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5 Signs YOUR Sex Toy Is Potentially Hazardous To Your Health!

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Sex toys touch the most sensitive parts of your body, so safety is top priority! Most people don’t know they can be dangerous. Is it time for YOU to upgrade?

Sex toys are wonderful things and can enhance any sexual experience whether it’s just you, you and your partner or you and a bunch of people! But not all sex toys are created equal. Some are low quality and won’t last very long but some are actually harmful to your body. Cigarettes come with a warning label now but sex toys don’t. Consider this your warning label! Here are 5 signs that your sex toy is potentially hazardous.

It Smells Funny

Have you ever had a sex toy that smelled bad? Whether it smells like old tires, old gym socks or just plain stinks, it’s a sure sign that all may not be right with that toy. Materials such as Jelly, rubber, PVC, vinyl, cyber/real-skin varieties and even some TPR/TPE can leach out any one of the many plastic softening chemicals used to create the material. These chemicals carry a strong odor. Other causes of odd smells can be something as simple as an error in the manufacturing process – maybe they didn’t let the glue cure long enough before packaging it up; maybe they used too much cleaner during the end stages and the smell is trapped inside the packaging. If the sex toy is made from a porous material it will likely “soak up” these odors and hang on to them. Not everyone has a reaction to these chemicals; but at any given time any sex toy can contain various levels of these chemicals and there are no regulations. You could be fine with one jelly toy and then have another one leave you with a burning/itching feeling inside.

You Feel All Tingly Inside

And I don’t mean from an orgasm. If you’ve not used a lubricant, or have switched to a “sensitive” formula lubricant and still get a tingling/burning/itching feeling or visible inflammation then the culprit is the sex toy. As mentioned above, some sex toys contain plastic softening chemicals or other chemicals that can be an irritant for some people. The reaction you get might range from a vague, short-lived tingle or itch to a full-blown low-grade chemical burn that takes a week or more to heal.

There Is A Crack Or Tear In The Material

Always examine your sex toys before you use them. Any sex toy can get damaged for any number of reasons. A crack in plastic or a gash in soft material means that it is time to ditch the toy. Bacteria can harbor in those cracks and tears. Do you own a wooden dildo? They’re wonderful (and no splinters, I promise!) but if you ever notice that the varnish/shiny coating is missing in a spot or looks like old, crackly paint then the dildo needs to go. It’s the coating that keeps a wooden dildo non-porous.

It’s Made From Porous Material

A lot of the less expensive sex toys are made from materials that can be porous. The same materials that can harbor foul-smelling chemicals are also usually porous. Porous means that it can never be disinfected or sanitized from bacteria. Anyone who uses a toy anally that is porous should trade up for something made of silicone (or glass, or metal!) to keep bacteria in check. If you won’t get rid of the toy and it doesn’t have a smell, you should at least cover it with a condom for added safety.

You Have No Idea What Material It’s Made From

So you purchased the sex toy from an online reseller that didn’t list all the properties and specs of the toy. Or you went to your local “adult bookstore” and purchased a vibrator where the packaging is merely a blisterpack with a photo of a hot girl or guy and some marketing words that promise orgasmic nirvana. It’s ok, we’ve all probably done this at some point in our lives. If you don’t know what the material is then don’t buy it or stop using it.

Silicone Is The Way To Go!

Now that you’re looking at your sex toys with a suspicious eye and wondering if you should just give up on sex toys altogether let me give you some advice: Silicone. Purchased from a reputable manufacturer, silicone (as long as it’s 100% pure medical grade silicone) is the perfect sex toy material. Non-porous, it never stinks, and lasts a long time (just don’t use a silicone-based lubricant on it, that will ruin it). Silicone can be sanitized/disinfected; so can glass, hard plastic, ceramic and metal. Are you still dubious? It’s understandable since there are no regulations and manufacturers can say what they want.

A simple test to be sure that your silicone toy is truly medical-grade 100% silicone is called the “flame test.” Using a lighter, apply the flame carefully to a small spot on the toy for 5 seconds. Silicone can withstand temperatures past 500 degrees Fahrenheit, so if it melted, it is not silicone. If there is a black scorch mark that doesn’t rub off, then it’s not pure silicone. Glass and metal are also favorites of mine but can be a little scary for the uninitiated. Just be sure to keep the size down since hard materials are less forgiving.

Q&A: Sex Toys For Virgins

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Sex toys aren’t just for advanced users. Virgins who choose not to have sex yet still want satisfaction! Whether you’re a teen looking into exploring your body before choosing to become sexually active, or you’re abstaining from sex but still want to have great orgasms, you definitely want to have a great sex toy in your nightstand! However, a huge dildo probably isn’t the best choice. What are good sex toy choices for virgins or women who are abstaining from intercourse?

