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How To Tell If YOU Need A New Sex Toy!

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Sex toys can burn out over time, or you can get tired of them. Sometimes, you just want something you’ve never tried before! From time to time, you’re going to have to replace your sex toys or buy new ones, but it can be hard to part with a favorite. Here are five things to look for to tell if you need to chuck your current vibrator and go shopping for sex toys!

It Runs On Batteries

There are a lot of great sex toys that run on batteries, but there are far, far better ones that are rechargeable! They cost a little more, but in the long run, you’re paying for that in batteries anyways. Rabbit style vibrators use a LOT of juice, and if you own one, you’re probably at the store buying batteries every other week.

If your favorite sex toy runs on batteries, consider replacing it with a version that is rechargeable. If you’re looking for a Rabbit style vibrator, try the LELO Ina. Smaller bullet style vibrators also come rechargeable.

It Contains Phthalates

While jelly sex toys look really pretty, they can contain dangerous chemicals called phthalates that have been linked to cancer. If your sex toy contains phthalates, you could be unknowingly increasing your risk for developing cervical cancer. Ditch the cheap jelly materials and get something made from body safe silicone, wood or hard plastic. If you absolutely have to have sex toys made from jelly material or any material containing phthalates, protect yourself by slipping a condom over it before insertion.

The Vibrations Aren’t As Strong As They Used To Be

When you first got your vibrator, it was perfect. The vibrations were exquisite and catapulted you to orgasm land in no time flat. But a few months later, you notice that it takes a little longer to reach orgasm, and you have to press a little harder each time to feel the vibrations. Are the vibrations getting weaker? Probably. Sex toys aren’t made to last forever. If yours constantly sounds like it’s running out of power (even if you just put fresh batteries in), it may be time for an upgrade.

It Looks Dingy Or Has An Odor

Unfortunately, not all sex toys are non-porous. When shopping for one, try to get a body safe toy that IS non-porous (like glass), but you may not have known that going into purchasing your current one. If any of the sex toys you’re currently using don’t look as clear or shiny as they used to, or they’ve picked up an odor, it’s time to throw them away. Sex toys made from porous materials like jelly can pick up bacteria during use, and body fluids can begin to soak in. When you really think about it, you don’t want that hanging around in your nightstand!

You Want A New One

Every girl should have her own sex toy – or more than one! Couples should also have plenty of sex toys to play with! If you simply want a brand spanking new toy (whether it is an exact replica of your very favorite or something you’ve never tried before), you have every right to get yourself what you want! Even if you just bought one and you’re not happy with it or want something to accompany it, go out and get another one! Get whatever you want, provided you’ve got the funds.

Get A Good One!

You also have the right to invest in a good sex toy. Go for quality materials from a reputable manufacturer. Be choosy. Consider where you want to use it and what you want it to do. Do you want to travel with it, or do you want one that is ultra discreet? Try the LELO Mia – it’s rechargeable via USB port and looks like a tube of lipstick. Do you want a clitoral vibrator that is completely waterproof and you can use in the tub or shower? Get the We-Vibe Touch.

Look for the sex toys that meet both your needs and your desires. If you really would benefit from having a vibrator that you can take with you anywhere (for example, if you travel a lot for work), or the only peace and quiet you get in a crazy household is in the shower, then spending the extra money on a vibrator that meets your needs and gives you what you want is well worth it.

The 10 CRAZIEST Things To Do In The Bedroom!

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Sex doesn’t have to be mundane – open your mind to some of the wildest things you can do during sex and find out just how amazing it can be!

What She Said:

Missionary

The good, old-fashioned missionary position. Sure, it has some stodgy connotations due to being heavily (though erroneously) associated with the teachings of the medieval Catholic Church and their subsequent missionaries. Famed sex researcher Alfred Kinsey may have gotten his facts wrong, but that doesn’t take away from this pleasurable act. The missionary position remains popular due to the participant’s ability to kiss, make close eye contact and increase skin-to-skin sensations. This can get totally crazy if you let it. Sounds good to me!

Sixty Nine

While it evokes images of the swinging Sixties, this position is far from out of date. Known for it’s distinct advantage to both give and receive oral pleasure, it remains at the top of many people’s list as an energetic and fun form of foreplay.

Reverse Cowgirl

Giddy up, partner – literally! The reverse cowgirl provides the partner on top with the ability to control speed and thrust – and provides women the opportunity to play with her man’s balls as well as her own clitoris. Any arguments?

Mutual Masturbation

What better way to develop intimacy while showing each other what you like than through mutual masturbation?

Snuggling

Aw, heck. Call me a romantic, but nothing makes me happier than cuddling in bed while resting my head on my partner’s heart. And it’s certainly a bonus if he plays with my hair!

