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Erotic Massage: How To Take It To The Next Level

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Erotic massage is an excellent prelude to sex, but here’s how to go from just erotic massage to something much, much more!

Whether it’s before or after your lover has experience an orgasm (or two), there will come a point when she will be very receptive to your penetrating her vagina with your hard penis—and believe me when I say, it will be very hard at this point!

She’ll Want To Engage In Sex

Although you can expect her to pull you into her and gyrate around until you experience the same orgasmic pleasure, keep in mind that this might not be all she’s willing to do. Being in a highly sexually aroused state, she may want to take you in her mouth or use the oil to give you the best handjob you’ve ever had.

How you get your pleasure at this point isn’t what’s important. What’s most important is that through the art of sensual and erotic massage, you were able to meet both the emotional and sexual needs of your partner and provide her with a highly intimate experience that will surely make her long for more of the same.

Don’t Focus Only On One Area – Involve All Her Erogenous Zones

When you continue on to lovemaking, keep in mind that while there are fairly obvious pleasure zones, women have other body parts that are very sensitive to caresses, strokes and kisses that can increase their desire for sex and intensify their orgasms. These areas vary from woman to woman, but it’s definitely worth paying attention to the ears, neck, back, arms and other less obvious places to see what she likes. When you find those magic spots, spend some extra time stimulating those areas both during and after your massage. Don’t just focus strictly on her vagina to keep her going. Pay attention to her entire body. This will help to intensify her desire for sex and provide a more intense love making session.

Be sure to spend adequate time playing with your lover’s breasts, as well. If you’re lady is a size DD, paying attention to her breasts probably isn’t a problem for you. But if your woman has small breasts, you might be like some men and bypass them on your way to what you might perceive as what matters most—her vagina. For most women, however, both big breasted and small, their breasts are highly erotic zones and a vital part when it comes to stimulating her sexually.

How To Play With Her Breasts

Explore her breasts by sucking, licking, stroking, nibbling, and gently squeezing them. Although the nipples and areola (the pinkish-brown circles around her nipples) are known to be sensitive, so are the undersides of her breasts just under the areola. Some women don’t feel a thing when their nipples are touched. But stroke or lick just under her areola and, zing, the nipples instantly harden. Be sure to use your fingers, tongue, lips, hand, and even the head of your hardened penis to explore and stimulate her breasts.

Some women enjoy having their nipples pinched, bitten or flicked. However, this depends on your lady’s personality, mood, where she is in her menstrual cycle, as well as how many glasses of wine she’s had! There might be times when just the pads of your fingertips feel to rough. Other times, she might beg you to bite her nipples harder and harder. There’s really no way to tell what she’s going to be up for from one day to the next, so be sure to ask her what feels good.

Oral Sex Techniques That Will Make Your Girl’s Legs Shake!

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Oral sex is a great way to give your partner an orgasm before sex. Here are easy to use tricks that will stroke and lick your lover into orgasm frenzy!

Side-To-Side

The obvious choice for licking the clitoris is vertical (top to bottom, or bottom to top), but side-to-side also has its advantages too. When you lick side-to-side, you’re moving your tongue in a way that you normally wouldn’t, and thus, it’ll take you a bit longer and it may even offer a bit more resistance than just vertically licking her. Because of this, side-to-side licks are best for when you want to arouse your partner quickly with a bit more pressure, as this will feel very different to her. Make sure there is adequate lubrication as well with side-to-side, as they can abrade a bit more because your tongue will hit angles on her Clitoral Hood that it normally wouldn’t find otherwise.

Diagonal

Licking a woman’s clitoris on the diagonal is more than just moving your tongue from one side to another on a slant; if you try, you’ll likely be able to do a few, but anything more than that will probably give you a kink in your tongue. Instead use leverage to get a good diagonal lick going, by cocking your head to one side and using her inner thigh as a place to rest your head. Then start at the bottom corner, and give her one full lick up and across the clitoris until it reaches the opposite, far corner.

Even with propping your head up during oral sex, you’ll find that this isn’t an easy position to keep for any length of time. Plus, it’s a bit challenging on the mouth as well, because you’re using the side of your tongue more than the flat top or tip as you would with the other tongue strokes. Use the diagonal lick judiciously, especially when you want to throw an element of unpredictability in cunnilingus, as well as a totally unique feeling for both of you.

