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2 Ways To Make Foreplay Hotter

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Foreplay is incredibly important if you want a great sex session. Here are two easy ways to make foreplay even hotter, and you can use them tonight!

More Isn’t Better

How do you know the foreplay is enough and that it’s a perfect time to ride?

The answer is you don’t, even a woman doesn’t really know. This isn’t a simple inquiry about time or quantity. With foreplay, more is not necessarily better. If it’s a long and lame one, then it’s a long and lame foreplay. You’re merely prolonging the agony of what could have been short anguish. It’s unnecessary and worse than no foreplay at all!

But even amazing foreplay will eventually reach a point of diminishing returns. Stay too long with it and it ceases to be great – that’s reality and you have to forge ahead before it gets stale. (But something tells me that stalling the foreplay isn’t the biggest issue with most guys. I have yet to hear a woman complain that her man gives too much.)

But Is Less More?

On the other hand, less is more doesn’t hold. It may be true for things like make-up or dancing, but sex is a different ballgame altogether. Sometimes less is just that less. You have to let things heat up, and when it’s hot, make it even hotter and allow a woman to really get the hang of things.

So where do balance and the optimum point lie? The fact that women are not a homogenous group, doesn’t make it any easier. So what can you do?

Look at your lover, read her. She will tell you stuff she doesn’t even have the audacity to verbalize – open your eyes and witness what she’s screaming without words. Only then would you see the glaring window to transition from foreplay to play. Only then would you know the most opportune time for it. (Do you see how calibration works at the advantage of long term partners over one-night stands?)

To help you decide whether or not she’s ready for your penis, check on two things you should have achieved:

An Extended Make Out And Foreplay Session

This includes all the works – kissing, caressing, hugging, even dirty talking and sex games – all those things men tag as preliminaries to the real thing. Add 5-15 extra minutes  to your usual. This way, you’re giving her plenty of time to catch up and really rev up her engines.

Give Her An Orgasm Or Two

Follow the “ladies first” rule. A lot of seasoned guys make it a rule to never ride unless she cums once or twice via manual/oral work. They let the lady have hers first, before they mount away. Stimulate her all the way to orgasm and don’t leave her hanging, hoping that penetration will finish the job. Penetration is one of the most ineffective ways of making women orgasm.

4 Erotic Places To Make Out

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Kissing can be a super hot prelude to sex, but you can’t make out on your couch all the time and expect it to be good. Move the party to one of these sexy places!

Making out on the bed is a top choice for most couples. It is convenient, offers plenty of privacy and makes cleaning up easy if the bathroom is just a few steps away. But if you want to enjoy truly mind-blowing, uninhibited sex, there is no better way than to let your imagination and creativity take over. If you need a little help, these are 4 of the best places to have sex – outside of your own home, no less! Push your boundaries and give your girl the most wondrous, passionate sex she has ever imagined!

1. In The Car

The back seat of the car isn’t the most comfortable place to make out. But it is nonetheless an ultra hot place for an afternoon (or night) of romp, simply because it gives a glimpse of the great outdoors while still offering a little privacy of sorts. Did I also mention car sex is one of the most sought-after sexual fantasies of women? Enough said.

Bonus Tip: The drive-in makes for a perfect excuse to get away for the night and have a good time right in your car. And you have plenty of time before the end credits start rolling, for sure!

2. The Great Outdoors

There is something about having sex outdoors that turns women on. It is the added thrill that someone else may just swing by and catch both of you in the act. Just make sure you are in a relatively secluded spot, where you can enjoy nature and the cool night sky in their splendor.

3. In The Pool

If you have a private swimming pool, great! Sex and water goes really well together. Water offers total freedom of movement and the added buoyancy can make kissing and sex a truly exhilarating and extremely sexy experience for her. And well, when both of you are in the pool, most of your clothes are already off!

4. A Date With The Movies

If you are a couple in a stable relationship, why not add some spice to your sex life by going out on a movie date and making out? Of course you should get into a theater that is NOT showing the latest blockbuster. You want some privacy, so choose one that is not crowded and find a place right at the back of the theater. And when the lights go dim, the action will start. Yours… not the movie.

4 Secrets To Great Kissing

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Kissing tips are essential if you want to deliver a really excellent kiss. Here are the secrets you might be missing when it comes to kissing!

1. Women Love To Kiss

Certainly not the first time blokes heard of that one, women are nagging for it. But in spite of the flood of headlines for lip action, the response has come in short supply. Either that, or women just can’t get enough no matter what.

Get this. For the ladies, kissing is enough. While guys tend to see kisses as prelude to hot sex, women have no qualms seeing it as an end unto itself. For them, a kiss need not lead to anything, it doesn’t have to be foreplay. It can be a stand-alone, pleasurable, loving act unto itself.

