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How To Have Sex Like A Teenager

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Sex when you’re young is unlike anything else out there – it’s incredible! Here’s how to bring those feelings back and have sex like you used to.

You remember your adolescent self, and I’m sure you wouldn’t want to go back to being him for anything. Walking around with a hard-on twenty four hours a day, surrounded by girls in mini-skirts who won’t even let you touch them under their bras, so you spend most of your time beating off as much as possible without your mom catching on to all the time you spend in the bathroom.

Trying Something New

Fast forward twenty five years. You have fumbled your way through losing your virginity, making a few mistakes, and getting married. You now have a beautiful wife that you still find sexy as ever, but between work and family duties, the time you have to spend making mad, passionate love has dwindled. You want to try something new, but all the stuff you find on the internet requires serious contortions, and you’re not sure your bum knee can take it.

Maybe it’s not something new you need. Maybe it’s something from before you learned how to unhook a bra without help. Being a walking hard on was horribly frustrating, but it wasn’t boring. There are a couple of things you may have forgotten about since girls started letting you put your penis in them.

The Make-Out Session

I’m sure you remember your first girlfriend. The two of you used to make out for hours on end – you trying to touch her breast, her slapping your hand away. The hours and hours of kissing had you in such a frenzy, you didn’t even notice when her dad walked in. However, ever since you’ve been allowed to have sex with women, this adolescent passion probably hasn’t been equaled. To add some passion, go back to this old stand by.

Make out, and make out for a really long time. But how do manage to keep from taking the prize if you’re already allowed? Trying making it a bet, and make sure the wager is worth it. For example, whoever touches below the belt first gets to pick TV on Monday. If you go there first, you’ll be watching Jon & Kate Plus 8 during Monday Night Football.

Mutual Masturbation

I’m sure you cringed at this term when your health teacher presented it as an alternative to sex (unless you were in high school in the last eight years and received abstinence-only education), but the grown up version of this can be fun. Whether you’re fully clothed on the couch or naked in your bed, mutual masturbation bring some playfulness back into sex.

You can get reacquainted with each other’s genitals – rediscover those spots that really make her lose her mind. If you orgasm, you don’t have to have intercourse. Penetration is not a necessity every time you have sex. You’re a grown up now, so you can forget all those silly rules you used to make about what defines sex (“It was just a handjob! We didn’t even do anything!”). You can go ahead and make your own.

Sex Machines – Do Women Even Need Men Anymore?

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Sex machines have clitoral vibrators, dildos and even anal attachments – way more than any guy has in his “tool box.” Even if a guy has a huge penis, he still doesn’t vibrate, does he? So do girls even need guys for sex?

What Are Sex Machines?

Sex machines are often seen in porn – especially fetish porn or other types of specialized porn. They are machines designed to simulate intercourse, penetration, oral sex and more, often at much higher speeds than can be achieved through traditional sexual intercourse or oral sex. The most popular speed is about 160 strokes per minute, but many models can do up to 300 strokes per minute without ever breaking a sweat.

There are many different varieties of sex machine, ranging from those simple in design to ones that have an attachment that stimulates almost every hot spot imaginable. Some of the more unique sex machines are:

  • A custom designed model that simulates the licking of a clitoris with molded silicone tongues that are attached to a chainsaw
  • Models for double penetration
  • Models with attachments that spray water on the clitoris and penetrates the vagina at the same time
  • A vacuum powered clitoris pump or nipple stimulator
  • A spanking machine
  • Models that are designed to penetrate two women at once

What Can Sex Machines Do?

The majority of sex machines are going to be seen in porn, used by women who are alone and masturbating. They have a variety of uses, however. They can be used by a woman for female masturbation, or by men with a male masturbator attachment. They can be used for anal sex, clitoral orgasms, nipple play and even spanking and restraining. There are many different models of sex machines out there, so whatever you like, you’ll probably be able to find a machine that does it for you.

Sex machines can also be used by couples that desire more in their sex life than just what trying different sex positions and other things to spice up sex can offer. Men who entertain a cuckold fantasy will definitely love watching their wives get banged by a mechanical dildo, while women may enjoy watching their partners be slowly pleased with a soft and squishy masturbator.

