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The Hidden Truth About Prolonging Male Orgasm

A male orgasm is something that can come too quickly for a lot of guys, so to speak. Here’s how you can control it and last longer in bed!

It is an undeniable truth that the vast majority of men are not born with superior stamina in bed. In fact, sexual surveys have consistently shown that up to 40% of guys regularly ejaculate within 4 minutes of having sex. But if premature ejaculation is putting a damper on your sex life, fret not!

Premature Ejaculation Is Largely A Conditioned Response

Many men suffering from premature ejaculation are habitually pre-conditioned from young. What do I mean? You see, most guys in their teenage years or early 20s masturbate with the aim to climax quickly. There are many reasons for this. Among them is the inherent fear of getting caught in the act. Thus quick masturbation and ejaculation reduces the chance of being embarrassed. Unfortunately this has a carry-on effect when a man starts to have a sexual relationship.

But here’s the good news…

Premature ejaculation is usually not due to a medical or physical condition. And since it is mostly a habitual response cultivated from young, PE CAN be reversed with the right strategies.

For instance, there are specific male enhancement exercises that are aimed at increasing penis size. But did you know that some of these exercises are extremely effective in fixing premature ejaculation?

That is true. Exercises such as Kegels or PC contractions have been proven to strengthen the pubococcygeus muscles (or PC muscles for short) located in the pelvic area. These are the muscles responsible for ejaculatory functions. Exercises like Kegel are extremely easy to do, require very little time and can be performed anywhere without anyone noticing.

Practice Is The Key To Sensational Stamina

Many men do not know that premature ejaculation can be fixed permanently. Many resort to using the myriad of commercial PE solutions – desensitizing creams, sprays, even specialty condoms – in their bid to improve their endurance.

Worst still, some guys mistakenly think there is nothing they can do to reverse the embarrassment in bed. They do NOTHING about it and choose to accept PE as a sad fact of their sex lives.

But nothing is further from the truth! Sexual stamina is a LEARNED trait. And like all things in life worth doing, improving your endurance through simple exercises takes time, effort and most importantly – PRACTICE.

But once you develop that natural ability to delay an ejaculation, it becomes a new-found strength that stays with you for life. And your embarrassment of finishing too soon in bed will become a distant memory!

2 Great Sex Positions To Last Longer And Give Her Sensational Sex

By lloydlester

Sex positions can actually help you to both last longer in bed and make your girl orgasm – if you use the right ones. Are you missing these secrets?

When it comes to lasting longer in bed, many men choose to rely on the multitude of commercial solutions. Sprays, creams and pills that claim to extend your lovemaking sessions – besides being expensive and require constant use – do NOT permanently resolve a man’s lack of sexual stamina. But did you know that you can last longer simply by adopting certain positions during sex?

That is true. Some positions, such as the traditional missionary position favored by many men, are notorious for causing an early climax. Let’s take a quick look at 2 sex positions that will give you a LOT more leverage during sex and help you last longer.

The Tantalizing “L”

Let your woman lie on her back while you stand or kneel on the ground at the edge of the bed, so that your body and hers form an “L” shape. Begin thrusting with slow, shallow movements, while keeping the muscles in your abdominals, buttocks and thighs relaxed. This position works really well because when your body is upright, it helps to draw blood and energy away from your extremities. This reduces the amount of stimulation your penis receives, keeps your arousal under control and helps you last longer.

Furthermore, this position enables you to use your hands to provide additional stimulation to the sensual areas on her body. To give your woman an even more titillating experience, use a pillow to elevate her buttocks. This makes it easier for you to locate and stimulate her G-spot.

“The Female Superior”

The standard missionary position places a great amount of tension in your hand and leg muscles. A body that is tensed up is more prone to an early orgasm as your body seeks a natural outlet to release the tension.

Instead, allow your wife or girlfriend to get on top of you. Because you are lying down, you are able to completely relax your body muscles, and keep at bay your body’s natural mechanism for an early release. This is very effective for improving your endurance and making sex last longer.

When you are in this position and sense an orgasm approaching, all you need to do is to consciously keep your muscles relaxed, and ejaculation will not occur (or at least it will take much longer to occur).

The great thing about the female superior position is that it gives your woman greater control over the penetrative movements, thus giving her the free rein to MAXIMIZE her own pleasure. After all, a woman instinctively knows the kind of speed, intensity and angle of penetration that will please her the most!