Now, tell that to a horndog and he’ll bitch about how women are a bunch of tease. The XY brain has difficulty processing how women stay happy with simple lip locks when it knows that sex is up for grabs. “Let’s use the bed for goodnessakes!” When one already knows the ruckus of intercourse, kissing, by comparison, becomes lame.

2. Let Kissing Be Enough For You

But here’s the thing: To become a great kisser, accept the real possibility that tongue action may be all you’re getting in a given night.

Go kiss, but don’t expect clothes to come afalling every time. Relish the lip action, relax your jaws, lips & tongue, and don’t think of anything else. Avoid thoughts of sex. This alone already makes you a better kisser. When you’re not wondering where that last condom is, you do better.

3. Learn To Get Good If You Aren’t Already

To be a good kisser is an imperative, there is no other resort. When it comes to liplocks, a woman never excuses the lame ones. She believes she can find out everything just from the way a guy smooches. It’s crazy! She thinks she has this lip-guided intuition – and sloppy kissers always go down the drain. A terrible smooch can change her perception of you.

And guess what, women read something into good kissers – that they’re also studs between the sheets. When she thinks this, you’re making it easier for her to go va-voom with your flow. So read up on some kissing tips and don’t be shy about it!

4. Create Sexual Tension

Now, the secret to a great kiss is the psychological set-up. There has to be some sort of sexual tension‘ before your lips touch. Only dive when there’s enough tension.

Again, this entails teasing, you have to make her want it.

There are several ways to achieve this. You can for example gently caress her cheeks, chin, lips or hair before the kiss. Or look longingly into her eyes and survey her face. Lean in as if to kiss her, then stop a few centimeters before your lips touch, breathe deeply and give her a sigh. Or prelude it by rubbing noses. With eyes closed, you can also nuzzle around the cheekbone, neck and below the ear zone. Set the kiss right so she’ll appreciate it when you finally let her have it.

Why Her Fake Orgasm Is YOUR Fault!

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An orgasm that is faked is your fault. There is is no wiggle room. You go at foreplay for all you’re worth and she starts making those tell-tale noises in your ear to let you know that you’re turning her on.

Just as she’s getting in the mood for more, you take a dive down south and stick in a finger to see if the waters are warm. If she’s not ready, it’s back to the testing phase – a little more kissing, necking, nipples and bum.

This back and forth is not only annoying when we aren’t aroused yet, but makes us feel pressured. the only thing that seems to make a difference toward the success of women who overcome sexual dysfunction is the commitment of their mates.

Wet Doesn’t Mean Ready

If your wife is warm and wet when you test her out, do you take that as a sign that it’s time for sex and head straight for intercourse? Not so fast! Being lubricated and being open for sex is not the same thing. DeAngelis explains that lubricant can be affected by a number of factors – nutrition, exercise, medications, hydration, emotions and cyclical hormones – and warns,

“Don’t assume just because we’re wet that we’re ready. Our body and mind need to be open before intercourse will feel good to us.” Don’t fall victim to the belief that if you don’t “strike while the iron is hot” she will become less aroused as you continue to stimulate her before having “real” (i.e. penetrative) sex.

The opposite is true, unless she’s really tired, in which case there’s no magic you can do besides giving her a chance to get the rest she needs. She will learn to lovingly live with it, much more than she would learn to live with you being standoffish, awkward and emotionally distant because you’re always “waiting for the right time.”

Are We There Yet?

You hate it when the kids can’t stop asking, right? You don’t want to be the big five-year-old in your relationship, do you? It is time to get with the program.

It’s Not Always About Orgasm

Yes, women like orgasms. We are human after all, and our bodies are programmed for pleasure. Perhaps it is the fact that men are three to five times more likely than women to orgasm during every sexual encounter but we women don’t need sex to be so goal-oriented.

Sure, it might be fun to play a game once in a while, just to see how many orgasms your wife can have, but she doesn’t want every sexual moment to be a marathon. Each encounter doesn’t have to be an event – sometimes it’s nice to just relax and enjoy the sensations and emotions of being together.

No Pushing

In other words, stop acting like it’s the end of the world if your woman doesn’t come! What is the point of being passive aggressive? Bullying your partner into enjoying herself is pretty counter-intuitive, right? Sex is supposed to be about feeling good and there are plenty of good feelings that may not lead directly to orgasm.

Heck, if she gets there every time, she’s doing better than 85% of other women out there, and only about half report having orgasms during sex “often.”

A Watched Pot Never Boils

I like sex. In fact, I love it. I love orgasms, too. But when my husband would ask me over and over if I was “there yet?” it drove me mad! Sure, it was nice to know that he cared one way or the other. But the pressure to perform for him was so overwhelming; I would end up faking just to get him to stop asking.

