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How To Be An Amazing Kisser

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Kissing is excellent foreplay – you can turn a woman on with just a simple smooch if you know how to do it right. In fact, you can get her so turned on she’s practically going to rip your clothes off! Here’s how to make it incredible!

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Avoid Drive By Kisses

While a light peck on the lips or check is a nice way to say hello or goodbye to your partner, it’s certainly not going to win you any kissing awards. In fact, sometimes one like this can really leave a woman reeling, especially if you’ve swooped in from out of nowhere and she wasn’t expecting it. A “drive by” can be disconcerting and leave a woman confused. If you wanted to kiss her, why did you do it so fast?

If you really want to make an impression on a woman, don’t do any “drive by” kissing – instead, make sure each move you make is slow and sensual. Come in slowly and start by lightly touching her arm and make eye contact by gazing deeply into her eyes. Look at her lips and lick yours, so she knows what you’re thinking. A slow buildup is much, much better for a girl than a fast peck, even if you think you’re being “passionate” when you swoop in.

Don’t Go Crazy With Tongue Too Early

You’ve slowly introduced her to the idea of kissing by touching her softly, licking your lips and making eye contact with her. She knows what you’re about to do and if you’ve played your cards right, she’s going to be really looking forward to it. You’ve got her all ramped up and then you ruin it by sticking your tongue in her mouth too soon. Not cool!

Don’t ruin a great one by using your tongue too early. The first time your lips touch isn’t a good time to use tongue, and some women don’t even like tongue at all during kissing. While deep french kissing is incredible when you’re both really turned on and in the throes of passion, it’s easy for her to get overwhelmed if you use your tongue at the beginning instead of waiting until you’re progressing more towards foreplay.

If She Acts Surprised Or Pulls Back

Even if you do everything right, your girl may still act surprised or pull back a little bit. She’ll definitely pull back if you’ve done something that didn’t sit well with her, like jamming your tongue down her throat before she even realized you wanted to kiss her. Many men see a woman pulling back as a personal rejection of him, however, this is not at all true. A woman who pulls back may just not have been ready for  it.

If this happens, go ahead and pull back as well. Relax and smile – she didn’t personally reject you. Give her a little time and slowly try to go there again. Rectify any mistakes you made the first time, such as going too fast or too hard, and build up slowly. Remember to make eye contact and touch her softly – these are real cues that let her know that you’re going to lean in. If she keeps rejecting you, however, it’s not just the what you’re doing. It’s you.

Tips For Your First Kiss

  • Remember that being bold and assertive is attractive. The worst thing you could do is ask a woman, “May I kiss you?” Don’t be afraid to make the first move and initiate the first kiss.
  • Don’t use tongue on the first kiss. Make it soft, short and simple. When you back away, that will leave her wanting more.
  • Focus on her lips and think about how wonderful it would be to put your lips against them. She’s going to feel you looking at her and feel the emotions you’re giving out. This involves her mind and emotions, which are the two most powerful allies to have on your side when you’re with a woman.
  • Don’t take it too seriously. Your first smooch shouldn’t be a production. Taking it too seriously will simply put too much pressure on the both of you!
  • Women want to be kissed. They spend a lot of time making sure their lips are soft and kissable, and they’re always coating them with lipstick and gloss. Knowing that women really want to be kissed and put a lot of thought into being kissed can give you the confidence to be really great at it.
  • Remember to relax and have fun. If your first one doesn’t turn out well, it’s not the end of the world. It’s just a kiss and you can always try again.

Practice, Practice, Practice!

To get really good at anything, it’s important to practice and keep practicing until you’re really confident about your skills. This includes kissing – you’re not going to be good at it the first time if you’ve never done it before or if you’ve only done it a few times. Realize that to be an incredible kisser, you’re going to have to get some practice in.

