning to be kissed & touched. She’s dying to be kissed and craving to be touched. She wants the warmth of another person. In a committed relationship, the source of all that (and more), is you. The only one who can fill such an unimaginable need.

Think about that for a moment.

Last Longer In Bed Tonight With These 5 Simple Tricks

By jackgrave

Last longer in bed and “WOW” your girl this evening with these five easy tips. When you last longer in bed, she will LOVE it!

These tips I’m about to share with you are “quick-fix” solutions. These solutions require virtually NO extra effort and they are great to use when you don’t have time to implement a long-term strategy for treating premature ejaculation or you just want some instant results to last longer TONIGHT.

So don’t look at these as the “ultimate solution” to premature ejaculation, but look at them as a powerful starting point and a way to help you build some momentum in learning how to get full control in the bedroom.

Masturbate Before Sex

If you’ve got the time, masturbate once before you know you’re going to have sex. Having one orgasm in the day means you’re much more likely to last longer the second time round during sex.

Wear A Thick Condom

One of the causes of premature ejaculation is experiencing too much stimulation and getting overwhelmed with pleasure. One “quick-fix” way to put a stop to this is with a thick condom that will reduce the pleasure you feel. It’s not an ideal solution, because it will make sex less pleasurable, but you will get the longer-term pleasure of long-lasting sex.

Do Math In Your Head

Here’s another “last ditch attempt to gain control” method you can use when nothing else is working. Try doing some complicated math in your head. By having to work out something complicated it takes your focus away from the pleasure going on in your genitals and so will delay your orgasm.

Urinate Before Sex

This is such a simple trick, but almost no man does it. You probably don’t realize this, but having a full bladder puts pressure on your genitals which encourages early orgasm. Put a stop to this unnecessary cause of premature ejaculation by urinating before you have sex.

Lick The Roof Of Your Mouth

This actually originates from Tantric sexual practices. The theory is that by licking the roof of your mouth you transfer energy up your body away from the genitals and in the process you last longer. Whether you believe the theory or not doesn’t really matter, what matters is that it works so I highly recommend you give it a try.

Pull Out And Give Her Oral Sex

Do you ever find yourself getting close to orgasm and feel like there’s nothing you can do? Well don’t just keep thrusting away expecting to miraculously be able to last longer, take corrective action. If you pull out and give her oral sex you’ll give yourself that much needed break from stimulation but at the same time you’ll keep the pleasure going for her. It’s a win-win move because you get to last longer and she still gets pleasure.

3 Premature Ejaculation Cures That Actually Work!

By jackgrave

Premature ejaculation cures can help you restore your sex life to what it used to be, or even better! Here are three effective suggestions to use TONIGHT!

Now, to be able to last longer in bed you’ve firstly got to understand what causes us men to orgasm. Because the bottom line is, we don’t just orgasm out of no where. Orgasms happen for a reason and they always have a cause. And if we can understand the causes of orgasm and then change those causes, we have the power to last longer in bed.

Causes Of Orgasm

One cause of orgasm is high levels of physical tension in the body. You may have noticed during sex that just before you orgasm your muscles, in particular your leg and butt muscles, will tense up, and as you orgasm they’ll suddenly relax. This is because orgasms are a release of tension.

And for an orgasm to happen there has to be tension in the body. Here’s where being smart about the causes of orgasm comes in – remember how I just mentioned if we can understand what causes orgasm we can last longer?

Well, one way to last longer then is to eliminate tension from the body. By eliminating tension we remove the cause of orgasm and therefore last longer.

#1 – Get Her On Top

One of the best premature ejaculation cures is to use the sex position where she is on top, while you are lying flat on your back. What’s great about this position for lasting longer is that in this position you have the unique opportunity to fully relax your leg and butt muscles. In most other positions this just isn’t possible because generally you’re the one having to do the work which involves tensing of muscles.

With you on your back it’s a totally different story. Since she’s the one doing most of the work in this position you can focus on really relaxing your leg and butt muscles. And by relaxing those muscles you release tension from your body, which like I mentioned earlier, is a big cause of orgasm. By eliminating that cause of orgasm, you last longer.

#2 – Deep Breathing

Another great way to eliminate that unwanted tension from your body is with deep breathing. This is often totally counter-intuitive for men during sex, because instinct will have us unconsciously breathing shallow and fast.

