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How To Make Teen Sex Safer

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Teen sex isn’t at all uncommon. If you’re a teenager and considering sex, here’s how to make it safer. Teen sex is no fun if it ends in unwanted pregnancy!

As a teen you’re probably wondering about sex and what you can do to stay safe. Curiosity about sex is normal and it’s something that every teen goes through. It must be said that the only form of safe sex is abstinence. Even though this is the only foolproof way to stay safe, there are countermeasures that you can take to keep you and your partner free of STD’s or unwanted pregnancy. Here are a few ways that you can stay safe with your partner.

Use Condoms

Condoms are a necessity with teen sex. Not only condoms prevent pregnancy, it can prevent the transmission of STDs found in the seminal and vaginal fluids. Teens are notorious for misusing condoms or simply “pulling out.” When a condom is used properly, the chance of preventing pregnancy is about 97%. When used with lubrication, the condom is more unlikely to break. Don’t use household items like latex gloves, plastic wrap or balloons. Condoms are specifically made for the shape a penis and designed to stay on. Never use a condom twice.

Have Enough Lubrication

Lubrication is essential to giving the condom as little resistance as possible. If you’re considering having sex, make sure that you have a bottle of lube with you. Lube is relatively inexpensive and will cost about the same as a box of condoms. Don’t be fooled into thinking that lubricated condoms will be enough. Yes, the condoms come lubricated, but they can also get dried out of they have been in a drawer or in a car for as little as a week.

Where Can I Buy Condoms And Lube?

Teens primarily don’t want to go into a store to buy condoms and lube for fear of seeing somebody that they know. If you’re afraid of buying condoms and lube from a store, you can go to a Planned Parenthood or another health clinic and get them for free. These organizations are around to inform teens about sex and prevent unwanted pregnancy. Teen sex is on the rise and every teen has a responsibility to be informed of staying safe.

Consider Getting On The Pill

The pill is a good way to protect against pregnancy, but it does nothing for sexually transmitted diseases. If you are on the pill then you have taken the first step against getting pregnant. Now it’s important to know that you can still contract STI’s and STD’s. Make sure that your partner is wearing a condom every time that the two of you have sex. If you are considering the pill, there are a few things that you should know. The pill can affect different people different ways. It’s important to talk to your physician before you go on the pill Ask them how the pill they are putting you has affected other teens. Try to get on a pill that will keep your skin clear. Several of them will do this.

Are You Ready?

We’ve all read about teen sex, but ask yourself if you’re really ready to do it. If don’t know, ask yourself why you want to. Are you doing it to please a boyfriend? Do you really care about your boyfriend and you’re ready to take it further? Remember that as a teenager you will have hormones racing through your body and lust can easily misconstrued for love. Do not give into pressure from a boyfriend to have sex. This can ruin your first time and the first time should be special.

Make Sure It’s Legal

Teen sex is not something that usually ends up as front-page news, but there are laws against having sex with a minor. If you are under the age of consent in your state and your boyfriend is over the age of consent, you need to look up the legal ramifications for having sex. Your boyfriend could go to jail if you get caught. Remember this before you commit to anything.

It’s Okay To Say No

Saying no doesn’t mean that you’re a tease, it just means that you’re not ready. If you’re being pressured by your boyfriend to have sex and you don’t want to, you should tell him no. A lot of girls get pressured into sex with the fear that if they don’t do it, their boyfriends will leave them. If your boyfriend really cares about you then he will want you to be ready when it happens. If he doesn’t care about then he might break up with you.

Abstinence Is An Excellent Option

Abstinence is a choice that many girls make. This is very respectable and can improve the lives of women who choose to keep their virginity until marriage. Choosing abstinence is way of ensuring that you will complete school with a having a child and get into the work force quickly. This can also be a way to see if your boyfriend really loves you and if he’s willing to wait before the two of you have sex.

5 Tips For Better Lovemaking

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Here are five really simple ways to make your lovemaking more hot, steamy and passionate – starting tonight!

Find Your Partner’s “Hidden” Zones

I call these “hidden” zones because many people don’t realize, or forget, that these areas of the body LOVE attention. While many of these zones are obvious, like the lips, breasts, inner thighs and genitals, there are also areas that, when stroked, caressed and kissed, can drive your partner wild and even intensify their orgasm.

Believe it or not, the ears, neck, arms and hair are all really sensitive areas that love to be stimulated. Spend some time during foreplay caressing and touching these areas, and watch how it pleases your partner.

Set A Romantic Mood

People often think that using candles, music, incense and even rose petals to set the mood of your lovemaking is too “cliché.” Are they kidding?!? Your partner will LOVE YOU for this. Just imagine how happy you would feel if someone went to all the trouble to create a special lovemaking occasion that you can cherish for years to come. Could this be so “cliché” because people enjoy it so much? Point made.

