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3 Oral Sex Positions To Use On Him Right Now

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Good oral sex positions are essential to giving great head. Surprisingly enough, this actually has very little to do with his enjoyment. A blowjob is going to feel great in almost any position you put him in, although the positions that allow him to watch are going to be the ones he likes best.

A variety of oral sex positions are important to have to keep you comfortable. You can’t give good head if you’ve got a cramp in your neck or you feel like your knees are going to crack from pressing into a hard floor. If you’re uncomfortable, you won’t enjoy giving head very much, because you won’t be able to concentrate on your lover’s pleasure. Your partner will also notice that you aren’t very enthused about going down on him, which will put a damper on his pleasure as well. So any oral sex position that you choose that is good for you is good for him also.

1. Sitting, With Your Partner On The Edge Of The Bed Or Couch

How To Do It

Have your partner sit on the edge of the bed with his legs spread wide. Sit down cross legged in front of him, on a pillow if you need extra support. If your bed is too high for you to achieve this, you can also use the couch. Choose a spot that allows you to be face level with your lover’s penis.

Why This Rocks

Sitting cross legged during a blowjob is actually quite comfortable – much more so than sitting on your knees. If the edge of the bed is low enough, or if you’ve used the couch instead, his genitals should be level with your face, allowing you to use both your mouth and hands to pleasure your lover without having to strain your neck at all. This position also allows you to make excellent eye contact with your lover.

2. With Your Partner Lying On His Side, You On All Fours

How To Do It

This is one of the more typical oral sex positions that women use when giving their lover fellatio, but you’re going to make a few modifications. Women typically begin by coming up under their lovers’ penis, grabbing it and angling it downward towards their mouth. This can put quite the strain on the neck!

Instead, straddle your lover so your face is just a little higher than his penis. Angle your head and mouth downwards towards his penis. This stretches out the neck and provides more natural up and down movement, making it much more comfortable to give head for extended periods of time while he’s lying down.

Why This Rocks

This move actually has a few caveats – because your head is angled downward, your lover can’t see as much of what is going on. You also can’t use your hands much to pleasure him either, because you will be using your hands to support most of your weight. On the plus side, your partner has the opportunity to totally relax and submerge himself in the moment, allowing him to focus on his pleasure and orgasm. This can make the experience much more intense for him!

3. With Him Standing And You On Your Knees

Again, this is one of the standard oral sex positions. It is widely used and many men enjoy it because it gives them an even stronger sense of being in control and having a woman “submit” to him sexually.

How To Do It

Have your man stand against something like a wall or door. This allows him to relax some and the wall will catch him if his knees become weak while you’re going down on him. Some men will not be able to enjoy themselves fully if they’re standing freely in the middle of a room, because their muscles cannot relax – they’re too concerned with not falling (which of course, if your blowjob is any good, is a real concern!) Having him lean up against a wall will help.

Why This Rocks

When you get on your knees in front of your man, make sure you have a pillow or a rolled up blanket underneath your knees! This is essential for your comfort! If your man is short enough, you may be able to rest your butt on your heels off and on while you give him head, allowing you to change your position for comfort without compromising his pleasure too much. This is one of the oral sex positions that allows for great eye contact – although his eyes might just be rolling into the back of his head!

Deep Throat – A Beginner’s Guide To Taking It All In

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Deep throat is the act of putting a man’s penis all the way down your throat during a blowjob. While this might sound like a horrible act, every man and some women thoroughly enjoy it. Having the ability to fit his entire penis in your mouth without gagging or vomiting is a talent that most women have to learn.

Unless you were born without a gag reflex, this is going to take some practice. So settle in and realize that you’re probably not going to be the queen of deep throat right off the bat. If your guy has begged you to take him in his entirety, there are a few things that you should know before your next blowjob. Here are some tips to get you started.

