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Oral Sex Positions That Will Make Her Quiver

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Oral sex positions can make a regular cunnilingus session turn into a leg shaking, world-rocking one. Here’s a few oral sex positions to use to turn the heat up!

The best oral sex positions are ones that both you and your partner love. The following positions are offered to give you more ideas and inspiration, with the added bonus that some offer relief of neck, shoulder and jaw pain and others may heighten sexual pleasure in one or both of you.

The Standard

This is the one that most people use and for good reason is one that is familiar: woman on her back, partner in between her legs.

Her Body Positioning

The woman should lie flat on her back with her knees spread apart and bent, with her feet on a solid surface. It’s easier if her feet are closer together than her knees are, because then she can push against whatever she’s lying on to increase pressure and control how much stimulation she receives, but it’s not possible to do this all the time, so don’t worry about it too much when first starting out.

Make sure that her back is flat as well, so that the small of her back is against the floor, bed, or whatever she’s lying on. Contrary to many adult films, an arched back only looks good but it doesn’t help her get any closer to an actual orgasm. With some of the oral sex techniques mentioned, you’ll want to have one of your hands along the small of her back to make sure that she’s pushing against it slightly, thus tilting her pubic region in your general direction. If she’s having problems getting her back flat and flush, prop her head and chest up with some pillows, place one hand on her Mons Pubis and one on the small of her back, and gently push her pelvis down into your lower hand. This should be a comfortable position for her, especially when she’s relaxed.

If you find that your neck gets tired during oral sex, you can prop up her buttocks only (not her lower back) so that her pelvis is tilted even further forward, bringing her vulva closer and at a better angle for you to get to work. It may also be easier if she is on a bed, towards the edge, and you are kneeling on the floor.

Leg Over The Shoulder

Pretty much as it sounds, the woman is flat on her back like The Standard, but puts one or both of her legs over her partner’s shoulders. In this position, a woman has a lot of leverage and can control how much stimulation she receives. Plus, it opens up the entire pelvic area to someone who is trying to access all the wonderful parts held within, so it’s perfect when you want a better look at what’s going on. Finally, women seem to really love this oral sex position to feel even more connected to their partners; therefore this is an excellent choice if she’s complaining of feeling distant, disconnected or floating on her own during the process.

Intertwined, Man On Top

To get into this position, have the woman lie on her back with her partner next to her. His head should be around her hip area, and his legs pointing in the direction of her head. Then, he takes his arm closest to her, and sticks it between her legs with his head following right after. Get her to wrap her leg around his shoulders so that her ankle touches his back and her knee is just shy of his elbow. If done correctly, both partners will be on their sides slightly, and he’ll have a fantastic view of her entire vagina, with easy hand access to her Perineum, Anus and Vaginal Opening.

Sixty Nine

Sixty-nine is the position where one partner is on top of the other, and each has their head near the other’s genitals. The problem with this position is that it’s unlikely she’ll be able to reach your penis to pleasure you, unless you both are exactly the same height or have the same leg length. Plus, most women are unable to relax in this position, which is necessary to bring one to orgasm.

If the guy is on top, it makes things a bit easier for him but then she has to carry his weight along her body, and it makes giving him head more of a forced event than anything else. If she’s on top, where your hands and arms go is infinitely easier but then getting to her sweet spot is difficult. Therefore, sixty-nine can be a lot of fun, but it’s more a novelty position than one to be used to get her off.

Side By Side

The same as sixty-nine, just rolled over so that you are on your sides instead. Side by side has the same issues that sixty-nine does, although it is a bit easier to get to one another if you both put one knee up in the air and bend at the waist to ensure good positioning around their genitals.

Side by Side also allows for more relaxing, especially for those with neck problems, just make sure to use extra lubricant because this is one position where all the air flow can dry things out too much to make the experience fun and sensual.

Woman Standing

In Woman Standing, the female is standing upright and their partner is squatting or sitting down so that their face is right next to the woman’s vulva. She can sometimes be propped up against the wall using the partner’s shoulders, or have one knee on a chair both of which provide extra maneuvering room.

