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Should You Have Sex During “That Time” Of The Month?

Having sex on your period is a toss up for most couples. Unless you are a vampire, blood in the bedroom can be an icky situation. As women, we are taught to hide our periods, that they are embarrassing, messy and a pain. Many women feel that having sex while on their period is gross or worse, they are afraid their man will find it gross.

What She Said

To Bone Or Not To Bone?

As much as guys love the movie Glory, they do not wish to turn the bedroom into a war zone. But many women find that when they are on their period, they are also hornier, and orgasms can help with cramps during their time of the month. To bone or not to bone while bleeding is something that both partners need to agree upon.

If a woman feels like the period makes her gross, then there is no way she is going to feel sexy. And if her man finds it a bit off putting then again, the woman will not feel in the mood. If it is a red light for a couple, there are tons of other things to do! Massages and blowjobs are top on my list. Now if the couple is OK with it then having sex can be super fun! Some sex positions are limited due to gravity, but I recommend laying down a towel to catch any mess or better yet, hit the shower!

What He Said

The No Fly Zone

I am proud to have coined a new, sexy, and appropriate term for this time of the month, and I’m sharing it with you now: “No Fly Zone.” It makes it seem like some sexy military type operation instead of, well, you know.  Can you do it during the no fly zone? If you’re married and you know that she’s not sleeping with anyone else, then sure, I guess it’s safe.

But my own personal sex tip here is that you should avoid having sex while she’s in the “No Fly Zone.” I’m pretty sure if you look up “high risk sexual activities” in the dictionary you’ll see a picture of having sex on your period and then the dictionary will actually smack you upside the head for being stupid enough to even consider it.

Have you not heard of blowjobs or anal sex? Those are perfectly viable and deliciously naughty sex acts that you and your partner (or whatever the hell you call them) can do while you wait out the “No Fly Zone.” The “No Fly Zone,” like all other sanctions, seems really terrible and oppressive for a few days, then it blows over and then everyone pretends like it didn’t happen in the first place.

The “No Fly Zone” has been a thorne in the side of people (metaphorically speaking) since the beginning of time. Millions have tried to work their way around it, and basically you aren’t going to discover anything that others haven’t been able to. Remember that there are other alternatives such as anal and oral sex for him.

How To Give Great Head & Please Your Guy Every Time

By serenapaige

A blowjob is one of the best treats you can give your guy. However, if he pulls back up every time you start to go down on him, you might need a few new tricks. Despite what most women think, if a girl gives bad head, he will typically not be interested in the act. While a girl that gives a great blowjob they can have their partner wrapped around their fingers.

A girl that uses too much teeth or doesn’t know what she’s doing down there can be a deal breaker for a lot of men. If you are worried about your oral skills, there are a few tips that you can implement to quickly abolish the learning curve.

Get Into It

A blowjob is never fun from somebody who hates doing it. Guys want a girl that wants to do it. A lot of women enjoy giving oral sex because of the power they have over the man. Being able to take him over with your lips, hands, mouth and tongue can be extremely erotic.

If you’re more of a submissive girl, let him guide you with his hands and hips. Do whatever is necessary to actually show a little enthusiasm while giving oral sex. Make your guy use a special body wash beforehand or get some flavored lube to make it better for the both of you.

Don’t Go Straight For It

Men are a lot like women. They like to be teased. When you’re giving a blowjob, make sure that you’re not going straight for his penis. Use other methods of foreplay to get him turned on beforehand. Kissing and running your fingertips up and down his stomach will easily get him primed for oral sex.

Kiss his neck and chest before you slowly work your way down to his penis. This will show him how much you love his body instead of just doing something that he wants because he wants it. Take your time and don’t rush anything. You want to spend just as much time getting him ready as you would actually giving him oral sex.

Don’t Just Use Your Mouth

While your mouth is going to be the primary means of getting him off, use the rest of your body during the blowjob to get your guy even more turned on. Use your hands, your tongue and even your hair. Your hair might seem like a strange thing to use while giving oral sex, but he will love it. Soft hair can feel like silk and it will send a shiver down his spine. Come up and rub his penis against your breasts or against your clitoris to show even more enthusiasm.