Just Relax

One of the biggest mistakes that women make when they start deep throating is tensing up. You have to relax your entire mouth and throat if you’re going to be able to take him all the way in. When you tense up, the muscles in the back of your mouth are also going to tense up. You don’t have to get this down on the first try and your guy is going to love you practicing on him, so don’t get discouraged if you’re not a master right out of the gate. Focus on relaxing the muscles in the back of your throat before you start to give the blowjob. Take some deep breaths and salivate your mouth a lot. When you salivate your mouth, you should feel your throat muscles start to relax.

Find The Right Position

Deep throating is all about putting yourself into the right position. If you’re not in the right position, you’re not going to be able to deep throat your partner. One of the best oral sex positions that you can get into is the typical position with him laying on the bed and you on top of him. This will allow you to straighten your mouth and keep your throat straight to make it a 90-degree angle from his penis to your mouth. Another great position is to lay down on the bed with your head off the edge. Have him enter your mouth and push his penis down your throat. You’re going to want to give him a sign if you’re getting uncomfortable. This position gives him more control and takes some of the pressure off of you.

Use A Lot Of Lube

Lube is essential for deep throating. Think of deep throating as you would sex. When you are performing the act, you want it to be as lubed up as possible. The natural occurrence of the act will lead to the production of saliva, however, getting an added boost will help you immensely. Use a flavored lube on his penis before you start giving him a blowjob. The flavored lube will react with the saliva to make his penis even slicker. There are all kinds of flavored lubes on the market. Pick a flavor that you will like and you will find that the experience is much easier and pleasing for the both of you.

Work Your Way Down

Don’t start out by taking his entire penis down your throat. Work your way down the shaft until you can feel the tip of his penis in the back of your throat. While you might get enthusiastic about showing off your new talent, you don’t want to strain yourself or him. Shoving his penis down your throat can initiate a gag reflex and easily trigger vomiting. Take it slow and work your way down the shaft until you feel resistance in the back of your mouth. Hold this for a few seconds and then come back up to a comfortable position with him still inside your mouth. Remember that if you’re going to deep throat, you will probably not be able to breathe. Time your deep throating so you are able to breathe and you will find this form of oral sex a lot easier.

Deep throating is a great way to keep your guy happy. If you have never done this act before, you can easily work your way up to it by utilizing these methods. Making sure that you are prepared for the act with lube and relaxation is essential for getting the best results. Make sure that you’re not rushing anything and work your way down his penis to make it more comfortable for the both of you. If you rush the act, you could hurt him. Follow these guidelines and you will see immeasurable results.

Oral Sex Positions That Will Make Your Girl Beg For More!

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Oral sex positions can make cunnilingus even hotter for your lover. Try these oral sex positions tonight and watch out – she won’t be able to get enough!

Legs Up

This is probably the most popular and widely used cunnilingus position. Your partner lays on a flat surface and you place your head squarely between her legs. This is absolutely excellent for uninhibited access to her vulva and this is one that most women find extremely comfortable. The only drawback of this particular one is that it is very hard on the man’s neck to continue to pleasure his partner in this way.

Any person with neck problems or a neck that easily gets cramped up if in one position too long should try another way to not only maximize his comfort but to allow her uninhibited oral sex. If you are one of the latter gentlemen and this particular arrangement tends to cause your neck to stiffen up but your partner really enjoys it, you can try placing a pillow or two underneath her buttocks to help raise her vulva to a comfortable level for you – one in which your neck is not quite as bent.

Legs On The Bed

This is another popular move and honestly, is not quite that different from “Legs Up” with the exception, of course, that the legs are never “up,” however, they are always touching the bed. Although there are not as many variations on this move as the “Legs Up” move, it is an excellent move for women who prefer to feel more in control of the cunnilingus session. This generally is not a better angle for the neck, though, so if your neck is bothersome, continue reading to the other oral sex positions.

Your partner will lay the same way on the bed (or other surface such as a mat on the floor or the couch) and you will kneel and place your mouth squarely between her legs. This is one where you can easily lie down, if that is more comfortable to you. Keep in mind, however, that lying down in this position as well as “Legs Up” as opposed to propping yourself up with your elbows creates more of a bend in the neck and can increase neck pain and discomfort.

