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5 Fellatio Mistakes – And What To Do About Them

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Fellatio is great – of course, if everything goes smoothly. Here are five things that you don’t want to happen during a blowjob (but that do) and how to deal.

Unlike what you may see in adult-rated movies, sex in real life can actually be awkward and funny. Slipping, fanny farts and sloppy wet noises are ALL part of making love. You can’t escape them. The tick is of course how to deal with these situations; how you convert the seemingly embarrassing situation into one that’s not.

The same goes with oral sex. There are issues that might occur so it’s up to you guys to deal with it in such a way that it doesn’t completely destroy the sexual charge in the bedroom!

The following items are scenarios that can likely happen during oral sex. They’re not meant to discourage you and your partner with engaging in oral sex at all. They’re meant as a guide to help you guys get over potentially awkward, yet real life situations easily.

Your Pubic Hair Gets In Her Teeth

This happens more often than you think. You’re so turned on by the sexual pleasure and she’s so into what she’s doing that unwittingly, a strand of your pubic hair gets caught in her teeth and gets yanked. Ouch!

The best way to deal with this is of course to laugh it off. Now how to get that hair out? The worst thing she can do is to make a big show out of it by sitting up and trying to get the hair out with her mouth wide open and her fist in it. Instead, she should casually – almost quietly and without drawing attention to it – take the hair out from her mouth and simply wipe the hair on the bed sheet to deal with later.

Her Dentures Get Dislodged

Actually, if HE didn’t’ notice it, SHE should simply go ahead as if nothing happened. However, the problem here is that often, her instinctive reaction is of course to ‘catch’ the slipping dentures with her hand, or worse, by closing her mouth. If this happens, and if she caused you pain, she should remedy the situation by slowly, lovingly licking and caressing the injured spot.

She Accidentally  Bites You

Sometimes women get so turned on by performing fellatio that they get a tad carried away and he can feel her teeth slowly, but firmly, touching his manhood. First of all, if you feel this guys, speak up! Simply touch her hair lovingly – don’t yank because you’re in a panic – and ask her to ease up a bit. Believe me, she will understand.

The same goes if she’s using her nails, have tongue jewelry or even hand jewelry that you feel is too close for comfort. Simply speak up before the ‘accident’ occurs.

You Have Gas

If women are afraid of fanny farts, men get conscious too of letting out gas especially if their women are down there performing fellatio on them. If this does occur, what do you do? Really, the best thing to do is simply pretend like it didn’t happen.

However, if what you released was not pleasant at all, then be a gentleman and stop for a while. It’s no use for you to go out of the room as the deed was done there. However, what you can do is ask her to stop, pull her up so you guys are face-to-face and get into some deep kissing. This way, the sexual rhythm is not that shattered, yet you save her from suffering down there or worse, give her time to laugh and make fun of you.

She Gags While Deep Throating

Some women can be too adventurous and try to bring their man’s manhood all inside her mouth to deep throat him. The problem is, if her mouth really can’t accommodate him, she’ll experience what most people call a ‘gag reflex’ and this is not pleasant – for you and her. The best thing to do is for her to pause as proceeding might only push her to gag further.

However, this does not mean she should stop stimulation of your manhood altogether. She can simply take you out of her mouth and use her hand for a while to stimulate you while she catches her breath.

In the end, a good sense of humor is all it takes to get over these oral sex problems. The more you focus on them, and the longer you focus on them, the bigger the blunder gets and the more awkward the situation becomes. Don’t let this happen, as this may become a deterrent in engaging in oral sex in the future.

Have a laugh, jot it down as experience, and move on!

How To Find The G-Spot And Give Her Sheet Soaking Squirting Orgasms!

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G-spot stimulation has the power to give women incredible squirting orgasms – if done the right way. Lots of guys make the mistake of fingering a woman and never reaching her g-spot, or if they do, they have no idea how to stimulate it to give her an orgasm. First you have to find the g-spot, which is much, much easier if she’s aroused first. Once you find it, you have to stroke her just the right way to bring her to climax. It’s easy to do it too soft or too hard, and you need just the right amount of pressure to really get your lover to squirt. If you want to learn how to make your partner orgasm so fast and so hard you’ll have no choice but to change the sheets afterwards, here’s what you need to do.

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Make Sure She’s Turned On And Well Lubricated

G-spot stimulation can feel extremely pleasurable for a woman if she’s turned on and well lubricated before you insert your finger. The g-spot is actually quite difficult to find if your lover isn’t aroused, so you want to spend plenty of time on foreplay first, before you head down south. When she’s aroused, the g-spot actually engorges with blood and “plumps up” so to speak, so you can feel it much more easily with your fingers. You also want to make sure she’s plenty wet enough to start, because if she’s not, the dry friction can really be uncomfortable or painful for her.