The Precision Lick

This is a very pointed lick, where you’re licking a certain area repeatedly until a certain goal is achieved. Maybe it’s to inflame her sexually, or you want to create a bit of repetition so that her clitoris gets used to your tongue strokes. No matter what the reason, use this tongue stroke when you want to pay special attention to a certain area, and make the licks short and quick like you are devouring the best ice cream cone of your life. When you find a part of her anatomy that is particularly delectable, spend even more time in this area with these precise licks, adding pressure and speeding things up accordingly.

Shadow

In this tongue stroke, your finger follows your tongue wherever it goes, like a shadow. So if your tongue gives a long, wet, firm lick, then your finger should do the same thing. Quick, short and light? Keep the finger following with the same tempo and pressure. The difference between the soft wetness of your tongue and the firm give of your finger can really drive her wild, trying to predict what’s next, what will touch her, and how.

Using A Flat, Firm Tongue

A flat, still tongue is one of the most used tongue strokes in this series, yet most people upon reading it, scoff and think, “There’s no way not doing anything can actually do something.” And yet, if you’ve learned anything by now through this process, you’ve learned that sometimes taking a break is the best thing you can do.

When I say a flat tongue, I mean just that. Flat, firm, and as still as possible. It’s a pressing motion, like flattening a pancake. Stay still with flat tongued strokes, and let her build some resistance. Have her move below you, trying to get some more friction buildup. See what parts of her body undulate and contort to get more from you while you’re flat-tongued, and learn what she likes in turn. This is also an excellent tool to use when she’s feeling disconnected; just look up at her and make eye contact while still connected to her clitoris with your flat tongue, and give her a playful wink.

Spring Into Action

After you’ve teased her a bit with your flat, still tongue, do the exact opposite: spring into action like you’re a man gone wild, with light but pointed flicks around her clitoris that are completely unpredictable and as fast as you can possibly muster them. Then go back to the flat, still tongue routine and have her begging for more.

Hoover

So named after the vacuum – this tongue lick is meant to apply a gentle sucking pressure to her clitoris so that blood fills the clitoris and brings her closer to climax.

This technique is similar to a relatively expensive device on the market called the Eros, which uses suction to engorge the clitoris with blood while increasing lubrication and pleasurable sensations leading to orgasm. Small clinical trials found that none of its test subjects had less sensation, orgasms or lubrication after using the device, and all saw measurable increases in all three measures. Plus, the study found that 100% of the women in the study diagnosed with female sexual dysfunction felt more clitoral sensation after using the Eros.

Therefore, use a gentle Hoover-like technique when you want to increase blood flow, sensation and lubrication in your partner.

The ABC’s

You can also use an alphabet tongue stroke series to arouse your partner and enhance unpredictability, but at certain stages of female sexual response, you will want to offer some predictable rhythms with unpredictable accents or angles. That’s where the numbers tongue strokes come in; instead of using the whole alphabet, use just one letter over and over again, emphasizing one select part of the flow. Maybe “?” marks the spot for you, where you use several diagonal licks to get the point across, or “?” works even better by avoiding the clitoris completely and teasing around it instead.

Why You Can’t Give Her Orgasms With Your Penis

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An orgasm is the icing on the cake for a girl, but many guys don’t get that far once intercourse starts. Here’s why it’s pretty much impossible to consistently give a woman an orgasm using just your penis.

There is a window of time during intercourse when practically only one thing is happening – the THRUSTING. Everything else, the kissing and caressing, virtually ceases. Often, a woman fades to the background as the man interacts solely with her vagina. It’s that point during sex when men appear to be off to their own worlds, expending all energy with genital-on-genital action.

This is easily the man’s favorite part; gladly skipping the foreplay for this – making a “repeating vaginal tourist” of his penis.

It rocks! But, is it a screaming hit for the girl too? Not necessarily.

It Takes Two To Tango

Remember: THERE IS ANOTHER PERSON INVOLVED IN SEX – and that person is a woman, someone incredibly different from you. Just because you’re teetering at Cloud 9 doesn’t mean she is also – as all the furious thrusting could very well do nothing for her!

The vagina itself is not as sensitive as many think. Although nerves that line the vaginal walls sense PRESSURE, bringing with it a pleasurable sensation of being “filled”, it’s just not the screaming ecstasy they make you believe in porn. It’s just not. Many believe that the friction between penis and vaginal walls is what gives Eve these screaming orgasms. But that’s not true!

Unless you chance on her G-spot, a great percentage of women (30%-60%) will never orgasm by penetration alone. Friction alone is not enough, you could pump her ‘til morning but she won’t orgasm from it.

