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How To Fulfill His Handjob Fantasies

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A handjob is something that a guy would much rather get from a girl than do himself. Here’s how to give your lover the handjob he’s been craving.

As with any sexual activity, communication between both partners is absolutely key to having a successful genital massage, fellatio or even intercourse session. You must keep the lines of communication open between you and your partner when performing your hand job to be able to give him the best experience you can and for you to be comfortable.

You will need to learn what he likes and when he likes it – although it is somewhat your responsibility to pay attention to his bodily cues (such as movements and noises) to learn if he really likes something, it is your partner’s responsibility to let you know if something is not working. If your partner does not tell you when something doesn’t feel as good as he would like it to, he is setting you up for failure!

Don’t Be Too Shy To Ask

Ladies, he’s been masturbating his whole life.

He knows his likes and dislikes and will be appreciative if you ask him to not only tell you, but take his own hand over yours and show you what feels best to him. It may differ from encounter to encounter, but you will get a good sense of how he handles himself “in private” and learn the strokes he used and the pace he is accustomed to.

On the same token, it is crucial to let your partner know if you are uncomfortable with something or if a particular move causes your hands numbness, pain or makes them tire or cramp easily. In doing so, you ensure that both you and your partner are on the same page about genital massage and avoid a lot of frustration!

Living The Fantasy

Part of giving a man a fabulous handjob is helping him to live out his fantasies. Most men do have fantasies while masturbating and it often has to do with YOU! He is imagining you in lingerie, or going down on him in the shower, talking dirty to him or trying out some new position or new place for a love nest.

As he closes his eyes while you play with his manhood, help him to be a part of a fantasy. Tell him what part of the fantasy you are and what part he plays (he often wants to simply be the most amazing lover with the package you go wild over).

10 Libido Types – Which One Is YOUR Girl?

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Libido types are important for understanding your partner. The more often you can practice touching each other, the easier and more magical it will get! The amount of time that you have available for sex will vary, but you can maximize your chances by gaining an understanding of your wife’s libido. Take these tips to heart and make the most of her love-style.

1. The Sensual Type

The sensual woman is an emotional creature and sex is a pure expression of her love for you. She adores the exotic when it comes to exploring the finer things in life, so don’t be surprised if she enjoys feeling champagne bubbles on her skin or the taste of fresh fruit and chocolate during foreplay.

2. The Erotic Type

Eroticism is defined by its intensity. An erotic libido demands the extraordinary – something breathtaking and adventurous. This woman probably won’t turn down “ordinary” sex, but to really grab her attention it needs to have that spark.

3. The Dependent Type

A dependent libido understands sex as a way to relieve stress and relax. A woman thus inclined is likely to become upset and frustrated without frequent release, but may not always be willing to initiate. To avoid the cycle of abstinence – then fighting over a lack of sex drive – then make-up-sex release, you may want to try adding some other regular physical activity to your routine.

Try going for hikes or playing a sport together to invigorate that competitive spirit and warm up your bodies, minds and emotions before letting go.

4. The Reactive Type

This sexual personality is rarely aroused before their partner. They will almost never instigate sex through foreplay, but can have an active sex life if their lover takes the lead. It can take a lot longer to get things going, but don’t fret! Showing and telling your wife how turned on you are by her is a surefire way to ignite her flame.

5. The Entitled Type

Hopefully neither you nor your wife fall into this category. This kind of lover doesn’t really believe they have any responsibility to pleasure their partner, or believes their skills are better than they truly are, and so feels as if they are entitled to receive pleasure but don’t actually give any back. This type of lover holds and resonates loving sexual energy, but never replicates or reciprocates it. In short, the entitled libido is selfish, ignorant or both. It’s time to do something different, right?

6. The Addictive Type

This kind of person tends to get sex-obsessed. It is an absolutely necessary component of their day-to-day lives, often to the detriment of other areas, including relationships. Addictive lovers are prone to cheating and may have a difficult time maintaining relationships if they cannot overcome their emotional dependence on sexual pleasure. Discovering their true sexual and emotional potential will help them recover from addiction and learn to enjoy a healthy, regular sex life without feeling desperate.