What He Said:

I like her suggestions, so I will add a few different ones to the pile.

Same Room Sex

If you’re not into swinging, or your just thinking about it, or you simply have voyeuristic tendencies, this option is for you. It’s pretty simple. Two (or more) couples get it on in the same room. It’s hot, it’s safe, and you get all the visual benefits of swinging without any of the negatives (STDs).

Performance Art

If you’ve ever had voyeuristic fantasies, or wanted to try a three way, this is a great baby step in this direction. You and your partner simply get it on in front of an audience of your choosing. It can be a man, a woman, a group of people, whatever. They can’t touch. They can only look, and they have to be naked.

Threesome

Yes, it’s a bit cliché, but it’s damn fun. They can be two girls one guy, or one girl two guys, either way you slice it’s good times had by all. The only rule here is that everyone has to be on the same page. If one guy isn’t into double penetration or having his naughty parts potential touch another dude’s or if one of the girl’s isn’t bisexual, it won’t work. They can be heterosexual in nature, where people of the same gender don’t play together or they can be a bi-sexual free for all. Whatever you decide!

Sex Toy Time

The Liberator sex wedge is a fantastic accessory for those looking to enhance their love making. There a host of different accessories you can bring into the bedroom. Dildos, strap ons, anal beads, butt plugs, cock rings and anything else you can find in a sex shop can be great accessories for your love making. Try it all and remember, anything goes as long as it’s safe and consensual.

Lights, Camera, Action!

Boudouir photography is a great way to spice up your love life and give your lover a gift that will turn him or her on for years to come. You can shoot at their studio or even in your home. You can also hire a video production team to make your very own sex tape! Just remember to retain copyright on the material and prevent them from putting your images up on your site.

Q&A: Will Masturbation Affect Your Relationship?

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Masturbation is normal and healthy for both guys and gals – it’s a normal way to explore your sexuality as you go through puberty and teenage years, and then it becomes an excellent way to relieve sexual tension and stress when you can’t or don’t want to have sex with another person. It can also help you explore what you like and don’t like during sex, so you can more effectively communicate with your lovers about how you like to be touched. But can it affect a relationship and cause problems between two people? Can excessive masturbation ruin a partnership, or is it more likely due one partner having jealousy and control issues?

Hey Dan and Jenn – I’m 16 and my cousin tells me that masturbation makes you more likely to stay single and I don’t want to stay single! Is that true? Please help! Thanks and I love your show it has helped me so much.

–YouTube Viewer

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Men And Women Learn About Their Sexuality Through Masturbation

Unfortunately, masturbation has a bad rap. Society teaches teens that masturbation is bad or wrong, and this gets even more oppressive in families where their morals or religious beliefs suggest that it is unhealthy. However, it is neither unhealthy nor is it wrong – it’s a natural way for both men and women to learn about their bodies and their developing sexuality. It’s a perfectly normal thing to engage in even daily from pre-teen years through adulthood.

It’s A Healthy Part Of Every Relationship

It’s unrealistic to expect that your partner be able to be around and available to satisfy your sexual needs whenever you have sexual needs. It’s also unfair to them – your partner should not be totally and completely responsible for your sexual satisfaction! Especially for men and women with high libidos, their partners may not want to have sex all day every day. Many women have issues with their male partners masturbating because they feel like he “wants” someone else sexually, or doesn’t like them for some reason. This couldn’t be further from the truth! It’s natural for guys to jerk off when they have a pang of desire, without having to ask their partners to have sex four times a day.

Another reason that masturbation can be beneficial to a relationship is that it teaches each person what they like sexually, so they can then go to their partners and communicate what feels good and what doesn’t. Being able to communicate to your partner what you like is essential to a satisfying and intimate sex life with your lover, because if YOU don’t know how to please yourself, how are THEY supposed to?

Mutual Masturbation

Mutual masturbation is also a fun activity to do together to become more comfortable with the idea of self satisfaction in your relationship and how it can help you both to relax, stay satisfied and learn what you like sexually. Doing it together can also add another element to your sex life that keeps it from getting boring and monotonous!

Jealousy Issues

Often, one partner will be jealous over the other for masturbating. They may be upset that their lover is watching porn, or they may feel like they’re not doing enough to please their partner. Rest assured that if your lover engages in self satisfaction and watches porn that it has nothing to do with your inadequacies as a lover. It simply is a natural, healthy thing to do! There’s no reason to be jealous about it.

How Much Is Too Much?

