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How To UNLOCK A Woman’s Sexual Code

Sex tips are a great help when giving your girl an orgasm, but what if you could go deeper than that? What if you could get unleash her inner freak?

Imagine this situation:

You’re really excited. You find her hot. You find her sexy. Things are going well and it looks like you might “get lucky.”

And then you start thinking to yourself, “Am I going to be able to please her in the bedroom? Am I going to be able to be the most dynamic lover she’s ever had? Am I going to be able to bring her to multiple orgasms until she begs me for more? Am I going to be the man that’s her best lover ever and is she going to be willing to do all the things that I want done to me?”

These are questions that haunt a lot of men on a regular basis. Men everywhere want to know how to unlock her sexual code and how to make sure that she begs for more. Let me tell you how.

Emotions Play A Significant Role

There’s so much mindset to sex that a lot of men don’t pay attention to. A lot of men are very physical; when they’re attracted to a woman, all they want to do is rip her clothes off and penetrate her immediately and have incredible intercourse that’s going to blow their mind away. But they don’t understand the way women really think.

Somebody told me a long, long time ago that if you can please a woman in bed—and it all starts with pleasing her emotionally first and really connecting to her emotionally—she’ll do anything for you. She’ll truly believe that you are the first man to be attentive to all her needs, the man that understands her on all levels.

A lot of guys don’t think that way. A lot of guys just want to go, get a woman in the sack, have sex with her for five or six minutes and hope that she gets off. Those moans and groans that you hear when you’re banging her are not necessarily moans and groans of pleasure. They’re moans and groans of disappointment, a disappointment that you are not taking the time on her the way she needs.

It’s all about understanding the way a woman’s mind thinks when it comes down to sex. You’ve got to understand her emotional core, what she needs. She needs to feel safe, she needs to feel the attraction, and she needs to hear words.

“You look hot. You’re beautiful.” Say it, whatever it might be. She needs to feel like you’re there, in tune with her. She may want to warm up to you, and spend the time kissing. And if you want to become a good kisser, mimic her kissing style. If she comes at you with a soft tongue, come back at her with a soft tongue. If she comes at you hard, come back at her hard.

Teasing Is Pleasing!

It all comes down to teasing her body and not going immediately for the clitoris or finger banging her immediately. It’s all about taking your time almost like you’re driving down a long, winding road. You want to be able to spend as much time on her body, teasing her.

You also don’t want to sleep with her the very first time you get her naked. You want to drive her crazy. The more you drive her crazy, the better the sex is going to be for her.

It’s all about understanding her need to feel safe and secure. She wants to give you her body. Too many men do not understand that. They don’t spend the time on the mindset of sex. All they do is think about the physical side of sex. If you think about the mindset, then you think about licking her like an ice cream cone, spending the time to savor each and every drop.

Becoming the most dynamic lover is not just about physical. It’s about understanding her emotional core and then seducing and teasing her. If you’re able to give her what she’s always desired when all the men before you have disappointed—you win.

The Difference Between Sex And Making Love

By loveandsex

Sex is sometimes just sex and other times it’s “making love” – this happens when you really open yourself up to someone you care about.

How Do You Best Distinguish Between The Two?

“Just sex” usually takes place outside the context of a loving relationship – one-night stands for example. People get horny – so they get laid, it’s that simple. Men and women use each other to get an orgasm or two. Motivation is mostly physical and very little, if at all, emotional. In fact, emotional entanglements are avoided and little consideration is given to the partner’s enjoyment.

“Making love,” as especially seen by women, is more romantic – more tender, respectful and considerate. It’s what lovers do. The people involved have feelings and emotional investments on each other. Motivation is both physical and emotional.

If lust shoves the penis down her throat, love slides it in while caressing her cheek.
If lust ejaculates on her face, love is kissing her tenderly.
If lust is fast, short & furious, love is sensual, slow and romantic.
If lust is purely physical, love is largely emotional & psychological.
If lust is penile penetration, love is penetration – and more.

Are There Any “Gray” Areas?