7. The Stressed Type

A stressed out lover is no fun for anyone, so if this describes you or your wife, some immediate change is necessary! This kind of libido is going to be very low, because sex is an uncomfortable event filled with anxiety. Pressure to perform and worries of inadequacy make true intimacy nearly impossible. This person needs to do some real soul searching and work towards coming to accept their body and having their body accepted by others.

8. The Disinterested Type

Sometimes the result of past sexual distress, sometimes the product of a very low libido, some men and women are just not very interested in sex and orgasm. This, of course, does not mean they don’t enjoy intimate touch! Some women do not enjoy the thrusting of a penis inside them, but instead find great pleasure in oral sex, mutual masturbation and the skillful manual manipulation of a coochie connoisseur, and don’t mind reciprocating for an eager lover.

9. The Detached Type

A detached lover doesn’t necessarily dislike sex, but rather tends to forget about it when it is on the back burner. Even if they feel sexual, they may tend to spend a few minutes with masturbation rather than initiate sex, because of the time it would take away from the things currently occupying their mind. With this kind of partner, it can be important to make dates.

Take time away from the TV, the computer, Addictive lovers are prone to cheating and may have a difficult time maintaining relationships if they cannot overcome their emotional dependence on sexual pleasure. the kids and the kitchen; turn off the cell phones and lock the doors (or better yet, go somewhere special away from it all!) and get your minds focused on each other.

10. The Compulsive Type

Folks with fetishes and problems with chronic masturbation tend to fall in this category, where sex is only really enjoyable if they are able to follow a specific ritual. This need is often psychosomatic and can easily be adapted to work in a relationship.

Most women who are only able to achieve orgasm through one specific act or movement can learn to achieve orgasm in other ways if the sensation is altered over time – in other words, if you spend enough time fingering her while she uses her vibrator, she can probably learn to orgasm just from your hands, without the use of the vibrator!

How To Master The ULTIMATE Orgasm!

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An orgasm gives some men the impression that the women should be responsible for stimulating themselves. This has always seemed a bit unfair to me, since the woman is providing him with the stimulation he needs to reach orgasm. So shouldn’t he do the same to give her an orgasm? However, when handled appropriately, having a woman stimulate herself can be a pleasurable experience for both her and her partner.

Be A Multi-Tasker

Multi-tasking basically means the man does more than one thing at the same time. For example, he may be penetrating the vagina while also stimulating the clitoris by pressing his pubic bone against, also called “grinding.” This is a great method for the woman to reach orgasm.

If the couple wants to achieve orgasm at or near the same time, this is clearly the best option. Other couples I’ve met with have resorted to taking turns, meaning one partner will climax first, then the other. Depending on how each person best reaches orgasm, this may be a possibility, but for couples that enjoy climaxing together, this may not be a satisfactory option.

Experiment With Her Orgasm

The best thing about clitoral orgasms is that they can be achieved in many different ways. Because the entire area is highly sensitive, experimenting with these types of orgasms can also add some interest and spice to sexual relationships, which may have become routine and boring over time.

The main benefit of experimenting is that you’ll learn just what makes your woman tick—sexually speaking, of course. While some women prefer direct stimulation, others find it uncomfortable and prefer to have the area around the clitoris stimulated instead. Women who have learned how to have an orgasm through masturbation will generally have a much better idea of what type of stimulation they prefer than women who have not.

Know Her Orgasm

As I mentioned above, the clitoris fills up with blood and becomes erect like a penis. This means it’s much more noticeable when a woman is aroused. Because the clitoris does not need to be erect for sexual intercourse to occur, clitoral orgasms will only happen if the woman is properly aroused.

That means some type of foreplay is generally a requirement. With continuous stimulation of the clitoris, it becomes more engorged with blood and this further heightens its sensitivity. As stimulation continues, a point is reached when all of the tension in the area must be released—the point in which an orgasm is experienced.