Of course, as with most things, there’s a caveat here. It can be damaging to a relationship if it goes too far. Normal self satisfaction usually doesn’t cause problems in a relationship, but if it becomes excessive, it can.  If, for example, all you or your partner can think about is masturbating, you or your partner stop spending time together to go masturbate or you substitute it for sex with your partner. In this case, it can definitely be a problem in the relationship and you’ll want to seek help as soon as possible.

Just like with any addiction, if you or your partner are addicted to masturbating, seek help. Lots of addiction programs out there can be applied to masturbation and you can follow the same steps. If it’s taking over your life, you have an addiction and it’s time to do something about it! If it’s not, relax and don’t let it bother you. Normal masturbation is healthy and even beneficial for a relationship!

Top 10 Vibrators You HAVE To Try!

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Sex toys are something every girl should have stashed away in her nightstand. Of course, ladies like a buzz, so here are ten “must try” vibrators!

The Wild G

A scary looking purple rabbit-style vibrator that really isn’t so scary once you get to know it. It’s made of soft jelly, slips in easily and has both a rotating shaft and an attachment for clitoral stimulation. Also, the rotating beads just near the base of the shaft feel surprisingly good. The only thing the Wild G doesn’t do is knock on the back door.

How To Use It: At home, by yourself, with the door locked! The Wild G doesn’t get too loud, but if someone decides to interrupt your party, it’s going to be pretty obvious that you weren’t taking a “nap.”

We-Vibe Touch

The We-Vibe Touch is a palm sized sex toy that is molded and grooved to fit both a woman’s hand and her clitoris. With a variety of vibe patterns that require just the touch of a button to activate (yes, 1 button!) this is quite possibly the easiest to use clitoral vibrator out there.

How To Use It: In the shower – this baby is 100% waterproof. It’s smooth, it’s cordless, it’s small and portable. It fits nicely in a shower caddy too. What more could you want for wet and wild masturbation?

G-Gasm Delight

Honestly, it’s the perfect g-spot stimulator. The G-Gasm Delight is made of hard plastic, so it’s well built for hard, squirting g-spot orgasms. It gets loud – especially when you turn it upside down –  so make sure you’re covered as far as privacy goes.

How To Use It: Any way you like! This lovely vibrator also substitutes as a prostate massager, so you can use it on him too. This is probably one of the least likely sex toys out there you would think could be a couples’ toy!

Freestyle W by OhMiBod

Like other g-spot/clitoral vibrators, the Freestyle W by OhMiBod is designed to stimulate both the g-spot and the clitoris at the same time. However, this lovely toy has more to it than meets the eye. This guy is designed to hook up to your music player, and it will vibrate to the beat of the music.

How To Use It: With your iPod of course! Again, privacy is an issue here. If you get caught, you may end up showing off your toys’ cool features when they realize your mp3 player is hooked up to your vibrator.

Hitachi Magic Wand

An oldie but goodie. The Hitachi Magic Wand has been around for about 30 years and is marketed as a back massager. However, women who have used the wand know that there are many more good times to be had when using it as a clitoral vibrator than a back massager. This toy goes up to 6,000 rpm’s!

How To Use It: Alone, or with a partner. This actually makes a great couples’ toy for women who have trouble reaching orgasm during sex. He can finger her or penetrate her while she uses it on her clitoris so she can experience an orgasm with her partner.

We-Vibe II

The We-Vibe II is designed to be a couples’ sex toy. One end of the massager will slip inside the woman and rest against her g-spot, while the other end wraps up and around to the clitoris. While a woman can masturbate with the We-Vibe II, it is really designed to be worn during intercourse. It’s a great way for a woman to experience an orgasm with her partner during penetration if she usually can’t.

How To Use It: With your partner. Try it in a variety of sex positions to experiment with different levels of sensation!

Ogee Twistee G-Vibe

The Ogee Twistee G-Vibe is very like the We-Vibe II in that it can be molded to rest against both the g-spot and clitoris and worn during intercourse. However, unlike the We-Vibe II, this little guy can be twisted into other shapes as well! This is actually a great option for women who have a hard to reach g-spot or a tilted cervix.

How To Use It: With or without a partner. It’s such a versatile sex toy! Experiment with different shapes to find the one you like best. Bend it any way you like, but remember the best shapes because you’ll want to go back to those!

Lelo Mia

If you’re looking for a discreet vibrator, this is it! So tiny, the Lelo Mia looks like a tube of lipstick and fits right into your purse. It also charges via USB port, so you can charge it on the go on your computer or laptop. Just say it’s a jump drive. For busy women who want a clitoral vibe, this is your best bet. Classy and discreet, but with loads of naughty pleasure.

How To Use It: On a plane, in the car, in the bathroom at work – anywhere you want because this thing is quiet. It’s unlikely that unless you make a lot of noise, anyone will know that you’re having an orgasm. Even though it’s small, it’s powerful, so you may have a difficult time keeping your trap shut.

