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How To Talk To Her About Sex

Sex can be a difficult topic to cover in a conversation, but sometimes it’s necessary. Here’s how to discuss sex with a woman the right way.

Probably the most important conversation you can have with your lady about orgasms is the one in which you find out what it is she really likes. The best place to have this conversation is in the bedroom, because if done correctly, you’re going to be doing a lot more than just talking.

Let Her Know You Want Great Sex

After you’ve discussed with your partner your desire to be an even better lover, you then need to explain that to do that you need to experiment a little and find out what she likes. If she’s willing (and most partners probably will be), the next step is to set the mood.

Use foreplay techniques to help her become aroused, then have her stretch out on a comfortable surface, preferably a bed. She should, of course, be completely naked. The next step is for you to explore her body. Move your hands slowly over every inch of her skin. Try different strokes, different movements on each part and take note of the ones, which bring about the most impressive results.

When you’ve explored her exterior, you’re ready to some similar exploring inside her. Try rubbing her clitoris in a variety of patterns. If you have some sex toys, give them a try as well. The idea is to experiment as much as you can to see what makes her feel the best. Encourage your partner to let you know what feels good because that’s the only way you’ll be able to get better. After all of your experimenting, both of you will probably be pretty worked up so take the chance to try out one of the of the positions from the book and see what happens.

How To Get Her To Communicate

When it comes to female orgasms, you and your partner are going to have to open the lines of communication. Even though lots of people have trouble talking about sex in and out of the bedroom, these conversations will provide you with a solid foundation on which to build.

Some sex conversations should be held in the bedroom while you’re both relaxed and aroused. This can make you both less inhibited and more likely to honestly share your secrets. It also makes it easier for the two of you to take things to the next level if those secrets turn you on.

Not all women are comfortable talking about sex. As we’ve said, women vary in how comfortable they are with this subject. If your woman is a little more reserved, don’t push her. Find ways of building trust with her and she will eventually open up to you.

The faked orgasm conversation is one that both of you need to have. By talking about this sensitive subject, you’ll show that you really are the kind of lover your partner wants and needs.

Never, Ever Be Judgmental

Never be judgmental. One important thing to remember when you are sharing sexual secrets is that you cannot be judgmental of her. If you tell her what she’s doing is wrong or bad, then she’s going to feel worse about her own sexuality, close her mind to experimentation, and feel betrayed by you. All of this is going to hinder her ability to reach orgasm with you or her future partners. If you can’t keep your negative opinions to yourself, then you probably shouldn’t be asking her these questions in the first place.

How To Give Women Multiple Orgasms EASILY!

By lloydlester

Multiple orgasms are often considered the “holy grail” of sex. They’re not as difficult to elicit as you might think – here’s how to do it the easy way.

Men may find it very easy to get into the mood during sex and even easier to reach a climax. But for women it takes more time and effort. If you wish to amaze her when it comes to your sexual ability, you have to be able to meet her personal preferences and get her excited with your mysterious ways. What is promising though, is that when you do get her to that wonderful “sexual high,” she can keep that feeling and experience multiple climatic episodes. So cajole and satisfy her with these titillating ways….

Make The Prelude To Sex A Fun Escapade

Women are emotional creatures. Their bodies need a little help to bring up the lust and arousal needed for intercourse and multiple orgasms. No woman can resist a very attentive man, especially one who knows his way around her mind and body. Did you know that the most active sex organ in her entire body is not her vagina but her mind? Feed it with the right words and you will be able to stimulate her mentally even before you get to touch any part of her. She will even yearn for your touch and kisses if your gift for words can make her visualize all those wonderful things you are going to do to her. She will totally lose her inhibitions when you start to caress her.

Savor Her Throughout The Whole Act

Seductive men are those who make women feel beautiful, desirable, comfortable, and loved. In order to do that, you have to savor her. So that means you have to take your time. Do not go to the main event quickly. Delay and make it an everlasting pleasure for her. Explore her body like it is a beautiful and delicate work of art that is uniquely hers. Make it a fun banter between you and her.

Give Her Multiple Orgasms By Matching Her Rhythm

Make sure that you are in rhythm with her when you are making your moves during intercourse. Do not perform movements and motions that suddenly start or stop out of nowhere. She will perceive you as being lacking in confidence in what you are doing or worse, see you as someone clumsy and unsure. Be self assured and believe in yourself. The more you can connect with her during sex (i.e. make her feel sexy and in sync with her emotions and rhythms), the greater the chance she can reach sizzling hot multiple orgasms.