Don’t Be Boring

The whole point of the blowjob is show your guy how much you love him. No guy wants boring oral sex. When you’re performing oral sex, make sure that you are mixing things up a bit. Move your tongue up and down his shaft very slowly. Work your way up to the head and always make eye contact for more intimacy.

Use your tongue on the skin where the head meets the shaft. This is a very sensitive part on the penis. Wet your mouth with saliva and tease him by kissing the head. Play with his balls and suck on them to send him over the edge. Mix things up and you will find that your guy is always primed for a blowjob.

The Big Finish

When you feel that you’re guy is about to have an orgasm, you need to make a choice. Do you spit, swallow or jerk him off? No matter what you do, any choice can be pleasurable for him. If you’re going to swallow, go up and down on his penis as he’s cuming and swirl your tongue around the head. This is a move he will never forget. If you are going to spit out his semen, you can use the same move; just make sure that you have something around you that you can spit into.

If you aren’t into taking his semen in your mouth, make sure that you have a lot of saliva on his penis before he starts to cum. If you don’t spit or swallow, you need to get some flavored lube. Flavored lube is the best for jerking him off because it reacts to saliva. Focus on the part where the head meets the shaft if you’re going to jerk him off after the blowjob.

How To 69 The Right Way

By serenapaige

69 is a fun position that gives pleasure to each partner. 69 is a way to engage in oral sex in a way that both partners get pleasure at the same time! If you are tired of the same old 69, there are several new positions that you can implement into your regiment to spice things up. Knowing how to give her the best stimulation during 69 is essential to getting her off and keeping her happy.

When your girlfriend has a great orgasm during sex she is more likely to want it more often. Using the same kinds of sex positions all the time can easily turn her off in the bedroom. Keeping things spicy and erotic will keep you closer. Here are some tips for the next time that you do decide to 69.

1. Suds Up First

A very common complaint about the 69 is the possibility of smells. If you know that you are going to use 69, it is highly recommended to take a shower or a bath beforehand. This gets you very close to your partner’s anus. Keep in mind that your partner will also be extremely close to your anus. Because of this, it is necessary that you take the proper precautions so that the moment is not ruined by a horrific smell from either of you.

Use the preparation to your advantage by either taking a bath or a shower together. Wash each other to get you both into the mood for the coming attraction. While you do not have to actually go inside of your anus to make sure that there are no smells, washing on the exterior is going to be essential for getting all of the funk off of your body.

2. The Standard (Her On Top)

The standard position involves her on top and you on bottom. While you may find this boring, it is the standard for a reason. It’s going to be much easier for her to achieve an orgasm while being on top than for you to achieve the orgasm while being on top. With her on top she has control over the situation and how much she can take of your penis inside her mouth.

If you’re going to use the standard 69 it is important that you do not neglect her. Make sure that you are not just focusing on her clitoris, but are also focusing on the outside of her vaginal lips. This is also a prime way for you to use your fingers on her. Use your index and pointer finger while you lick and suck on her clitoris to stimulate her g spot.

3. Side-By-Side

If you are tired of the standard 69 you can use the side-by-side sex position. The side-by-side is essentially both of you laying on your side and performing the 69. This is an excellent position to spice things up if you are tired of doing it the traditional way. One of the biggest complaints of doing this is that the weight of the guy or girl can become uncomfortable. This is not an issue whenever you use the side-by-side.

Get in the middle of the bed and make sure that you are comfortable. You will not be able to use the edge or the top of the bed as your legs are going to be more extended than the traditional way. It’s going to be harder for you to finger her when you are using the side-by-side. However, this will probably feel a little bit better to you because the penis is going to be a different angle when it goes into her mouth. If you really want to spice things up, use a vibrator to replace your fingers.

