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What Is An Anal Orgasm & How To Give One

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Anal sex can be extremely pleasurable, but you have to know what you’re doing. Here’s how to give an orgasm through anal penetration alone.

You might think that an orgasm is an orgasm, no matter which hole was being penetrated, but let me tell you that is not the case.

What Is An “Anal Orgasm?”

The anal orgasm is, as you’ve already figured out, an orgasm brought on by anal stimulation, such as from an inserted finger, penis, or sex toy. All women are able to achieve it, but only a few have the luck to actually experience it. The sexual climax can be either complete or incomplete, depending on your ability to touch, and thrust her at the right moment. Some lucky ones may come to experience an anal orgasm without even stimulating the anus, but by stimulation of the buttocks and anal cleft with the tongue.

How it actually happens: typically, through stimulation of the G spot, through the wall shared between the vagina and the rectum. Yes, it’s an indirect stimulation, but perhaps that’s why so many women (and men!) praise its intensity. As a matter in fact, anecdotal evidence suggests that some women experience anal orgasm as qualitatively different from clitoral or vaginal orgasm.

So yes, anal orgasm is not just a ‘convenient’ theory promulgated by men who want to get their respective girlfriends to try it. It’s real, it’s happening and it can be taught.

There are probably three different sources of sexual stimulation produced by anal intercourse: sensation from the anus, the rectum, and the G spot. Each of these tissues send sensory signals to the brain through different pairs of nerves- the anus through the pudendal nerves, the rectum through the pelvic nerves, and the G spot through the hypogastric nerves.

The orgasm thus achieved is described ‘deeper’, more global and intense, longer lasting and associated with greater feelings of ecstasy.

How To Give An Orgasm During Anal Sex

  1. Start with a firm/soft massage of her buttocks. Use contradictory moves- to enhance pleasure- light vs. firm, teasing vs. real pinching, etc.
  2. After separating the buttocks a little bit, start massaging the area near the anus, but this time use gentler moves
  3. With a well lubed finger start by circling the anal opening with light moves.
  4. Try the analingus technique called Rose Petals, in which you move your tongue in tiny circular loops, as if you are tracing the sepals (the small green leaves at the bottom) of a rose, and then move your tongue in a circle around the rim of the anus (this is known as rimming).
  5. 5. Once you insert a whole finger or a penis and you reach the rectum, another set of pleasures are involved. The outer portion of the rectum, like the vagina, has several nerve endings. The inner portion responds mostly to pressure. Rectal pressure is particularly important to enthusiasts of fisting, a form of anal sex in which several fingers or even the entire hand are inserted into the rectum and sometimes into the lower colon.
  6. 6. When you feel she’s ready to come, if you want to facilitate its appearance, additional manual stimulation of the clitoris is advisable.
  7. Also, for women who love a full feeling, try simultaneous penetration of the anus and the vagina, pairing it with clitoral stimulation, as mentioned above.
  8. The intensity of the anal orgasm can be achieved by psychological aspects as well as physical. The anal taboo adds to the thrill of the forbidden. The most common myth against anal sex (it’s dirty!) sometimes returns as a source of kinky excitement. Rimming enthusiasts may enjoy the feeling that they are being delightfully perverse. Other people regard the anus as a secret, special place. Sharing it with a partner is an act of openness and giving.
  9. The easiest way to NOT have an anal orgasm is to become determined to have one. Seeking it will create new pressures and disrupt the pleasure.
  10. Diet also contributes to the feeling of anal pleasure. Regular bowel movements and a sufficient amount of fiber in the system prevents irritation of the bowel tissues, which causes discomfort and adds up to muscular tension.

Are You Following These 4 Rules Of Foreplay?

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Foreplay is essential for great sex, but do you really know what you’re doing? Here are some before sex musts that you definitely don’t want to avoid.

Most men and women do not understand these rules and are, as a result, not as good at foreplay as they could be. These are important to learn now because when you and your partner are in the heat of the moment, you won’t have time to check back with each other. So let’s take a look at how the rules of it work.

