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How To Be An Amazing Kisser

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Kissing is excellent foreplay – you can turn a woman on with just a simple smooch if you know how to do it right. In fact, you can get her so turned on she’s practically going to rip your clothes off! Here’s how to make it incredible!

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Avoid Drive By Kisses

While a light peck on the lips or check is a nice way to say hello or goodbye to your partner, it’s certainly not going to win you any kissing awards. In fact, sometimes one like this can really leave a woman reeling, especially if you’ve swooped in from out of nowhere and she wasn’t expecting it. A “drive by” can be disconcerting and leave a woman confused. If you wanted to kiss her, why did you do it so fast?

If you really want to make an impression on a woman, don’t do any “drive by” kissing – instead, make sure each move you make is slow and sensual. Come in slowly and start by lightly touching her arm and make eye contact by gazing deeply into her eyes. Look at her lips and lick yours, so she knows what you’re thinking. A slow buildup is much, much better for a girl than a fast peck, even if you think you’re being “passionate” when you swoop in.

Don’t Go Crazy With Tongue Too Early

You’ve slowly introduced her to the idea of kissing by touching her softly, licking your lips and making eye contact with her. She knows what you’re about to do and if you’ve played your cards right, she’s going to be really looking forward to it. You’ve got her all ramped up and then you ruin it by sticking your tongue in her mouth too soon. Not cool!

Don’t ruin a great one by using your tongue too early. The first time your lips touch isn’t a good time to use tongue, and some women don’t even like tongue at all during kissing. While deep french kissing is incredible when you’re both really turned on and in the throes of passion, it’s easy for her to get overwhelmed if you use your tongue at the beginning instead of waiting until you’re progressing more towards foreplay.

If She Acts Surprised Or Pulls Back

Even if you do everything right, your girl may still act surprised or pull back a little bit. She’ll definitely pull back if you’ve done something that didn’t sit well with her, like jamming your tongue down her throat before she even realized you wanted to kiss her. Many men see a woman pulling back as a personal rejection of him, however, this is not at all true. A woman who pulls back may just not have been ready for  it.

If this happens, go ahead and pull back as well. Relax and smile – she didn’t personally reject you. Give her a little time and slowly try to go there again. Rectify any mistakes you made the first time, such as going too fast or too hard, and build up slowly. Remember to make eye contact and touch her softly – these are real cues that let her know that you’re going to lean in. If she keeps rejecting you, however, it’s not just the what you’re doing. It’s you.

Tips For Your First Kiss

  • Remember that being bold and assertive is attractive. The worst thing you could do is ask a woman, “May I kiss you?” Don’t be afraid to make the first move and initiate the first kiss.
  • Don’t use tongue on the first kiss. Make it soft, short and simple. When you back away, that will leave her wanting more.
  • Focus on her lips and think about how wonderful it would be to put your lips against them. She’s going to feel you looking at her and feel the emotions you’re giving out. This involves her mind and emotions, which are the two most powerful allies to have on your side when you’re with a woman.
  • Don’t take it too seriously. Your first smooch shouldn’t be a production. Taking it too seriously will simply put too much pressure on the both of you!
  • Women want to be kissed. They spend a lot of time making sure their lips are soft and kissable, and they’re always coating them with lipstick and gloss. Knowing that women really want to be kissed and put a lot of thought into being kissed can give you the confidence to be really great at it.
  • Remember to relax and have fun. If your first one doesn’t turn out well, it’s not the end of the world. It’s just a kiss and you can always try again.

Practice, Practice, Practice!

To get really good at anything, it’s important to practice and keep practicing until you’re really confident about your skills. This includes kissing – you’re not going to be good at it the first time if you’ve never done it before or if you’ve only done it a few times. Realize that to be an incredible kisser, you’re going to have to get some practice in.

Ask one of your friends that is a girl if you can practice kissing with her. It may seem weird at first, but really, it’s not like you’re “practicing” having sex – it’s just a kiss! A lot of people wait to practice this kind of stuff until it’s the one moment that really matters and you really don’t want to mess up. Guess what ends up happening then? You mess up!

Practicing kissing before you actually are with a woman that you want to show you’re a great kisser will actually make you one – instead of waiting until the crucial moment and simply hoping you get everything right.

10 Valentine’s Day Kissing Tips

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Valentine’s Day is well known as the “kissing” holiday. Whether you’re planning on having sex later or not, if you have someone to kiss on Valentine’s Day, you’re definitely going to be kissing them – and hopefully for more than just a few seconds. Make this February 14th a day (or night!) to remember with these super sweet and sensual kissing tips.