PENETRATION MIGHT BE ONE OF THE MOST EFFECTIVE WAY OF GIVING YOU AN ORGASM but IT’S ALSO ONE OF THE MOST INEFFECTIVE WAYS OF GIVING HER ONE.

It’s the “your pleasure does not necessarily mean my pleasure” drift once again.

How Her Orgasm Is Different

While we don’t want to dive completely into female orgasms, realize this: Men and women need different types of motions to achieve climax. Penetration is YOUR way because the motions involved are similar to male masturbation – so it works for you. Hers is a bit different.

You want to give your girl an orgasm? Penetration is not the most effective way; instead, mimic what happens when she masturbates. Imagine how lesbian couples have fun. No penis there. (Gee, I wonder why.) Dildos are not even a hit. Still, they report high sexual satisfaction ratings.

Talk to bisexuals. They sleep with both teams so they’re in a position to compare. Ask them who’s better, ask them who brings the sizzlers. They’d tell you that the ones without a stick shift often wins the day.

Now, for a man sporting a huge tool, who believes it’s a gift for all womanity, this comes as a surprise. ‘How can that be?!’ – becomes the question.

Well, besides the fact that they know the bodies of fellow women better, which by the way is something we can never take away from them, the lesson here is this: THE PENIS IS NOT NECESSARY FOR HER ORGASM. Otherwise, why would women masturbate? A penis inside her pit could even prevent some from climax.

You don’t need big Jimmy to arouse or satisfy her. Heck, you don’t even need to take her clothes off, much less yours.

To focus on the penis as the source of her well-being is definitely looking at the wrong side of things. Do not look at something in YOUR body. Stop looking down there. Instead, look at HER body. Your penis gives YOU pleasure because it’s lined with nerves that ultimately connect to the pleasure centers of YOUR brain. What gives HER pleasure?

Premature Ejaculation – How Kegels Can Help You Last 20 Minutes Longer In Bed

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Premature ejaculation can mean the end of your sex life. Learn about this simple little exercise that can help YOU last longer in bed by over twenty minutes!

What Are Kegels?

Kegels are the name given to exercising a specific muscle in the body called the PC muscle. The PC muscle is a muscle in the genital area, also known as the pelvic floor muscle. Strong PC muscles can help you prevent premature ejaculation.

How To Locate The PC Muscle

Finding it is easy. When you next go to the bathroom, stop the urine flow mid stream without pinching the head of your penis. The muscle you use to stop the urine flow is what is known as the PC muscle. And just as it can stop the flow of urine it can be trained to stop the flow of ejaculation during orgasm.

The only catch is that stopping ejaculation is more difficult than stopping urine flow and requires two extra critical factors not needed in stopping urine flow; strength and timing. If you don’t get these two critical factors right, then no matter what you do you will not be able to use it to last longer in bed.

On the other hand if you do get them right then you’ll have mastered one of the single most effective methods for lasting longer in bed. So how can you develop your strength and timing? Well firstly, the strength is developed by exercising this muscle, which is also known as performing Kegels.

How Men Perform Kegels

Performing Kegels is relatively simple. It doesn’t take a lot of time. In fact it shouldn’t take more than 10 minutes a day, 5 days a week. What’s even better is that they can be done while doing some other basic tasks like driving or while you’re sitting at a computer.

So really it costs you no extra time to do them. It’s more a case of getting in the habit of doing them, because if you don’t they’ll be too easy to forget to do.

The Kegels Workout

Here’s how I recommend a man workout his Kegels. Locate the area if you haven’t already. Tighten and hold it as tight as you can for 2 seconds, then relax it fully for 2 seconds. Squeeze and hold it as tight as you can for 2 seconds, and relax it again fully for 2 seconds. Repeat this process 10 times to make one “set.” Take a 1 minute break, then repeat steps 2-6. That’s it.

Putting a halt to premature ejaculation really that simple.

Depending on your current strength you may want to increase the intensity of the workout, like doing more reps or sets, but the above is a good starting point. Over time you will want to increase the intensity of your workouts as your pelvic floor area develops more strength.

Just don’t OVER work yourself! The aim is not to injure yourself but to develop your muscle strength so you can stop premature ejaculation.

How To Last Longer In Bed

So assuming you’ve got enough pelvic floor strength (which can take between 1 to 3 weeks to develop) you now need to master your timing to stop premature ejaculation and last longer in bed.

