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Top 3 Sex Positions For Married Couples

Trying new sex positions is a great way to turn up the heat in the bedroom, especially for married couples. Men and women who are married have some benefits when it comes to their sex lives, but there are also a few drawbacks. First of all, you are expected to live together, which means sharing the same bed every day. This also means you get to do it whenever you want. And, if the timing is right, you can even do it anywhere around the house. Living out the kind of sex that you have always dreamed of is possible when you have a partner to share it with.

One drawback to married sex is that sex becomes a part of a routine. Even without getting naked and diving under the sheets, you know how it will go. This is particularly true for couples who seem to know only one or two sex positions. This is when you start to wonder whether you can break the “groundhog day” rut in your sex life anytime soon.

There are many ways to spice things up, and one of these is changing the sex positions that you use when you hit the sheets.

Spooning

This is a sex position that is considered either challenging or easy, depending on various factors. The woman’s buttocks may be in the way, or the man’s penis may not be inserted fully. Because the man is directly behind the woman, he should angle his thrusts upward so that deeper penetration is possible.

The position is the naughtier version of cuddling so you can progress from ‘just a cuddle’ to sex in just a few seconds. The woman can freely touch her clitoris during penetration because she does not have to balance herself using her arms (like in the dog style position).

Standing Up

This is best done against the wall so that the man would not have to strain much should he want to carry the woman during sex. If carrying is not possible, the man can simply lift one of the woman’s legs and penetrate at an angle. If you have a pool, you can go to the deepest part (approximately 5 feet deep) and have sex there in this position. The water will buoy her up so that you do not have to do much lifting.

One disadvantage of the standing position is that the thrusting will be all up to the man. The woman will also have a hard time balancing so she will most probably just hang on to his neck or shoulders.

Woman On Top

Ideally, when a woman stays on top during sex, she should be the one to move. However, there are some women who get tired easily because they have to squat to pull off the woman on top position. What happens is that the woman grinds instead of moving her hips up and down. Some men dislike the sensation of ‘grinding’, which the woman does when she is tired. The solution? Thrust upward so that you can still control the rhythm and ask her to stay still.

We Don’t Have Hot Sex Anymore. Can We Get It Back?

By dicksinthecity

My boyfriend and I are better friends than lovers. I’m crazy about him and don’t want to break up, but I miss hot sex. Help!

She Said:

First off, let me say that what you’re going through is totally normal. Passion cools in most relationships over time, so it’s important to be best friends when all is said and done. The good news is that you’re in a great position, if you can excuse the pun. The ‘bad news’ is that there is some work to be done – but it’s fun work, so don’t worry!

When You Don’t Want To Break Up

Think about what you’ve said – you’re crazy about your boyfriend. That is wonderful news! It means there’s still groundwork to build off of for the sizzle to return to your sex life. You don’t want to break up, which means there’s enough left to make you want to stay with him. There’s life in this thing yet!
Here’s your homework assignment: First off, think about what attracted you to your boyfriend in the first place. Now think about that when you’re having sex.

Remembering all the wonderful things that drew you to your honey in the first place are still there, so start appreciating those qualities again.

Bring Hot Sex Back Into The Relationship

There’s no penalty for using your imagination! What gets you hot, nowadays? Is there a movie star you like to fantasize about? Perhaps erotic fiction helps get you going? Use these things to your advantage. Most women need to be both emotionally and mentally stimulated to get really excited. Find the things that bring you to this place; then bring your boyfriend to the bedroom. When you’re feeling ultra-turned on, you naturally have better sex.

Be creative – that goes for both you AND your partner. All the work isn’t just on your shoulders. That said if you really feel that your relationship has moved to a purely platonic level, you owe to yourself and your partner to move on. Sexual pleasure is important to every aspect of health and happiness – and you both deserve to have the very best for yourselves.

He Said:

It happens. Relationships ebb and they flow. So does attraction. The most important thing is that you’re still crazy about each other. Everything else can be worked out.

First thing is to identify anything going on in your life that could be getting in the way of the two of you getting it on like teenagers on Viagra. If you just started a business together and you have a kid(s), and you are having trouble making ends meet, etc it is not conducive to getting it on. Identify and eradicate as many of these things as you can, and make your peace with the rest. Obviously, you can’t eradicate your kids (unless you live in Texas), but you can hire a babysitter and get your butts to a hotel.

A Vacation Can Reboot Hot Sex

Personally, I highly recommend a vacation of any kind to reclaim the booty making magic. (Say that five times fast!) Avoid going anywhere you’ve been in the past. You don’t want to bring up old memories if they are bad or expectations if you went there and the sex was amazing. For my money, I highly recommend one of those “hedonistic, clothing optional” resorts. Nothing will help you shed your inhibitions like shedding your clothes and letting it all hang out in the sun. (Remember the sun block!) These resorts are adults only, anything goes and no questions asked.