This is just how our bodies naturally act during sex. But unfortunately this only leads to premature ejaculation, because quick shallow breathing INCREASES tension in our bodies.

So taking a minute during sex to focus solely on slow deep breathing can help you dramatically increase how long you last in bed.

#3 – Visualization

Now, I never used to be someone who was into “visualization” and all that “weird” stuff, but after I heard people talking about visualization for like the ten thousandth time I decided to actually give it a go. And I suggest you do too.

Because visualizing is a great addition to the premature ejaculation cures I’ve already mentioned, especially when it comes to relaxing and eliminating tension. Although PHYSICAL tension is what is actually needed to orgasm the thoughts going through our head dramatically influence your physical tension. For example, if you’re super-nervous and worrying intensely about sex then the chances are your body will be tensing up too.

Whereas as if you’re super-cool and you’re visualizing yourself being cooler than James Bond then your body will have a completely different level of tension, most likely a lot closer to NO tension than if you’re worrying intensely. As “new age” as it might sound to use visualization to help you relax and last longer just go ahead and try it.

Visualize yourself being relaxed, in control and lasting longer and you’ll find it’s one of the best premature ejaculation cures around.

Orgasm Tips – How The Orgasm Cycle Works In Men And Women

By loveandsex

An orgasm is the icing on the cake when it comes to sex, but men and women don’t experience an orgasm the same way. Here’s how to understand the difference.

The “Human Sexual Response” is a cycle of 4 stages. They are:

Excitement
Plateau
Orgasm
Resolution

Stage One – Excitement

This happens the first instance you see a scrumptious fox on the street (or on TV). Really, any physical or psychological event that causes parasympathetic nerve stimulation can commence the cycle. The stimuli vary and may also take the form of a sound, emotion or a naughty thought.

Things get ugly right away – your heart starts racing, respiratory rates shoot up, blood flow to the genitals increases. In seconds, little Johnny would have grown a few inches. Your scrotum thickens and the testes rise. It’s official, you’re horny.

A woman similarly experiences increased blood flow to the genital area, causing her clitoris to swell. The vagina increases in diameter & length, her cervix and uterus are pulled up. She starts producing more lubrication and is getting very wet. Her breast and nipples become erect, and she starts breathing heavily as heart and respiratory rates shoot up.

Now, while there are many similarities in how the genders experience Excitement, there is one glaring difference. Generally, MEN GET HOT IN AN INSTANT. Snap! And we’re good to go. Women need a reasonable time. For the life of us, we cannot understand why it takes a woman ages to be ready. For her part, she can’t comprehend the ridiculous speeds with which guys can be neutral one second and insanely horny the next.

Recognize this distinction in arousal speeds. This single disparity will snowball through intercourse. Because they get aroused in an instant, men will often misjudge the readiness of their partners as they lustfully advance to the rest of the stages. As a result, women often feel left behind, even left out of the SEX. Not good.

Stage Two – Plateau

“Plateau” may bring images of restful leisure, but don’t be mislead, PLATEAU is a turbulent stage – no restful leisure here. Remember those ugly things that take over your body during the Excitement Stage? Well, they continue with full abandon during Plateau.

Heart rate reaches as high as 175 lustful beats a minute. Respiratory rates remind you of your track and field days, (who says sex isn’t a sport?) Your penis undergoes extreme congestion and you’ll be seriously thinking if it can explode or fly off your body. This is where you do most of the works – kissing, sucking, penetration, sexual positions etc.

Stage Three – Orgasm

Orgasm, this is the money-maker right here. Lasting only a few seconds, O’s are considered the most ecstatic moments of a person’s existence. After tension building in stages 1&2, blood congestion in the genitals is suddenly and decisively expelled through muscular contractions. This may sound straightforward, but the euphoria of discharging built-up tension sends people through the roof, profanity may be the only sufficient way to describe a pleasure-intensive experience.

Male vs. Female Orgasm

ROUND 1 – The First Blow

Who can orgasm faster?

Both male & female, with proper stimulation, can peak in 2 minutes or less. However, consider the labels. A man who ejaculates in a heartbeat becomes a Premature Ejaculator – a woman achieving the same feat, with moans and everything, is called a keeper.

ROUND 2 – Point Of No Return & Refractory Period

The POINT OF NO RETURN (PNR) is the point of stimulation after which no force in heaven or earth can stop a man from having an orgasm.

