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How Time Distortion Can RUIN Foreplay!

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Foreplay is essential, but are you really spending long enough on it? Probably not, even though you think you ARE. Here’s why!

What Is This Thing With Time?

When you’re sitting in on a lecture or a company meeting, you might think you’ve been sitting there for hours. It drones on and on, and you’re completely certain you’ve wasted your entire day. Then, when you break for lunch, you realize you’ve only been there 45 minutes. This, my friends, is known as the distortion of time.

What Does It Have To Do With Foreplay?

When a woman complains about that lame foreplay, a guy might think: “What?! I’ve been down here giving her oral sex for almost an hour. My tongue is tired, my mouth is dry, and I have only 4 hours of sleep left. I have blue balls bouncing all over. And she still wants more?!”

Okay, first of all, he hasn’t been down there for almost an hour. It may have felt like 60 minutes, but it’s really more like 3. He thinks he’s the world’s most indulgent lover, pampering partner with extensive, soul-reaching oral sex and foreplay, or so he thought. He’s been played.

How can he be guilty? He’s been a true gentleman, always considerate of her needs.

But many fellas are in for a nasty surprise. A guy can be sincere, but he can also be sincerely wrong. What he thought was enough, wasn’t really much at all.

How Your Attitude Can Make It Worse

The fact that guys are acting like school children in anguish for the bell on a Friday afternoon doesn’t help at all. They’re thinking way ahead, imagining how good it would feel to be inside her, picturing her innocent face when he starts penetrating her.

But that’s not great sex!

Great sex is a moment by moment experience!

For example, when you kiss, think ONLY of her lips. Close your eyes and feel the suppleness of them. Gently explore her upper set, playfully bite her lower lip. Proceed to the sides where both meet. Notice it’s much thinner there. Probe the fleshy inner part of her smackers where it’s warmer and smoother. Feel how her lips transform when she smiles while kissing. How does that feel? Breathe deeply, inhaling her soul. Do this without care for time or the future.

And that’s just for the lips! We’re not even dealing with dynamite stuff here. But you won’t appreciate these details if your mind is somewhere else.

Your effectiveness lies where your focus is, so don’t ever think of anything else except what you’re doing IN THE MOMENT. When you nuzzle, think only of that and nuzzle your way into her entire body. Focus only on that. Focus, and your senses will reward you with awareness that’ll blow your mind. You’ll dawn to the realization that you were missing so much just because you were always out of the moment.

How To Use Oral Sex To Help Introduce Your Partner To Anal Pleasure

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Oral sex can be an excellent bridge to first time anal sex if you’re careful how you go about it. Here’s what to do to get the ball rolling on anal play.

The Connection Between Oral Sex And Anal Sex

What’s the connection? It’s best to start slowly introducing anal play to your partner while you’re giving them great oral sex. Why? Because you create an association in their mind with something they already like (oral sex) with the thing you’re trying to get them to like (anal sex). Creating that association is key.

So is going slowly. You cant go from cunnilingus to having anal sex with them right away. It’s never a good idea, especially if your relationship is newer and/or this is the first time the two of you have had anal. Slowly is the key word. While giving your partner oral sex, gently introduce a finger up their butt or massage or stroke their taint. That’s a good one. The taint is the gateway drug to anal sex. If they love it when you play with their taint, you’re golden. If you’re patient.

Are YOU Open To Anal Play?

Another thing when trying to introduce your partner to anal sex is to consider whether or not you would be open to reciving it. Yes, you. Most people who are trying to introduce their partner to anal sex (men) are interested in being the giver, not the reciever. You have to be open to receiving as well, if you really want to do it.

Maybe she’s willing to let you do it to her, after she gets to do it for you. Again, what’s good for the goose is good for the gander (we’re sure they were referring to anal sex when they came up with this saying, aren’t you?) and if you’re truly wanting her to open herself to the possiblity of anal play, you’re going to have to be willing to spread your own cheeks and take it like a man (literally).

Why men have such hang ups on this, we’ll never know. It doesn’t make you gay. Any sex act that occurs between two people of different genders is by default, heterosexual in nature. Just remember to go slow, breathe deep and use lots of lube. If you don’t follow those three steps, your transition from oral sex to anal sex will be a short trip. It will stop all the fun, and often leads to injury. The emergency rooms of the world are filled with people who didn’t heed this warning. Don’t believe us? Call the E.R. and ask.

Who Is Really After The Anal Play?

There’s a really big elephant in the room here, and it’s time we talked about it. Who wants to add anal sex to your oral sex and intercourse buffet of sex? You or your partner or both? Are you trying to tell your partner it’s okay to do, because you know deep down they secretly want to? Or is it something you want to do and you really don’t care if he/she’s into it or not. You can’t force anyone to do anything.

