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How To EASILY Give Her An Earth Shattering Orgasm During Intercourse

A female orgasm is completely dependent on a solid understanding of your partner’s body, climactic response, and what makes her feel good both physically and emotionally. You feel confident about your knowledge and skills, what to look for when you’re in the heat of the moment, and can tell when your partner is aroused or not.

Even if you’ve ticked all the boxes, maybe making her come with your hands and your mouth just aren’t enough! When you both are eager to experience intercourse orgasms, it’s during these situations that you can try nudging your partner in the right direction using natural rhythms and biology. Now, not all of these options will work for everyone. Let your woman be the judge as to what works and what doesn’t, but here are a few suggestions to get you started.

Ask Your Partner To Tense Up

When your partner is already aroused, ask her to tense up different parts of her body. Things like pointing her toes, making a fist, or clenching her legs together creates tension in her body – something that is crucial for her to achieve orgasm. Try stroking different parts of her body while you are inside of her, suggesting she tighten those muscles as much as possible before moving onto the next erogenous zone. Spend extra time around her inner thighs and pelvis and feel them quiver under your gentle touch.

Ask Her To Use Kegel Exercises

Ask her to clench her vagina around your penis during intercourse. The squeezing and releasing in a rhythmic manner, called a Kegel exercise, often excites a woman and allows her to feel more of you inside of her, helping her to focus her attention and yours directly on her genitalia.

Choose Your Sex Positions Carefully

Choose positions that are more challenging than normal for your partner to hold, angled so that her head lies below her torso. These sex positions work great because extra blood flow to the head creates tension in the body and quickens breathing. For positions that aren’t already primed for this technique, scoot her to the side of the bed or couch and get her to lie her head back over the edge with her shoulders still flat and supported.

Make Sure That She Is Comfortable

Encourage your partner to really let go of her anxieties and inhibitions. If she’s comfortable, get her to use sexy language to encourage her own orgasm – for example, ask her to tell you how close she is to climax, how badly she wants to come with you inside of her. Why not try role-playing with her? Suggest she move her hips as if she were a belly dancer, stripper, or another sexual creature that she feels kinship with.

When she shows signs of arousal, move away from stimulating her directly and start teasing different parts of her body instead. Why? You’re building more tension in her body indirectly, allowing her climax to sneak up instead of focusing on it entirely.

Maybe she’d like to watch the two of you while having sex. Ask if it’s okay to grab a mirror, or have sex in the bathroom, so you can both get a better look at the incredibly hot positions you’re about to try. If she really likes the view, maybe she’ll let you hook up the video camera to the TV and get it on to your very own homemade porno!

Find Out Her Favorite Sexual Fantasy

Ask her what her favorite sexual fantasy is, and suggest you act it out. If she can’t think of anything, grab one of her favorite books of erotica and read through it together. When you find something that turns her on, try acting out whatever it is that appeals to her most.

Or if she’s still to shy to talk, try reading some erotica out loud to her during foreplay, then tell her to close her eyes and think about her fantasy while you’re having sex. Hearing you use words she might still be too nervous to say out loud might help encourage her to blurt something out in the heat of the moment!

How To Have Better Sex RIGHT NOW!

By loveandsex

Better sex comes with consistency. A lot of guys have a real tendency to swing from one extreme to another, thinking that the farther left or right of the continuum they go, the better sex becomes. When a girl asks you to go slow do you not only quit the breakneck speed, but swing to the opposite and equally annoying extreme. This mindset is no good. Instead, hone one of the most important sexual skills.

Pay Attention To Her Body Language

A woman’s body language (and her moans and groans) are your best guide during sex. When you pay attention to her body language, she will show you the way and tell you if you’re doing her right, instead of swinging from one extreme to another. Keep an eye and an ear on what she’s doing and how she’s responding, so that when you’re having sex you can tell what she likes and what she doesn’t.

Look For The Optimum Point

This is home. It’s where things simply flow and sex is “WOW!” The OP is the zone of leverage – the zone of perfect sensations. Below OP, you get meager result. Beyond it (when you’re doing too much or stay in the same spot for too long), you have diminished effectiveness. One might think that things get better beyond OP. No it doesn’t, in fact the opposite happens, you get diminishing returns. Just because you’re pumping faster and harder doesn’t mean she’s getting happier. Stay at OP – no more, no less.

Be Just Right

It’s the point in clitoral stimulation for example, where you don’t go too slow or too fast. It’s the duration of hot sex where it’s not a quickie but also not a death-defying marathon – it’s what women refer to when they say “just right.”

Discover Her OP

OP’s vary not only from woman to woman but even in the same woman. That doesn’t make your job more difficult, it only makes it more challenging. I’m sorry to tell you that finding OP is not something you can read on a page. To cater to YOUR woman and give her better sex, you’re going to have to learn HER specific OP.

Play around and try different speeds, different strokes and different things on your girl. Since you’re the one in the room with her, you can observe her reactions – her body will talk to you, so listen to it!

This is never automatic, and like many things in life, it’s not mastered by simply sitting around and reading e-books, it’s honed by reading bodies. That means you actually have to dive to the trenches, commit the mistakes and learn from them, only then can you become a master. People have a word for it; I think they call it PRACTICE!

Should You Have Sex During “That Time” Of The Month?

By dicksinthecity

Having sex on your period is a toss up for most couples. Unless you are a vampire, blood in the bedroom can be an icky situation. As women, we are taught to hide our periods, that they are embarrassing, messy and a pain. Many women feel that having sex while on their period is gross or worse, they are afraid their man will find it gross.

What She Said

To Bone Or Not To Bone?

As much as guys love the movie Glory, they do not wish to turn the bedroom into a war zone. But many women find that when they are on their period, they are also hornier, and orgasms can help with cramps during their time of the month. To bone or not to bone while bleeding is something that both partners need to agree upon.

If a woman feels like the period makes her gross, then there is no way she is going to feel sexy. And if her man finds it a bit off putting then again, the woman will not feel in the mood. If it is a red light for a couple, there are tons of other things to do! Massages and blowjobs are top on my list. Now if the couple is OK with it then having sex can be super fun! Some sex positions are limited due to gravity, but I recommend laying down a towel to catch any mess or better yet, hit the shower!

What He Said

The No Fly Zone

I am proud to have coined a new, sexy, and appropriate term for this time of the month, and I’m sharing it with you now: “No Fly Zone.” It makes it seem like some sexy military type operation instead of, well, you know.  Can you do it during the no fly zone? If you’re married and you know that she’s not sleeping with anyone else, then sure, I guess it’s safe.

But my own personal sex tip here is that you should avoid having sex while she’s in the “No Fly Zone.” I’m pretty sure if you look up “high risk sexual activities” in the dictionary you’ll see a picture of having sex on your period and then the dictionary will actually smack you upside the head for being stupid enough to even consider it.

Have you not heard of blowjobs or anal sex? Those are perfectly viable and deliciously naughty sex acts that you and your partner (or whatever the hell you call them) can do while you wait out the “No Fly Zone.” The “No Fly Zone,” like all other sanctions, seems really terrible and oppressive for a few days, then it blows over and then everyone pretends like it didn’t happen in the first place.

The “No Fly Zone” has been a thorne in the side of people (metaphorically speaking) since the beginning of time. Millions have tried to work their way around it, and basically you aren’t going to discover anything that others haven’t been able to. Remember that there are other alternatives such as anal and oral sex for him.