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7 Blowjob Tips That Will Turn His Knees To Jelly

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A blowjob is heavenly for a guy – even if you suck at it (pun intended). If you’re feeling like your oral sex skills are sub-par, spicing up your routine a bit isn’t difficult. These seven tips will show you how to step up your game when it comes to giving your partner fellatio and you’ll learn how to give him a blowjob so good, he’ll go weak at the knees.

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Sex Positions For A Blowjob

You may think that sex positions are only good for intercourse, but finding the right one for a blowjob is key for his pleasure – and your comfort. Lots of girls absolutely hate giving their guy head simply because they can’t find a position that doesn’t put an instant cramp in their neck! The other thing to think about when finding the right position to give your man a blowjob is his viewpoint. You definitely want him to be able to see you do your thing – this is what is going to make him melt!

Try kneeling on a pillow while your partner sits in a chair, on the couch or on the edge of a bed. This will keep you from holding your head at an odd angle, making your neck sore.

Sloppy Wet

Don’t try to suck in all your spit when giving head – in fact, let the drool dribble out of your mouth, down your partner’s shaft and onto his legs. The sloppier the blowjob, the better. Keep a towel nearby for easy clean up afterwards, but while you’re going down on him, don’t worry about keeping it dry. It feels much, much better for him the wetter it is.

Use A Cock Ring

Sure, you can use a vibrator or a g-spot stimulator on a girl while you give her oral sex, but most people don’t know what sex toys can be used when going down on a guy. While most male sex toys are made for manual stimulation, a cock ring can be used during a blowjob to enhance the pleasurable sensations you’re giving your man.

Slip the cock ring over the head of his penis after he’s hard and slide it all the way down to the bottom of the shaft. This will help keep blood in the head of his penis, allowing him to stay rock hard during the blowjob and feel every little thing you’re doing. Don’t have a cock ring? Simply wrap your thumb and your forefinger around the base of the penis until the tips of your fingers are touching, forming a tight ring around his shaft.

Learn To Deep Throat

If you’ve never tried to deep throat your partner, you don’t know just how challenging this can be for a woman to do for her fella. The gag reflex is a powerful reflex and when it’s stimulated, it can be difficult not to gag or vomit. Every girl has a secret fear of trying to deep throat and ending up puking on her man’s lap. However, surprising your man with a deep throat maneuver during a blowjob will rock his world. Learning how to do it (without puking) will definitely up the “wow” factor when you give your guy head, so it’s well worth it to try.

In this case, practice makes perfect. Practice on a banana and breathe through your nose until you get the hang of it. Go slow and give yourself plenty of time to learn this difficult but worthwhile skill.

Let Him Come Where He Pleases

A lot of guys have a secret ejaculation fantasy – he may get really turned on by the idea by ejaculating on your face (also known as a “facial”) or on your breasts when he’s reached orgasm after a blowjob. So ask him what he’d like to do and let him do it! It might seem gross to you to let him ejaculate all over your face, but if you let him and act like you’re enjoying it (make it believable!) he’ll melt at the fact that you’ve let him try his secret oral sex fantasy.

Lick Around A Little First

Many women simply dive right in when they give a blowjob and start sucking fervently right away. While this isn’t necessarily a “no-no” (the guy’s still getting head, right?) but your man would definitely appreciate it if you slowed it down a bit when you’re just getting started. Men need foreplay to warm up too!

Tease him a little by nibbling on his lower stomach and his cut lines, before lightly running your tongue up and down his shaft while he watches. You can also rub your nipples and breasts over his shaft as you lick and kiss his tummy. He’ll be begging you to put his member in your mouth before you’re done.

Get Vocal

Don’t give him a quiet blowjob. Nothing is worse for a guy when his lady makes him feel like giving him head is a chore. Instead, get a little vocal and act like you’re enjoying it too. You don’t have to go all out and sound like a porn star giving a stellar performance, but you definitely don’t want to be entirely quiet. In between the lascivious sounds of you sucking him off, give him a deep moan or two that will make him feel like you’re getting off too. Better yet, rub your clitoris a little while going down on him to make him think that you’re so turned on by giving him a blowjob that you just couldn’t handle it anymore.

How To Avoid The Biggest Mistake Almost All Men Make In Bed

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You can read hundreds of sex tips a day and still make this blunder – almost all guys do. No matter how great a guy may think he is in the sack, he’s probably still making this incredibly simple to avoid but still common mistake. Are you guilty? Here’s what every guy should avoid in bed if he wants to have amazing sex and why.

