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6 Beginner’s Oral Sex Techniques

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Oral sex is so much fun to learn! Check out these easy to do oral sex tips for men that haven’t had a lot of experience in the art of cunnilingus.

Start with the most basic of tongue manipulations, and keep any extra combinations to a minimum so as to examine her sexual response and learn more about what she likes, and how to do it repeatedly.

1. The First Touch

This should take no more than a minute.

Tongue: One flat-tongued, soft lick from the bottom of her vagina to the top above her clitoris.

Hands: Both underneath her body, softly yet firmly holding onto her bum. Her legs should be parted only enough to allow you access.

Finger: Nothing at this time.

2. Build A Rhythm

This should take between two and five minutes.

Tongue: Start with about five soft-tongued licks that only cover half of her vulva, and then follow with three to five long tongue laps. Gear your attention primarily to her labia and frenulum; only the long tongue laps should reach her clitoris.

Hands: Take one hand away from her bottom to place a finger inside of her. With the other hand, grasp both of her butt cheeks firmly but not painfully you want to give her the tension she needs for what’s coming up, but you don’t want her to be self-conscious about what you’re doing, either.

Fingers: Take your index finger and put it only partially inside the entrance to her vagina.

3. Build Tension

This can take anywhere from five to ten minutes.

Tongue: Establish a rhythm where you lick her from bottom to top without actually touching the clitoris – five times – then lick her clitoris once horizontally.

Hands: Keep supporting her buttocks.

Fingers: Leave your finger where it was before and use it to feel where she’s at along her arousal process. Is she clenching? Is she lubricated? Allow your other fingers to gently touch other nearby areas, such as her perineum or anal area.

4. Intensify Your Moves

This can take anywhere from five to ten minutes.

Tongue: Continue with the vertical and horizontal tongue stroke rhythm. Occasionally do a “tongue press,” where you take your tongue, hold it flat and firm, and push it up against her clitoris for five seconds.

Hands: Continue holding her buttocks, and see if you can gently play a bit with her perineum using your thumb.

Fingers: Put another finger inside her vagina. Push both fingers up toward her g-spot, and feel around for it.

5. Moving Into The Pre-Orgasm Phase

This usually lasts between three to five minutes.

Tongue: Use the tongue press on her clitoris. Make sure the pressure is firm, and slow things down even more than before. Let her push back against you to show you what she likes and works for her.

Hands: Make sure that the hand beneath her has the right angle and that you have her firmly in your grasp. The arm leading to the fingers inside of her should feel her inner thigh muscles pushing against them, as if she wants to close her legs.

Fingers: Keep your fingers partially inside of her with your palm facing up, and use your thumb to push against her frenulum. The pressure needs to stay constant inside of her along the g-spot, but right now your focus should be on the frenulum thumb touch.

6. Give Her The Big Orgasm!

This usually lasts around one minute or less.

Tongue: Stay in contact with her clitoris using the firm tongue press. She’ll push against you and try to close your legs, but hold on and keep doing what you’re doing. When the contractions are finished (you’ll feel them with the fingers inside of her) lick her clitoris only once, and very, very gently. She should pull back when you do, which means she’s had an orgasm and now needs a bit of time to recoup.

Hands: Her pelvic muscles should clench your fingers. Feel them so you know where she’s at, and keep the pressure on her frenulum the entire time.

Fingers: Use the hand underneath her to keep yourself in close contact with her; as she orgasms it may prove difficult, so firm pressure is needed.

Keep a close eye as to where she’s at along the orgasmic process, and cater your movements accordingly. Start lightly and offer more firm support with your tongue as you go along. If need be, get a vibrator to help with the g-spot so you can concentrate on the licking.

How to Make Sex Last Longer and Give Women EXPLOSIVE Orgasms! (This is Embarrassingly Easy…)

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Premature ejaculation is no joke – it affects hundreds of thousands of guys of all different ages and races. It can wreak havoc on your sex life, because reaching orgasm too quickly isn’t satisfying for you or your partner. Most female partners of men who suffer from PE rarely have an orgasm during intercourse at all. They usually either have to have an orgasm first through oral sex or take matters into their own hands afterwards.

PE will destroy your sex life, destroy your ego and may even destroy your relationship. Women don’t want to be with a man who can’t last long enough in bed to give them an orgasm. They’re not going to stay in a relationship where they’re not sexually satisfied. So if you really want to have a healthy, happy relationship, you’re going to have to beat premature ejaculation once and for all.

Check out this FREE REPORT: How to end the embarrassment of premature ejaculation AND last longer in bed…

Premature Ejaculation IS NOT Your Fault!