1. No Genital Touching

Foreplay does not involve genital touching. Some couples I’ve worked with had the belief that if the woman was giving the man a handjob or if the man was playing with her clitoris, then they were engaging in foreplay. WRONG! It does not involve touching your partner’s genitals in any manner.

So when it comes to it, keep your hands away from your partner’s vagina until you know that she is well into the second stage (plateau). Also, if she tries to touch your penis, you should pull her hand away. By holding back, you’ll be increasing sexual tension in both of you.

2. Oral Sex Isn’t Foreplay

Foreplay is not the same as oral sex. Another problem I’ve encountered with couples is that they falsely believe that oral sex counts. While it’s true that some people would agree with that idea, the truth is that oral sex is just another variation of vaginal intercourse.

Also, refer back to the first guidelines and keep your hands (and your tongue) off of each other’s genitals.

3. Go Slow!

It should be slow. It is not meant to be a quick hurdle men have to jump over to get to the finish line. Instead, it is supposed to be a slow, gradual increase in sexual arousal and tension. When it’s done properly, women become so aroused that they will actually beg for penetration. Imagine how that would make you feel as a lover!

4. Foreplay Can Happen Anywhere!

It can begin anywhere. Another misconception about foreplay is that it must begin in the location where sex is going to happen. For example, if you are going to have sex in the bedroom, then foreplay starts when you get into the bedroom. WRONG!

The Truth About How Long You REALLY Need To Last In Bed!

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Premature ejaculation is surrounded by many myths. Most guys think that they need to have marathon sex to be any good – but is it really true? Find out now!

For many men, sexual endurance and self-confidence go hand in hand in the bedroom. If you are not lasting long enough, your sense of self worth and confidence are likely to plummet.

But first – exactly how long is long enough?

How Long Should Sex Really Last?

There is something about adult movies that gives men the misconception that sex should last for an hour or more. But the simple truth is, you only need to last as long as a YouTube clip!

While the debate about ideal sexual stamina has been ongoing for as long as mankind, sexual therapists have in recent years suggest that intercourse that lasts from 3 to 7 minutes is satisfactory. Anything from 7 to 13 minutes is considered desirable – not including the time reserved for foreplay.

Sounds surprising? Well it shouldn’t be. Considering that most women need about 7 to 15 minutes of sexual stimulation to reach an orgasm, the suggested duration for “desirable” sex sounds logical.

Here’s the simple truth – great sex does NOT involve a stopwatch. Many men are so preoccupied about not wanting to climax too soon, that they ended up doing exactly what they fear most! Sexual anxiety will almost always impair your performance in bed!

Don’t Focus On The “Magic” Number

For a woman, great sex involves a slow, titillating build-up that envelopes both her mind and body. Use this to your advantage. Don’t view sex in terms of duration. View it in terms of quality. Such a mindset will do a whole lot of good to your confidence in bed.

You see, of all the “instruments” you can use to stimulate and arouse a woman sexually – your fingers, tongue and penis – the last one is ironically the one you have the least amount of control over.

Accelerate Her Sexual Anticipation

So, use your fingers and tongue to heighten her anticipation and arousal FIRST. Give her sensual hot spots some tender, loving attention. And I don’t just mean the obvious places. A woman is incredibly blessed with many erogenous areas on her body. The nape of her neck, her ear lobes, the underside of her arms are all great places to start with.

When a woman is sufficiently aroused before penetration, it actually lowers her threshold for orgasm, reducing the turnaround time for her to reach a climax during intercourse. And when that happens, your confidence will soar, performance anxiety will take a backseat, and you will naturally last longer too!

5 Weird But Awesome Sex Positions!

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Sex positions don’t have to be the same every single time you have sex. Here are five strange but totally erotic and orgasmic sex positions you can try tonight!

