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How To Give a Woman The Best Sex EVER!

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Sex tips aren’t something you want to just brush aside – they can really help you up your game! Use these sex tips to satisfy your lover like never before!

Did you know why most guys fail so miserably in the bedroom? And why so many women end up walking out on their boyfriends and husbands when sex becomes so unfulfilling for them?

The Paradox Of Man’s Greatest Strength

Most men are focused on results. We are by nature very action-oriented. Results are what we care about; the end goal, so to speak. We set targets in the boardroom and get things done. Sadly the same mentality carries over to the bedroom:

  1. undressing yourself and her
  2. begin intercourse
  3. reach an orgasm (you, NOT her)
  4. end of sex

So where does this perpetual male strategy leave a woman? Empty, unfulfilled, disappointed. You see, for women, sex is not so much about the end goal per se. They really care more about the journey; how you arrive at the end goal. Women love to savor the sexual experience moment-by-moment, from foreplay all the way to intercourse.

Start Living For The Moment, Guys!

Goals are meant for the boardroom, so leave it at that! When it comes to great sex, take it SLOW. Don’t use sex as a means to an end. Instead be a man who plans for the future BUT also live for the moment. Be a man who starts a night of lovemaking without considering his own orgasm, but focus on securing a body-shaking climax for his lady. This is the type of men women would gladly die for.

Now achieving that kind of body-shaking, wild-screaming orgasms that most women crave for, will depend on how you build up the sexual tension. Savor each stage of lovemaking as if each phase can bring her to an orgasm (indeed it can!). Raw, passionate kissing that sets free a woman’s sexual inhibitions can bring her right to the edge of a climax. And so can the great prelude to intercourse – foreplay. Even a good dose of oral sex can give her mind-boggling orgasms that leave her breathless.

The key is to live for the moment and don’t let your focus waver away from her. Believe me, when you are able to do this, you will enjoy sex for its full glory and splendor, just like how a woman enjoys it. And when you finally reach your own orgasm, it will be more mind-blowing than anything else you have experienced before!

I’m A Girl But….Did I Just Ejaculate? 5 Ways To Tell If You Squirted During Sex

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Female ejaculation happens, but it may come as a surprise to many women. Not every woman is aware that they can ejaculate and many women have never experienced it before. The first time you have female ejaculation, you may be left sitting in the soaked bedsheets wondering what the heck happened. How can you tell if you just squirted?

1. You Peed Right Before Sex

This is actually the best way to tell if the fluid you expelled during sex was actually urine or ejaculate. Since the fluids are fairly similar in consistency (ejaculate can be thinner than urine, but sometimes it is just as watery), it’s hard to judge whether you peed or squirted by going on the consistency alone. If you urinated right before sex though, you can be almost positive that any fluid you expel during sex is ejaculate, unless the sex has lasted hours.

For example, if you ejaculate during sex about fifteen to twenty minutes after you used the bathroom, it’s not urine. Your body doesn’t have enough time to make that much urine in that small amount of time, unless you drank a gallon of water before you started having sex. So if you want to be sure the next time you soak the sheets that you haven’t just pissed the bed, cut down on your water intake a few hours before you plan to have sex (make sure you drink all the water you need before that – don’t dehydrate yourself!) Then, urinate right before you get it on. If you still gush, it’s a squirting orgasm.

2. It Came Out On Its Own

Sometimes, when a woman doesn’t know she can ejaculate, the fluid will come out on its own during involuntary muscular contractions when you have an orgasm. It may feel like you need to pee when you ejaculate (hence all the confusion on whether the liquid really is urine or ejaculate), and if you bear down and flex your muscles, you can push the ejaculate out. This is what seasoned squirters do. However, many women who have never experienced female ejaculation aren’t aware of this. So when the muscles contract involuntarily during orgasm, the ejaculate may seem to come out on it’s own. It can be a few drops or even a cup full of liquid, and it can either leak out or squirt in a huge gush.

3. It Doesn’t Smell “Too Much” Like Pee

If it’s not urine, then it won’t smell a whole lot like urine. Really, the only exception to this rule is if you drink A LOT of water and your urine is almost always clear anyways (or you drank a lot of water right before sex for some odd reason). Since female ejaculate does come out of the urethra, it may mix with a little bit of urine that was left over – so if it has a “light” urine odor, don’t be too alarmed. If it really smells like pee, it was pee. If it doesn’t and you haven’t drank your weight in water, then congratulations – you’ve just experienced female ejaculation.

4. Your G-Spot Was Being Stimulated

Often, the g-spot needs to be stimulated firmly (very firmly) in order for a woman to achieve female ejaculation. Light tickling or barely touching the g-spot isn’t going to produce female ejaculation. It takes a surprisingly firm touch to stimulate the g-spot to the point of female ejaculation, and the woman usually has been really aroused first too. So if you or your partner engaged in a lot of foreplay, you’re super turned on and your g-spot was really getting massaged right before your gushing orgasm, then you can be pretty sure you just squirted.