Give Them A Sensual Massage

Why stop at setting the mood? Go one step further and give your partner an erotic massage that makes them feel relaxed and loved at the same time. Make it sexy, sensual, and pleasurable.

Massage them naked or build up the anticipation by having them slowly undress during the massage. Then kiss, caress and slowly transition “under the sheets” where a massage of another kind can take place. And no, you don’t need years of study to give a great massage. Just grab some candles and music, and bless your partner with an experience they’ll never forget.

Please Your Partner With More Oral Sex

Did you know that oral sex is a great way to strengthen your relationship? Think about it. It takes a lot of trust and comfort to let somebody have their mouth down there. Not to mention it’s great for men who want to relax without pressure to perform, and for women who can’t reach orgasm from only intercourse. In short, it’s an important part of foreplay. Here are some tips for both men and women.

LADIES: Women often start fellatio by sucking on the penis straight away when, actually, they should start with some playful teasing and soft touches. This will lead to a much more powerful orgasm as it heightens his anticipation.

GENTLEMAN: A mistake men often make is moving their tongue in a thrusting fashion, when stimulating the vagina and clitoris orally. Instead, they should lick it like an ice cream cone. Another great tip to keep things exciting is to write the alphabet around the clitoris with your tongue.

Constantly Explore And Try New Things

If I could only give you one piece of advice for better lovemaking, it would be this: become adventurous and creative.

Nothing is stopping you from red-hot passion except your level of creativity. Try new sex positions, do it somewhere new, or spice up your foreplay with a game. Let’s face it, the basic act of lovemaking, no matter how hard you try, is always kiss and thrust, but it’s HOW you do it and the way you make your partner feel that really counts.

By dedicating time to finding new things, you can turn ordinary lovemaking into extraordinary lovemaking. This is the sure-fire way to make sure your lovemaking stays passionate, pleasurable, and intimate for years to come.

Sex Tips For Your First Time Having Sex

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Sex for the first time is a nerve wracking experience. You’re afraid of getting everything wrong or not being able to give your partner an orgasm. You’re worried about your inexperience, what to do and when to do it. It can be hard to relax and go with the flow when you’re having sex for the first time, but here are some excellent suggestions to help you make it fun and memorable.

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Inexperience Is Okay

Doing it for the first time means that you’re inexperienced – and that’s okay. You don’t have to know everything there is to know on how to please the opposite gender before you ever have sex, and no one expects you to. You’re going to fumble around a little bit and be a little unsure of exactly what you’re doing. This is perfectly normal! The most important thing is to laugh it off and move on.

What makes someone great in bed and able to give their partner an orgasm again and again is time, practice and trial and error. No guy or girl ever got it completely right the first time, but learn from your mistakes and let them help you get better at making love. Repeating the same mistakes over and over isn’t a good thing – but making a mistake and learning from it and using it to help make you a better lover is!

Relax and remember to have fun. Your first time may be awkward, but it’s your first time and that’s okay. You’re never going to have another chance at doing it for the first time, so enjoy it for what it is. Enjoy the discovery process!

Get A Sex Buddy

Your first time is meant to be special, and saving it for that special someone is a great way to make sure that it’s memorable and fun. However, as the second, third and fourth times roll around, you may want to consider finding yourself a “sex buddy,” or a friend that you can be intimate with so you can learn the ropes. Make sure you choose a friend that you’re completely comfortable with!

The benefits of having a “sex buddy” is that you can practice things like oral sex or giving a blowjob without having to worry about someone judging your skills in the sack or embarrassing yourself in front of someone you want to have a relationship with (or at least want to have really hot relations with). Having a friend like this will allow you to practice and practice some more until you really get the hang of things. That way, when you meet someone super special, you’ll have had at least a little experience in that department and you can be more confident in the bedroom.

Safe Sex

Of course, with any partner, safe sex is of the utmost importance. Using a condom will not only help protect against unwanted pregnancy, it will also help protect against most sexually transmitted diseases. You may think that getting busy for the first time (especially if you and your partner are both virgins) means that you don’t have to worry about protection, but that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

Unless you and your partner have had a clear STD test and haven’t had any new partners since the test (and are monogamous with each other), a condom is necessary to protect yourself and your partner. It’s also a great way to keep from getting pregnant without the side effects of some birth controls. Remember that safe sex is always in style!

Being Emotionally Mature Enough For Sex

Before hopping in the sack for the first time, make sure that you’re emotionally and physically mature enough to do it. Rushing into it because you think you’re ready or because someone is pressuring you to do it are the wrong reasons for losing your virginity. Make sure you’re with someone you’re comfortable with and not someone who you will regret your first time being with later. Don’t be afraid to take it slow and really make sure it’s something you’re ready for before you actually do it.

Remember that you can’t re-do losing your virginity and if you rush through it just to get it over with, you may end up regretting it. If you’re not ready, that’s okay too! Never let anyone tell you when you’re ready or when you’re not, because only you can make that decision for yourself. If you want to wait, that’s okay and if you’re ready, that’s okay too!