This is a sexually charged position, and for many it is one that they can’t do without. Having said that, it’s a difficult one for the woman to feel confident enough to let go while standing up, and thus, is probably one best used early on in a cunnilingus session.

Doggy

Take normal Doggy style, come up behind the woman and lick her – that’s how you perform this oral sex position.

There are a number of fans of this position, and for good reason. It’s excellent for analingus (mouth touching Anus), it lends a bit of animalistic pleasure to the event, and it shows off a very attractive angle of a woman’s anatomy. Having said that, the Vaginal Opening and Clitoris are almost impossible to reach in this position, there’s no way to perform many of the hand movements required, and it’s an unnatural angle for even the most flexible of oral connoisseurs.

Supported Doggy

Supported Doggy is exactly the same as Doggy, but the woman has pillows under her hips to prop her up. In this position, it’s much easier for the woman to relax and reach orgasm, and it doesn’t take much to gain access to most of her vulva if she merely tilts her hips back and puts her head right down as far as she can. Supported Doggy is also great for the woman’s partner, as he too can use the pillows to prop himself up. Plus, it allows for a fuller range of motion for both parties. However, it may seem too distancing for some women, as they cannot see their partner during the act or you, them.

Blowjob Tips For Guys – Do You Put Your Hands On Her Head Or Not?

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Blowjob tips aren’t always for the ladies. Men – should you be putting your hands on your partner’s head while she’s going down on you or not?

Holding Her The Right Way

Believe it or not, this can be a big issue for both women and men when it comes to fellatio. It is important to discuss this aspect of fellatio with your partner before embarking on a fellatio session both partners will know what to expect. Remember guys, every woman is different and it is important to know what your partner prefers during fellatio – having hands on her neck while she is going down on you might make her uncomfortable and may even gag or choke her.

Make sure you know what she prefers and also keep in mind that her mood may change and one night she may be feeling particularly turned on and like the sensation of her face and mouth being guided or pushed down on your penis and another night she may be completely turned off or even repulsed by the idea.

Communicate Beforehand!

This is why it is so important to talk to your partner about this before each oral sex session! If talking about this particular aspect of fellatio before the session seems like a killjoy or ruins the spontaneity of fellatio, you and your partner may want to decide on some kind of hand signal or the like for your partner to let you know whether it is okay for your hands to be on her like that or if she dislikes the feeling at that particular moment.

A Secret “Signal”

One of the best blowjob tips to help you handle the “hands on the head” situation because a woman’s mood may change at any given moment during fellatio and if she is okay with your hands being on her neck at first but wants you to remove them later; she can do so without breaking her rhythm.

This is also great if a man begins to push her down on his penis a little too roughly – which can happen in the heat of the moment. A hand signal gives a woman the option to let her partner know if he is restricting her breathing, going too hard or gagging her. Many women will just take their partner’s hands off of them and some will even put them on if they are feeling that this would turn them on.

Similarly, a man may come up with his own hand signal or the like to let his partner know if he would like to do this. Something such as stroking her hair or neck may let her know that he is feeling like putting his hands on her head would turn him on at that particular moment. Just discuss what the “hand signal” will be before the fellatio session so that she will know what that particular movement means.

One of the most important blowjob tips is to never do anything you haven’t asked about beforehand. So this is almost like an unspoken question and your partner will appreciate you “asking” her if it is okay to do it. If the idea of a hand signal to let her know you’d like to put your hands on her head doesn’t do it for you, you can always just ask! No matter what you do, just go with the flow and make sure to communicate with your partner!

Why Some Women Don’t Want You To Control Their Movements

Well, as we said earlier, a man that puts his hands on a woman’s head and either unknowingly or knowingly pushes her down on his penis too hard or too roughly can easily cause a woman discomfort (both physically and emotionally) and even though you may like deep throating, this may gag or choke her or restrict her breathing.  Although this is one of the blowjob tips to avoid, it generally is not dangerous if this happens – a woman will usually just discontinue performing fellatio if she begins to gag, choke or feel uncomfortable but it is important that you preempt any discomfort she may or may not have by being careful when putting your hands on her head.