Vacation sex is always the best because you are literally away from all your problems. They are back home. You didn’t bring your job or your in laws with you, right? No, of course not. You’ll be going at it like bunnies. And you’re welcome (just remember that no man is ever as potent or as virile as when he’s on vacation, so plan accordingly!)

Exercising Together Can Help You Have Better Sex

I also recommend working out, ideally together. Nothing makes you wanna get naked more than if you actually look great naked. Working out boosts endorphins, hormones, etc. You’ll be all hot and sweaty and that means you need to shower. You two look great from consistently doing yoga, crossfit, or whatever you choose (I highly recommend the first two), and then BAM! You’re going at it. It’s that simple.

Above all, take the pressure off yourself. Sex shouldn’t feel like something you “have to do” but that you “get to do.” You should feel like a kid on Christmas (yes, I ruined another holiday for you.) To that end, I suggest, researching tantric sex (Steve P has an amazing White Tiger Tantra video series), getting couples tantric massages, or just getting regular (no happy ending) rub downs anywhere you can.

Be patient and soon you’ll be going at it!

How To Make Morning Sex Better

By loveandsex

Morning sex has its own special appeal – many couples like morning sex better than they like regular “after-the-kids-go-to-bed” sex or even “anniversary-sex.” While having sex with your partner in the morning before work can definitely make your whole day turn out better, sometimes morning sex can be a little lackluster. Here’s a few things you can do to have better sex in the morning – and maybe make your partner want it later that day too!

Set The Alarm Early

Morning sex is great, but when it’s rushed and one or both partners don’t get to reach orgasm, it can lose its appeal very quickly. If you and your partner are in the mood and start fooling around, only to be interrupted by the realization that you both are going to be very late for work, it can quickly put a damper on things. Not only will you and your partner find it difficult to reach climax when you’re rushed like that, you may have to end things before one or both of you get to have an orgasm so you can get to work on time. Instead, set the alarm fifteen to thirty minutes early to allow you and your partner both enough time to have an orgasm. If you and your partner aren’t in the mood, feel free to set the snooze alarm or get up and make yourself a cup of coffee and read the newspaper. If you do decide to have morning sex though, you’ll both be grateful for that extra few minutes that will allow you to finish on a good note.

Go To The Bathroom And Brush Your Teeth

Chances are, you or your partner (or both of you) are going to have to get up and use the bathroom before having sex in the morning. After holding it all night long, you might find it difficult to have an orgasm if your bladder is full of urine. This goes for both men and women, so make sure to head to the restroom soon after your alarm goes off. While you’re at it, go ahead and give your teeth a quick brush. One of the biggest complaints about morning sex is that partners don’t want to start kissing each other when they both have morning breath and that a blowjob will taste a little different when there is a buildup of plaque on your teeth and in your mouth. You don’t have to spend a lot of time brushing your teeth before morning sex (after all, you’re probably antsy to get busy while you still have time) because you can always go back later and do a more thorough job before heading off to work. But giving your mouth a good once over before heading back to bed for some hanky panky can make a big difference when getting close to your partner.

Keep The Lube Nearby

Most of the time, morning sex ends up being a quick or at least semi-quick affair. A woman’s body takes a few to several minutes getting warmed up enough to produce natural lubricant – so if you put two and two together, you’ll figure out that the time for mornings sex may be over before she even gets wet enough to have sex comfortably and even have a shot at having an orgasm. Instead of having a dry, uncomfortable quickie in the morning, keep the lube nearby so you can use readily use it. Sex with lube – whether it’s in the morning or at any other time during the day – is much better and will enhance the pleasurable sensations and make orgasms that much better!

Shower Together Afterwards

After having sex, you’ll probably want to take a shower, especially if it’s on your morning to-do list before heading off to work. Instead of trying to fit in quick showers separately while getting ready, take a shower together. This few minutes of non-sexual intimacy will help you and your partner really connect to each other, and give you both an even bigger dose of feel good hormones that will help last through the day. Wash her hair for each other and make sure to scrub each other’s backs with the loofah. You can also use the time together to talk to each other about the upcoming day and what each other’s plans are. Meeting up with each other to connect is an important part of any relationship and shower time after morning sex is a perfect way to fit emotional and physical intimacy and connection in your busy schedule!

10 Easy Ways You Can Make Sex Better For Her – And You!

By loveandsex

Making sex better for her is the key to making sex better for you. If she’s satisfied, you’ll have better sex more often rather than going days or even weeks in between having sex. Here are 10 easy ways you can make sex better for her – and yourself – so you can start spicing up your sex life tonight!

Oral Sex Techniques

Lick her clitoris. Start slow, and then build up speed until she’s literally shaking underneath you! One great trick is to use what is called the “alphabet method.” Lick the letters of the alphabet on your partner’s clitoris slowly, and go faster as her body responds to what you’re doing. Bet you don’t make it through the alphabet twice!