5. Your Orgasm Was Killer

A squirting orgasm is intense. REALLY INTENSE. Many women who can’t squirt cannot do so simply because they have the inability to really “let go,” which is necessary to experience female ejaculation. If you’ve been consumed by the moment, maybe forgot where you are (or heaven forbid who you’re with), and just totally let go during your orgasm and expelled a ton of liquid, then you can be pretty sure you actually squirted instead of peed. If your orgasm was AH-MAZING and you’re totally and completely exhausted afterwards (and are so sensitive down there that you couldn’t even stand it if your man lightly blew air on your clitoris) then yes, you squirted.

What To Do When Your Sex Drive Plummets

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Your sex drive is something you want enough of – if you’re not in sync with your lover’s sex drive, your relationship suffers. Try this if your sex drive’s low.

On a general scale, men tend to want sex more than women. Now, this isn’t always the case, but for the most part men want sex whenever they can get it. Men have been characterized in movies as being horny all the time, drooling over a damsel in distress. But what if you’re a guy who doesn’t want sex? What if the last thing on your mind is having sex with your wife, girlfriend or the hot girl who cashes your paycheck every two weeks?

Low sex drive in men is more common than you may think. Men who do experience low sex drive tend to make excuses saying things like “I’m just too tired” or “I’m not really in the mood right now.” This can put a strain on any relationship leaving their partner feeling inadequate.

For women, a boyfriend or a husband that doesn’t have high sex drive can affect their ego. They might think that they’re not good enough in bed or that they have something wrong with them physically that is turning the guy off. Although this might be true in some relationships, for the most part it’s not.

The problem with low sex drive is the fact that it is completely subjective. If you pair a man who wants sex once every week with a woman who wants sex four to five times a week, you might think that the guy has low sex drive. Sex drive is relative. If both of you only want sex twice a year, then you have good compatibility. The worst thing you can do is start comparing yourself to other couples.

Medication, Alcohol & Drugs

There are a lot of causes for low sex drive in men. One of them is medication. If you are on anxiety medication, anti depressants or anti psychotics, you will probably feel a lower libido than most men. This is a side effect of the medication. If you feel like you want to give your libido a boost, talk to your doctor about switching prescriptions or weaning yourself off of the meds. If you abuse alcohol or drugs you can also feel lower sex drive.

Busy Lives

Keeping busy is a huge part of having a lower sex drive. Problems at work or a new child can be stressful on the sex drive of a man. If you’re not getting enough sleep or you have experienced some kind of loss, sex is probably the last thing on your mind. One way to get through a lower sex drive during a busy life is to make time. Set a schedule for sex. Even though this might take some of the romance and spontaneity out of it, you can choose a time when you will be rested and not focused on anything else.

Relationship Issues

Another cause of low sex drive in men is an issue with the relationship. If you are not happy with your partner, you’re obviously not going to want to have sex with them. Trust can be a huge issue. If you feel like your partner is hiding something from you or that they could possibly be cheating, the thought of having sex with them is going out the window. Counseling and talking out the problems in your relationship is the best way to get over this. You must feel completely comfortable with your partner and sex makes your vulnerable. Having the support to be yourself in the bedroom and talk out your desires will make the sex better and give you a boost where needed.

Low Testosterone

The testosterone level in men will drop as they get older. If you are over the age of 40, you will start to lose about 1-2% each year after that. Low testosterone is defined as having less than 300 nanograms per deciliter in your blood. This can lead to low sex drive, mood swings, sleeplessness, ED and fatigue. If you are experiencing any of these symptoms, you should have your testosterone levels checked with a medial professional.

Treatment

Lower sex drive doesn’t have to be a curse. There are a lot of ways that you can treat it. Exercise is on the best ways to relieve stress. When you eliminate stress from your life, you will feel better about yourself and the relationship with your partner. Running, playing a sport or doing aerobics are great ways to boost your sex drive. If you have low testosterone in your body, there are a lot of gels and patches that can be implemented. These will release testosterone into your blood stream and give you more sex drive.

Massage Her G-Spot During Oral Sex And Make Her EXPLODE!

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The g-spot isn’t some “mystical place” inside her vagina that may or may not exist – it DOES! Massage it during oral sex and you’ll have her orgasming in seconds.

Most folks who have been having sex a while have heard of the G-Spot; a fleshy, spongy bit of tissue about half way up a woman’s vagina, facing her belly button. You may have even heard about the amazing orgasms G-Spot manipulation can provide your partner, even squirting, but we’ll get more into what the G-Spot can and can’t do tomorrow. For now, let’s learn how to massage it and make the G-Spot a part of your oral sex vocabulary.

Using The “Come Here” Stroke

Use your index finger and curl it toward your palm as it you were saying, “Come here.” When you do that motion repeatedly, you’re using what’s called the “Come Here” stroke.

Now put your hand inside your partner, palm facing up, or toward her belly button. Once your finger and not much else is comfortably inside of her, curl your finger again using the Come Here stroke. You should feel a patch of tissue that feels different than the rest; spongy, soft, yielding. It will swell the more aroused she gets, so it shouldn’t be too hard to locate right now.