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Almost All Men Trying To Be Good In Bed Make This Simple Mistake

There is one simple slipup that almost all men make in the sack, and they don’t even really know what it is or why they do it! Most guys are completely oblivious to this blunder, because very few technique books talk about it. Even guys that are seasoned in the sex department will get caught doing this, and they’ll do it over and over again because they’re just not seeing it as a problem – because it doesn’t easily point itself out. Both men that are new to having sex and those who consider themselves Casanovas in the sack can be guilty of doing this, without realizing that they’re actually sabotaging themselves:

Problem: Trying Too Hard To Put On A Good “Performance” And Forgetting To Enjoy It

The problem that a lot of guys have when they get down and dirty with a woman is focusing too hard on putting on a good performance. Many men start looking to advice books and websites that give them pointers on how to pleasure a girl, but sometimes this can actually do more harm than good. Guys can become so focused on technique – like exactly how to perform oral sex or what sex positions are the best for g-spot penetration – that they forget to actually enjoy the simple act of having sex!

Why Is This Bad?

When you struggle to put on a good show when you’re in bed with your partner, you’re forgetting to enjoy it and you’re also forgetting to make sure that your partner enjoys it too. Being too focused on technique can cause you to become more withdrawn from the emotional aspect of having sex, which is pretty much the exact opposite of what women want their guy to do. Almost all women want to become more emotionally involved in sex, rather than less.

Remember when you and your current flame first started having sex, weay back at the beginning of your relationship? Remember how great it was? This was because you were less focused on the “how to” aspect of doing it and completely absorbed in the experience of having it with someone new.

How To Fix It

There’s an easy way to fix this problem and make you and your partner feel more connected to each other during sex. Commit to using no “techniques” for a month straight, and focus only on enjoying the experience of having sex. This is much like first time sex, when you nor your partner really know what you’re doing and you’re just going with the flow. You can re-create that by going with the flow now, and forgoing trying to perform certain techniques or use certain sex positions.

Instead, just do what feels good and encourage your partner to do the same. After you’ve spent a month just enjoying the experience of having sex with your lover, then you can bring back in the techniques and use them to make it better. You’ll be more apt to know which technique to use at what time, because you’ll be more in tune and connected with your lover. Even the best sex tips just won’t work until you’ve built that foundation of learning to have sex and enjoy the experience with your partner without all the fancy stuff.

Use This Anytime You Need To Spice Up Your Sex Life

If making love with your partner starts to get boring again, repeat the above steps to bring the fire back into your sex life. Going a month without using any kind of special sex tips isn’t something that will just benefit your sexual relationship with your partner once, it can be used again and again to add a “fresh” feeling to it when it gets boring or mundane over time.

You can also try taking a break from sex all together for a few weeks or even a month. That saying that “absence makes the heart grow fonder” also works with your groins too! Watch how just taking a break from using special techniques or from it all together will make your sex life explode!

How To Make A Woman Enjoy An EXPLOSIVE Orgasm!

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An orgasm is something every guy wants to learn how to give their partners. If you are anything like the other men reading this article, you probably yearn to be the best lover your woman has ever had, right? But if you have been reading any of the gossip columns in women’s magazines, or been checking out any of the sex surveys in recent years, you would be WELL aware that the vast majority of women are NOT satisfied in bed!

So how do you give your woman a phenomenal time in bed? Simple! Read on and learn about these 5 sexy strategies to light up her orgasmic passions tonight!

Deep Connection Dynamics

By focusing all your attention entirely on her, you can give her what she wants. If you are thinking of other things while you are making love to her or performing oral sex on her, she will sense it. Put all of your attention on her as if she is the most beautiful and desirable woman in the world. She will bask in this type of attention and begin to glow. Once you connect with her emotionally in this manner, you will set the stage for her to respond in a way you would have never imagined!

Play The Voyeur

Many women never reach orgasm with their partners because they are too shy to tell them what they want. Yet the vast majority of women can achieve an orgasm through masturbation. So, encourage her to pleasure herself and OBSERVE the moves she make so that you can do the same to her.

Every woman has specific areas on her body that she loves to be touched. Learn where these “hot spots” are, and give them you undivided attention. Many women can come to an orgasm within ten minutes of sensuous foreplay from their partners, making this an easy way for you to please her without too much effort (or time)!

Practice “Tongue Gymnastics”

Kissing. It is the one thing that makes or breaks a man’s ability to be a great, sensuous lover. Make sure that you do not hold back on the kissing. It is one of the most important aspects of your lovemaking, if not the most important. Start with her mouth and then move to other parts of her body. Her bodily reactions and breathing patterns tell you and show you the sensitive parts of her body. Work on them, slowly tantalizing her senses and turning on the faucet to her orgasmic potential.