Discover The 3rd Element Of Sex That Will TWIST It Up! (Hint: It’s NOT Another Woman!)

By loveandsex

Sex games are a great way to add spice and fire to your sex life. Use role play, food, sex toys and more to change things up and reignite the passion TONIGHT!

If you want to bring back the fire in your rapidly dwindling sexual relationship, you need to bring this third wheel to bed. When you have this third “member” in your bedroom, the sexual possibilities become so logistically incredible that you can have the balls to say that you never have the same sex twice. It will always be new, it will always be fresh – even though you’re with that same old fart. The third aspect will always make it beautiful for you.

So, what is it?

It’s The “Twist” To Regular Sex!

It’s the imaginative element you introduce to the daily grind that spices up sexual encounters. You’re still the same, she’s still the same, it’s the twist and how you two interact with it that makes your sessions an event worthy of the name sexcapades.

It not only adds another source of pleasure, it distracts the couple from the sameness that is their love-making by focusing their attention not on that-same-set-of-breasts but on something else. The twist provides the avenue for novelty in spite having the same sexual partner – which comes in handy for people in long-term, committed relationships.

Ways To Change It Up

This aspect can be about anything. Let’s say the couple decides to make the change in location. That is, they never have sex in the same place or that they make sure they’ve done it in every corner of their house, or every bathroom/floor in the building. Or they vow to do it in every branch of a famous hotel chain around the country. Some retirees plan their trips so they make love in every state in the US.

Another example would be the time change, which is replete with many variations. A couple could set their timer for 5-minutes, during which they could do anything they want. But after the 5-minute mark, they have to drop everything – no matter how orgasmic it is. It’s a quickie with a time limit! Or they can dare set personal records for the fastest quickies.

A couple may also decide on different intervals before they can bump uglies. For example, they can set a 3-day interval for sex – regardless if they get horny or not – making them look forward to the day they can have it. (The interval can be increased or decreased as the couple sees fit, or they can write different intervals on sheets of paper, throw them in a hat and draw one.)

Adding music also presents many variations. A couple can change their background tunes on a weekly or monthly basis, knowing full well that the beat to which they make-love will affect the love-making itself. Sex accompanied with Beethoven symphonies will be different from that with Jamaican groove.

The Only Limit Is Your Imagination

As you can see, there is no limit to the elements one can introduce. And the change in focus from the partner to the third aspect of sex doesn’t negatively affect the relationship since the twist is not a 120 lb. blonde who lives next door.

In fact, quite the opposite happens, the excitement brought about by the eroticism of a mutually endorsed twist rubs on the partner and strengthens the bond. There’s that feeling of being partners in crime, a certain “we-ness” developed because “we” are doing something others are not.

The third aspect of sex can truly be anything – anything at all. It need not take you to different locations and can be as simple as: running different types of fabric on each other’s bodies while blindfolded. It’s deceptively simple, but when you actually try it, it’s as if you’re in a different world.

Go with themes, topics and variations that interest you. The process of coming up with the creative twist is in itself a very challenging and exciting affair, making for warm and playful coffee table conversations. If you can engage your woman and dial-up her anticipation and desire for it, you’ll have someone who’ll never let you out of sight.

3 Role Play Sex Games That Will Make Your Valentine’s Day UNFORGETTABLE!

By loveandsex

Valentine’s Day is an excellent time to have some out of the ordinary fun. Most couples like to try something new and a little different when February 14th rolls around, so if you want to spice things up, here are some exciting role play sex games that will make this year absolutely memorable.

Lonely Man On A Business Trip

This is an excellent role play for Valentine’s Day because it is a fantasy that allows you to get really creative if you want. Just imagine your partner is a lonely business man out on work related travel. He’s depressed and all by himself on Valentine’s Day with no one to talk to.

You can play this scenario out a lot of ways. Have an “affair” while he is out of town on business and his wife is at home. Be the sexy maid that stops by his room to give it a clean, only to find him undressed and alone. Use your imagination! Here are some great ways to give this fantasy a sexy spin.