During masturbation or intercourse, a man crosses a line after which it is impossible to stop climaxing…even if he stops stimulation. It doesn’t matter if the security guard is about to walk in on them, he will climax, it’s going to happen and there’s nothing anybody can do about it. (Premature ejaculators should back-off or tone down stimulation before reaching PNR.)

Here’s the thing: Women don’t have PNR. Even when she’s on the verge of having an orgasm, you can easily frustrate her orgasm by suddenly changing the rhythm or focus of stimulation, for example. You have to build and stimulate a woman ALL THE WAY, plus the follow through.

Looks like women got the raw deal here, huh?

Not really. There’s something to balance this out – the REFRACTORY PERIOD. Guess what – only men have them too! This is the few minutes after orgasm when the penis begins limping, during which it’s impossible to reach orgasm.

Post climax, the Refractory Period sets in and no force in heaven or earth can make a man cum. A woman may give the best head, but it’s not going to happen, and there’s nothing you can do about it, Anna!

Women don’t have this Refractory Period. Whereas an orgasm returns men to pre-arousal levels, an ‘O’ brings Eve to pre-orgasmic levels. They simply return to blissful levels of the Plateau, capable of approaching orgasm again. That’s why they can hit a string of climaxes – also known as multiple orgasms!

After catching her breath, and about half a minute of extreme clitoral sensitivity, she can simply continue like nothing happened. If she so desires, she can jump off the cliff again and again like an Energizer bunny without any refractory bother. Only guys have the PNR and the RP.

ROUND 3 – Staying Power

For guys, an orgasm often signals the end. For many women, it’s really just the beginning – sort of a warm-up.

She may feel perfectly satisfied after one soulful blow, but she can definitely gun for more. While men find subsequent orgasms less satisfying and more difficult to build, women stack theirs – which means subsequent O’s are easier to build and can be stronger in intensity.

Ensuing blows are sweeter, deeper, more satisfying than the first one, some ladies even have problems when reaching the 4th or 5th because they don’t wish to stop anymore! They enter an “orgasmic cloud” where climaxes become blurred one from another and the whole experience blends into one long-lasting orgasm. It becomes an orgasmic overdrive and if not for sheer exhaustion, they wouldn’t retire.

It may take a girl some time to heat up, but she sure makes up for it later.

STAGE FOUR – The Resolution

After all that orgasmic hooplah, comes the Resolution – the period when genitals return to their unaroused state.

If men don’t gun for another climax after the Refractory Period, then the Resolution Stage automatically sets in. Since women have no refractory period after orgasm, they simply return to pre-orgasmic levels of the Plateau until they decide enough is enough.

Foreplay Tips – 3 Phenomenal Ways To Give Women Extended Orgasms!

By lloydlester

Foreplay is a great way to make sure that your partner is satisfied during sex. These three foreplay suggestions will help you get your girl hotter than ever!

When it comes to sex, many men tend to do away with foreplay and get into the act of intercourse right away. While that may fulfill your sexual desires, the same cannot be said of your woman. If you truly want to add some zest into your sex life and make sure she enjoys every moment of lovemaking with you, you should never skim on this important aspect of lovemaking. Keep reading for three essential foreplay tips that will surely light her passion and keeping her orgasmic engine revving wildly!

Bring On The Adult Books

There is something about adult literature that porn movies can never match up: it allows your partner to use her own erotic imagination to visualize what goes on in those story lines. Believe me, this is far more powerful than popping that adult movie into the DVD player. So grab one of those adult books and read them to her and watch as her vivid imagination goes wild!

Bring On The Big Sex Toys

Sex toys are doing a thriving business these days and they play a far more essential role in your sex lives than you would probably imagine. Vibrators and dildos will help you learn more about her body and what turns her on the most. For instance, different women prefer different speed, intensity and even angles of penetration. By learning what she likes best when using these toys, you can mimic or replicate the same movements on her when making love so that she receives maximum pleasure from you. Well, sex toys are not just for ladies. For example, the penis ring is a great aid to help men last longer in bed and give her a more sensational experience to boot!

Talk Dirty – With A Difference!

How about engaging in a sexy conversation through phone? Many couples who are a little too inhibited in bed find themselves far more liberated when they talk dirty though the phone. It can take the shyness off her when she cannot see you face to face. By engaging in phone sex, you can really get her to loosen up herself, and with the help of a little dose of alcohol, you may even spice up the conversation! And you don’t have to be far apart to engage in phone sex. Call her at home while you are just in the next room!