Take the hand that isn’t inside of her, and push down on the top of her vulva so you can feel the hand inside of her as well. You’re essentially ‘sandwiching’ her G-Spot between your two hands, and added pressure, especially when she’s really aroused, is fantastic.

It’s time to change your hand positioning now. Keeping it in the Come Here stroke position, move your hand so that your palm is facing down. If you perform the same stroke, you’ll be massaging her Perineum from inside a very sensitive area that, if you add your thumb to the outside, can be squeezed and teased at length by both.

Now you can move your hand from left to right as well, and feel the sides of her vaginal walls. You’ll find that the closer your finger is to her vagina, the more she’ll feel and the more pleasure you’ll give.

Don’t Leave Your Tongue Out!

·Don’t forget about using your tongue during this exploration too. At first, it’ll be easier to use the basic up-and-down motion while your hand wanders, but eventually you’ll be able to perform other moves in tandem with your hand manipulations. Also, if at first tonguing her clitoris, playing with her using your hands, and listening/feeling for her arousal state proves too challenging, just use the flat, still tongue on her clitoris so you can focus appropriately for now.

Adding More Fingers

Once you’ve used one digit to get things moving, it’s time to add another one specifically your middle, or ring digit. When you’ve got two fingers working together inside of her, you want them to act as one.

When you put both fingers inside of her, leave your hands as motionless as possible. Feel her muscles clench around your hand, and how much tighter everything feels with the two fingers inside of her.

Continue what you did earlier, using the Come Here stroke and massaging all four walls of her vagina. See how everything feels slightly different with another finger in place, and note her reactions accordingly.

Put your free hand on top of her vulva (above the clitoris, where her pubic hair is), and use the two fingers inside of her to push up against her G-Spot. Use both hands in tandem to massage her G-Spot from these two angles.

Don’t stop playing with her clitoris while you perform this move, either using short up and down tongue strokes, even smaller side to side ones, or the flat tongued move if you want to concentrate. She needs you to keep the pressure on her clitoris here, no matter what, even if it’s no movement at all.

Taking A Break

If she’s willing, this is an excellent time to take a short break while you focus on other parts of her anatomy. While using the Come Here stroke with your index finger inside of her, move up so that you can pivot yourself around her body, without losing contact internally. Kiss her, touch her, nibble her, whisper in her ear, all while playfully tickling her along the G-Spot.

Just be sure to ask her before kissing her, as some woman (like some men) are squeamish when it comes to mouth-to-mouth contact after oral sex. If this is an issue, grab one of the towels that you have handy to dab at your face, and maybe her inner legs too if things are really getting hot and heavy down below.

How To Finger A Girl To Orgasm – While You Go Down On Her!

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Oral sex can be incredible for a woman – if you do it right. Here’s how to work your fingers into the game and give her a MIND BLOWING orgasm with oral sex!

Up until now, your tongue has done most of the work here, but now it’s time for your hands and fingers to get involved too. If you can, think of these three parts of your body as a band, with each one filling a sound part that requires different movement at different times. As well, each instrument has to meet the others halfway, while still working together to finish the song.

Starting Out

Let’s begin by using just one finger, your index finger, and then we’ll move on to a few more challenging routines that will incorporate several fingers, some of which will have to work independently of the rest. But for now, try using your index finger in the following ways:

  • Lightly touch your finger to her labia. Gently pinch and massage any skin that you can. Pretend that your finger is trying to read Braille from her vagina, and you want to feel every single bump to understand its meaning. Really explore this area.
  • Tease the front commisure (the part just above the clitoris) and see how she responds.
  • Pat her frenulum (between her clitoris and vagina) rhythmically.
  • Gently massage her vagina
  • As your finger moves, try to keep it steady and with the same pressure throughout its explorations. Keep on licking her clitoris throughout.

Once she’s aroused and you can feel a bit of moisture accumulating between her legs, gently push your index finger into her. It shouldn’t take much, and if it does, hold back and wait until she’s got enough natural lubrication for it to go in easily. If after fifteen minutes she’s still not wet enough, add some lubricant and try again.

Once your finger is inside of her, just hold it there. Feel her pelvic muscles strain against you, and continue with the tongue licks. You want to tease her at this stage, not push for anything more, because her body needs to grasp for something to push against so she can get to the next level of arousal.

Once she’s accustomed to your finger inside of her, move it in a come-here motion to stimulate her g-spot while you lick her clitoris. As she gets more and more aroused, feel free to add more fingers if she’s willing.

Using Your Thumb

Your thumb is an excellent tool when you want to add something with a bit more width to the equation, or if you need something with a bit more power than just any old finger. It also works well when you’re trying to stimulate her vulva, as it offers a bit more resistance and that area can handle some pressure.

Try adding your thumb into the mix (but only when you’re ready). While your index finger is still inside of her, move your hand so that your thumb can brush up against her perineum (just under her vagina but before her anus). Or, turn your hand the other way and have your thumb tease her frenulum (right below the clitoris).