Disrupting The Rhythm

Many women do not like having a man’s hands on them like this during fellatio because it disrupts their “rhythm” or their “flow.”  They’ve read plenty of blowjob tips and can definitely get the job done and done well. A woman that is skilled in fellatio will most certainly develop her own way of doing things (somewhat like a routine) and will not appreciate you disrupting that! If this is the case, just sit back and enjoy the ride to orgasm – if she’s good enough not to need your hands on her head to guide her to please you, then you certainly are in for a treat! On the other hand, some women enjoy having a partner’s hands on her head – it may make her feel like his “guiding” her makes her efforts in pleasing him during fellatio more accurate. Either way, it is really up to the woman as to what she prefers while she is performing fellatio.

(For The Ladies) Why He Likes It

A man will often want to put his hands in a woman’s hair so that he can enjoy the feel of it’s softness and then pull it back a little so that he has the added visual stimulation of the best view of her lips wrapped around his penis, not just a mass of hair blocking his sight. Tussled hair is very sexy and being willing to let him get his hands wrapped up in it shows that little “naughty” side in the bedroom and your willingness to get wild with him when the two of you are alone.

Ladies, a clear way for you to let him know you want his hands on your head is for you to take his hands and put them there. He’ll appreciate the eagerness you are showing in letting him know it’s okay for him to engage his hands on your head and in your hair and be an even bigger part of the blowjob.

10 Red-Hot Oral Sex Positions (For Him)

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Oral sex positions can make a world of difference during a fellatio session – it can make fellatio exciting, relaxing or even uncomfortable. It is important to find a few that both you and your partner are comfortable with and utilize those (and mix them up) on a regular basis. You can also try new ones to spice up your normal fellatio routine. Here, we’ll list several that you and your partner can try!

On Your Knees

This is perhaps the most versatile fellatio position that there is, and probably the most widely used. You can do this with him standing and you kneeling, or with him in a chair (or on the edge of the bed) and you on your knees in front of him accordingly. This is probably the one that you will want to use if you’re performing fellatio on your partner in different places, such as in the car or in the laundry mat, etc. He may enjoy the feeling of dominance he has over you.

The Captain Morgan

Have your lover stand and lift one leg, placing his foot on either a stool, or the edge of the bed. This slight change in the traditional position allows you access to his testicles and also opens the “breezes” so that when you lick and get him wet, he’s more exposed.

Upside Down

Any oral sex positions in which your head is facing your partner’s feet is ideal for deep throating. This one is most comfortable while lying on a bed or other flat surface and can be incorporated into mutual oral sex (69) or just oral sex for him.

Lying Down

This is much like the above; however, your head will be facing your partner’s head instead of his feet. This is a great one in which your partner can put his legs on your shoulders, spread his legs wide, and raise his knees to his chest or any combination of the above. This type of variation can bring him more pleasure and you greater access to his penis.

The Koala Bear

Remember photos of a Koala Bear hanging on to a tree? When you’re lying down, just shift to the side. He will have a great view of your mouth pleasuring him and you can throw one your legs around him and stimulate yourself against his lower leg. He’ll feel how wet and turned on you are!

Sideways

Or a sideways sixty-nine position – this one is exactly how it sounds. You both will lie on your sides facing each other, with your head facing your partner’s feet. You can use this for mutual oral sex or for pleasing only him. It’s also a good for deep throating!

Sitting (On Your Face)

In this position, your partner will sit mainly on your chest, bringing his penis downwards and into your mouth. Generally, his knees will be resting on either side of you on the bed to avoid putting too much pressure on your body. To do this, however, you and your partner will need some kind of signal that you can use to let him know if he is penetrating your mouth too deeply or if you are gagging or finding it difficult to breathe. This frees up both of your hands because he is controlling the speed from this angle. It gives you time to use your hands to stroke his buttocks and the backs of his thighs and to run your hands up his stomach and onto his chest.

