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Premature Ejaculation – Why It Happens And How To Stop It

Premature ejaculation can really make your sex life suck – learn how to last longer in bed by finding out why PE REALLY happens.

Did you know premature ejaculation is curable by 100% natural methods? By understanding the main reason why it happens you’re about to learn how to stop it for good!

Pleasure Overwhelm

Most men have no idea how to influence how much pleasure they experience during sex. And a huge cause of premature ejaculation in most men is simply down to the fact that during sex they let their pleasure levels get way too high so they lose control and orgasm early.

If you can learn to take control or influence the pleasure you experience during sex so instead of experiencing overwhelm you experience fulfilling maintainable levels of pleasure you’ve just discovered the key to lasting longer in bed.

Learning to last longer in bed does NOT mean making sex boring or pleasure-free. This is why I’ll rarely recommend approaches like “think of someone really ugly” or “do math in your head to distract you”.

Because those things make sex BORING.

What I want you to know about are techniques and strategies that help you control your orgasm, while at the same time keeping sex fun and fulfilling for both you and the woman you’re with.

So to last longer all you’ve got to do is begin taking control of the pleasure you experience during sex and making sure it doesn’t move into overwhelming levels.

Step 1 – Pleasure Awareness

During sex most men have NO idea how close they are to orgasm, but then suddenly it comes along and they think “Oh shoot, there’s nothing I can do.” If you want to last longer in bed you can’t afford to let this happen.

You have to become very aware of your arousal levels and how close to orgasm you are. And doing this is really as easy as just PAYING ATTENTION. When you start asking yourself “how close to orgasm am I?” you’ll know when you start getting close.

And when you realize you’re getting close then implement the second step.

Step 2 – Pleasure Control

When you’re close to orgasm but don’t want to climax yet you’ve got to lower your pleasure levels to prevent that orgasm. There are many strategies for doing this, but two very simple ones are as follows:

Slow Things Down

As dumb and as simple as it might sound – NO GUY DOES THIS! When you’re getting close to orgasm just start thrusting slower. By penetrating slower you reduce the stimulation you experience which means you delay how long until you need to orgasm. If you go really slow you can even end up recovering significant amounts of stamina so in a few minutes time you can speed up again without the need to orgasm straight away.

Change Sex Positions

Another dead simple method to reduce your pleasure levels from overwhelming levels is to TACTICALLY change sex positions.

By changing sex positions at just the right moment in time you can help yourself last significantly longer, because during a position change you get an essential break from pleasure and stimulation. Even a short break can do wonders to helping you recover stamina so that when you get started in your new position you can last much longer.

The Formula For Curing Premature Ejaculation

Just start becoming aware of your pleasure levels and when they get too high take corrective action to lower them to a sustainable level so you can enjoy long fulfilling sex without the worry of premature ejaculation.

Female Orgasm – 3 Ways To Make Sure Your Girl Gets A Jaw Dropping Orgasm Every Time!

By lloydlester

The female orgasm can be elusive, but it doesn’t have to be. Here are three ways to give your girl the best orgasm she’s ever had!

Penetration Alone Won’t Do The Trick

Did you know that direct penetration during sex is unable to bring most women to an orgasm? That is indeed true. Men and women are wired differently when it comes to sex. It is far easier to stimulate a man to an orgasm than a woman. But when a woman climaxes, she usually does so with greater intensity than guys.

It is not easy to bring a woman to an orgasm through intercourse alone. In fact more women are known to achieve a climax through masturbation than through sex. So what are the tricks to make sure she gets one when you make love to her? Keep reading – these tips would keep her orgasmic furnace burning hot…

Clitoral Stimulation: The Right & Wrong Ways To Do It

A woman’s clitoris is a key instrument to bring her to an orgasm. Thus the way you stimulate this super erogenous zone is really vital. You see, when a woman is not properly aroused, touching or stimulating the clitoris may feel uncomfortable for her.

The trick is to give her stimulation indirectly at first. Try running your fingers on each side of her clitoris shaft and caress her clitoral hood with your thumb. When she becomes aroused, you will feel her breathing heavily and the clitoral hood swelling up. This is when you know she is ready for more.