5 More Female Orgasm Myths You Think Are TRUE

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A female orgasm is associated with a lot of myths. Here are 5 of the most common myths that men think are true.

1. Women Can Only Reach Orgasm Through Vaginal Intercourse

This is a myth that has caused many men and women over the years to take the sexual needs of a woman for granted. This myth was actually started by Sigmund Freud, the developer of psychoanalysis. Through his research, he discovered that women could easily reach orgasm through clitoral stimulation.

But Freud dismissed this type of stimulation as juvenile, as he believed it was important for women to become more sexually mature by focusing only on vaginal stimulation to reach orgasms. The problem is that the vagina was not designed for orgasms. It does not have the concentrated nerve endings that one finds in the clitoris or in the head of a penis.

As a result of Freud’s determination, women who could not reach orgasm through vaginal intercourse were considered to have some type of psychological impairment. All sorts of methods and devices were devised in an attempt to “liberate” women from their reliance on the clitoris for sexual pleasure, many of which failed.

2. Only Women Fake Orgasms

It’s important for both men and women to realize that orgasms are not going to happen during every sexual encounter. As a result, women aren’t the only ones faking things. Studies show that about one-fifth of men admit to having a fake orgasm with a partner at one time or another.

Their reasons were the same as women’s: they didn’t want to hurt their partner’s feelings, they were tired and wanted to get it over with, etc. Orgasms don’t always come easily in a partnership. Even though masturbation often results in an orgasm every time, it’s important to remember that it’s simply because you’re already feeling aroused (which is the reason you’re masturbating in the first place) and you also know your body and what gets you off.

3. Men Only Care About Their Own Pleasure

This myth was probably true at some point in the past, but today more and more men worry about their role as lovers. Many strive to give their partners a sexual experience that’s just as pleasurable (if not more) as what they hope to experience themselves.

The only reason this myth continues to persist is a lack of understanding of female climax and how to help women achieve them. This isn’t something men and women are taught in sex education classes. And even if you asked your father, you’d probably still be left in the dark.

Every woman’s body is different, so even if you figured out how to give one partner mind-blowing orgasms, those same techniques might not work with another.

The key to knowing what’s sexually stimulating to your partner is communication. In an honest, caring relationship, the easier it is to share your thoughts and feelings, the easier it will be to experience a pleasurable sex life.

4. Most Couples Have Great Sex Every Time

Why does everyone else’s sex life appear to be better than yours? It could be because you’re at different stages of your relationships. You can’t compare sex from a six-month relationship to a six-year-been-there-done-that relationship. Our nervous system is designed to become desensitized to things that we routinely receive stimulation from. That’s not to say that long-term sex can’t be as pleasing—it’s just different.

If you and your lady know all the right buttons to push with each other (and you should after all that practice!), orgasm is often guaranteed and sex can still be very loving and passionate. My guess is that you wouldn’t be able to hold down a job with the amount of energy it would take you to sustain such a sex life.

5. Sex Is The Most Important Part Of A Relationship

Couples can only spend so much time in a relationship having sex. So if you love someone for more than just sex, you have no choice but to relate to each other on other levels. Sex is, indeed, a very important part of a relationship. However, most people (including men) have other needs, usually divided equally.

When you look at it this way, although sex tends to be a man’s number one need, it still accounts for only 25% of what he needs in life to be happy. Based on a variety of surveys and studies on long term relationships, approximately 20% of men believe that mind-blowing sex is “crucial,” whereas the other 80% look at it as “the icing on the cake” of a healthy relationship.

Handjob Tips & Secrets Guaranteed to Give ALL Men Intoxicating Pleasure!

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A handjob isn’t something most women immediately go to when they think if giving their man the most incredible pleasure possible. Most girls will go straight to a blowjob (which certainly isn’t a bad option at all) or sex.

But did you know that in a confidential survey, 82% of men admitted they would take an awesome handjob over a “good” blowjob any day?

WOW!