Backwards

This is by far the most comfortable arrangement for those of you who get stiff necks with most of the other oral sex positions. Sometimes known as the “69,” you will invert your body so that your legs are on the same end of the bed as her head and her legs are on the same end of the bed as your head. This is great for the neck because the neck retains a much more natural angle – such as staying straight or bending downwards ever so slightly – and is great for men who like to take a long time on their ladies or ladies who take a long time to orgasm. There are plenty of variations on this one as well – just use your imagination!

Generally, in this arrangment, you and your partner can choose whether or not to simultaneously pleasure each other orally by just moving your pelvis directly in front of her face or by moving it off to the side. If both partners enjoy simultaneous orgasm this way, it can be of great benefit to both of them by allowing them to feel more emotionally and physically connected. Don’t suggest simultaneous pleasure all the time, however, because while she is pleasuring you, she has less focus on the pleasure she is receiving and cannot fully appreciate your cunnilingus efforts. One of the best benefits of this arrangement is that facing her vulva downwards naturally allows for a downward tongue stroke.

Remember earlier when we said that some women (and almost all women when they’re not aroused) can find an upwards tongue stroke on the clitoris uncomfortable? This is the greatest way to combat that! The tongue naturally strokes the clitoris through the clitoral hood and in a downward motion – therefore eliminating any straight on the clitoral head discomfort. As with the closed-leg position, the backwards one does not allow for much more than clitoral stimulation as the tongue can’t reach quite to the back of the vulva and all the way to the vagina, however, it does allow more access than the closed-leg position.

Doggy Style

Yes, this particular cunnilingus position takes its name directly from the popular intercourse variation – but it does not need to be associated with the same negative connotations and criticism that the intercourse version of the “Doggy Style” position can sometimes get. With this one, your partner will place herself on a solid surface (such as the floor or a bed) on all fours, tilting her hips slightly towards the ceiling.

You will angle your face within licking and sucking distance of her vulva. The variations on this  arrangment is what make it so unique – while the woman generally stays the same way, her partner can alter his placement in regards to her vulva any which way he chooses, making each doggy style cunnilingus session different. This one is great if you and your partner are feeling especially randy – it can feel a little more “dirty” or “kinky” than a traditional cunnilingus position.

Sit On My Face

This is a great one to try if a woman is confident about her body and herself, although we wouldn’t recommend it for every cunnilingus session as it can be somewhat daunting to the male partner. Generally, you will lie down on the bed face up and your partner will “sit” on your face by setting each knee on either side of your head and her vulva just above your mouth, giving you only enough distance to breathe on and suck and lick her vulva.

A woman must be confident with her body and confident in herself to be comfortable with this arrangement because as the man is positioned beneath her, he will be looking up at her and get a very good view of her entire body, including the undersides of her breasts. Of course, for many couples this is an extreme turn-on but for some, this kind of uninhibited view can make one or both partners a little uncomfortable. Be sure and discuss “Sit on My Face” with your partner before trying it.

Of course, there are plenty of wacky, uncomfortable oral sex positions out there for you to try and you can use your imagination to think up anything you might possibly desire! Keep in mind though; you don’t have to try all kinds to impress your partner. Find a few that really work great and stick to them, unless both you and your partner are feeling particularly turned-on and the mood – then you can try some of the more kinky oral sex positions.

Oral Sex – 3 Naughty Places To Give Your Girl The Wildest Sexual Experience!

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Oral sex can become even hotter when you mix up where you’re actually doing the deed – here are three extra saucy places to have absolutely amazing oral sex!

Are you running out of ideas to spice up your sex life? Is the next trip to the bedroom turning out to be a dull and boring affair? Then it is time to put some creativity to good use! If both you and your girl are game for a little escapade of oral sex, then these hot tips will add some sizzle to your sex life. Get out of the bedroom and give her the best cunnilingus of her life!