Although at first glance, the two may seem like night and day, but there are actually a lot of gray areas between the two. Differences can be very subtle and one could argue that they’re really one and the same. The two cannot be objectively evaluated in terms of actions, and it’s not as if they are mutually exclusive. There isn’t really much difference in terms of actuations.

“Making love” can be passionate as well as fast and furious. “Just sex” can also be sensual and slow. People in loving relationships can have sex just for the heck of it. And even one-night stands can come with romance, albeit not very often.

Pay Attention To Your Emotions

It’s in the perception and interpretation of the players. It is FELT, not seen. It is in the individual to perceive whether what’s happening is simply lust, or a combination of lust, like and love or something else.

If a woman interprets things one way, then that’s what it is! If over time, she changes her mind, and develops feelings and sees the two of you as ‘making love’, then FOR HER, it’s making love.

If it’s “just sex” to you, then FOR YOU, it’s just sex.

What If You’re Not On The Same Page With Your Lover?

Unpleasant surprises arise when partners’ views don’t match. She’s making love, and he’s just in it for the sex. And because they have differing perceptions, they consequently have incongruous expectations and behaviors. She expects him to be generous and loving, but since they’re not on the same page, he might not be those things at all!

A great lover avoids unnecessary complications by making sure they’re both on the same page. Playing with women’s emotions is NOT cool!

Simultaneous Orgasm Vs. Taking Turns – The Winner Will Surprise You!

By loveandsex

Simultaneous orgasm has long been touted as the be all and end all of great sex. But can you have incredible sex without a simultaneous orgasm?

A destructive myth running rampant among couples today is the belief that: Great sex has to be characterized by simultaneous gratification.

A lofty standard, don’t you think?

The pursuit of simultaneous orgasms, as one consequence of this mindset, has partners on the ever frustrating hunt for this phenomenon. But no matter what they say, synchronized orgasms are rare, and only a few couples ever achieve them on a consistent basis.

How This Myth Can Ruin Your Sex Life

This can create a stigma for the partner who climaxes first – whether it’s the man or woman – especially when they think that if sex is a race, and orgasm, the finish line, the ideal is for both partners to finish together. After all, they started at the same time, right? So they should climax as a couple!

However, the physical and psychological differences between men and women make this rarely achievable. Men are aroused faster than a speeding bullet, women are not so. Penetration has more orgasm potential for men than women – who have their clitorises only indirectly stimulated by the invading penis. This usually leads to the man peaking first. And if ‘great sex’ for you means simultaneous climaxes, then you’re going to have some problems.

Sexual syncronicity doesn’t necessarily mean the couple orgasming exactly at the same moment. Climaxing together may be highly sought after, but the practical and more realistic way of doing things is to take turns!

Why It’s Better When You Take Turns

Sexual pleasure needn’t be concurrent for partners, a give & take view is much better — with a time for giving and a time to be on the receiving end.

Yes, both pleasures may coincide and there are lots of instances when this happens. Kissing and hugging are examples. Enjoy them, but don’t make them the standard. Pleasure doesn’t have to happen simultaneously; sometimes it’s even better that way.

Take the ‘69’ position for example. Though erotic, it’s frankly not so effective because so much is going on at once. Your brain has to decide if it’s going to focus on the pleasure received, or the pleasure given.

TAKE TURNS. When you both try to lead and put on a show, sex will feel like Greco-Roman wrestling. Sex is EQUAL & MUTUAL, but not necessarily simultaneous. There will surely be moments when you do most of the work and she’ll just lie there, with eyes closed, enjoying you. Other times, you’ll be still and she’ll be riding you like a veteran cowgirl.

Switching off gives both the chance to completely focus on what’s happening. When she’s receiving, she can just relax as your tongue explores her innermost sanctum. She doesn’t have to do anything while you’re at it. Although you’re getting satisfaction by seeing her enjoyment, your role is primarily that of a giver. And when it’s her turn, she can focus on what she wants to do, instead of giggling or writhing about as a result of your maneuvers.