Are They Really Better Than Sex?

Orgasms with sex machines are often harder and much more intense than an orgasm that is experienced during sex with a partner. Women who have never experienced an orgasm can have one with a sex machine, and women who have never experienced female ejaculation will often squirt during sex with a machine without even knowing they can. This is because:

  • Sex machines offer intense speeds that no human could possibly replicate
  • They offer steady stimulation at the same speed, which for a woman, is necessary for orgasm
  • They are designed specifically for firm g-spot stimulation, which can cause squirting
  • They never get tired and they’re always around when you want them
  • They offer just about any type of stimulation that you want
  • Creative folks, mechanics and those good with their hands can often create their own sex machines that are designed specifically for their pleasure

Nothing Can Replace A Partner’s Intimacy

While sex machines can really deliver when it comes to the physical stimulation department, that’s not always what guys and gals are looking for when it comes to sex and lovemaking. Women who enjoy a fast and hard orgasm during masturbation with a sex machine are still going to need that emotional intimacy that only a partner can give.

Sex machines can’t give hugs, tell a woman she’s beautiful or take her out to dinner. They can’t look into the eyes of their man while they give them a slow, deep blowjob and they can’t touch and kiss softly during foreplay. While sex machines do have a lot to offer, they lack the critical emotional and physical intimacy that comes from real sex with a real, live partner.

Should You Get A Sex Machine?

They are fairly expensive, especially if you choose to get the kind of high quality models that you see in porn films. However, if you have the space and privacy at home for one, they can be a fun investment for masturbation and erotic play with your lover.

Safety Tip

Never try to turn a nail gun, a drill, a saw or a chainsaw into a homemade sex toy. If something goes wrong – like the saw cuts through the dildo you shoved on it – you can really hurt yourself or someone else. Only use sex machines you’ve purchased from a reputable company and follow all recommended safety guidelines.

Mutual Masturbation – How To Get Your Partner To Try It

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Mutual masturbation can be something fun and exciting to add to your sex  life. Masturbation doesn’t have to be something you hide from your significant other, or that you do in the dark in secret. You can enjoy masturbating with your lover, while watching them do it too. Sound like fun? Here’s how to get your lover into it!

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What Is Mutual Masturbation?

To put it simply, it’s when you masturbate yourself in front of your lover and they masturbate themselves in front of you. It can be at the same time, but it doesn’t have to be. You can also take turns putting on a great show for each other – but most people who do this usually end up getting so turned on that they start touching themselves anyway.

Most couples are too shy to try this – in fact, most people are too shy to talk about masturbation in general – but it can be a great way to bond sexually with your partner. You can bond emotionally by watching each other give themselves pleasure, and you can also pick up some great tips on where they like to be touched and how they like to be stroked.

Get Comfortable With The Topic

First of all, if you’re uncomfortable with the topic of self love in general, it’s time to pony up and get comfortable with it. Rest assured, everyone does it – men and women alike. Although our society places taboos on masturbation (heck, some people even say that it makes you go blind or makes hair grow on the palms of your hands), there’s really nothing wrong with it and it’s a perfectly normal and healthy thing for both men and women to do. Educate yourself about masturbation and get over your preconceived notions that it’s “bad” or “wrong.”

Encourage Your Partner To Do It

Before you jump right in to mutual masturbation, you have to get your partner comfortable with it too. Too often, couples masturbate in secret without ever talking about it with each other. It doesn’t have to be that way! It’s not something to be jealous of, so encourage your partner to masturbate in addition to a healthy sex life with you. Get them a sex toy to enjoy on their own – there are tons of great sex toys for both girls and guys! Don’t think that the sex toy world is limited to vibrators for women. There is so much more out there! Explore some online sex toy stores – if you get the right ones, your lover may find them intriguing enough to try!

Make sure you give them plenty of privacy and time alone to enjoy their masturbation. Honor their privacy and don’t ever bust in on them if you know or suspect they’re masturbating. If the door is closed, knock!

Talk About It With Your Significant Other

If you and your significant other have never had the “masturbation” talk, go ahead and have it! Share stories with each other about your first time doing it or if you ever got caught doing it. Talk about how it’s normal and natural, and let your lover know that you’re not going to judge them at all for their masturbation habits or what they enjoy. Share with your lover what you enjoy and what your fantasies are – take that leap and tell them what you like when you get it on with yourself and they may be more encouraged to share what they like with you!