Oral Sex On The Balcony

There is something about engaging in sexual acts in the open that turns women on. It is the anticipation of being found out that adds to the thrill. If you have a balcony at home, it is a great place to slowly tease her into having sex “in the open”, so to speak. If your girl is game to try this, great! If not, slowly convince her. You can engage in some light foreplay in the bedroom and when you get her sufficiently aroused, offer to give her a more “sensual service” in the balcony.

Engage In Some Wet And Wild Oral Sex

Wet and wild oral sex is a tantalizing combo! If you have a swimming pool in your backyard, this will be great for some water oral sex with a little privacy. Be a little more imaginative. You can go down on her at the pool side, on the steps or even on an inflatable boat right in the middle of the pool!

Don’t have a swimming pool? Don’t worry! Your own bathtub would do just great! Besides, there are plenty of “sex props” in the bathroom that can come in handy as additional aids (think shower head, jets of water spray etc). If you are feeling a little more adventurous, how about heading down to a secluded part of the beach? Or hire a small boat and head out to the open sea for some good loving oral fun!

Sizzle Up In The Kitchen!

Now, if performing oral sex in the great outdoors is not your cup of tea, you can have a great oral romp right at home in the kitchen. Like the bathroom, the kitchen offers plenty of props that will spice things up a notch. Whipped cream, ice cream or even liquid chocolate are all great companions to give her a sizzling oral session. And there is no lack of locations in the kitchen to perform this either! The kitchen sink, the dining table, the counter all offer comfortable places to give her a great time!

3 Oral Sex Positions That Will Leave You Feeling Like A Gymnast

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Oral sex positions can make things hotter than you ever thought possible – these acrobatic oral sex positions will make you a pro!

Sometimes, the good old fashioned missionary position during oral sex just isn’t enough to make you feel like you’re getting enough variety in your sex life. For those who really want something unique, there are a couple of oral sex positions that few have tried or if they have, mastered. All of these require a healthy partner with some flexibility, and none are recommended for long-term adventures because of their acrobatic requirements. Still, they can inject some levity into your sexual repertoire, just make sure you both stretch and get limber, first.

The Crab

Have the guy lie on his back, propped up with pillows behind his head and shoulders. The lady then sits on his belly with her legs at his ears and her hands by his knees, and pushes her belly towards the ceiling so she looks like a crab crawling. She can then move as close or as far away from her partner as she wants, even using pillows underneath her buttocks if she gets tired. This does, however, require quite a bit of upper arm strength on the woman’s part. If you are actually able to master this oral sex position, it can definitely create some new sensations that you’ve never experienced before!

Partial Headstand

The partial handstand sounds a bit more difficult than it really is. Have the man sit down in a comfortable position where his knees are bent and wide apart. A pillow should be between his feet. Then have the woman climb from behind the man, and wrap herself around him so that her head is on the pillow, her thighs on his shoulders, and her knees around his head. There are some women who swear by this position, as it forces all the blood to their head, thus increasing orgasm intensity, but it can be a challenging pose for both partners, especially in the middle of her thrashing about.

Supported Headstand

Take a thick blanket and fold it so that it’ll support the woman’s shoulders and neck –  if she’s a yoga fan, she’ll know exactly what to do. Then have her put her shoulders along the longest side of the blanket and help her get into the headstand position. The man should hold her legs so that the backs of her thighs are supported by his shoulders, and that when he looks down her body, he looks right into her eyes. The folks that have tried this position say they love it, because it’s one that is very connected, plus it allows for easy access to her genitals and breasts, but for obvious reasons can be quite dangerous to hold for any length of time as well. This is one of the oral sex positions that is the most difficult, however, if you achieve it for any length of time, you’re going to be very pleased with the results!

Remember that if any of these positions hurt or cause discomfort at all to stop immediately! A safe word might be a good idea here, as is a back up plan if you find that the more acrobatic oral sex positions aren’t working that well for you.