1. Comfy Cozy

Sit up with your legs straight while your partner lowers herself, facing you, onto your penis. Ask her to bend her knees so that her legs are tucked underneath and her ankles meet your hips, then sit up partially and hug her, slowly bending forward. As you move toward her she will naturally move back, arching her spine slowly so that her back rests comfortably on your legs.

Open up her chest even more to allow you breast access by putting her hands on your ankles and her elbows out to the side. Move by pulling her with your arms onto your penis, or bouncing slightly with your hips.

CLIMAX CUE

She is wide open and vulnerable in this position, while you act as the protector. Nurture her by showering her with kisses and telling her how amazing she looks impaled on your love-spear and you’ll get her even closer to orgasm. Slow and sensual is this position’s game, and the more you arch her back with your arms behind her, the more G-Spot action she’ll receive, along with plenty of clitoral coaxing.

2. The Creeping Spider

A challenging but intriguing position that plays on a man’s core strength and a woman’s sense of play, this move starts with you lying flat on your back and pressing your shoulders into the ground, arms at your side. Bend your knees as much as you can and place your feet firm and flat on the ground. Your partner should then squat down on top of you with her feet planted strong as well. Enter her while raising your hips off the ground so that you are in a straight plank position.

Your lover should still be squatting on your manhood. Once you find your balance, lift one leg so the ball of your foot faces the ceiling, and get your partner to hold onto it like she’s driving a stick shift. Movement occurs when she subtly bounces on you, with the tension and pressure flexing back from your hips, thighs and core.

CLIMAX CUE

If you can get the hang of it, this is a deeply penetrating position, and one that offers a lot of leverage for your woman to really grind into. It will be a lot easier for you if you keep your spine as straight as possible, and bounce only slightly during sex. She can hold onto your leg for balance, and grind herself into you as she feels necessary to get off. The lady is definitely in control here, so let her show you what works.

3. Choker

In my opinion, this is one of the most unusual sex positions I’ve found. I hadn’t heard of it before researching sex positions for this series, but as soon as I saw it I immediately had to try it – and with great results, believe me! Still, it’s a bit tricky to get into position correctly and then to find a rhythm that works well for both of you, but well worth the added time.

Sit down with your legs slightly bent and ask your partner to straddle your hips, facing away from you. Slide into her, pushing her forward onto your knees if need be. Have her pull her arms back and hold onto your shoulders or the back of your neck, whichever is more comfortable. She may need your help to get her arms back far enough, while leaning further forward to reach.

Get her to lift her feet at the knees so you can hold onto them for leverage, and you are in position! Move with her pulling on the back of your neck while you raise and lower your thighs, or have her push against your hands with her feet. It will be a subtle movement, but highly effective if she’s positioned correctly.

CLIMAX CUE

You are at a prime angle for deep penetration, G-Spot stimulation and symphysis friction: all three in one position is rare. Moving your legs will allow her different angles for clitoris pressure, so play around to see what direction she likes most. Giving her the ability to do most of the movement might tire her out, but she’ll get to choose the tempo and speed with which you have sex. If she needs a break, she can lean forward and put her hands on the ground instead, which may give her enough balance and strength to release.

4. Comfy Corner

Place a chair without arms perpendicular to the edge of a bed. Lie down so that your waist is at the edge of the bed and your calves and feet lie comfortably on the chair. Tilt your body to one side and lift a knee high along your body so that it faces the ceiling. Bend your lower leg so that calf and foot are flat on their side on the chair. Your hips and upper legs should lie free of the bed and chair, suspended in air. Have your partner straddle one of your hips and the leg that sits on the chair, facing away from you.

Both her legs should bend slightly so that her feet are on the floor, or prop up against the bottom of the bed with only her toes flat on the ground. Put your penis inside her vagina. Lean her forward so that she’s lying along the leg on the chair, with one breast on either side of your leg. Use her arms above her head as a pillow and to prop herself up so her back remains straight. Get her to push herself back and forth against your groin and watch her masturbate with your body.