2 Great Sex Positions To Last Longer And Give Her Sensational Sex

By lloydlester

Sex positions can actually help you to both last longer in bed and make your girl orgasm – if you use the right ones. Are you missing these secrets?

When it comes to lasting longer in bed, many men choose to rely on the multitude of commercial solutions. Sprays, creams and pills that claim to extend your lovemaking sessions – besides being expensive and require constant use – do NOT permanently resolve a man’s lack of sexual stamina. But did you know that you can last longer simply by adopting certain positions during sex?

That is true. Some positions, such as the traditional missionary position favored by many men, are notorious for causing an early climax. Let’s take a quick look at 2 sex positions that will give you a LOT more leverage during sex and help you last longer.

The Tantalizing “L”

Let your woman lie on her back while you stand or kneel on the ground at the edge of the bed, so that your body and hers form an “L” shape. Begin thrusting with slow, shallow movements, while keeping the muscles in your abdominals, buttocks and thighs relaxed. This position works really well because when your body is upright, it helps to draw blood and energy away from your extremities. This reduces the amount of stimulation your penis receives, keeps your arousal under control and helps you last longer.

Furthermore, this position enables you to use your hands to provide additional stimulation to the sensual areas on her body. To give your woman an even more titillating experience, use a pillow to elevate her buttocks. This makes it easier for you to locate and stimulate her G-spot.

“The Female Superior”

The standard missionary position places a great amount of tension in your hand and leg muscles. A body that is tensed up is more prone to an early orgasm as your body seeks a natural outlet to release the tension.

Instead, allow your wife or girlfriend to get on top of you. Because you are lying down, you are able to completely relax your body muscles, and keep at bay your body’s natural mechanism for an early release. This is very effective for improving your endurance and making sex last longer.

When you are in this position and sense an orgasm approaching, all you need to do is to consciously keep your muscles relaxed, and ejaculation will not occur (or at least it will take much longer to occur).

The great thing about the female superior position is that it gives your woman greater control over the penetrative movements, thus giving her the free rein to MAXIMIZE her own pleasure. After all, a woman instinctively knows the kind of speed, intensity and angle of penetration that will please her the most!

Discover These SHOCKING Truths About Premature Ejaculation!

By lloydlester

Premature ejaculation sucks, but it’s not always what you think it is. Chances are, you’ve been deceived! You most likely have some misconceptions about what is really causing you to orgasm too early when you have sex, and these misconceptions are preventing you from having great sex (because you definitely can!) Here is the TRUTH about premature ejaculation!

Are you one of those men who cannot last long in bed? Are you searching for the best solution to enhance your stamina so that your wife or lover can enjoy the kind of awesome sex she deserves? If you’re like most men reading this, I’m pretty sure you’d agree that the lack sexual stamina is your number ONE concern in the bedroom.

Here, you will discover a few surprising truths about premature ejaculation and lasting longer. You will want to continue reading and learn how you can turn this frustrating problem around.

Why Are We Able To Last Longer When We Masturbate?

There are two reasons why premature ejaculation do not usually happen when we masturbate. Firstly, we do not become as highly aroused during masturbation. Secondly, because we are the ones providing the stimulation, we also have the ability to self-regulate how much pleasure we are giving ourselves. Hence we are able to re-adjust our movements to keep our arousal under control, until we decide it is time to release and enjoy an orgasm.

Why Do We Fire Too Soon When We’re Having Sex?

Simple! With a partner, we do not have the ability to self-regulate our arousal. When our partners are the initiator of sexual stimulation (e.g. when she touches or strokes your penis), we become extremely aroused and lose control easily. This loss of control can happen:

When we are on the edge of a climax and any slight movement of the penis stimulates the deep-seated nerves to tip us over
When we begin penetration
During the first inward stroke
During first outward stroke
Or during the subsequent few strokes

One of the keys to overcoming premature ejaculation is to train or condition your brain to be consciously aware of what is happening and not to become completely lost in the moment of sexual bliss. This will give you timely “cues” or signals to tell your partner to temporarily stop the stimulation, sooner rather than later. This form of partner “feedback” is important and will help you gain better control when practiced over a period of time.