Exert Oral Influence

Most women cannot get enough of oral sex, simply because it is a very POWERFUL (and deceptively easy) way for them to reach an orgasm. Use your fingers and tongue to stimulate her clitoris. One great way to give AND receive oral sex simultaneously is in the “69” position, giving you the best of both worlds! Oral sex alone can potentially bring a woman to multiple, mind-tingling orgasms that will only intensify when you proceed to intercourse.

If you need a little more “help” to maximize her pleasure, why not bring along something that can help you in bed, like a sex toy? I would recommend choosing a toy that is intended for anal stimulation. This is one of the most pleasurable sexual acts if done in a proper manner. Anal stimulation, together with clitoral stimulation with your tongue, can provide a deadly “combo” and trigger an intense female orgasm.

Movement Modulation

Instead of just starting intercourse and pumping away, enter her slowly. Modulate your movements and pay attention to her reactions. For instance, start off with shallow penetration, pull out and then tease her a bit, rubbing your manhood against her clitoris. Then enter her again. Gradually build up your thrusts so that it heightens her sexual anticipation and primes her for powerful orgasms when she is ready.

How To Deep Throat (Without Gagging)

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Oral sex is incredibly pleasurable for a guy. In fact, it can even be more pleasurable than penetration and intercourse! The best part about oral sex for a guy is feeling a hot, wet mouth all over him – especially when a woman takes his entire penis in her mouth in a deep throat move.

While just about every guy loves deep throating, most girls do not. This is because deep throating often causes a woman to gag – and sometimes even vomit. The gag reflex, however, can be controlled with a little effort and some practice. Here’s how you can deep throat your lover without gagging.

Learn How To Breathe Through Your Nose

When giving a guy a blowjob, it’s important that you learn to breathe through your nose, even when you’re not deep throating. Even a small penis can block the airway from the mouth to the lungs, making it near impossible to breathe through your mouth during a blowjob. This is because your partner’s penis will go into your esophagus when you deep throat, blocking off the passage of air through the windpipe. Instead, learn how to breathe through your nose so the air can go directly from your nose to your lungs, completely bypassing your esophagus.

If you try to breathe through your mouth during a blowjob, you’re much more likely to gag or even vomit. Learning to breathe through your nose during a blowjob and while deep throating is an important skill to have in your oral sex tool belt.

Get Your Throat Parallel To His Penis

A big reason that the gag reflex gets stimulated during a blowjob is because the angle between the mouth and the throat isn’t set up to have a straight penis go in. You can actually overcome this easily by switching sex positions and getting your throat parallel to your lover’s penis.

Usually, the easiest way to do this is to lie on a bed on your back, with your head at the very edge of the bed. Scoot up so your head is basically hanging off the edge of the bed, which puts your mouth and throat in almost a straight line. This will make it much easier for your partner to insert his penis down your throat without rubbing so hard against the top of your throat (which is where the gag reflex is.)

Learn To Relax Your Throat Muscles

Relaxing your throat muscles is essential when it comes to giving your partner a good deep throat. Slowly insert your partner’s penis into your mouth, pushing past your gag reflex and down into your throat. When you feel the urge to gag, work on closing your eyes, breathing through your nose and relaxing your throat muscles.

This isn’t a technique that will come easily – it’s one that must take a lot of practice to really get the hang of it. Your partner probably won’t mind if you want to practice on him though!

Make Sure You’re In Control Of The Thrusting

While having your head hanging off the edge of the bed doesn’t exactly put you in a prime position to control your partner’s thrusting during oral sex, make sure that you at least have your hands on his hips and can guide him in and out of your mouth. If your partner is in complete control over his thrusting during fellatio, you’re much more likely to gag because you can’t control how deep he goes and when.

Trusting Your Partner

Since this type of oral sex can go wrong in so many ways (who wants a lap full of vomit?), it’s important to have a partner that you truly trust and can be open and honest with. Talk with your partner about the level of trust you’re putting in him to allow him to deep throat you, and make sure he agrees not to abuse it by going too hard or too fast without your explicit consent.

Having A Safe “Gesture”

While this type of oral sex is generally safe, you should still consider having a safe “gesture” that will let your partner know to stop immediately. You can’t use words while deep throating, so decide hand signal of some kind before you and your partner get busy. Use the safe “gesture” as though you would a safe word during bondage or kinky sex to let your lover know that you’re uncomfortable, in pain or want to stop for any reason. Make sure that you and your lover are on the same page about stopping whatever is going on immediately if the gesture is used.