CLIMAX CUE

An excellent, relaxing position for both of you to get exactly what you want: she gets tons of stimulation between her legs and there is a great view available for you. If the bed and chair are positioned close enough to one another, you should be able to sustain sex for an extended period of time. Moving the leg she’s draped over will help her grind against you, and may even enable her to find a sweet spot for clitoral and symphisis stimulation. Use this when both of you are tired and want a slow, comforting session together, or when she’s perfected her pelvic thrusting technique and wants to try it out for a mind-blowing release.

5. Sitting Pretty

Have your partner lie down on her stomach with a pillow wedged firmly under her hips. Get her to prop her upper body up with her forearms so she’s looking forward comfortably and only her breasts remain on the floor. Walk up behind her and sit down so that your bums touch. Straddle her body with your legs, your feet up against her elbows. Use your hands to put your penis inside her; she may need to move forward somewhat to angle her buttocks back and up for you to fit.

Once you’ve penetrated, lean back and put your hands on the floor, outside of her feet, and push your backside up against hers snugly. Move by rocking your body slightly and very slowly back and forth, thrusting from both your arms and feet; if you don’t go slow and gentle, you’ll likely fall out. She can help by arching her back and using her forearms to push back against you, and by opening her legs slightly so that her mons pubis gets some contact friction from the pillow.

CLIMAX CUE

Because you can’t take advantage of any symphysis in this sex position, you’ll want to use your hips to push her down into the pillow to creating a similar sensation to pelvic thrusting. Keep your penetration deep, yet your movements shallow, and you’ll play with her G-Spot and the most sensitive parts of her vaginal opening nicely. Tilting her pelvis will help with both penetration and arousal foreplay for her. Lying on a waterbed or soft, bouncy bed will add to the thrill.

Dirty Tips For Great Sex!

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Foreplay is the cornerstone of creating an intense sexual experience for a woman. Use these foreplay suggestions for incredible sex!

Have you ever wondered how you could become a better lover in bed? Not the kind who seeks to pleasure himself, but one who goes out of his way to make sure his lover gets her sexual fulfillment first. So what are the secrets to becoming a sex stud that possesses this inherent, natural ability to pleasure any woman at will?

Emotions Are The Lifeline Of A Woman’s Sexual Fulfillment

Emotions play a vital role in ensuring that a woman is sexually fulfilled. So how do you leverage on her emotional repository and give her the most tantalizing sexual experience? The secret lies in building anticipation. This is where women are fundamentally different from men. Guys are ready to mount and thrust right away during sex and get off at a moment’s notice. Women are different. They prefer a slow build-up to sex. This is how they are biologically wired. And it is not their fault that most women take at least 10 to 15 minutes to reach an orgasm (compared to just 4 minutes or less for most guys).

So don’t jump the gun when it comes to sex. It is probably the worst thing you can do during lovemaking.

The Art Of Teasing Women Into Erotic Anticipation

Women loved to be teased. If you want to become a masterful lover in bed, you have to learn how to tease. Make her curious about what you are going to do to her next. Keep her guessing. This will keep her on her toes and bring her sexual emotions to an erotic boil. This makes sex far more exciting, titillating and challenging for the both of you.

Okay, Teasing Is Easy – Or So You Think!

The art of sexual teasing is based on the “push and pull” concept. What do I mean? This means you bring her to a state of heightened anticipation, and then pull away or strategically back off from what she would expect you to do next. For example, if you are undressing her, stop halfway and then proceed to kiss her. When she is expecting you to perform oral sex on her after some heavy foreplay, turn your attention to her breasts instead. Tenderly move AROUND her hot buttons, not ON them.

This sensual art of unpredictability will add plenty of sizzle and excitement in the bedroom. A slow sensuous build-up of sexual anticipation will soon turn into a frenzied sexual craving for you to perform the actual deed on her.

Guys, if you want her to have a genuine screaming orgasm during sex, this is the secret behind it! Your bedroom will never be the same again once you learn this.