Don’t Rush The Kiss

A great Valentine’s Day kiss shouldn’t be rushed. Even if you’re excited to begin oral sex or intercourse, rushing through the kiss could actually end up backfiring on you. Kiss your partner slowly and with meaning behind it. Don’t let your eagerness to get on with other things come through in the kiss – instead, go slowly and act as though you have nowhere else to be and nothing better to do!

The Tongue Isn’t Everything

When kissing, remember that the tongue isn’t everything. The lips and teeth play a huge part in a great kiss too! Kiss your partner softly with just your lips, without moving your tongue towards their mouth at all. Nibble their lips and keep yours soft and pushed out slightly so your lover can nibble on your lips too.

Snuggle In Between Kisses

For longer makeout sessions, it’s important to take breaks from kissing to catch your breath. In between kisses, don’t ignore your partner to catch a glimpse at the television or let your mind wander. Instead, snuggle with your significant other and let them know how special they are to you and how good it feels to be wrapped up in their arms. Snuggling will make your partner feel super blissed out, especially on a day like Valentine’s Day!

Kissing Is Not A Means To An End

The biggest mistake that men make when it comes to the art of kissing is that they treat it as though it is a means to an end and a way to get on with more important things, like getting a blowjob or having sex. Most women enjoy kissing in and of itself, and if they feel as though you’re more interested in getting it on, they may decide they don’t want to put out or move forward with heavy petting, sex or oral sex.

Kiss Other Parts Of The Body Too

Don’t limit your kissing to just your partner’s mouth this Valentine’s Day. Remember to move your lips softly across your partner’s cheek, nibble their ear and dip your head low to kiss and nibble their neck. Don’t go below the neck though, or your lover may think that you’re only interested in having sex! By remembering the sweet spots other than the lips and mouth, you can ensure a great makeout session that doesn’t bore you or your partner easily.

Make The Kiss Delicious

Even if you practice great oral hygiene, you can make the kiss even more delicious by adding mints or candies or even experimenting with temperatures! For a kiss that is cool as a cucumber, pop a breath mint in before kissing your partner. To heat it up, use cinnamon gum, candies or cinnamon mints. Your lover won’t be expecting a deliciously flavored kiss! You can also bring the temperature up or down by alternating sucking on ice or sipping iced tea with drinking a hot drink such as hot tea, hot cocoa or cappuccino. Just make sure that if you’ve made yourself a nice cup of joe, that you have one for your partner too!

Compliment Your Lover

Use the breaks you’re taking in between kissing to whisper sweet nothings in your significant other’s ear. You can, of course, combine this with nibbling and sucking your partner’s earlobe! Let your partner know how good they look this Valentine’s Day, or let them know how important or special they are to you.  If you are in a committed relationship with your partner, this would be a good time to tell your partner that you love them.

Bring Along The Chapstick

If you plan on making out with your lover for longer than several minutes (which you probably should if its Valentine’s Day) both of you are going to end up with some very chapped lips. Bring along the Chapstick to make both of you more comfortable during kissing and after!

Experiment With Bondage

You don’t have to be having sex to have a little fun with bondage. Practice tying your partner up and kissing them all over! Take turns and let your lover kiss you when you are immobilized.

Don’t Let Your Partner Get Blue Balls

Yes, both men and women can get blue balls. If this happens while you are making out, engage in a little heavy petting and give him a handjob, finger her or try sixty-nining for mutual oral sex. If you’ve had sex before, this would be a perfect time to shed the clothes and let off a little steam!

3 Clumsy Ways To Make Your First Kiss Romantic

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Kissing is one of the best things you can do to connect with someone you like, but the pressure for it to be amazing is on. What’s a first kiss look like, to you? Probably like a scene from the movies, where the hero and the woman lean in, stop for a second, then violently kiss each other.

In reality, your first kiss may be more like the kiss in the movie “Superbad”: An awkward kiss that leaves one of you disappointed. (In the movie, the woman ends up with a broken nose!)

Have you ever wondered how you can make your first kiss sweep a woman right off of her feet? Or how to have your first kiss turn her on, so your kiss turns into something more? (Like you being invited into her place?)

The answer is: “Awkward” first kisses are the way to go. And here are three suggestions to help you win the woman of your dreams:

Be Creepier Than Any Other Guy She Knows

Women even have a name for it. “The Stare” is when a man looks at a woman for too damn long, thereby creeping her out. Most of the time, “The Stare” is a sure fire way to turn a woman off, except “The Stare” works wonders, when you’re about to have a first kiss.