Who knew that a man would want a handjob over a blowjob, especially when he’s so used to feeling his own hand during masturbation?

Unless Your Man Is BEGGING You To Give Him Handjobs, You’re Probably Not That Great At It

When you stroke him, does he seem mildly interested but wants to quickly move on to something else?

Has it been a long time since he’s asked or even cared to get a handjob?

If this is the case, you might just be really bad at it.

Here’s the good news! It’s not really your fault. 

Women don’t have a penis. They don’t know how to stroke it, tease it, touch it and massage it to give their partners the most mind bending orgasms they’ve ever had. In fact, most women are COMPLETELY CLUELESS as to how to give a handjob!

Not to mention, men are harsh critics when it comes to receiving a handjob. He’s been doing it himself for YEARS – so naturally, he’s going to compare what you’re doing to what he can do. And what you do almost never holds a candle to how he can please himself with his own hands. Not so with a blowjob or even sex – he can’t suck himself off. There’s no judgement criteria there, so it’s easy to please him with your mouth.

The other reason most women don’t know how to stroke their partners into orgasmic oblivion is because there’s no one out there teaching it. 

It Feels SO Much Better To Him When YOU Can Do It Right!

You know how you can’t really tickle yourself because, well, it doesn’t tickle? The same goes for a man giving himself a handjob. It’s just not the same as when someone else does it exactly right. Sure, he knows exactly how and where to touch when he gets himself off, but the sensations are really out of this WORLD for him when a woman does it the right way.

To give your man the most incredible pleasure he’s ever felt – even MORE pleasure than he can give himself – you’ve GOT to be able to give him a great handjob. For him to feel totally, completely satisfied in bed (and not have any temptation to stray), giving an excellent handjob MUST be on your sexual skills list or you risk losing your man forever!

Information You Won’t Find ANYWHERE Else

Oprah’s love, sex and relationship expert has introduced a brand new guide that teaches women how to stroke their partners the way he’s craved for YEARS but has never been able to communicate in the bedroom.

This information was compiled by surveying hundreds of thousands of men as to what they like when they get a handjob, as well as what makes them uncomfortable.

Stroke By Stroke is an unprecedented resource that contains information from actual men that you won’t find ANYWHERE else – guaranteed. It doesn’t matter how many articles you read on how to give a handjob. You’re not going to learn the TRUE SECRETS of what men really want unless you read this.

What You’ll Learn In Stroke By Stroke

  • The 3 simple things you MUST do before you even touch him to make his experience out of this world!
  • The best positions and techniques to get him to orgasm faster so you don’t get cramps in your hands
  • What to whisper in his ear to make him 5x hotter than he’s ever been
  • The best lube for almost ALL handjobs (and what common lube will give you DISASTROUS results! If you’ve ever used THIS lube, it could be responsible for a lackluster handjob!)
  • What 3 positions almost all men have secretly fantasized about
  • The secret spot you can touch when he is about to orgasm that will make him shoot for longer and farther than he has in a very long time!
  • What 80% of women do WRONG when a man is ejaculating from a handjob  

And much, much more!

Stroke By Stroke will tell you everything your man wants but has been terrified to tell you (most men don’t like insulting the woman they are making love to – and especially if they love her).

Simply put, Stroke By Stroke WORKS for one reason and one reason only – one of the world’s most renowned love, relationship and sex experts has put together actual tips from actual men! These are the things they would NEVER DARE say out loud in the bedroom!

You’ll be learning what guys everywhere secretly wish THEIR lovers knew – and after you give him a handjob THIS good, your man will be bragging about how excellent you are to all of his buddies! They’ll be MORE than jealous of him, and they just might ask you to teach their lovers how to do what you do!

You’ll be the BEST lover your partner has ever had, and he’ll be so smitten and in love with you that he’ll NEVER ever let you go!

Think about it….

Get your copy of Stroke By Stroke today and by TONIGHT you could be giving him the handjob of his life!

Not only will your sex life improve, but your relationship will to and you’ll both be more in love than ever!