The Key Is Foreplay!

The key to giving your lover incredible squirting orgasms is making sure you’re spending enough time on foreplay before getting started on her g-spot. Women need lots of warm up time, and they need to be mentally, emotionally and physically relaxed and open before a squirting orgasm will ever happen. If you spend enough time on foreplay, by the time you get down to her vagina, she’s going to be begging you for release! Here are some great foreplay ideas:

  • Oral sex. Women love oral sex and you can actually give her one or two orgasms this way before beginning to finger her g-spot. Remember that women have a shorter refractory period than men do, so she’s actually closer to reaching an orgasm with g-spot stimulation if you’ve given her an orgasm with her clitoris first.
  • Deep, passionate kissing. Make her feel like you’ve got to have her. This will begin to stimulate and arouse her mind, which is critical for her to be able to relax and let go.
  • Sex toys. Tease and please her with a vibrator before you begin to finger her g-spot. She will love that you’re not afraid to use sex toys on her and that you want to watch her receive pleasure from them!

How Do You Find The G-Spot?

This is actually one of the most common questions guys ask when it comes to sex and female orgasms. To find the g-spot, of course, you want to have her turned on and aroused before you go looking for it. It’s located about 2-3 inches inside the vagina on the top wall (the stomach side, not the butt side). You can most easily reach and stimulate the g-spot by inserting one or two fingers about 2 inches into the vagina with your palm facing up. Curl your fingers in towards your body like you’re making a “come hither” motion. You should feel a spongy, textured spot on the top wall that your partner responds to when you rub it or put pressure on it. This is the g-spot!

How To Give Your Lover A Squirting Orgasm

When you find the g-spot, you’ll want to use the “come hither” motion to stimulate it. Start slowly and softly, and gradually work your way up to faster and firmer pressure as your lover shows that she’s enjoying it. Make sure to pay attention to her body language – if she’s scooting away from you or doesn’t seem to be actively enjoying it, you’re most likely not in the right area and are causing her pain or discomfort.

Encourage her to communicate with you and give you direction. Let her know that you want to know if it’s too hard, too soft or if she wants you to stimulate her in a different way. Be open to her suggestions and do them without taking it personally like you’re doing something wrong! Let her show you where and how to touch her!

The Big “O”

For some women, reaching a g-spot orgasm feels somewhat like she has to pee. This feeling may be very intense, and this is most likely when a girl will have a squirting orgasm. When she does climax, her vagina will contract and clamp down hard on your fingers -but don’t let up! You want to stimulate her all the way through her orgasm with the exact same speed and pressure as you had going when she first reached the big “O.”

While you don’t want to put too much pressure on her g-spot to avoid hurting her, giving her a squirting orgasm may take a little more pressure than you originally think. And it may not happen the first few times – keep practicing. You need to practice your skills and your girl needs to practice letting go. It ca be very difficult for a woman to let go enough to squirt wildly, so encourage her and give her praise if she does!

Q&A: How To Avoid Using Your Teeth During A Blowjob

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Oral sex is amazing for a guy – some men even favor oral sex over traditional vaginal intercourse, believe it or not! Fact is, a blowjob is an incredible gift that you can give your guy – unless your pearly whites get caught on his member! Then, you’ve caused more pain than pleasure and it’s not really a gift at all! If you’re experienced at giving head, you probably know how to keep your teeth to yourself but then again, many women think they know how to go down on a guy, when really all they’re doing is causing him pain and discomfort with their teeth! Are you really blowing his mind, or is he humoring you because he doesn’t want to tell you you’re actually hurting him? Here’s how NOT to scrape your teeth against his penis during a blowjob.

Hi Dan and Jenn, my teeth always seem to get in the way when I give my boyfriend a blowjob and I’m afraid of hurting him. Do you know what I could do to stop this? I love your channel!

–YouTube Viewer

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You REALLY Don’t Want To Use Your Teeth

No matter how kinky you think your guy is, or how kinky you are, it’s not the time to nibble or bite when giving a blowjob. Teeth can put an amazing amount of pressure on a man’s penis, and that’s just scary – not to mention all the horror stories guys have heard about men getting their penises bit off during oral sex (most of them aren’t true, but these are horror stories that circulate the locker room nonetheless). Fact is, guys are just terrified of your pearly whites, plain and simple. So no, you really don’t want to use them during a blowjob – on purpose, on accident or otherwise.