Eve’s Slim Pink Pleaser Vibrator

If you’re looking for a more traditional, dildo style vibrator, this is a great choice. It’s pretty, it’s somewhat flexible and the turn dial is super easy to use. A good choice for beginners, because it’s slim – only 1″ wide. It’s also fun for girls who are experienced with sex toys, because it just reaches those hot spots. Not super awesome at clitoral stimulation though.

How To Use It: This is yet another toy that is great to use alone or with your partner. Guys, you can use this during oral sex on her to stimulate her g-spot at the same time and try to give her a blended orgasm. Ladies, if you’re masturbating alone and need more clitoral stimulation than the Slim Pink Pleaser Vibrator provides, use it in conjunction with your favorite clitoris massager.

Lelo Elise

These are luxury vibrations at their finest. Like it’s cousin the Mia, the Lelo Elise is very quiet. It’s silky smooth and just feels luxurious in your hands and in your vagina. It’s designed for insertion and curved specifically for g-spot stimulation. It’s just one of those sex toys you have to have in your toy box.

How To Use It: You can use this with a partner, but it’s much more fun to keep this gorgeous vibrator to yourself. It’s like a decadent chocolate bar that you don’t want to share. Let it be your secret.

Q&A: MILF Fantasy – I Want To Have Sex With My Step-Mom!

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A MILF fantasy is actually quite common – there are many guys out there that either have or had a really hot step-mother who they couldn’t help but be attracted to! Of course it’s inappropriate, but lots of guys experience it. Most of the time, it passes and nothing more is ever said about it. But just what do you do when all you can think about is getting it on with your stepmother?

Question: I have a fantasy of having sex with my step mom. Almost every day she wears these pants that when she bends over you can see her ass perfectly, and my urges keep getting more and more frequent! I’ve gone to many other people, all with no help. She is also about to get breast implants, so that makes it all the worse! Your videos have helped me out a lot, so please help me on this one!

–YouTube Viewer

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A MILF Fantasy Is Perfectly Normal

Boys, especially those going through puberty, are going to be attracted to random hot women, possibly all hot women. If your stepmother is hot, it’s not out of the ordinary that you would have a sexual fantasy about her! Lots of guys have gone through or are going through the same thing. You’re just attracted to a hot woman who just happens to be your step-mother. You don’t have to make it any more complicated than that.

Acting On Your Fantasy

While a MILF fantasy is actually very common, it’s not one that you can act on. Even if you’re over the age of eighteen and you and your step-mother are both consenting, you’re still going to hurt a lot of people if you make that decision. Your family would likely be very hurt and feel very betrayed if you and your step-mother got it on.

If you’re under age, that’s a whole different ball game – things could be much worse if you did anything about your fantasy. Also, it’s likely that your step-mother most absolutely does not share this fantasy, and you could damage your relationship with her and the rest of your family if you tell her that you think about her sexually.

You can’t help that you’re having this fantasy, so what do you do? If you end up masturbating every day while thinking about your step-mother, you’re not going to be the first guy that has ever done that. Masturbation is an excellent relief for fantasies that you just can’t be a part of in real life. However, if you actually act on your fantasy, you could be crossing a line that you can never un-cross.

Consider Counseling

If your MILF fantasy really bothers you and you just can’t get away from it (and you really want to) consider counseling. There’s nothing wrong with seeing an unbiased counselor or third party that can help you talk through your feelings and problems. People put so much stigma on going to a therapist – especially for sex related issues – but if you want to get to the root of the problem, therapy is about as good as it gets.

Don’t think that seeing a therapist automatically makes you a weaker guy. What counseling can do is help you talk through your issues and learn the tools you need to become a better person and live a happier, more fulfilled life. On a side note, talking to your step-mother about this fantasy of yours is probably not a good idea.

Redirect That Energy Elsewhere

If counseling isn’t something you can or want to do, think about ways you can redirect this energy. Think about what it is about your step-mother that turns you on so much. Is it her physique? Perhaps she has a nice butt or legs that just won’t quit. If you can isolate just what it is about her that turns you on, you can redirect that energy to adult films and magazines that feature women with large butts, long legs, or whatever it is that you think turns you on the most.

Even if you can’t find something in particular, there is surely going to be another girl you find attractive. Exploring magazines, websites, films and art can help you find other women to look at that also turn you on. If you’re old enough and dating is an option, get more social and talk to girls.

You may be attracted to your step-mother’s personality, simply because you haven’t been close or conversed much to other women. Dating can help you redirect your energy into finding a girl that you’re attracted to that you can get to know without the repercussions that getting involved with your step-mother would bring.