If you’re like other guys, you may think that your PE is your own fault. You may feel like there’s something you’re doing wrong during sex, or there’s something wrong with you that is causing this.

That couldn’t be further from the truth! That is a huge myth that a lot of men who suffer from PE believe. But the truth is, it’s not your fault at all. Once you realize this, you can begin to cure your PE forever! Supplements, pills, creams and sprays are only going to temporarily fix your problem – and who wants to put a numbing spray on their penis so they can’t feel anything during sex anyways? The key is to find the ROOT of the problem so you can solve it for good.

What Pharmaceutical Companies Are TERRIFIED You’ll Find Out!

The makers of pills and creams that claim to help you last longer in bed are absolutely terrified that you’ll find out the information contained in Ejaculation By Command. They don’t want you to know how YOU can control your own orgasm NATURALLY, without anything at all! They want to keep selling you supplements and sprays so they keep making money.

The truth is, you don’t need ANY of these products!

So What Is The Absolute Best Way To Last Longer In Bed?

Let me ask you a few simple questions…

  • Have you ever looked forward to a night of great sex, but as soon as the lovemaking began, you climaxed within seconds again?
  • Do you like having sex… but your inability to last is filling you full of anxiety… to the point where you’re actually beginning to dread sex?
  • Do you wish you could last longer and give her the pleasure you know she deserves?
  • Do you ever worry that your woman will cheat on you or leave you for another man who can satisfy her needs in bed… something you just can’t do right now?
  • Have you tried sprays and creams that promise to desensitize your penis… and delay your ejaculation… but you feel uncomfortable using it and telling her to wait 10 minutes so that it could start working?
  • Do you feel inadequate when you come too soon, and even though your woman says it’s okay, you still feel that she’s disappointed in you?
  • Do you get so embarrassed and so self-conscious about your performance that you find any excuse you can to avoid sex?
  • Are you desperate to find a way to end your premature ejaculation, but nothing seems to work. Do you feel you’re wasting the best sexual years of your life simply because you’re too afraid or too embarrassed to ask for help?

If you answered “YES!” to any or all of these, then I really want to stress to you…

You are NOT alone.

How would your life be different right now if you were able to last 20 or 30 minutes in bed? How about an hour?

Would you feel more confident? Would you feel more proud?

You wouldn’t feel so self-conscious or nervous because you’re afraid of climaxing too quickly.

Bottom line is as a man, you want to be able to please your woman. If you don’t feel confident in your abilities, it’s going to come through when you’re close to them.

So if you’re ready to finally say goodbye to the challenges, frustration, and anxiety that’s holding you back from living your life to the fullest, that can ALL change right now…

Here’s How To Enjoy The Kind Of Sex That You Once Only Dreamed About

Our good friend Lloyd Lester has created an amazing program called “Ejaculation By Command“.

Ejaculation By Command is a revolutionary product that will teach you, step by step, how to cure premature ejaculation forever and last longer in bed – so you and your partner can have a better, more satisfying sex life. Not only will you be able to control your orgasm long enough to give your girl a sheet soaking climax, you’ll enjoy your own orgasm that much more!

This is a PROVEN, successful way to cure PE naturally!

Even if you think beating PE is impossible, even if you have suffered from it for years, you can say goodbye to it FOREVER using the easy, successful tools in this book.

What You’ll Learn…

  • How to last at LEAST 20 minutes longer…TONIGHT! Guaranteed.
  • The #1 LIE that leads men to believe it’s their body that is the problem
  • A simple, 3-step formula that you can use every time you have sex, for the rest of your life!
  • How to end the shame, frustration, humiliation and insecurity that is caused by premature ejaculation
  • How to overcome mental barriers to sexual endurance in 9 simple steps
  • 4 powerful breathing strategies that will amplify your staying power and prolong your orgasm for as long as you want
  • How to outlast HER during sex
  • The single most powerful strategy that will drive any woman completely wild in bed and lets you into her orgasmic world of pleasure, even if you ejaculate too soon!

What People Are Saying About Ejaculation By Command…

“[This] has led to the best sex we’ve ever had (including the four extra times during the rest of that evening!)” – Blair C.

“What I like most about the program is that [it] clearly shows you the most effective methods for lasting longer in bed. I’m no longer embarrassed; I have more confidence during sex, and have more fun as well! I would recommend this product because it does EXACTLY what it says in the title!” – W. Leighton

“I like the fact that I can have long and great sex now with my wife. And we both look forward to free weekends to have sex with lots of variety. This book has changed my life. My sex life has improved tremendously and I’ve also become much more confident around women.” – Martin M.

If you’re ready to turn your sex life around and start having mind-blowing sex in a way you or your partner ever thought was possible, then get your copy of Ejaculation By Command now!