Use Your Hands Instead

The most common time that the teeth scrape against the penis during oral sex is when a woman tries to put the whole thing in her mouth. Sure, deep throating is great and all if you know how to do it, but most of the time, women accidentally drag their teeth against their lover’s member on the way up. You can avoid this by not going down so far on his penis and using your hand to stimulate the shaft instead. Using your hand as an extension of your mouth gives him pressure and stimulation at the base of his penis (which is necessary for him to reach orgasm) and leaves your mouth free to stimulate the sensitive nerves on the head.

Use Your Tongue And Lips More

A lot of women think that if they just simply suck on a man’s penis, that they’re giving fellatio the right way. Nothing could be further from the truth! A great blowjob doesn’t happen by just sticking a penis in your mouth. You have to have some skill in this area, and use your tongue and lips to stimulate the many different sensitive areas of a man’s genitals.

Licking the head of his penis can be extremely pleasurable for him, especially if you’re using your hands at the base of his shaft to give him a handjob. You can do this more easily if you use a nice, flavored lube that you don’t mind the taste of. Your lips are soft and wet too, so don’t forget how amazing those can feel when you’re kissing all the way up and down his member!

Wrap Your Lips Around His Teeth

As your lover gets closer and closer to orgasm, he’s going to need less licking and sucking and faster, more rhythmic stimulation. You can do this with your hand, but if your lover prefers you using your mouth only, wrap your lips over your teeth as you move your mouth up and down his shaft. This may be a little uncomfortable because in essence, you’re squishing your lips over your teeth and then putting pressure on them, but it’s totally worth it not to drag your teeth over your lover’s shaft as you’re giving him head.

There’s something in it for you too though ladies – ever notice how incredibly soft your lips are after doing this? That’s because you’ve exfoliated all the dead skin off your lips – and there’s also more blood flow to your lips, so they’re nice and plump. So why not give your guy an incredible blowjob before heading out for a date, and then just swipe some clear lip gloss on? People will swear you’ve had work done!

Use Your Hands To Control The Speed

If your partner starts getting really into what you’re doing, he may start thrusting his hips faster and faster as he gets closer to climax. This may end up doing more harm than good, because if he’s going too fast, you’re going to have a lot less control over what is going on and your teeth may slip out from behind your lips and scrape him – which can be worse and do more damage if you’re going fast! If he starts thrusting too fast, use your hands to control his hips and slow him down. He’ll still most likely reach orgasm if you’re going a little slower, and you can avoid any painful accidents.

What Men Can Learn From Lesbian Sex

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Lesbian sex can sometimes be more satisfying for a woman than sex with a guy – why is that and how can you recreate it?

I know what you’re thinking. You’re expecting some “Brianna Loves Jenna” play-by-play involving pillow fights and strap-ons. Well, it’s not happening. That’s your version of lesbian sex, and you’re way off base. Women in lesbian relationships generally report a higher level of sexual satisfaction than their heterosexual counterparts. “Well, yeah,” you’re thinking, “they have the equipment.” Well, yes, but not in the way you’re thinking. The “equipment” you deem necessary for sex is just your penis, which is quite different than what women bring to the bedroom. Kissing, touching, sucking, caressing – these are all parts of a woman’s sexual experience, and you’ve been ignoring them.

Are Men Boring In Bed?

This may come as a shock to most men, but a lot of women think men are boring in the sack. This is because men think that there is a method to sex: get her wet, get inside, and get your rocks off. There is no real explanation for how this sequence of events became the norm, but it’s causing real sexual inhibitions in men.

Sex is not a job. There’s no sequence of tasks that must be performed in order to achieve the end game, i.e. blowing your wad. Concentrating solely on your own orgasm takes the intimacy out of the sexual experience. You may have gotten off, but you haven’t maximized the pleasure of either party. Okay, maybe you went down on her. Were you savoring each sensation? Or were you thinking, “Hurry up and cum so I can get up in there!”

Orgasms & Oral Sex

When two women have sex, they are not working toward one simple goal. An orgasm does not signal the end, and they don’t go in treating it as such. Every look and every touch is part of the experience. The warmth of the other’s lips, the softness of her skin, and how she responds to being touched is shared between partners. It is very much about the two coming together for mutual pleasure and shared intimacy. It is also about fun, and you know what they say about girls just wanted to have fun.