Unless you’re Rick James or Charlie Sheen. And even they would up paying for it eventually. Putting pressure on your partner to do something they really aren’t into and won’t enjoy is just not cool and always ends in disaster. It will blow up in your face (and not in a fun way). The only question is when and how bad. So don’t do that. It’s not worth jepardizing your relationship with your partner for something like this.

If that’s the case, talk about your desires with your partner and why your’e interested in going from oral sex to anal sex. Maybe it’s not the anal sex itself that turns you on. Maybe it’s something else. Starting a dialogue is always the first step to great sex, because it will get things out in the open, you’ll get a feel for what the other is into and open to and then you can come to some kind of understanding, and that leads to compromise. Which, honestly, at the end of the day is what relationships of all kinds are all about. Alot of give and take as it were. And no, that’s not code for a something.

How To Get A Woman To Relax Before Oral Sex

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Oral sex can give a girl an incredible orgasm, but not if she’s tense and uptight. Get your lady relaxed before oral sex if you want her to enjoy it! Here’s how!

Why Relaxation Is Key

If her mind is relaxed but her muscles are so tight that her legs snap shut every time your head gets to her knees, you aren’t going to get very far during cunnilingus. Like we said earlier, a massage will both get her mentally and physically prepared for cunnilingus. If massage, however, isn’t on the menu tonight, there are a few other things you can try to get her so relaxed that her legs turn into butter.

How To Get Her To Calm Down And Chill Out

A Hot Bath

This is an oldie but goodie. But we don’t mean draw her bath, plop her in it and go about your business for thirty minutes until she’s done. We mean light candles, talk to her and wash her hair for her. Let her know that you are interested in her! If done properly, a conversation geared towards her while in a soothing, hot bath will do the same thing as an erotic massage – kill two birds with one stone and get both her mind and body relaxed and ready for cunnilingus.

A Foot Rub

Believe it or not, foot rubs can do even more magic than a back massage and a hot bath put together. Why? Studies in reflexology show that pressure points all over the foot lead directly to specific points in the body. When these pressure points are activated, the corresponding point in the body becomes relaxed and can promote wellness. A good foot rub will activate all of these points and will turn her entire body to putty.

Brushing Her Hair

Brush it while watching a movie together or braid it for her if her hair is long enough. You can also do variations on this by scratching her scalp or using one of those metal spider-looking head massagers. It will make her spine tingle! This is a great way to get good, relaxing feelings from the top of her head to the bottom of her feet.

Anything Physically Relaxing

Use your imagination. If your idea to get her mentally relaxed is walking around in the mall and window shopping together, then buy her one of those chair massages (or get one together). Some malls even have water massage beds. You can also do something like buying her a manicure or pedicure (or both!) and complimenting her nails when she is finished. Anything that will physically calm her is the ticket to a successful cunnilingus session with a mind bending orgasm at the finish.

Why Blowjob Enthusiasm Is SO Important!

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A blowjob isn’t any good if you act like you’d rather be doing something else. Here’s why being excited about giving him a blowjob is essential!

Sure, women enjoy giving fellatio because it gives their partners pleasure. They enjoy seeing their partner in the midst of bliss and that can be exhilarating for the woman. But let’s face it ladies – very rarely does giving fellatio make women jump for joy. So how do you get enthused when giving your partner fellatio?

Putting On A Good Show

Just act like it! You don’t have to be an Oscar winner to put on a good show for your partner while giving him awesome head. Trust us; what you DON’T want to do is give your partner fellatio while acting like a wet noodle. This may seem obvious, but you’d be surprised at the number of women that give a blowjob quietly, intently listening for their partner’s moans of enjoyment.

The key to success in fellatio is to act like you want it. We mean this. If you do not abide by anything else, abide by this one and only oral sex tip! You have to act like you’re going to die if you don’t give your partner fellatio right this second. Look up at him with that hunger in your eyes and let him see just how badly you want to pleasure him. Your enthusiasm alone will get him more turned on and ready to go than anything else you could possibly do!

What To Say And Do To Let Him Know You Love It!

You can do several things to show your partner that you’re enthusiastic about giving him fellatio. You can use phrases such as “I want you” or “I want to [insert preferred phrase equivalent to giving fellatio].” If you choose to use words or phrases, make sure that you convey the level of urgency that you want to in your voice. If you’re uncomfortable with using words or phrases and if you are a bit shy, you can easily convey what you want to with sounds and noises – the more guttural, the better! Another way to get across that you want him NOW is to grab him with your hands – his back, his butt, his penis – anything you can get your hands on to draw him to you.