The Rhythm Of Sex

Many men are mistaken that women are equally attuned to the speed and rhythm of a man’s touch. This is a fallacy. How you touch and caress her can vary in speed but the rhythm should not alter. Starting sex slowly is a great way to get her all warmed up to the act. As the sex progresses, women prefer the speed (including that of thrusting) to increase, culminating to a boil as an orgasm approaches. But make sure the overall rhythm or tempo remain the same.

The Tantalizing Grind

Many men simply engage in straight thrusting motions during sex and wonder why their partners never get an orgasm. No matter how hard or how deep you penetrate her, you are unlikely to stimulate her enough to climax.

The right way to perform penetration is this: instead of thrusting straight in, perform a grinding movement, using your hips to mimic a rotational motion. This works great for her because your pelvic bone will rub against her clitoris and sufficiently stimulate her to an intense orgasm.

Foreplay Mistakes That Will KILL Your Sex Life (And How To Fix Them!)

By lloydlester

Foreplay is an essential part of sex and if you make any of these blunders, you could really do damage to your sex life! Here’s what NOT to do!

Many men slip up during an intimate foreplay with their women. These are three common mistakes that men make when initiating this prelude to sex.

Problem #1 – Foregoing The Kiss

You should prolong the kiss instead! It doesn’t have to be the usual lip-locking. Women actually enjoy it when their men give tender kisses, long strokes of the tongue, and loving bites on their neck and shoulders.

Problem #2 – Paying Most Of Your Attention To The Breasts

Women are uncomfortable when men pay too much attention to their bosoms. Of course, women love it when their partners do incredible things with their breasts. But, they still prefer that their partners adore EVERY detail on their bodies.

Problem #3 – Hurrying Through Foreplay

This is a big no-no. Always remember that foreplay should be done in the smoothest and most comfortable manner possible. Women love it when their men spend time in exploring every sensitive hot spots on the female body. At times, women are the ones who dictate when their men should proceed. However, there are moments when women allow their men to follow their own plans when pleasuring them. But you should not advance towards her inner thigh if she is not yet fully prepared for it. It can be quite unpleasant for women when they are not totally in the mood for the actual sexual intercourse.

What else can you do to give her phenomenal foreplay – one that will set her up for a powerful series of orgasms later? Well, the following tips will come in handy for you!

Tip #1 – Take Pleasure In What You’re Doing

You must be having fun during foreplay in order to become the best in what you are doing. Women can actually tell when their partners are not in the mood for sex even with the bits of action during the prelude. A man’s satisfaction in the sexual overture is a big factor in turning on a woman. Yes, it all begins in the mind! So make sure that you have the appropriate outlook when it comes to the foreplay and the main act.

Tip #2 – Open Communication

If you do not know what to do, then just ASK her. For example, ask if she wants kisses or those titillating nibbles on her skin and if she prefers gentle fondling to wild grasps. In return, be sure that you are ready to give her anything that she asks of you!

Tip #3 – Dirty Talking

Most guys do not know how effective dirty talking can be during foreplay. You may not know this but women CAN get highly aroused even with just words, especially those that depict what you plan to do to them in bed. Aside from dirty talking, try speaking to her of your unadulterated appreciation of her whole being, her beauty, and your contentment on having her all to yourself!

Tip #4 – Be Smooth!

Wait for her to tell you that she is ready to move forward. Let the whole act blend smoothly into sexual intercourse. Do not skip the “appetizer” and head straight for the “main course.” Always be gracious during the prelude to intercourse!

Let foreplay lead both of you into amazing sex. Don’t skimp on it. Apply the above tips and spice things up in your bedroom tonight!

Stop Premature Ejaculation – With This 95% Effective Breathing Technique

By jackgrave

Premature ejaculation can wreck your sex life. Use this simple technique to say goodbye to premature ejaculation forever!

What you may not know is that for an orgasm to happen there has to be tension in your body.

What Happens Before Orgasm

Think about what happens normally to your muscle during sex just before orgasm. They tense up, right? In particular you’ll notice that your leg and butt muscles tense up the most. The reason they tense up is because in order for an orgasm to happen there has to be a release of tension.

Orgasms don’t just happen out of nowhere. A process has to happen inside you for them to happen. And the body’s natural process for experiencing an orgasm is to tense up and then release that tension through orgasm.

But what happens if there’s no tension? Well then it’s a LOT more difficult for you to experience an orgasm. And this is quite simply because the fuel needed for your body to experience an orgasm isn’t there.