Oral sex is a very large part of lesbian sex, simply because girls recognize it as one of the greatest ways to experience an orgasm. While many girls only couples do take part in fingering each other or using strap-ons or other sex toys to pleasure their lovers, oral sex is almost always a part of true, honest to goodness lesbian sex because it just simply feels divine for the receiving partner! You can tease and please with oral sex, or you can get down and dirty and really give your lover something to squeal about. Many men disregard the importance of oral sex for a woman – because plain ol’ intercourse gets him off, it should get her off too, right? Take a cue from the lezzies and engage in some great foreplay and oral sex with your lover. Make her toes curl!

How NOT To Miss Out

Fear not, pal, there’s good news for you, too. Your heterosexual female partner is responding to your lips and hands in the same way a gay woman responds to her lover. She loves the way your skin smells and the way your breath tastes. It’s how you got her into bed in the first place. When she gives you a blowjob, it’s not because she just loves having a penis in her mouth, it’s because she savors the pleasure it provides you. Making love in this way satisfies all your senses, not just your penis. Don’t miss out on all the pleasure! You’re only cheating yourself.

Advanced Foreplay Techniques: Drive Her Wild With Nipple Play

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Advanced foreplay techniques can really up the ante in your sex life. Sex can get boring or monotonous after some time, especially when you’re with someone for months and even years. You come to expect certain things during sex and you get used to how your partner does things – and while this isn’t always a bad thing (comfortable sex can be really great sometimes) – the fire will wane after a while.

If your sex life is in a rut, you are probably looking for any and all tips and techniques that you can use to spice things up between you and your lover. Nipple play is one of the greatest advanced foreplay techniques in your arsenal. Here’s how to make her toes curl by playing with her nipples!

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Most Men Don’t Know How To Stimulate A Woman’s Nipples The Right Way

The majority of men don’t know how to stimulate a woman’s nipples in a way that will be pleasing to her. Some men forget about massaging or stimulating the breasts completely, while other guys play with them a little bit and then move on completely to other parts of her body, without ever coming back to stimulate the nipples again.

Other guys pinch too hard or manhandle a woman’s breasts, causing pain and discomfort. Very few guys actually touch a girl’s breasts and nipples the way that she likes. Did you know that you can give a woman incredibly powerful orgasms by including her breasts when using advanced foreplay techniques?

Start Slowly And Softly

Just like with anything sexual, you want to start off slowly and softly. You don’t want to grab your lover’s breasts too hard, and you don’t want to start pinching her nipples right away. You want to lead up to more direct and aggressive stimulation only after you’ve sufficiently gotten your partner turned on.

Lift her breasts when you caress them, and touch them softly. Very lightly caress her nipples with your fingers, before ever putting your lips or tongue on them. Kiss and lick all around her nipples, but don’t go for the gold just yet. You want to tease a little bit and get her craving your touch before you give it to her. Don’t forget to take your time, enjoy yourself and have fun!

Licking And Sucking Her Nipples

When using advanced foreplay techniques on your partner’s breasts, you’re going to want to put your mouth on them at some point, after you’ve touched her softly and gotten her turned on. Lick softly and slowly over her nipples with your tongue. Feel free to draw her nipple in your mouth and suck on it or flick it with your tongue for a few seconds, but do not start nursing. That is not arousing!

You can easily incorporate temperature play here by breathing softly on her nipples either with warm or cool air. Take your time, because it takes plenty of time for a woman to get really warmed up and aroused.

Taking It A Step Further

After your lover is aroused, you can start thinking about gently nibbling on her nipples or using a little more suction or pressure. A slightly firmer touch can be very pleasurable for a woman if she’s already aroused. If you start out with intense pinching or firm sucking before she’s fully and completely aroused, you’re very likely going to turn her off. The more aroused she is, the more pressure she can take (and enjoy) when you’re using advanced foreplay techniques.

Alternate Between Oral Sex And Nipple Play

To take your advanced foreplay techniques even further, you can incorporate oral sex into your nipple play. After getting your lover aroused by stimulating her nipples, you can switch to oral sex and lick her clitoris for a few minutes before switching your attention back to her breasts. If you plan to be doing this for any length of time, you definitely want to switch between at least two different areas to stimulate. If you stimulate one area for too long, it’s not going to feel as pleasurable as it did, even if it was incredibly pleasurable for her before. It may even start to hurt if you don’t move around at all!

After just a few minutes of going back and forth between her breasts and oral sex, she’s going to be begging for you to finish her off! If you want to really push her hot buttons – or if you’re looking to give her an orgasm – lightly pinch and rub her nipples at the same time you’re licking her clitoris. Listen to your lover’s moans of pleasure and pay attention to her body language to know what you need to be doing next!