When you learn to stop ejaculation during orgasm what happens is your desire to orgasm again will disappear for anywhere between 1 to 10 minutes (depending on your timing and strength) but you will still maintain your erection. This means you can keep on having sex without the need to immediately orgasm.

And when the desire to orgasm comes up again you can just stop ejaculation a second time and continue again. Overall it’s a very powerful technique for lasting longer in bed.

And once you figure out how to do it it really is as simple as just temporarily stopping your thrusting or the stimulation you’re getting when you’re about to orgasm and squeezing tight on your PC muscle. But to get the timing of the tightening perfect takes practice. If you stop the stimulation and tighten your muscles too early then your ejaculation won’t come and the desire to orgasm will still be there when you start up stimulation again.

If, on the other hand, you tighten your muscle too late then your ejaculation will have built up too much momentum by the time you squeeze your muscle and you won’t be able to stop ejaculation from happening.

So be prepared to fail (which I recommend you do during masturbation before trying it out in the bedroom) before you master it. But taking the time to learn Kegels is well worth the effort, because like I said earlier it is one of the single most powerful techniques for lasting longer in bed.

Oral Sex: Why The Ladies Love It

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Oral sex isn’t just something guys love – women crave it too! Here’s why chicks dig oral sex and how YOU can satisfy their needs!

It is a well known fact that oral sex is extremely pleasurable for a man. The irrefutable evidence permeates our society from sexual innuendos in commercials to adult films and pornography. It is true that a man will not let a woman who gives great fellatio go far and for many men, oral sex is the cornerstone of a sexual relationship. Unfortunately, oral sex for women (called cunnilingus) doesn’t get quite as much publicity as fellatio does, in spite of the fact that it is more pleasurable for a woman to receive oral sex than it is for a man.

It’s Actually More Pleasurable For A Girl

Come again? Yes, you heard right. The amount of pleasure experienced by a woman when receiving oral sex is much greater than the pleasure experienced by a man receiving oral sex. How is this possible? The surface area of a man’s penis greatly exceeds the surface area of the clitoris; therefore oral sex for a man must feel better. Well, not exactly. Packed into that tiny little clitoris in a woman’s vulva is a whopping eight thousand nerve endings! We guarantee that isn’t something you learned in Sex Ed! Yes, the clitoris has almost two times the amount of nerve endings than a penis does and is the most sensitive part of the human body (both male and female). If the clitoris is such a big deal, how come we haven’t heard much about it until now?

This is where a little bit of psychology comes into play. It is a woman’s nature to give and give without ever receiving. It is unlikely that she will ever ask or tell you that she would like to experience cunnilingus – women just aren’t wired that way. She may give clues like freshening up down south or making suggestive comments, but since men take such a direct approach to everything, it is quite possible that he will miss these clues entirely.

Oral Sex Will Give Women Better Orgasms Too

Rest assured, however, that nearly all women love to be gone down on, for both physical and emotional reasons. The physical, of course, is obvious – by directly stimulation her clitoris with a hot, wet mouth, she will most likely experience more powerful, intense and longer lasting orgasms than with intercourse alone. Emotionally, during cunnilingus the woman is the center of attention – nothing matters more at that moment than her pleasure. Many women today balance both careers and a family and in between her screaming boss and putting dinner on the table, there isn’t much time left for her. For a woman, cunnilingus is like a mini-vacation where she can finally forget her daily routine and nagging to-do list while her body releases the pent up tension from the day.

The Proof

A study involving ninety-eight married women as described in Sex: A Man’s Guide, ranked cunnilingus or oral sex as the most enjoyable and gratifying sexual act – eighty-two percent of these married women feel that receiving cunnilingus outranks any other sexual act! Only sixty-eight percent of the women felt that intercourse was very pleasurable and believe it or not, these women experienced an orgasm only twenty-five percent of the time! That means that out of every four times these women engaged in a sexual act, only once did they reach orgasm! During oral sex, however, these same women reached orgasm a whopping eighty-one percent of the time. There’s solid proof that cunnilingus is the most surefire way to give a woman an orgasm. In a similar study by Kinsey and Masters and Johnson, only 7.7 percent of women did not reach an orgasm if their husbands spent more than twenty-one minutes engaging in foreplay and oral sex.

Okay, so we’ve made our point. Cunnilingus is the ultimate form of sex for a woman – hands down! You can go down on your partner before you enter her, or you can surprise her and make cunnilingus the main event for an evening. Either way you choose to do it, know that you will ultimately strengthen your relationship and get closer to your partner than you ever were before.