If there’s no tension, you will struggle to experience an orgasm.

What does this all mean?

Well it means that if you want to last longer in bed and stop premature ejaculation then you need to take control of the tension in your muscles during sex.

Eliminating Tension From Your Muscles

Now you may have already guessed from the title what the best way is to eliminate tension from the body – the right breathing!

What 99% of men do during sex is they breathe many quick shallow breaths. It happens instinctively. Our breath is pretty much the LAST thing on our minds during sex.

So our subconscious mind just goes into default mode and breathes quick shallow breaths because of all the excitement it’s experiencing. Sex is an exciting experience for us so our lungs naturally react by taking in quick shallow breaths.

Unfortunately quick shallow breaths increase tension levels. This is because your breath and your body’s state are INTIMATELY linked. So if you breath in a nervous, excited and tense way then your body’s state will mimic that and you will ejaculate too early.

But the opposite is also true!

How Breathing The Right Way Will Help You Last Longer In Bed

You can take advantage of the fact that your breath affects it, because if during sex you instead consciously breathe in slow deep breaths, your body reacts in a totally different way.

Inhaling deeply and slowly relaxes all your muscles. It’s just how humans work.

This is why arts like yoga and Tai-Chi make such a BIG deal out of breath. Because it has a DRAMATIC affect on the state of your body.

By influencing the state of your body you influence how long you last in bed. Remember earlier when I was talking about how tension is needed for orgasm? Well, this is where the whole idea of breath comes in. By inhaling slowly and deeply you relax all your muscles. And by relaxing your muscles, you HUGELY reduce the tension in them too. Without tension, it’s much harder for you to reach orgasm.

Without the fuel for orgasm it’s MUCH easier to last longer in bed and ultimately stop premature ejaculation. So, in other words if you want to stop premature ejaculation just consciously breathe slow and deeply during sex.

The Essence Of Erotic Massage

By loveandsex

Erotic massage can mean the difference between mediocre sex and mind blowing sex! Here’s what you need to know about erotic massage.

While a good back massage can be an enjoyable experience for many, those delightful feelings are nothing in comparison to the intense pleasure experienced physically and emotionally during an erotic massage—not just for the receiver, but the giver, as well.

What Massage Is All About

Massage is often used to relax tense muscles and relieve stress and tension. Although the sensual form can achieve these same results, this is not the ultimate goal. Erotic massage is both an experience of the body and mind. It’s as much about the way you touch your partner, as it is where and when you touch her. This is a slow and sensual process that entails a great deal of intimacy. With the receiver completely nude, the giver has not only their partner’s naked and vulnerable body in their hands, but their trust, as well.

Erotic massage is not just about sex. Instead, it’s about reconnecting with your partner through the power of touch, letting go of stress and inhibitions, meeting your partner’s need for affection, and discovering the true meaning of love and intimacy.

For a better understanding of the intimate nature of this type of rubdown, let’s take a look at some of its most important benefits:

It is the ultimate stress reliever. Not only will your partner feel relaxed, her stress will subside. At the end of the session, she will have a much better outlook about her life, you, and your relationship.
Like other forms of massage, erotic massage is therapeutic. It can help comfort physical pains and ailments, such as sore and knotted muscles, pinched nerves, aching joints, injuries, contracted illnesses, and disease.
Erotic massage is just that—erotic! Not only does it tease the senses, it shows your lover that the two of you are capable of sharing unbridled passion. It also heightens intimacy, which can ultimately lead to release of all inhibitions, titillating each partner into the act of lovemaking.
It can help couples let go of emotional conflict and encourage understanding and forgiveness.
Erotic massage is perfect for setting the mood for a romantic evening or a sexy adventure.
It can reduce anxiety about sexual performance and body image.

What Else Can It Do?

It can enhance sexual desire within both partners, even in women whose desire for sex seems to have burned out. Sensual and erotic massage is sometimes all that is needed to rekindle those flames of desire and keep the fire burning.

When allowed to blossom into lustful passion, erotic massage can bring about intense orgasms as your partner allows both her body and mind to unite with yours. Sensual massage is an expression of love and desire that never fails to provide your partner with the reassurance and comfort she needs.

Erotic massage can be used as another form of communication that is translated through touch, without any need for words.