Book a hotel room
Wear an outfit that works for the part you’re playing (for example, a sexy maid’s costume)
Nice champagne over ice

Sexy Stripper

You really can’t go wrong by playing the part of a stripper on Valentine’s Day and giving your lover a sexy striptease to get him turned on. Even if this idea seems played out to you, it most certainly is NOT played out to your man. Men can watch the same girl do the same striptease over and over again and STILL get excited. Why do you think strip clubs are so popular? Here are some things to consider if you want to make your striptease as fun and exciting as it can be.

Pick a good song that you’re comfortable with
Practice! You’ll be no good if the first time you dance is on him
Consider taking lessons
Get an outfit that he’s never seen before – one that not only looks great, but feels great on
Have confidence! He’s going to love it no matter what you do or how good you are

Teacher/Student

This is another super fun sex game you and your partner can play on Valentine’s Day. Even if you’ve done this one before, the subject is so broad that you can literally do teacher/student ten times and never do it the same way twice. So don’t count this one out!

This is a fun fantasy to play out, no matter which way you do it – whether you’re the teacher and he’s the student, or the other way around. If you decide to go with playing the part of the teacher while your partner plays the part of the student, you can really take it to a whole new level.

If you’re the teacher, use this as an opportunity to get your lover to try a few things that they wouldn’t normally try. Now you don’t want to go too far out of the box here, but make sure you do teach them a few new things. Because it’s a game, they’ll be more inclined to try some activities that they ordinarily wouldn’t go for, as long as they’re only slightly outside your partner’s comfort zone and not way out there in bestiality and whatnot. Here are some ways to make the teacher/student sex fantasy even more fun!

Dress the part. Again, costumes are a great way to really up the immersion factor when doing a role play.
If you’re into domination or submission, you can also consider “punishing” the naughty student. This can be exceptionally fun if you’re teaching your lover how to do something very, very naughty.

When experimenting with role play for Valentine’s Day, whether you’ve done it before or are just trying it out for the first time, remember that the most important thing is creativity. Even if you can’t afford to book a hotel room or splurge on costumes, it’s your attitude that is the most important thing of all.

While it’s nice to keep a sense of humor about the whole thing, you’re not going to enjoy it as much if you and your partner think it’s so silly you’re laughing your asses off. So use your imagination and be creative as you can, but make sure you’re taking it seriously enough that you and your partner actually get into it. Remember to relax and have fun, because that’s what it’s all about! Having fun!

Discover These SHOCKING Truths About Premature Ejaculation!

By lloydlester

Premature ejaculation sucks, but it’s not always what you think it is. Chances are, you’ve been deceived! You most likely have some misconceptions about what is really causing you to orgasm too early when you have sex, and these misconceptions are preventing you from having great sex (because you definitely can!) Here is the TRUTH about premature ejaculation!

Are you one of those men who cannot last long in bed? Are you searching for the best solution to enhance your stamina so that your wife or lover can enjoy the kind of awesome sex she deserves? If you’re like most men reading this, I’m pretty sure you’d agree that the lack sexual stamina is your number ONE concern in the bedroom.

Here, you will discover a few surprising truths about premature ejaculation and lasting longer. You will want to continue reading and learn how you can turn this frustrating problem around.

Why Are We Able To Last Longer When We Masturbate?

There are two reasons why premature ejaculation do not usually happen when we masturbate. Firstly, we do not become as highly aroused during masturbation. Secondly, because we are the ones providing the stimulation, we also have the ability to self-regulate how much pleasure we are giving ourselves. Hence we are able to re-adjust our movements to keep our arousal under control, until we decide it is time to release and enjoy an orgasm.

Why Do We Fire Too Soon When We’re Having Sex?

Simple! With a partner, we do not have the ability to self-regulate our arousal. When our partners are the initiator of sexual stimulation (e.g. when she touches or strokes your penis), we become extremely aroused and lose control easily. This loss of control can happen:

When we are on the edge of a climax and any slight movement of the penis stimulates the deep-seated nerves to tip us over
When we begin penetration
During the first inward stroke
During first outward stroke
Or during the subsequent few strokes

One of the keys to overcoming premature ejaculation is to train or condition your brain to be consciously aware of what is happening and not to become completely lost in the moment of sexual bliss. This will give you timely “cues” or signals to tell your partner to temporarily stop the stimulation, sooner rather than later. This form of partner “feedback” is important and will help you gain better control when practiced over a period of time.