How To Give Her A Mind Blowing Clitoral Orgasm

By loveandsex

An orgasm is the icing on the cake when it comes to sex for a woman. Give her clitoris lots of attention during sex and she’ll be putty in your hands!

The three stages of building an incredible orgasm with her clitoris are as follows:

Early Goings (Disarming)
The Build-Up Stage
On the Edge

Let’s talk about stages 1 & 3 first. Notice the clear distinction between stimulation in the Early Goings and On the Edge.

Early Goings vs. On The Edge Of Orgasm

In the Early Goings, don’t be overly intent on the clitoris itself – instead, pay attention to the areas surrounding it – they’re gold. In some cases, the surroundings may even be more sensitive than her bud.

And when you do come to provoking the clit itself, start off with soft, slow, palm, indirect (via clitoral hood) stimulation. It’s gentle & sweet, disarming but exciting. This settles her down but also creates an expectant eagerness for things to come.

Clearly, a different set of stimulation is required when she’s on the edge, you have to do better than gentle and sweet if you’re going to push her all the way. Stage 3 requires harder, faster and more direct stimulation – a far cry from the innocent, slow maneuverings at the onset.

The Build Up Stage

It means a progressive increase in stimulation. Soft becomes a bit harder, slow gets a bit faster, the palm soon becomes the fingers, and indirect is replaced by direct confrontation. This increases the sexual tension flooding her brain.

During Stage 2, you’ll hear sighs turn into moans, with her body beginning to writhe in exquisite pleasure. She’ll begin squirming seriously as she’s feeling hotter and more thrilled by the second. You’ll hear panting as her pulse shots triple time. If you’ve really done well, tiny beads of sweat will perceptibly well out. She’ll start gyrating with your hands, her pelvis moving to get as much action going. Her eyes will almost always be closed, she will even forget that you exist!

How does one actually go about stage 2?

This is the time to invest in the push & the pull.

That means you start from slow and begin to go faster. From light, you go harder. Pulling is when you tone down and go the other way.

So for example, instead of a continuous, rhythmic stimulation, you might STOP for a few seconds. Resume, and then stop again. The pull is the harder of the two, because it’s as if you’re purposely squandering what has been gained, wandering away from the goal. But know that this is as vital as the push.

Instead of increasing pressure on the clitoris, you slacken a bit and take it easy for a while. Then increase pressure again. Instead of going faster, ease off and coast along. Then build up speed again. Remember, teasing always comes in pairs – the push and the pull – bringing her down and bringing her up to an even more scintillating height.

This naturally takes more time, but this is definitely a worthwhile investment.

Getting Closer

Now, this is the point where I want to make something very clear: As she gets closer to orgasm, gradually phase out the teasing.

That means the longer you are into the process, the pauses, breaks and easing off become shorter in span and less in frequency. There comes a point when the teasing entirely disappears and you simply bring your woman to orgasm without bringing her down. The pull becomes useless at some point, you simply go forward and never look back.

That means you become more aggressive with the clit, giving it faster and harder provocations. You increasingly focus on it until you deal with it exclusively – never giving it rest and forsaking the rest of her body. A few seconds of this type of stimulation and she will orgasm, big time.

Of course, it will be your call when to do away with teasing altogether. I can’t tell you exactly when to do this. Gauge her and decide.

After her first blow, unlike men, she doesn’t dive to non-arousal – she remains horny still although she is quite sensitive. It really becomes easy to usher in those multiple orgasms because after she starts exploding, she can keep going as each subsequent orgasm get easier.

After she cums, this is what you do: Leave her clitoris alone for a minute or two and do something else. Her clit gets extra-sensitive after an orgasm, just as the head of your penis gets extra-vulnerable after ejaculation. (By the way, this is not a refractory period, women don’t have them.) After a minute or two, simply reinstate the last thing you were doing that pushed her off, and keep at it.

Not long after, she will orgasm again.

Many guys never discover the multi-orgasmic capacity of their woman simply because they don’t give her a second shot. While a soulful climax may be enough for a lot of couples, know that both of you can opt for more.

How To Introduce Sex Toys To A Woman

By loveandsex

Sex toys can rev up your sex life, but introducing them isn’t always an easy task. How do you bring them in the bedroom without scaring her off?

When you and your partner first started dating, if your first introduction to her bedroom brought you face to face with a bed full of stuffed dolls, your first reaction might have been to run. Women have a similar reaction when men whip out their sexual implements; including toys, lube or specialized condoms. If you haven’t already shared your collection, make sure to follow these simple rules of etiquette first.