Doggy Style Isn’t Just For Intercourse

Yyou can perform fellatio in a doggy style position too! You can lick your partner’s penis and testicles from behind, if both you and your partner are comfortable having your face so close to his anus and back end, or you can put him on his hands and knees and you work your body up under him and place your mouth where that your vagina would normally be. I call this one a “double decker doggy” since you are both on your hands and knees – but you are up under him facing the opposite direction. Most of the work is on the woman, but it makes for a ‘different’ blow job experience for the man. It is less visual than some of the other oral sex positions but ranked up there with the men surveyed who have tried it!

Him Sitting With His Knees Up

As he is sitting in the middle of the bed with his legs bent – your head is between his legs and your backside is up in the air. Place a large mirror off the bed so that he has a full view of you naked and can look down to see your head between his legs and so that he can see the visual of your naked backside. Arch your back and move as you are giving him a blowjob so that he enjoys the visual stimulation of watching your body move in front of him and in the mirror.

Lying On Your Back

This one is a little tricky, but if situated well, you are at a prime angle for deep throating. Lie on a bed with your head at the edge of the bed (this is important – other flat surfaces won’t do because you’ll need to be raised up a couple feet). Your partner will get on his feet or knees (depending on how far off the ground your bed is) and guide his penis into your mouth.

To successfully do this, you will need to hang your head off the edge of the bed just enough so that your mouth is level with your partner’s penis. In this position though, you will need to utilize that signal in case your partner begins thrusting too hard and you cannot breathe. If done properly, however, this one can be a lot of fun!

This also gives him free reign with his hands so that he can play with your breasts as well.

A great trick is if you are willing to swallow, it to have a glass of warm water on the nightstand. When he is close to ejaculating, have him tap your shoulder, quickly fill your mouth with the warm water and lie back down – the sensation of him ejaculating into your mouth filled with warm fluid and you swallowing it down is something he won’t forget.

Advanced Oral Sex Techniques: How To Tongue Her Vagina

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Oral sex is hot all by itself – almost every girl loves it and regardless of your technique, your partner is going to enjoy the feeling of your warm, wet mouth in her most sensitive spots. While technique isn’t everything when it comes to oral sex, if your woman is going to climax, you’ve got to have at least a few good tricks up your sleeve. If you want to give your lover a leg shaking orgasm – better than she’s ever had before with you – try putting your tongue IN her vagina instead of just licking the clitoris when going down on her! This will make her feel so naughty, she’ll be begging you to eat her out again and again!

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What Is The Big Deal About Tonguing The Vagina?

When giving their partners oral sex, most guys stick to licking the clitoris only. They know that licking the clitoris can produce an intense orgasm, and they definitely don’t want to stray from that. However, tonguing the vagina is a little “taboo” and can really take oral sex to the next level – if you’re feeling kinky or naughty and want your lover to let her hair down and have a really wild orgasm, this is a technique that you want to use.

Since most guys don’t do this, chances are, you’ll be the first one to do this to her – which equals major brownie points for you! Plus, there are tons of sensitive nerve endings at the opening of the vagina that can create incredibly intense waves of pleasure when stimulated – these nerve endings are what those crazy rotating beads on Rabbit vibrators are for.

How To Prepare Her

Just like with most other sex tips, you can’t just jump right in and stick your tongue up her vagina without getting her ready first. Start with lots of deep kissing, soft touching and foreplay to get her excited and aroused. Do anything you would do to get her ready for sex, such as an erotic massage, licking and sucking on her nipples or dirty talk. Get her excited by telling her how much you want to taste her. Wait until she’s really wet and practically grinding against you to engage in oral sex.

How To Do It

Once you’ve started giving your partner oral sex, you still don’t want to go straight to tonguing her vagina. Even if she’s turned on from foreplay, you still want to get her even more turned on before you pull out this naughty trick. Start by licking her clitoris softly with your tongue and gradually work your way down to her vaginal opening. Lick all around her creases, pausing every now and then to continue stimulating her clitoris.

When you sense that she’s turned on enough for you to put your tongue in her vagina, gently begin to probe her vagina with a pointed tongue. You don’t want to have your tongue flat for this – instead, make it firm and pointed so you can insert it with ease. If your partner seems receptive to you gently probing her vagina (such as gasping, moaning or grinding her pelvis against your face), you can begin thrusting your tongue in and out, like you would your penis if you were having intercourse with her.