Your First Time With Mutual Masturbation

You’ve gotten past the “masturbation conversation” and you and your lover are both comfortable talking about it and doing it. You feel ready to take the next step and try doing it in front of each other. For your first time, consider blindfolding your lover. This can be fun, but it also serves a purpose – your lover is going to feel more comfortable masturbating in front of you for the first time if they can’t see you’re there. You can watch them, but they can’t see you! Alternatively, you may feel more comfortable wearing a blindfold for the first time masturbating in front of your lover.

Another great idea is to turn the lights down very low, or use candles. The dim lighting makes it more comfortable for both of you, but still allows you both to see what is going on, which can be incredibly erotic.

Make Your Significant Other Feel Good About It

Don’t be shy when your lover is putting on the show – let them know how much you like it and how much it turns you on! This can be in the form of just vocalizing your pleasure or even dirty talk, which can make it even more erotic for them. Touch yourself while they’re masturbating, so they can see just how turned on you are at the sight of them masturbating. If you want to get your lover to do it more often, you’ve got to give them positive feedback. Don’t be the freak that just sits in the corner staring – get into it! Let your lover know that you’re into it! Enjoy it and have fun with it.

Getting Into A Groove

You’ve tried mutual masturbation for the first time and you really like it – so how do you take it a step further? Try different sex positions when you do – sitting in front of each other is nice, but you can also try lying down, or with one of you lying in the bed and the other sitting in a chair. Use your imagination and consider different possibilities and different ways to try it.

Auto Cunnilingus – Can Women Lick Their Own Clitoris?

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Auto cunnilingus is where women bend forward enough to give themselves oral sex – but can they really do this? You’ve seen contortionists on television and in movies bend ways you didn’t even imagine they could, but can flexible women actually go down on themselves? Is it even possible?

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What Is Auto Cunnilingus?

Auto cunnilingus is the act of a woman bending forward far enough to reach their tongue to their clitoris and licking it as a form of female masturbation. It sounds difficult to do – and it is! Very few women are able to do this! Some men can give themselves oral sex too – this is called auto fellatio. With auto fellatio, a man will bend forward far enough to suck on his own penis. Very rarely if ever is a man who can do this able to actually give himself a full on blowjob. What usually happens is the man sucks on the head of his penis while he masturbates the shaft with his hand.

It is much harder for women to give themselves oral sex, simply because they have to bend down a lot farther to reach their own clitoris. While you won’t see many people engaging in self oral sex, you’ll see that there are far less women who are able to do it than men who can.

Can A Woman Really Stretch That Far?

While it is possible for a woman to be flexible enough to bend far enough forward that she can reach her vagina with her mouth, it is very rare indeed. Very few women can actually do this and if they can, it’s usually because they’ve had some sort of gymnastics training and have had lots of practice with flexibility or are a contortionist, who bend their bodies to extreme angles for entertainment.

Women who can give themselves auto cunnilingus can usually only go down on themselves for a few seconds, possibly up to a minute or two. Certainly not long enough to give themselves an orgasm without additional masturbation with their fingers or a sex toy.

The most common sex position for auto cunnilingus is lying on the back with the hands under the buttocks. The woman can lean her neck and head forward, while using her arms to push her bottom towards her head. Also, a woman may find it easier if she has someone to help her with bending. It may be easier for her to relax her body and focus on reaching the clitoris while a partner sits behind her and gently pushes her bottom forward.

Can Women Learn To Be That Flexible?

It’s possible for women who aren’t able to lick their own clitoris to learn how to do it, but it requires some real motivation. Generally, it’s not something that you can try once or twice and be able to do – it takes years of practice to be able to train your body to be that flexible. It’s not easy, and it’s not going to happen quickly. You generally have to be fit to begin with, and training your body to stretch that much takes time and patience. Even contortionists and trained gymnasts have to work very hard to be able to stretch that much.

If you’d like to learn how to stretch like that, take it slow. Start with small stretches and work your way up. Don’t push yourself too hard – you could really end up hurting yourself! Take your time – since this isn’t something that is going to happen right away, it’s important that it’s something you really want to be able to do.