Show Your Cards

When things get hot and heavy and you reach for the drawer next to your bed, you may encounter some resistance. Why? If you’ve got a treasure trove of lubes, condoms, toys and vibrators hidden away, it could give the wrong first impression. Most women will already know if you’ve had other partners, but they probably don’t want to be reminded of it in the heat of the moment. Besides, having everything ready at your fingertips will let her on to the fact that you planned for sex, which in the first stages of a new relationship could dampen that “heat of the moment” sort of feeling.

So what’s a guy to do? Be prepared, but don’t pull out the big guns for a while. Use your favorite brand of condom and keep everything else, other than any necessary all-purpose lube, to yourself. After you’ve been together for a while and you’ve shared a handful of intimate experiences, feel free to delve into the toy arena. Just don’t make a big scene about the fact that you’ve used the sex toys with someone else.

Be Aware Of Health Concerns With Sex Toys

This leads to a discussion about sex toys and health concerns. One of the most important accessories in your ‘toy box’ should be a cleaner specifically created for sex toys, and you should use it each and every time you lug them out of their hiding place. Although some movies and TV shows talk about putting your sex toys in the dishwasher, it is a really a bad idea for most materials. Dishwasher water can be too hot, and might break down the material of many an expensive toy in just a few washes. Of course, nothing with batteries or moving parts should ever go into the dishwasher anyway, but you already knew that.

Instead, get a lint-free cloth and a bottle of toy cleaner to keep it on hand. Spray the liquid into the towel, and wipe off every crevice and curve possible. Rinse it with water and let it dry a few hours before putting it away. Most sex shops carry one or two different brands of cleaner, and you want one specifically made for a woman’s very gentle vaginal area; that means unscented and hypoallergenic. In a pinch, soapy water will usually do, but be careful not to submerge anything electric!

Another easier, albeit more expensive form of clean-up is to use condoms on any of your sex toys that will come in contact with either of your body fluids. You will still want to give them a quick wipe down with a damp cloth when you’re done, but most of the clean-up is already taken care of when you whip the latex off.

I should mention as well that all rubber and jelly sex toys are impossible to sterilize. You can clean them even with bleach but proper sterilization is impossible because of their physical makeup. Both hot water and bleach will actually break them down, so that they become unusable with time. That means that if you plan on using jelly or rubber sex toys on more than one person, or if there is both anal and vaginal use in play, you will be putting your partner at risk unless you insist on using a condom.

3 Sex Positions That Will Leave Her Shaken With Delight

By lloydlester

Sex positions are the key to incredible sex. Use these three titillating moves to turn her on and totally rock her world TONIGHT!

The trouble with most guys when it comes to having sex is that they are boring and stick to the same old routines and sex positions that get them off quickly. Sadly this leaves little room for a woman’s sexual fulfillment. But if you are willing to add a little excitement and variety to your sex positions, you could accelerate and accentuate a woman’s ability to enjoy sex and even have an orgasm. And I have not even talked about how much that would do to your confidence in bed!

1. Female Dominance Sex Positions

Whoever said the missionary position is a woman’s favorite? Instead let her get on top of you and give her control during intercourse. By allowing her to control the thrusts and intensity of penetration, you can make sure that she derives maximum pleasure for herself! The added bonus is that while she is sitting on top of you, you can simultaneously stimulate her breasts and clitoris to build up her arousal very quickly.

For a variation of this position, have her face away from you. This allows you to have a greater chance of stimulating her G-spot with your male anatomy. (Hint: the woman-on-top position is also great for guys suffering from premature ejaculation)

2. Titillating Doggy

The doggy style is one of the best positions for both men and women. Many women experience powerful orgasms in this position because it allows deeper penetration and G-spot stimulation. Furthermore, when a woman is on all fours, you have more control with the thrusts and can go harder and faster than you could in the missionary position.

Alternatively, you can also vary these types of sex positions by having her lay flat on her tummy and allow her to raise her buttocks during penetration.

3. Enchanting Embrace

Let her lie on her back, lift her legs up so that they embrace your shoulders and then enter her. This allows you to penetrate deeply and hit her G-spot, especially if you have a penis that bends slightly upwards when erect.

For a variation of this position, have her lay somewhere with her legs up (on a table, for example) so that you can enter her without having to kneel down. This gives you more leverage and also let you have easier access to her clitoris. Hint: Give her simultaneous clitoral stimulation using your thumb when you are penetrating her no matter what sex positions you choose to use. This will double her delight and prime her for a truly fulfilling orgasm… only faster!