With these simple tricks, you can start by lasting 20 minutes longer TONIGHT! No going to the store and buying supplements or creams, no waiting for anything to come in the mail. Just download the program, start reading right now and give your partner the time of her life RIGHT AWAY!

Why should you have to wait for an incredible sex life, anyways?

Act Now and say goodbye to premature ejaculation for good!

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8 Ultimate PE Busters

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Premature ejaculation will make your sex life less than stellar. Get rid of PE forever with these eight easy but successful premature ejaculation busters!

1. Ladies First

Before busying with your thing, get busy with her. Before penetration, give her orgasms via oral or manual labor. So even though it’ll be a short and bumpy ride, at least she’s had her moments in the sun.

2. Go To Your “Happy Place”

Take deep, full breaths. Proper breathing is central to your sex life, as every physical activity needs to be attended by sufficient air. Taking deep breaths relaxes you and allows your body to handle excitement.

Ejaculation issues usually fester the highly excitable men who are extra-sensitive to stimulation. The best handling of this is by having generous amounts of oxygen in the body, especially the head.

3. Slow Down

You’re unlikely to reach orgasm if speed is significantly slower than what you’re used to. So stop thrusting like crazy and go for deeper, slower thrusts — look for sexual positions that minimize pelvic & hip movement. These regulate the frequency of penetration.

By slowing down and taking your time, you not only delay ejaculation, you build tension – thereby making your climax many times sweeter. It’s the sexual investment for a richer and creamier blow. We tease ourselves for this very reason. It’s not only for the woman’s sake, it’s so when we finally decide to let loose, it will be four times better!

4. Stop Thrusting And Do Something Else

If slowing down is good, stopping completely is even better. (Don’t worry, your partner won’t lose her arousal.) Once you begin thrusting, there’s no rule that says you have to pump all the way to ejaculation. No shame in backing off and teasing yourselves in the process.

Get busy with kissing and other stuff instead. This stalls or even reverses your progress towards inevitability, creating more ANTICIPATION. Woman on top is a good position which will please her greatly while reducing the friction for you.

5. Spread Your Legs

This minimizes the tension and pressure in your genitals and groin area – which automatically buys you time.

6. Use A Condom

For safer sex, always use a condom. But beyond that, the protective sheath results in decreased sensitivity for your jimmy – saving it from getting overly excited.

7. The Squeeze Technique

When you’re nearing inevitability, pull out and squeeze the head of your penis. This forces blood out the genitals, relieving some of the built up pressure – inadvertently, it also forces you to stop penetrating. Repeat this technique several times before finally spraying.

8. Do Not Memorize Batting Averages!

Others say that a slideshow of anything gross can make that cum retreat back up. Distracting yourself with the picture of the cafeteria lady dancing to the tune of Macarena will definitely help. But how fun would that really be? You’re there with this amazing woman, and you’re busying with that?!

Forget the cafeteria lady, don’t memorize batting averages! We have sex for the joy it brings, not for a degree in sports broadcasting! Running rotten pictures in your head as a way to delay ejaculation is superficial. You can’t call it teasing, you’re merely castigating yourself.

Sex, as a moment by moment experience, is supposed to be experienced fully. In fact, the opposite of numbing yourself, AWARENESS, is key. Be aware, and therefore, regulate the stimulation you give yourself.

Close your eyes, feel how wonderful it is to be inside a woman’s vagina. Keep your breaths full. And remember to back off, slow down or do something else when you approach dangerous grounds.

When you absolutely cannot hold off any longer – LET IT LOOSE – you can’t delay it forever! There’s a difference between teasing and torture too, you know. Last as long as you can, blow your load of semen and don’t worry about it. If she’s already had an orgasm or two before you, she’s probably tired and going to be glad you’re done.

How To Give A Woman An Orgasm With A Small Penis

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Penis size isn’t the only thing responsible for female orgasms – you CAN please a woman with a small penis! Here’s how to make your penis size COUNT!

Is your penis size important in sex and in giving her powerful orgasms? In other words, is a bigger penis better for sex? That seems to be the proverbial question that men have been asking since the dawn of civilization. Well, what if I told you that your penis size is not a big deal after all? In fact, it is the lousiest among all “tools” you can bring to the bed! Why is that so?

The Truth About Penis Size And Sex

Ask any woman who loves great sex and have experienced great sex. She will tell you that the size of one’s manhood does not feature much in how she enjoys the experience. So put aside that penis extender or male enhancement pills you have been popping all day! A big penis is a great asset to have, but the skills you bring to bed will be your defining moment during sex. Besides pumping in and out, what else can your penis do?