4. Guy On Top

Guy on top is not one that every couple is going to like. Some women love to be submissive in the bedroom, making the guy on top extremely erotic for them. Most women like to have control of how far they are going to take your penis into their mouth. This makes the guy on top kind of an issue. Another complaint is that the women are going to have to use their neck muscles in order to actually suck on your penis. This can get tiresome and frustrating for the girl.

However, some girls thoroughly enjoy having their guy on top thrusting into their mouths. Consult your girlfriend before you try this and make sure that she is okay with it. Another common complaint of the 69 is that there is too much going on and it’s hard for people to focus on what they’re giving while also receiving. Having your girlfriend strain herself in order to try to give you pleasure could take away from the fact that she is also receiving it. In the event that she is not really feeling this, move on to a different one.

5 Oral Sex Mistakes Men Make

By isabellastone

Oral sex isn’t something every guy is good at. Are you making one of these crucial oral sex mistakes? You’ll be surprised at what you find out!

She’s lying on the bed, legs spread, and slides her panties to the side – you know what she wants.

She’s kissing you roughly, pushing your hands away from her, pulling your head down – you know what she wants.

She takes you deep inside her mouth, flashes you a sexy smile, and then straddles your face – you know what she wants.

Whether you’re having a hot one night hook-up, or are in a long term relationship, girls often love head. It can be when they’re at their most horny, most intimate. or just the final straw of seeing what kind of lover you are before they have sex with you.

Trouble is, girls are picky; and all wired completely differently. Your ex loved you sucking her clitoris, your current girlfriend hates it.

The fact is, head is hard enough to get right as it is – so don’t screw up by making the five most common problems guys have when giving head.

1. Don’t Aim Too High

If where you’re licking more closely resembles a girl’s belly button, than it does her vulva, you’re way too high. You may think you can avoid getting down and dirty by just licking around her vulva – don’t kid yourself, this won’t work. There are very specific areas girls are sensitive in: fail to hit the spot and you won’t turn her on.

2. It’s Not All About You

Guys often make the mistake of thinking girls are as fixated on penetration as they are: so they think head should actually be a. Fingering b. Using your tongue in place of your penis. Neither is correct. Sure licking inside her vagina or fingering her, feels good: but that isn’t the point of head. Your mission, is to find her clitoris, then bring in your fingers as an added extra, not the main show.

3. There’s More Than One Way To Do It

When you’ve got to her clitoris not all girls will want you to stimulate it in the same way. Some will love you sucking it, others will want you to lick it fast and horizontal, others slowly length ways. Unfortunately there’s no clear signage down there as to which one your girl is going to prefer. So go for trial and error- start off slow, and keep your teeth way out of there.

4. Girls Are Delicate

Yep, the fairer sex is softer all round. This means that if you’re too rough with her- it will hurt. So keep your fingers well lubricated, your beard soft, or nonexistent, and get your tongue safely far away from your teeth’s interference.

5. Keep It Up

You may feel like you could come after a couple of minutes of jaw dropping head: but sometimes women need, I kid you not, hours. The most common length of time it takes a woman to orgasm is about 20 minutes, so you need to train yourself to last that long and not be a lazy lover.

Get head right though and you’re on to a winner. Make a girl come during a one night stand and she’ll come back for more. Give great head in your relationship and expect to receive in return.

And if you want to convince a girl to sleep with you? Then there’s no better way of showing that you know how to give a woman exactly what she wants.

How To Finger A Woman During Oral Sex

By loveandsex

Fingering can bring a whole new level of pleasure to oral sex, but it’s easy to get wrong! Here’s how to finger a girl while you go down on her.

Using Your Hands

Hands and fingers are the most popular complement to oral sex for both men and women. Let’s face it – there are times when using our hands can give our mouths a bit of a break and bring our partner to orgasm that much faster. There are other times when using our hands just gets in the way.

Be sure to pay attention to your partner when doing each of these moves and assess her reaction – if she loves it, great! Keep going. If she seems to be shrinking away, try another hand technique or take the hand away altogether. Also bear in mind that one night she may be in the mood for a certain stroke and another night she may want tongue-only action. This can be said of all cunnilingus efforts though, so keep a watchful eye on your partner.