Ask one of your friends that is a girl if you can practice kissing with her. It may seem weird at first, but really, it’s not like you’re “practicing” having sex – it’s just a kiss! A lot of people wait to practice this kind of stuff until it’s the one moment that really matters and you really don’t want to mess up. Guess what ends up happening then? You mess up!

Practicing kissing before you actually are with a woman that you want to show you’re a great kisser will actually make you one – instead of waiting until the crucial moment and simply hoping you get everything right.

How To Seduce Your Ex With A Kiss

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Kissing tips for your ex may seem like pointless since you broke up, but the right kissing tips can actually seduce them into wanting to get back with you! First, you’ve got her to agree to going on a make up date with you but you are both aware of the need to the trust between the two of you to be rebuilt. So it’s time to take it slow. Agree on the limitations between the two of you upfront so there is no misunderstanding because believe you me, when you have finished with your lips, she’ll be begging for it!

Start Off Slow

With agreement at hand, you have to respect the decision to take it slow! However taking it slow doesn’t necessarily mean just holding hands. You’d be surprised as to how erotic, exciting and anticipatory restricting your physical contact can actually be.

There are many types or sorts of kissing that dangle on a continuum that ranges from foreplay to after play like a g-string on a wash line. These kisses range from playful kisses like the chocolate kiss to the cold, peeled grapes kiss. Have I got your attention now?

Don’t Kiss Just Her Mouth

The Kama Sutra lists 19 different types of kisses, but now is your time to invent more! Pay attention to the areas of her body you have neglected before. Just because you are kissing her doesn’t mean you have to restrict yourself to her lips. Why don’t you pay lavish attention to her legs, working your way along her legs, always remembering your self-control. Start at her little toes, to the top of her leg, then back down to her ankles, knees and so on, occasionally blowing against the back of her legs, alternating between hard and lighter breaths. This technique is sure to leave her begging for more!

The Chocolate Kiss

There is also the Chocolate Kiss. What women wouldn’t enjoy this one? It’s always best to use a smooth, creamy chocolate that melts easily in your mouth. The smoother the better, obviously! Once the chocolate starts to melt, kiss her and twirl your tongues around hers.

One could also use hard but small pieces of candy, mix up the colors and try and guess at the different flavors, the fun part being trying to steal her bits of candy as she does yours.

Other creative contributors to “sweet kisses” are caramel, strawberries and cream, which involve the seductive licking of spoons, feeding one another strawberries, exchanging the strawberries with whipped cream between each other’s mouth.

The Champagne Kiss

Champagne or fizzy drink can provide a different sensation so the more fizz, the better. When you are ready to kiss her, take a sip and keep some in your mouth, dribble some into your partners’ mouth gently so that you share more than spill into one another’s mouth.

Use Your Teeth

Okay, so we’ve spoken about lips, but what’s inside the lips besides the tongue are the teeth. Now that’s an interesting thought. Starting slowly, simply graze parts of her body as you kiss her, using the edges of your teeth almost like fingernails, or as you would your tongue, lightly tickling her shoulders, arms and hands. Suck on each one of her fingers and, as you remove them from your mouth, softly apply pressure using your teeth.

Nibble Her Skin

If she enjoyed this, try lightly biting the back of her neck or other body parts in between passionate kissing. Don’t overdo it and remember, when you feel you are going to lose control – STOP! Your agreement was to take it slow, to build trust and I can assure you, by the time the next date night arrives, she will be ready to jump your bones!

How Your Penis Is Ruining Your Sex Life

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Your penis, unfortunately, is not the center of a woman’s attention. In fact, most women aren’t going to be as enamored with your penis as you are. So if you want to be with someone who just looooves wieners, be gay.

If that doesn’t sound like an appealing option for you, then learn to tame your manhood. I know, when you’re in arousing situations, it’s screaming in your ear to get it some attention, but if you don’t allow good sense to overrule, you may end up turning her off. Let me give you a few scenarios where you should tune out Mr. Happy.

Scene I:

She wraps her arms around your neck, giving you a long, sensuous kiss.