Use your hands to squeeze him and hold him close to you like you can’t get enough of him! He will love thinking that you are so turned on by giving him something so wonderful – and you’ll be in for quite a treat!

How Not To Overdo It

It is important, however, that you don’t overdo it on the “acting.” Of course, you want to please your partner so at least some of it is genuine, right? But you don’t want him to think he’s in a bad porn flick. Just think of it as extending the genuineness of your enthusiasm or like putting a magnifying glass on your excitement. If you overdo it on the acting and give your partner a little too much of a “show” and not enough fellatio, he will clearly see through your act and get upset for even acting in the first place. The key is to develop a good balance between the two so that you are excited, enthusiastic and thrilled without going over the top.

Why Stimulating Her Clitoris AND Labia = Orgasm!

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The female orgasm isn’t as elusive as you might think. Find out why this simple formula will help you give your lover an intense orgasm!

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We’re going to take a moment to blow your mind. Actually, we’re going to take a moment to teach you how to blow your girl’s mind. She’ll thank you. And you look like a god and more importantly, like you came up with yourself. You’ll be the Chuck Norris of her nether regions, the master of her domain and keeper of the key to her heart. How do you do that? Two words: Massive orgasms. It’s the key to the art of the female orgasm.

Regular orgasms are so 1847. Massive, earth shattering female orgasms are in and in big time. That’s what she’s dying for you to give her, even if she’s unwilling or unable to express that. Maybe she doesn’t want to hurt your feelings. Maybe she doesn’t even know on a conscious level that, in fact, is what she wants. But trust us, she does. But how do you give it to her? We’ve developed an incredibly detailed and scientific formula to express this: clitoral stimulation + labia love = super massive, mind blowingly awesome and amazingly earth shattering orgasms. We have your attention now, don’t we?

How To Create A Female Orgasm

It’s really quite easy. The simple fact is that a woman’s labia or vagina lips are totally ignored. They’re like a genital version of the appendix to most men. You know it’s there, and you know it serves some kind of purpose, but you have no idea what that is. Her loss? Brother, you don’t know the half of it. Literally. Get a clue grasshopper! Because the female orgasm depends on it. By ignoring the labia. You’re missing out on giving her a chance at her extended pleasure.

Why is the labia so important in a female orgasm? One word: nerves, and lots of them. Seriously. Lots of nerves. Very sensitive, like the middle east peace process. Most guys completely bypass the labia and go straight for the clitoris. How do you think that makes the labia feel? Not so hot, in more ways than one.

Don’t skip it. Show it the attention it deserves. What kind of attention should you be giving it? To start off, don’t ignore the clitoris to focus on the labia. Do both. Alternate between licking the labia and clitoris. Broad strokes. Suck the labia in your mouth. Gently. We can’t really stress the gently part enough. To put it in terms men can understand, you know how you love having your balls sucked during a blowjob? You know how tender they are, right? Now imagine your woman was sucking on your balls and then bit into them. That’s what it feels like for her when you don’t suck gently. So keep that lovely mental image in mind.

Oral Sex Gone WRONG!

Many women have horror stories about guys who tried to suck on their labia and clitoris and it went horribly, horribly and super painfully wrong. Don’t add to her lowlight reel. She has enough footage there. Add to the highlight reel. Practice and master this very simple technique and you’ll be a guy she loves being with and not only will you get to do it often, she’ll be bragging about you to her friends.

You probably haven’t done much in the way of stimulating her clitoris and labia if you’re like most guys. But like most guys, you should be doing it during oral sex. A lot. Every chance you get. Why should you be doing this on a constant basis? Simple. This will drive her crazy. Female orgasms will happen faster. You haven’t seen her shake like that. But if you do this, you will.

And the more you stimulate her clitoris and the more you show her (formerly) neglected labia some love, the more she will quiver, shake, and beg for more. What guy doesn’t want that? Being a rock star in bed is the key to getting and more importantly keeping the girl (or girls) of your dreams. You can’t just be good. You have to be great. Most men aren’t and sadly, aren’t even trying to get there.

Learning to properly lavish lovingly attention on the labia will take a bit of practice. Delivering female orgasms is not a skill every man is born with, but it’s one every fella should have. But you will both have tons of fun as you learn to make her quiver, shake and scream with pleasure. She will be putty in your hands (or other parts) and will come back for more and more and more and more. So bite the bullet (not literally, of course. We already covered that!) and do what it takes, grasshopper. Make this happen. You’ll both be glad you did.