Fingering Her Into Oblivion

Okay, this is by far the most popular accompaniment to cunnilingus. There are so many more ways to pleasure your partner with your finger inside her and your tongue outside her! Be wary of just sticking your finger inside her vaginal opening though – you’ll want to observe some niceties first. Couple the following techniques with the above clitoral techniques to blow your partner’s mind!

Make sure she is wet. You should almost never have to use lubricant because you will have sufficiently warmed your partner up first and performed some cunnilingus on her already, however, we know that some ladies are drier than others and may require lubricant. If you’re using a condom, finger cot, or latex gloves you’ll need to use water-based lubricant. Remember, baby oil and oil-based lubricants will break down latex and they aren’t that great anyways.
Go slow unless she asks otherwise. This is a big one – you don’t want to jam your finger in there because that will probably end the entire cunnilingus session and several future cunnilingus sessions right then and there.

Fingering During Oral Sex

Slide your finger in and out of her slowly and gently. You can keep your finger straight or you can put a bit of a bend in it if you like to help reach the G Spot (and we’ll go over that in detail a little later in this section). You can also use your finger to press on the walls of her vaginal canal or to go deep inside, depending on how your lady likes it.

One of the most popular fingering moves is to slide the tip of your finger in and out of her vaginal canal about ½ an inch – you can even move your fingertips in circles to trace the outer rim of her vagina. Ladies love this because the first inch or so of the vagina is jam-packed with pleasure inducing nerves. You can twist your finger as you go in and out as well – this creates a wonderful sensation that carries throughout the entire vaginal canal.

Some ladies prefer two or three fingers, but contrary to popular belief, most ladies prefer only one finger. So unless your partner asks for it, don’t go jamming more than two fingers in her vagina at a time. Again, use your creativity – you can try lots of movements with your hands to find out which she likes best.

IMPORTANT TIP: Also be sure that if you’re not wearing gloves or a finger cot that your fingernails are clean and trimmed well with no hangnails. Hangnails and jagged fingernails can cause small cuts inside your partner’s vagina, not only making the experience extremely unpleasant for her but also increasing the risk of sexually transmitted diseases in non-monogamous partners.

As far as helping hands go, you generally want to stay away from the clitoris with your fingers. This is not a rule, just merely a suggestion. Cunnilingus is not cunnilingus if your finger is doing the work that your tongue should be doing. Let’s remember that the clitoris is extremely sensitive and a warm, soft, wet tongue feels much better than a finger (lubed or not).

You can use your fingers to do other things, such as feel inside her labia or spread the labia out, or tug gently on her mons pubis to stretch the skin out, causing her vulva to be more responsive and sensitive to the efforts of your tongue.

G Spot Pleasure!

Contrary to popular belief, the G Spot is not as elusive as many cunnilingus and other sexual information books make it out to be. First off, what is the G Spot? It is nothing more than a small dime-to-quarter-sized bundle of nerves about two inches inside of the vaginal canal. Generally, it is on the top. Surprisingly, a woman can experience an orgasm from G Spot stimulation alone; however, the feeling of this type of orgasm differs greatly from a clitoral orgasm.

Even more amazing is that it is possible for a woman to have both types of orgasms at once! Trust us on this one – having both orgasms at once is simply an amazing, earth-shattering experience for a woman. Therefore, it is probably a good thing for you to discover where your partner’s G Spot is and put that knowledge to good use every once in awhile.

So how exactly do you find it?

Like we said, most of the given information about the G Spot is largely untrue. It is fairly simple to find. Place the index finger of your right hand inside her vaginal canal with your palm up. You can also use your middle finger if you like, if your partner’s G Spot is just a tad further up the canal.

Gently make a “come here” or “come hither” motion with your finger. That should pretty much do it. It may be further towards the front as well, so experiment with your partner to find out what she likes the best. Combine this technique with some of the clitoral stimulation techniques (with your tongue!) and your honey will be in heaven!