7 Lovemaking Mistakes That Couples Make And How To Avoid Them

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Did you know that people who try to spice up their lovemaking, often make their experiences LESS fulfilling? It’s true. Over the years, I’ve seen couples make the same mistakes over and over again, when trying to improve their love lives, and I’d like to teach you how to overcome and avoid these problems.

Here are the 7 lovemaking mistakes. Are you making them?

Mistake #1: Feeling Scared Or Embarrassed About Trying New Things

Have you ever had an idea to spice up your lovemaking but were afraid of what your partner may think? Believe it or not, in 90% of cases, your partner would LOVE to try something new, too, but they’re just as uncomfortable or embarrassed about bringing it up as you are.

And you don’t need to introduce whips, chains or a third person. That’s nonsense! There are hundreds of ways to bring kink and variety to your passionate play that aren’t crude or dangerous and that your partner is sure to be comfortable with.

Mistake #2: Trying To Convince Your Partner To Have Sex

If your lover is tired or not in the mood for sex, trying to convince or persuade them to have sex almost NEVER works. On the other hand, when a person is sexually aroused, their body releases the chemical ‘adrenaline’ into the bloodstream. This chemical is what gives you the energy for lovemaking. So here’s how to arouse them the right way. Yes, even if they’re tired.

Ladies: Want to get him in the mood? Give him a blowjob or a handjob between 9 and­ 10 in the morning. This is when his testosterone levels are highest for the day. For better results, also wear something sexy or nothing at all. He’ll like that.

Lads: Deep passionate kisses are one of the biggest ‘turn-ons’ for women. Looking in her eyes and touching her face while kissing her can really increase arousal, too. And give some attention to her neck – ­­it will drive her wild. But don’t rush this! Spend quality time building up her arousal with your sensual kisses.

MISTAKE #3: Neglecting Foreplay To Enjoy Intercourse Sooner

People in a relationship (especially men) tend to neglect foreplay so they can begin to enjoy lovemaking sooner, but did you know that foreplay is actually said to intensify orgasms? That’s right. If you kiss, caress and touch longer, you can make your lovemaking even more satisfying.

So SLOW DOWN. Take your time. If you want to make it even better, tease your partner in a playful way. (This works like crazy.) If you find something that they really enjoy, stop doing it, move back, and then do it again later. The more you pull back and push forward, the more they’ll want it. And the more intense their experience will be. There are many games you can play to heighten this anticipation, too.

Mistake #4: Using Sex Toys Or Porn To Make Your Lovemaking Better

When sex hits a rough patch, many couples (men especially) think that a video, some plastic or vibrating thingy will instantly takes things through the roof. Wrong! While sex toys can certainly have their place in your lovemaking repertoire, relying on them can be extremely dangerous. These outside sources of pleasure can quickly make lovemaking even less fulfilling.

Why? Because you don’t want your partner to end up looking forward to their plastic toy for pleasure more than they look forward to pleasure with you, do you? Couples need to first fully discover how to please all their spouses’ body parts before introducing other elements. Use them as a spice, not the main course.

Mistake #5: Trying To Make A Woman Orgasm With Penetration Only

Men often feel “unmanly” if they can’t satisfy their woman from intercourse. But what they need to understand is that a large number of women can’t achieve orgasm through normal lovemaking.

Just knowing this takes the pressure off men completely. Now there’s no need to get upset when their women don’t reach orgasm. Instead, men should master the art of cunnilingus (going down on a woman).

Mistake #6: Trying To Orgasm At The Same Time

Simultaneous orgasms are quite overrated. Instead of aiming for one orgasm that you share together, focus completely on the woman’s needs first. Hold off from the positions you find most enjoyable and instead make love in ways that are most pleasurable for your lady, until she is completely satisfied. That way you have a much greater chance of both climaxing.

Mistake #7: Sticking To A “Set Routine”

You know the drill. You take your clothes off, insert part A into part B, and, within a few minutes, the routine is over. Sound familiar? No matter how fantastic lovemaking can be, there’s no denying it can get boring over the years. And the reason is because lovemaking in its basic act is always the same. But the danger is letting it get “too routine,” which can begin to affect your relationship.

The BEST WAY to protect your love life and precious connection with your partner is to have lots of new lovemaking ideas ready at your disposal. That’s the secret.

In fact, when you have an abundance of NEW tips and techniques ready, you’ll enjoy more hot, steamy and passionate lovemaking, discover newfound enthusiasm to make love and even do it  more often.