No woman wants to be pestered about her orgasm. Honestly, if you have to ask, you haven’t fingered her well enough yet to make her body tell you of its own volition.

In this case, that is where you should be focusing your energy, not pushing your orgasmic expectations and your trivial real-world cares and stresses onto her exactly when she needs to relax and let go the most.

Great Expectations

Let me put this very simply. If you can’t tell whether or not your partner has had an orgasm, you better stop acting like Casanova and trying to collect orgasms like trophies. When you can recognize the tell-tale signs of an orgasm, put your mouth to good use and make it happen!

And I don’t mean by talking at her incessantly until she fakes it so you’ll shut up and leave her be. Sometimes, I am just not in the mood for wild sex and multiple orgasms, but that doesn’t mean I don’t want to cuddle or play. Just because your wife might not up for The Big O doesn’t mean you can’t work on one for you, or suggest a bit of mutual masturbation!

Many women will start to experience the onset of sexual desire after getting started, so a slightly-less-than-enthusiastic response isn’t the kiss of death.  Foreplay is the secret to get any woman to respond the right way.

What You NEED To Know Before You Have Sex!

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Sex tips? Who needs those? You know the basics, right? You  know exactly what you need to do to get her wet and in the mood. You go at foreplay for all you’re worth and she starts making those tell-tale noises in your ear to let you know that you’re turning her on.

Just as she’s getting in the mood for more, you take a dive down south and stick in a finger to see if the waters are warm. If she’s not ready, it’s back to the testing phase – a little more kissing, necking, nipples and bum. This back and forth is not only annoying when we aren’t aroused yet, but makes us feel pressured. The only thing that seems to make a difference toward the success of women who overcome sexual dysfunction is the commitment of their mates.

Wet Doesn’t Mean Ready

If your wife is warm and wet when you test her out, do you take that as a sign that it’s time for sex and head straight for intercourse? Not so fast! Being lubricated and being open for sex is not the same thing. One of the best sex tips to give is don’t assume just because they are wet that they are ready. Their body and mind need to be open before intercourse will feel good to them.

Don’t fall victim to the belief that if you don’t “strike while the iron is hot” she will become less aroused as you continue to stimulate her before having sex. The opposite is true, unless she’s really tired, in which case there’s no magic you can do besides giving her a chance to get the rest she needs.

She will learn to lovingly live with it, much more than she would learn to live with you being standoffish, awkward and emotionally distant because you’re always “waiting for the right time.”

It’s Not Always About Orgasm

Yes, women like to have an orgasm. We are human after all, and our bodies are programmed for pleasure. Perhaps it is the fact that men are three to five times more likely than women to orgasm during every sexual encounter but we women don’t need to be so goal-oriented.

Sure, it might be fun to play a game once in a while, just to see how many orgasms your wife can have, but she doesn’t want every sexual moment to be a marathon. Each encounter doesn’t have to be an event – sometimes it’s nice to just relax and enjoy the sensations and emotions of being together.

No Pushing

In other words, stop acting like it’s the end of the world if your woman doesn’t come! What is the point of being passive aggressive? Bullying your partner into enjoying herself is pretty counter-intuitive, right?

Intercourse is supposed to be about feeling good and there are plenty of good feelings that may not lead directly to orgasm. Heck, if she gets there every time, she’s doing better than 85% of other women out there, and only about half report having orgasms with their partner.

A Watched Pot Never Boils

I like sex. In fact, I love it. I love orgasms, too. But when my husband would ask me over and over if I was “there yet?” it drove me mad! Sure, it was nice to know that he cared one way or the other. But the pressure to perform for him was so overwhelming; I would end up faking just to get him to stop asking.

Here is one of the best sex tips I know. No woman wants to be pestered about her orgasm. Honestly, if you have to ask, you aren’t fingering her well enough yet to make her body tell you of its own volition. In this case, that is where you should be focusing your energy, not pushing your orgasmic expectations and your trivial real-world cares and stresses onto her exactly when she needs to relax and let go the most.

Great Expectations

Let me put this very simply. If you can’t tell whether or not your partner has had a female orgasm, you better stop acting like Casanova and trying to collect orgasms like trophies. When you can recognize the tell-tale signs of an orgasm, put your mouth to good use and make it happen! And I don’t mean by talking at her incessantly until she fakes it so you’ll shut up and leave her be.

Sometimes, I am just not in the mood for wild sex and multiple orgasms, but that doesn’t mean I don’t want to cuddle or play. Just because your wife might not up for The Big O doesn’t mean you can’t work on one for you, or suggest a bit of mutual masturbation! Many women will start to experience the onset of sexual desire after getting started, so a slightly-less-than-enthusiastic response isn’t the kiss of death.