How do you pull off “The Stare” on a first kiss? It’s really easy! Just follow these directions:

  • Let the conversation die off and look straight into her eyes.
  • Hold eye contact for three seconds, exactly.
  • Look down at her lips for a second, then look back into her eyes…
  • Smile, pull her waist closer to you, and lean in for the kiss…

Ask any woman: Pull this off, and it’s full of romance. Even though this same stare is “certified creepy as hell” from any man, ANY time before the kiss.

Stalk Her Like A Pro

Have you ever heard a woman go lust-crazed over a stalker? No way! Most women want to get rid of ANY man stalking her as quickly as possible. What does a stalker do? He follows her home! He waits for her to get out of work! He hangs around her too long, too often and at inappropriate times!

However, here’s how you can be her personal stalker and make your first kiss incredible:

  • After your first date, let her go inside. Wait for a few seconds, then knock on her door. When she answers, do “The Stare,” above.
  • If you guys are already really close friends who have “nearly kissed” a few times, show up waiting for her after work. (Somewhere outside, not in the building, not near her car) Tell her, “I spent the whole day thinking about you, and I had to give you something.” Kiss her. This works best after a night where you two “nearly kissed.”
  • Mid conversation during a date – when you think things are going really well – Give her “The Stare” from above. She’ll stop everything she’s doing, go quiet, and you’ll interrupt her with your first kiss! (Ask her to keep talking after it’s over, as if nothing extraordinary had happened)

These “stalkerish” times to kiss a woman will sweep your new girl right off her feet.

Play Mr. Nice Guy

What’s the clumsiest way to get a first kiss from a woman? Let her know what’s about to happen, RIGHT before it goes down. Because then she gets to think “OMG… He’s about to kiss me!”

When’s the best time to ask this question? Right when you’re busy being a Stalker, of course! Simply interrupt her conversation at dinner, then ask this:

  • “Would it be OK if I kissed you, right now?”
  • Wait for her answer – hopefully it’s “yes!” (In fact, never ask this question if you think the answer may be no…)
  • Then say, “Nah, I think I’ll wait.” And smile. She’ll go nuts! And you can kiss her any time later in the date by interrupting the conversation again and then just going for it.

How To Kiss A Girl Without Fear Of Rejection

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Flirting with a woman and making the move to kiss her is incredibly intimidating. In fact, most guys clam up before making the move to kiss her for the first time because they’re so afraid of rejection. There’s a lot of pressure for a guy to make the first kiss perfect, because many girls will judge the guy or even the whole relationship just based on how “good” the first kiss is. Being rejected by a woman definitely stings and can keep a lot of guys from even asking a woman out. To lean in and kiss someone for the first time takes confidence – here’s how you can do it and not have the fear of rejection!

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Kissing Mistakes Almost Every Guy Makes

There are two types of kisses that will send a lady running for the hills. Many guys get so nervous and worked up when flirting with a woman that they talk almost non-stop and rush into a kiss before she even has a chance to figure out what is going on. This can make her recoil quickly, which is definitely not the desired reaction to a first kiss. Men will also try their hardest to put a “romantic movie finish” on the end of a date, which may not feel like the right thing to do at the time. He’ll go in for the “movie star” style kiss, which often ends up being awkward or jerky because it’s not the right thing for that particular moment.

Set The Mood

The environment and the mood surrounding a kiss is an essential part in making the atmosphere “feel right” for what is about to happen. Make sure you and your girl are both comfortable and relaxed. You should be sitting close together, perhaps with your hand on her leg or touching each other in some way. Jumping in and kissing her after sitting across the room for ten minutes is just going to be awkward – especially if it’s the first time with a new date! Choose an intimate, romantic spot and spend some time just talking to each other, flirting and building that emotional intimacy. A great first kiss is something that happens naturally, because it’s the “natural” next step to take with each other in that moment. A bad kiss is one that is forced and uncomfortable or awkward and jerky.

Is She Ready To Be Kissed?

Part of making sure you’re kissing your woman at the right time is reading and interpreting her body language. Believe it or not, she’s using her body language to let you know that she’s wanting you to make the next move – you just have to pick up on it. Here are some things she’ll do if she’s showing you she wants you to move on in for a soft peck – or more.

  • Is she leaning towards you or getting closer to you?
  • Is she making an effort to touch you in some way?
  • Does she seem to really want to be in your space?
  • When you touch her, does she pull away or lean in for more?
  • Is she watching your mouth or watching your lips move when you speak?
  • Is she licking her lips?
  • Is she flirting back?