It Doesn’t Matter How Long Your Tongue Is

You might think that if you have a short tongue that this technique is pretty much useless – but nothing could be further from the truth! Most guys aren’t going to be able to reach a woman’s g-spot with their tongue, and they probably shouldn’t try. The sensitive nerve endings at the opening of the vagina are enough to get her soaking wet and begging for more – and you only need an inch or two for that. Couple tongue thrusting with licking the clitoris and you will make your girl orgasm so hard, she won’t know what hit her!

Tips To Keep In Mind:

  • She is going to feel much more comfortable if she’s showered and trimmed or shaved. Don’t pull this right after she’s gotten home from work – give her a chance to shower and groom herself so she feels more comfortable with your tongue in her more intimate places. Don’t worry, this is better for you too!
  • Go slow and pay attention to her body language. She will let you know (probably without saying a thing) how much she likes or dislikes what you’re doing. Take your cues from her.
  • If she seems to dislike what you’re doing, stop doing it! Just like with any new, taboo technique, she may not be into it. If she seems like she’s not enjoying it, just slide your tongue back up to her clitoris and go from there.
  • Show her that you’re enjoying it. Give her positive feedback. Moan, grab her and pull her into you and act like you really want it. Tell her how delicious she is and how you’ve got to have her! If you’re really into it, it’s more likely that she will be too.

Oral Sex Positions For Tongue Thrusting

Not every oral sex position is going to work for this technique. You definitely want to be in control here – if she’s sitting on your face or in any other position where you’re not in control, you’re going to have a more difficult time executing this well. Missionary with her legs spread or doggy style is the best way to go here. Try different positions and experiment – because most of all, this technique is all about having fun and enjoying yourself! Relax and go with the flow!

Oral Sex: How To Push All Her Hot Buttons!

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There’s no denying that couples of all ages love to engage in oral sex practices. In fact, married couples are likely to have more sex, and more varied sex, than single people and, according to stats, even oral sex is more common in married couples rather than single couples.

So here’s some advice to help you hone your oral dexterity.

Oral Sex Prepwork

One of the biggest turn-offs when performing oral sex on someone is not being clean, trimmed and proper. And assume that if you’re giving oral sex to her, she’s going to give it to you.

The clean side: Wash. Everywhere. For longer than three seconds. There are a lot of tiny hidden crevices in and around a man’s penis, and after a long day tucked into underwear and pants, naturally you’re going to sweat (and start to possibly smell – I’m not going to sugar-coat it). Proper regular hygiene creates a much more inviting environment for her face (and all of her senses). Even a quick washcloth wipe-down will be an improvement.

The trimmed side: Maybe you just missed the manscaping train, but it’s time to hop on because, well, hair is icky. Not all hair – just long, thick hair. It’s a trap for bacteria, it’s not the most attractive accessory, and it’s another deterrent when it comes to creating an appealing atmosphere.

Best Oral Sex Positions

Just as there are a countless number of techniques to satisfy your mate there are just as many varying positions you can use when engaging in oral sex, each with its own perks.

Need a few? OK, here goes:

She stands and you kneel in front of her. This is perfect for urgent sex plus it appeals to alpha females who like seeing you shamelessly submissive in front of him. And besides, if you want to see her in that position next, then you’d better get on your knees (put a pillow underneath your knees so she can see you’re not in any rush).

If you want to impress, lie on your back on the bed with your head hanging over the edge and get her to straddle your mouth. You may not be able to stay in this position for long, but she’ll definitely appreciate the effort.

Techniques That Will Drive Her Wild

All of the positions mentioned above can be effective but only if you use the right techniques. That means – you use all those tools, from your fingers and hands to your mouth and tongue, to manoeuvre your way around and get her off.

While a repetitive motion can be the perfect way to finish things off and help your wife to climax, a slow melange of kissing, licking, sucking, and even gentle blowing is the best technique to get her to the sheet-clenching stage. Mix long broad strokes with more delicate ones. Breathe lightly on her clitoris (never into her vagina) between licks.