Finger her while you go down on her. Many women really enjoy having both g-spot stimulation and clitoral stimulation at the same time. In fact, this is one of the best ways to give her a “blended orgasm” or a g-spot and a clitoral orgasm at the same time!

Explore every inch of her vagina with your tongue. Too many men focus only on the clitoris and forget that the rest of the vagina is sensitive as well. Lick up and down her vagina with your tongue, switching from a pointed tongue to a flat tongue that “laps.” You can also practice “french kissing” her vagina. Wrap your lips around her folds and “kiss” her like you would kiss her mouth. She’ll love it!

Kissing Techniques

Kiss her slowly and deeply. Women love kissing, and it helps them to feel physically and emotionally connected to their partners. Also, deep french kissing can be a teaser to what you’re going to do next when you eat her out!

Kiss her body. Involving her whole body in sex is a great way to get her mind completely involved in sex as well. Don’t allow her to lay back and let the day’s to-do list occupy her mind. Instead, get her whole body involved with your mouth like you can’t get enough of her.

Intercourse Techniques

Let her be on top. It is easier for a woman to reach orgasm when she’s on top versus when you are on top. This is because she controls her muscles, the movement and the positioning and can control her climax.

Go slow. It takes time for a woman to build up an orgasm, especially through intercourse. If you start out hard and fast, it’s likely she won’t have time to have an orgasm at all. Instead, go slow until she reaches climax and then you can go as hard and as fast as you want.

Push your pelvis forward. Provide your partner with clitoral stimulation during intercourse by pushing your pelvis forward to grind against hers. You can also add a dollop of lube just above your groin to make the sensations even better for her.

Using Your Hands

Touch her everywhere. Don’t just focus on the hot spots! Instead, run your hands up and down her body as though she were made of silk or cashmere. Make her feel like she is made of silk or cashmere!

Hold her hands during sex. Whether you’re going down on her or having sex, hold her hands and make her feel cherished. Feeling emotionally satisfied from sex is as important to a woman as feeling physically satisfied.

Sex Secrets For Men – Unlock The Secrets To Giving Her Wild, Pulsating Sex (97% Of Men Are Clueless)

By lloydlester

What are the sex secrets for men? Look, if you are reading this article with the hopes of learning about the best sex position, the best way to give her G-spot orgasms or great oral sex tips to seduce your girl, then I would advise you not to read further. Why? Well, if you are looking for ways to improve your sex life, these things will not help you a bit.

When it comes to having great sex, there is no sneaky trick you can pull out of your bag. It is all about the fundamentals, the basics of sex, mindsets, so to speak. If you get this right, believe me, your enjoyment in sex will increase multiple folds.

The Paradox Of Man’s Greatest Strength

Most men are focused on results. We are by nature very action-oriented. Results are what we care about; the end goal, so to speak. We set targets in the boardroom and get things done. Sadly the same mentality carries over to the bedroom:

(a) undressing yourself and her

(b) begin intercourse

(d) end of sex

So where does this perpetual male strategy leave a woman? Empty, unfulfilled, disappointed. You see, for women, sex is not so much about the end goal per se. They really care more about the journey; how you arrive at the end goal. Women love to savor the sexual experience moment-by-moment, from foreplay all the way to intercourse.

Getting The Foundations Right

You see, sex would be a monotonous and lackluster affair if you use sex techniques without a proper understanding of how and why they work on women. Think about this: What makes a great lover in bed, a Don Juan who can seduce and bring any woman to the elusive heights of sexual ecstasy? It is not the repertoire of techniques he has learned, but the way he USES them.

Many men make the terrible mistake and assume that women are aroused the same way as they are. Men are visually stimulated; women are not. Men can reach a climax within 2 minutes; women need at least a good 15 minutes on average to reach orgasm. Women need good old-fashioned love, affection and attention to detail.

Read that again. This means the way you touch her, the way you seduce her verbally, the mood you bring into the lovemaking, all play vital roles in your sex life.

Do You Know Her Emotional Underpinnings?

For men, sex is a physical thing. For women, emotions carry huge weight. This means you should never grope her right away. You need to value how she feels and make sure you connect with her at an emotional level. It is all well worth your time, because when you give her an amazing time in bed (and mind-tingling orgasms to boot!), you will be rewarded with much more from her!

So make her feel wanted and appreciated. This means when you kiss her, look into her eyes and run you fingers down the back of her spine. Spend quality time on slow, tantalizing foreplay and you will build up her sexual anticipation in a hurry. When you penetrate her, acknowledge her presence and ask if that feels great for her. Above all, be a man and focus on her needs exclusively FIRST. You will emerge a far better lover, one that she will be proud to brag to her friends the next morning!