Use Your Own Body Language

Practice flirting with your date and get her primed for a kiss by using your own body language to signal to her what you want to happen next. Here are some great ways you can signal to your lady that you want to move on to the next step and start kissing or making out with her.

  • Lick your lips or watch her lips as she speaks
  • Switch from looking her in the eyes to watching her mouth
  • Lean in close to gauge her reaction to your flirting
  • Touch her in some way, by leaning up against her or laying your hand on her leg as you talk to each other

Making The Move

If she seems like she’s wanting to be kissed, don’t hesitate to make the first move. Don’t wait – if your gut is telling you that now is the right time, it’s important that you take advantage of it. A common way that guys turn a perfect moment into an awkward one is waiting too long after the time is “right” to make a move and flirting with her when she’s really ready for you to put your mouth on hers. If she’s showing you that she’s wanting to kiss, but it doesn’t seem like she wants to rush into it, don’t be afraid to take it slow and make baby steps. You don’t have to go into a full on make out session right away – a soft peck or sweet kiss is just fine for the first time. Use your instinct to judge what feels right and when.

Drive Him Wild With Just A Kiss – 4 Must Try Moves

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Kissing is of course a prelude to great sex, but sometimes a kiss can be all you need to drive your man wild. There are many different kissing techniques you can use, but sometimes techniques aren’t what really turn him on – it’s often the type of kiss that will send him to the moon. Here’s how to master four different types of kisses that you can use throughout the day to tease him and make him wonder what’s next after the day is over and the bedroom doors are closed!

The Greeting Kiss

You may not think that the quick “hello” kiss after you both arrive home from work is worth much, but you can definitely turn it into something that will make your man’s brain switch from regular mode to “I-Want-Sex-Now” mode almost instantaneously. When you first see your guy, before you say a single word to him, take a few seconds to look him up and down and bite or lick your lips playfully. When you have his interest piqued, plant a big kiss on him when he’s least expecting it. Make this kiss last at least several seconds, almost as though it were foreplay, and don’t be afraid to kiss him deeply with your lips and tongue. You are letting him know, “this is what I’ve been thinking about all day.” Pull back slowly and look him in the eyes meaningfully. Then say, “hello!”

The Full On Make Out

Remember when you and your guy were first together and hadn’t had sex yet? Remember when making out was so great because you weren’t sure whether it was just going to be kissing or maybe it would be something more this time? If your sex life has been suffering from the “Stuck On Home Base” syndrome and you’re just heading straight for sex with your guy because that’s what you always do, you can definitely use this kissing technique to your advantage. When you’re in the mood, set the stage by giving your guy a full on French kiss. Then keep kissing him, and then after that, kiss him some more. Make no move to go any further than just making out and if he makes a move, gently deflect it for a few minutes. He’ll be going crazy wondering if – and when – you’re going to turn it into something more! Your guy will likely be erect during the make out session, and a great deal of blood will be pumping to his penis the entire time. This will work to your advantage when you finally do give him a blowjob or a handjob, because it will make the sensations ten times more powerful!

The Just Because You Can Kiss

One of the benefits of being in a long term relationship is getting to kiss your partner whenever you want. That’s the deal, right? Take advantage of the fact that you can kiss your partner whenever you feel like it and give him surprise kisses out of the blue. They can be short or long, as long as none of them are a “quickie peck.” Make sure you mean each and every one of them. Each kiss is meant to say, “You’re mine and I can do this whenever I want and I’m going to.” He may even catch on to the idea and start giving you random, out of the blue kisses too! It also lets him know that you’re thinking of him in that moment and makes him think you just can’t help yourself!

The Goodbye Kiss

The Goodbye kiss is equally as powerful as the Greeting kiss, but it can also be way too understated if you let it. Instead of giving your partner a short hug and kiss goodbye, wrap your arms around your partner and hold them there for a few seconds or minutes. Kiss them deeply and wrap your fingers in their hair, tugging lightly. Heck, why not wrap your leg around him too? The point of this kiss is to say, “I don’t care if you’re going, right now in this moment, it’s just you and me.” Kissing him tenderly and sensually with a hint of urgency and confidence will make him forget anything exists at all except for you and him, right then and there. One of the best benefits of a great Goodbye kiss is that it guarantees that he will pretty much be thinking of you (and what he wants to do to you) the entire time he is gone. Pair this with a sensually powerful Greeting kiss and you have a recipe for absolutely explosive passionate sex!