Do Casanovas And Don Juans Have Great Assets In Between Their Thighs?

The secret is out. No they don’t! Even if a guy is small like a mosquito, he can still outperform any clueless lad with a much bigger “asset”! As long as you know how to please, pleasure and caress any woman properly, you can bring great sex to the bedroom, anytime anywhere! And believe me when I say that those Casonovas and Don Juans in the world are only average as far as their penis size goes.

The Myth About Penetration And Orgasm

Penetration is just about the only thing that happens during intercourse. Well, that is just what most guys think. When in the throes of pleasure, most men would focus only on themselves and pump away until they reach the inevitable goal – their own orgasm. But is your woman enjoying a great time too? Well, most probably not! You see, women are incredibly different from guys. Women don’t just live for the moment of orgasm. They relish the way they are brought to a climax.

The simple truth is this: The vast majority of women are not able to reach an orgasm though penetration alone simply because her clitoris – the nerve center of a woman’s orgasm – is not properly stimulated via penetration. So your penis, big or small, does not figure much in triggering those incredible waves of pleasure in her.

So How Do I Give Her An Orgasm?

Simple! Just observe what SHE does when she stimulates herself (a great majority of women can reach a orgasm through masturbation alone!). Mimic the motions, the angles, the intensity she use on herself. Then use them on her!

Anal Sex Orgasm: Myth Or Fact?

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Anal sex can be incredibly pleasurable for some women. Others don’t like it at all. However, you might have seen or heard of girls that can climax from anal stimulation. But is it really possible to have an orgasm from anal sex alone?

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Is It True?

Can you have anal orgasm? Yes, you can. “Can” being the operative word here.

Theoretically, all people can have anal orgasms. Some think it’s from the excitement of anal sex, and while there are people who can orgasm from anal sex only, most people will require additional genital stimulation to get off.

Anal Play For Guys

For men, anal orgasms typically are achieved through prostate massage or stimulation. Ladies, that entails you giving him the finger while blowing him. If you don’t feel comfortable with that for safety or other reasons, you can use sex toys specifically designed for that.

Ladies, be gentle. Some men may be tough, some men may like it rough, but nobody likes a finger (or toy) jammed up their bum without some warning first. Everyone loves surprises, unless it’s a finger up the butt. So people, please, talk about this before hand. Use ample amounts of communication and lube before you put your finger up there.

Anal Play For Girls

If you want your girl to have an anal orgasm, try slipping your finger in her anus while giving her oral sex. Sneak it in – sort of. You don’t want to sneak it in, literally, but you need to gradually introduce it while giving oral sex, especially if it’s the first time you’ve done it in the relationship. You can’t just ram a finger in there and expect the magic to happen. This isn’t porn. Or Vegas. This is real sex in real life.

A great technique for anal stimulation for women is placing one finger in the vagina and one finger in the anus, and you manually stimulate her that way.

Getting Off On Anal Sex Only

How do you get that point where you get off on anal by itself? Well, you’ll need to start with equal parts anal and genital stimulation in the beginning, and gradually decrease the genital stimulation while increasing the anal stimulation. By this point, your partner will (hopefully) be very used to getting off this way, and then they will have a postive mental pattern associated with anal play. This is super important.

Why? Because despite what porn or sex tips magazines may have you believe, sex begins and ends in the mind. If you think it’s impossible or difficult to have an anal orgasm, you’re right. But if getting off solely by anal play is a common, regular, every day occurrence in your world, guess what? You’re right too. That’s why it’s super important to create that positive mental connection first.

Other Things To Keep In Mind

What else can you do to create anal orgasm? Eat lots of fiber, so you can clean your pipes on a regular basis. Who wants to talk about this? Nobody. Despite the fact that Oprah did an entire episode on poo, the subject still leaves a nasty taste in people’s mouths. An enema is also a good option to keep things clean down there.

Also, do NOT forget to use lube and LOTS of it. There is no other option. Go slow. Rushing can cause discomfort, pain, or damage.

Using sex toys with big bases are critical so you don’t get anything lost up there. Plenty emergency rooms are filled people who lost toys up there. Yes, we are serious. No it wasn’t us. But trust us, this happens a lot. Friends don’t let friends lose anal toys in someone’s butt, so make sure you and anyone else you know is using the right ones.

Above all, don’t force anything. Forcing sex in any way is always bad, but with anal sex it’s super duper bad. Worst case scenario, someone gets injured or has to go to the hospital. Best case scenario if you force anal? Your partner feels used or angry or hurt. None of which are good and you might as well count yourself out of doing whatever you did ever, ever again. So talk about it first! Agree on everything first! Go slow, use a safe word, and again, lots of lube.