How To Tighten Your Vaginal Muscles And Have Sex Just Like The First Time!

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Ever wish you were as tight as you were when you had sex for the first time? Of course you have! After having kids and aging, your vagina likely doesn’t feel like it did to you or your partner. Here’s the one simple sex toy you can use to tighten your vaginal muscles and make every time feel like the first time all over again!

Kegel Exercises

Sure, you’ve heard of kegel exercises. Sit down (or stand up if you like – in fact, kegels can be done anywhere and anytime) clench your vaginal muscles as though you were stopping the flow of urine, hold for ten seconds or more and release. Repeat ad nauseam. Kegels are a very powerful way to tighten your vaginal and pelvic floor muscles, however, they’re not the only thing you can use and definitely not the best way to make your vagina feel like brand new again. For centuries, women have been using one secret sex toy to keep their vaginas tight and fit for sex and now you can too!

Ben Wa Balls

Ben Wa Balls are small, weighted balls that are inserted into your vagina and kept there for a period of time. You will naturally use all of your vaginal, anal and pelvic floor muscles to keep them inside your vaginal canal. This will completely and thoroughly exercise your muscles without you consciously having to do very much at all! There are so many different types of Ben Wa Balls available on the market and the best thing is that absolutely no one will know that you’re using them! For first time Ben Wa Ball users, start with lighter weight ones that have a string attached to them. You can get them in soft silicone or even the vibrating variety for extra pleasure! As you become a more advanced user, you can graduate to heavier balls, such as metal or glass balls, which will exercise your muscles more and more. Just like when exercising any muscle in your body, you need to start off small and build your way up to heavier equipment.

How To Get The Ultimate Tight Vagina

In addition to using Ben Wa Balls to tighten and improve the muscle tone in your vaginal walls, you can also use tightening and vaginal rejuvanation cream (such as PK24) to increase blood flow to your vagina and hydrate your vaginal walls. Creams and gels used for tightening aren’t long lasting, however, PK24 can last up to 24 hours. Other tightening products work for shorter periods, but can also be used right before sex to create even tighter sensations. Using Ben Wa Balls and tightening creams not only make sex better for your partner, but they will also make sex better for you! Women who use tightening creams and Ben Wa Balls regularly report having better, more powerful orgasms and that they’re able to reach orgasm more quickly and easily. If you’ve been living with vagina that you’re not happy with, don’t consider surgery or other drastic options until you’ve tried Ben Wa Balls first! They just might change the way you have sex forever!

Q&A: How To Make Sex Better For Her

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Making first time sex special is a concern for many couples who ready for sex but haven’t taken that big plunge yet. Many guys are worried that their girlfriend won’t find the first time pleasurable, and they’re afraid of sex being uncomfortable for her. Here’s how you can make the first time – or any time – better for her.

Hey, my question is – this will be mine and my girlfriends first time, and I would like to know how to make this very special for her. I’m a little worried it will be too short and I would like to know the best way to keep it going to satisfy her.

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Make Sex About Her

If you want to ensure your partner enjoys sex, make the sex all about her. Focus on her pleasure instead of your own. This is where foreplay can really become handy, because instead of rushing into penetration (which likely will be uncomfortable at the very least if it’s her first time) you can focus on getting her aroused through foreplay.  Start out by helping her to relax with an erotic massage, and make sure you take your time. Don’t rush into anything, even if you are tempted to hurry up and get your own pleasure. Taking the time to pleasure your partner is well worth it, because in the end sex will be more pleasurable for the both of you.

Give Her Oral Sex

Women love oral sex. That’s a fact! Most women, actually, can’t climax through vaginal stimulation alone and require some degree of clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm. Helping your partner reach orgasm through oral sex before the actual act of penetration will help get her aroused and more physically receptive to your penis. This is especially helpful if your partner is having sex for the first time, as it will be more comfortable and pleasurable for her if she’s naturally lubed up. Another benefit of oral sex is that your women actually find it emotionally fulfilling as well. She’s going to love the fact that in that moment, even if it is just for a few minutes, she is the complete and total focus of your efforts. She gets to lie back, relax and enjoy receiving your efforts to please her!

How To Make It Last Longer

Many guys who haven’t had sex before or who haven’t had sex in a long time are worried about reaching climax too quickly once they start having sex with their partners. This is definitely a common concern, because many guys report they reach the brink of orgasm more quickly than they would like. To make sure you don’t climax too soon the first time, try masturbating often before the big event. Masturbation will help relieve pent up sexual tension, so you don’t feel the need to climax right away. This will give you more time to spend with her focusing on her pleasure and ensure that first time sex doesn’t go too quickly. These are actually all great tips that you can use beyond the first time as well, to make each and every time as amazing for her as it is for you.