What your penis tells you: Grab boobies! Grab booty! Get your hands on whatever you can!

What you should do: Return the kiss. Appreciate what you can get out of that act alone – feel the warmth of her lips and the taste of her breath. Keep your hands occupied by stroking her back or hair. This may encourage her arousal. If it doesn’t, try giving her lips a little lick. Never should you resort to mauling to express your attraction. It feels disrespectful to her, and her defenses immediately go up.

Scene II:

You’re on the couch watching a movie, and you start making out.

What your penis tells you: Put her hand down your pants! Push her face into your lap!

What you should do: If you’re making out for a bit, this time when it’s okay to head for second base. Just don’t grab! Ease your way up there. The nipples tend to be quite sensitive, so if you’re gentle with them it can be a great source of arousal for her. Then maybe you can pause the movie and politely suggest retiring to the bedroom for a bit.

Scene III:

The clothes are off, and sex is definitely going to happen.

What your penis tells you: Stick it in! Stick it in! Stick it in NOW!

What you should do: Take deep breaths. Concentrating on your breath will help occupy your mind, and the steady oxygen to your brain will have a calming effect. Once you’ve cleared the testosterone cloud, you can really enjoy the sex. Inhale her scent, and feel her skin. Become cognizant of the woman with you. It will only increase the pleasure of the experience. In the end, your penis will thank you.

 

 

How To Get Your Man In The Mood – TONIGHT!

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These sex tips to turn the heat up with your lover are almost GUARANTEED to work! Even though men are usually up for having sex, sometimes you need to put in a little effort to get your partner to start thinking about slipping in between the sheets with you. Apart from telling him up front that you want to get it on, try these super steamy sex tips tonight and have him begging for more!

Cook With Cloves

Cloves have long been known to be an aphrodisiac for both men and women, but they get a lot less press than other aphrodisiacs such as oysters or ginseng and ginkgo biloba. One woman who ate a clove soup with her man ended up having sex with her man all night – and it happened again the next time she made the soup! Cooking with cloves can definitely revv up your lover’s libido and have him craving sex – and it will work for you too! Next time you make dinner, find a recipe that has cloves in it, such as a ham baked with cloves or a clove flavored Bundt cake.

Be A “Damsel In Distress”

Men love to rescue women – it’s hard wired into their DNA to do it. Does this mean you have to completely give up your female independence to make him feel like the Alpha male though? Of course not. However, playing a “damsel in distress” every now in then will be all you need to get your partner wanting to lift your skirt up and bend you over.

Next time you want to get it on with your lover, have him come over and fix something for you or lift something really, really heavy that you just can’t manage to lift by yourself. Whatever you ask him to do, make sure it’s something really manly that you couldn’t possibly do on your own. Bonus points if he comes over to do his job and you’re wearing skimpy lingerie. He’ll definitely get the idea then!

Play A Little Hard To Get

Men also love the chase – it’s part of the reason they really don’t like clingy women. Men want to be with a woman who is confident enough not to NEED him too much or smother him with affection. Use this tactic to your advantage by playing a little hard to get. Flirting is probably the best way to do this. Flirt with your partner unabashedly – tease him, banter with him and let him get a glimpse of your ass in a tight pair of jeans as you walk away. It won’t be long before he’s tearing your jeans off and initiating a night full of passion.

Dress Up

You don’t necessarily have to dress up to get your partner to start thinking about sex, but take some time to make sure you look good. Often, women get comfortable in relationships and don’t do their makeup as often or worry about what their wearing. Usually, this isn’t a problem because men love to see their women in a pair of pajama pants that make your butt look good.

However, sometimes women get too comfortable and a guy’s “sex mechanism” doesn’t get turned on or want to have sex as much – because you’re not looking sexy, you’re not feeling sexy. And he can pick up on that. So go get a pedicure, a manicure, a wax job and buy a new bra and panty set. Do your hair and makeup, even if you’re just hanging out around the house. If you’re confident and looking hot, he’ll want to jump your bones ASAP.