A Word Of Caution

Bending the body to such extreme angles like with auto cunnilingus can be dangerous. Most people’s bodies are not designed to stretch that much or contort into those types of extreme positions. While trained gymnasts, extremely flexible people and contortionists may be able to get into these types of positions without hurting themselves, it’s likely that your average gal trying to do this may end up with a sprain or a stretched or torn ligament.

Before you attempt to try giving yourself oral sex, make sure that you are well aware that you can do some serious damage to your muscles, joints and tendons if you’re not careful. Make sure you’re fit and healthy enough to try and if it hurts a lot, stop!

Male Sex Toys – 5 Things That AREN’T For Her!

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Male sex toys are becoming more and more popular as guys realize that they’re not only for women. Men can have just as much fun during masturbation as a woman can! Here are some must have male sex toys!

A Masturbation Sleeve

Every guy needs one of these! Forget masturbating with your hand – these soft jelly or skin-like sleeves are specifically designed to maximize a man’s pleasure during masturbation. Male sex toys just don’t get any better than this – there are hundreds of different materials, sizes and looks to choose from, so it’s not at all difficult to find one that you really enjoy. Men who use masturbation sleeves report better, deeper orgasms and more overall satisfaction.

Also, keep in mind that to use a masturbation sleeve, you need a bottle of lube hanging around. Most lube will work, but pay attention and don’t use silicone lubes with silicone sleeves, or oil based lubes with latex sleeves. A good, water based lubricant will work with any material.

A Cock Ring

Most guys don’t think about using a cock ring during masturbation, but it can make a world of difference! Cock rings aren’t just for guys who have erectile dysfunction and can’t keep it up, nor are they just for couples who like a vibrating bullet in between them. A soft jelly cock ring can just feel great during masturbation, while a stiffer one can prolong a man’s erection and make his orgasm absolutely incredible.

A Prostate Stimulator

You may have heard that the best male orgasm comes from massaging the prostate gland – however, many guys are still too shy to try anal stimulation. If you can get past the “ick” factor that many men have when thinking about playing with the anus during masturbation, you can have a lot of fun and even more pleasure.

A good drawer full of male sex toys isn’t complete without a prostate stimulator. If you’re new to it, or are still a little creeped out by it but want to achieve that amazing orgasm that everyone is always talking about, try starting with a smaller prostate stimulator. A tiny butt plug will get you used to anal play during masturbation, and as you get more and more into it, you can replace your beginner’s sex toys with more advanced ones.

A Penis Pump

Penis pumps are also not male sex toys that are confined to men that struggle with erectile dysfunction. Any man can enjoy a penis pump, especially if he wants to mimic the sucking feeling produced during oral sex or if he just wants a bigger, harder erection. Penis pumps are often inexpensive, and you can even get pumping models that have a soft jelly or skin-like “masturbation sleeve” attachment.

Be careful when using a penis pump, and never, ever use a vacuum cleaner instead of a pump made specifically for sex. If you pump too hard, you can cause bruising or pain and discomfort. Not worth it! But when used correctly before or during your masturbation session, you can experience more pleasure with a bigger, longer and harder penis.

A Masturbator Mount

If you really want masturbation to feel like a vagina, try purchasing a masturbator mount. Some mounts may only be compatible with some brands of masturbation sleeves, while other types of sleeves cannot be mounted at all. If you’re looking into a mount, make sure you choose one that is compatible with the masturbation sleeve that you already have or are willing to purchase a new one.

A masturbator mount will hold the masturbation sleeve for you, so you can enjoy it absolutely hands free. There are different styles of mounts depending on which sex position you enjoy most – and you can pick the one you like instead of trying to find one that you and someone else will enjoy!

You will love the hands free action that a mount can provide, because it makes it feel even more like sex. Even with a masturbation sleeve, there’s something about doing it with your hands that makes it feel not as good as the real thing (probably because it isn’t the real thing). However, with a mount, you can trick your brain into thinking you’re actually doing the dirty, especially if you close your eyes or have your favorite porn playing on the television in front of you. Just don’t forget to lock the doors!