Make Out

Another thing that couples forget about when they’ve been in a relationship for awhile is how much fun just kissing can be! Remember when you first got together with your current partner and you spent hours just kissing without worrying about when you were going to have sex or even what you were going to do next? There’s really something about making out with your partner – without thinking about sex – that makes sex even hotter when you finally do head to the bedroom!

Next time you and your lover are hanging out on the couch and watching a movie, lean over and start kissing his neck softly. Move up to his lips and kiss him deeply. If he starts to move his hands to start taking off your clothes, stop him. Use your lips to show him that you just want to kiss – for now. After you’ve teased him enough with your lips, then you can let him take it further.

6 Ways To Set Monogamy On Fire

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Sex gets boring when you’re monogamous – but does it have to? Should you resign yourself to lame sex just because you’re in an exclusive relationship with someone? Of course not. Part of the benefits of being in a steady relationship is being comfortable enough with someone to try new things and go a little bit outside your box. Here’s how you can heat up your sex life – tonight.

Take A Break

A lot of couples that are in a sex rut just keep trying to have great sex with each other, but it always ends up being mediocre no matter how hard they try. Instead, remember the quote “absence makes the heart grow fonder” and apply it to this situation. Plan to take a break from sex all together for a few weeks. This may seem like the exact opposite of what you want to do, but abstaining from sex for a little while will actually make it hotter when you do get back together.

Give A Foot Or Back Rub

No, not an erotic massage. This actually isn’t going to get you sex right away – but it will help your partner to become more open with their bodies and more receptive to your touch. Next time your partner has a hard day at work, grab a little massage oil and give them a great rubdown. Really get into it and do it well. Make it good, and show them that you truly do care for them. This act of complete selflessness and genuine interest in how they feel will help them open up to you sexually.

Pay Compliments

After being in a relationship for awhile, you tend to take your partner for granted. We all do it, but getting too comfortable contributes to a boring sex life. Next time your lover spends a lot of time getting ready, puts on a new outfit or does something out of the ordinary to look good, make sure you pay them a compliment. Let them know you still find them sexy and attractive. Take this a step further and compliment your partner for something completely ordinary. Guys will enjoy a compliment on their hard work or something they’ve fixed while women respond well to compliments on their ideas.

Touch Each Other

Couples who have been together for a significant amount of time find that they don’t touch each other as much. Not necessarily just in the bedroom, but in general. They may avoid brushing up against each other or simply keep their hands to themselves more often. Improve your sex life with your lover just by making an effort to touch them more every day. Hold hands in the car while you’re driving to work or take time for a prolonged hug when you get home. Don’t let a day go by where you don’t touch your partner several times a day, both casually and passionately.

Make Out

Remember when you used to kiss your lover just for the sake of kissing? In fact, you probably kissed for hours without ever thinking of what was going to happen next. Bring that back to life in your current relationship by having a good old fashioned make out session with your lover. Put on a great movie (but maybe something you’ve seen before so you aren’t tempted to get too engrossed in it) and start softly kissing your partner’s neck.

Move to their lips and make it clear that you want to make out. Don’t let things progress past making out or heavy petting. Then, go to bed without ever thinking of having sex or where the kissing will lead. It won’t be long before your lover can’t stand it anymore!

Do Something Taboo

Part of what makes sex boring in a monogamous relationship is that things stop being “taboo.” You start expecting things a certain way and know what’s going to happen next. Shake things up a bit by doing something with your partner that is “taboo” or slightly outside of your box. Instead of doing what you normally do in the bedroom, take it out on the couch or even outside to the yard or in the car. Bring in a new sex toy or try bondage for the first time.

When you’re with someone you completely trust and love, you have the benefit of being able to try new things without the fear of judgement. You can be open and honest about what you like and what you want to try – and the same goes for them. Take advantage of the opportunity and do something with them you’ve never done before!