Question: I’m a young virgin, and I want an inexpensive sex toy that won’t stretch me out. Any suggestions?

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Clitoral Vibrators

First off, if you don’t want to deal with insertion at all, your best option is a vibrator designed specifically for the clitoris. All it does is sit on top of the clitoris and vibrate – no insertion required! This is also the perfect choice if you’re a virgin and don’t want to stretch yourself out or damage your hymen in any way. In fact, many women prefer clitoral vibrators over other styles of sex toys simply because they can provide some of the best orgasms! The clitoris was designed for sexual pleasure – and that’s it! It has no other function at all except to provide pleasure. Many women – even very sexually experienced ones – choose clitoral vibrators again and again simply because it’s one of the easiest and best ways to reach climax!

Small, Slender And Discreet Vibrators

There are many small and slender vibrators out there that are designed for insertion, but they are so slender, they’re not going to stretch you out at all. In fact, many slender vibrators are thinner than a tampon! While you definitely want to stay away from Rabbit style sex toys (those can be quite large and are better suited to advanced sex toy users) and large dildos, small and slender vibrators might just be right up your alley. Most of these types of sex toys are designed to be discreet, and can fit in your purse or may look like a tube of lipstick. These make excellent starter sex toys, especially if you’ve never had sex before and are just starting to experiment with sex toys!

Bullet And Torpedo Style Vibrators

A bullet style vibrator is a must have for every woman, simply because it is so small and versatile. A simple bullet vibe can be placed on the clitoris or in the vagina, and some of them can be inserted into cock rings and used for couples pleasure (when you get there). Torpedo style vibes are also popular – they’re generally just a longer version of the bullet vibe. Jimmy Jane makes excellent torpedo style vibrators – they’re extremely classy and barely even an inch in width. G-spot vibrators are also popular, because they typically have a larger bulb on the top, followed by very slender handle.

Remember That Your Vagina Is Made To Stretch

While you certainly don’t want to purchase any sex toys that make you feel uncomfortable or feel too big for you, keep in mind that your vagina is designed to stretch and return to it’s normal shape. It’s not as though you’re going to put a vibrator in there and your vagina is going to stretch out and never return to it’s normal size. It will! The vagina will even return to it’s normal size and shape after giving birth – and that is definitely stretching. The only thing that won’t return to normal after using an insertable sex toy if you’re a virgin is your hymen – once you break that, it’s done and over with. But also know that the hymen can be broken during a variety of non-sexual activities, such as horseback riding, gymnastics, or even inserting a tampon.

Inexpensive Sex Toys

While there are lots of inexpensive sex toys out there that are great, there are many that aren’t so great. While price is a good thing to keep in mind when shopping for sex toys, you really don’t want to compromise on quality. Make sure whatever toy you choose is manufactured with body safe, phthalate free materials (or slip a condom over it if you’re not sure) and is made by a reputable company. Buying cheap sex toys may make your wallet feel better now, but you won’t be pleased when you open the package and find that it stinks like chemicals or the vibrations are weak. If you can find actual user reviews on the sex toys you’re considering purchasing, read through them! They can really help you decide whether or not a particular toy is right for you.

Female Orgasm – 2 Secrets That WORK To Prime Her For An Incredible Climax!

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An orgasm doesn’t have to be rocket science – with these two simple tricks, she’ll be well on her way to climax heaven (and begging for more!)

Sex Doesn’t Always Start In The Bedroom!

When a man gives his partner a great sense of sexual pleasure, he is aware of one fact that most guys don’t know: sex does not always begin in the bedroom! You should have a plan for a steamier sexual experience with your partner. You should do something beforehand to give her the best sex – and orgasms!

One great way to put your partner in a sexual mood is by giving her some kind of an intermission before the actual intimate act. Women cannot be turned on just with physical intimacy. Their minds need to be conditioned prior to the sexual intercourse. This can be done by spicing things up with a twist of romance.

There are two settings that you can use to liven up the sexual experience with your partner.

Cook Your Way Into Her Pants

You may begin by cooking a special meal while she is not yet home. Cook whatever recipe you know because even if it is not the best food that she will eat, your effort in preparing this will surely be appreciated. And, while she’s stuck in the traffic, make a path of candles and turn off all the lights in your house. Make it a candlelight dinner if you find it more appealing for your partner. Put white wine or champagne on your list of what to serve.

Just before the dessert, prepare a nice, warm bubble bath for her. Dim the lights and have candles lit around the tub. After dinner, take her to the bathroom and be the one to undress her. While you give her a bath, touch every sensitive part of her body, but do not begin your exploration with her breasts. Once she becomes in the mood for sex, you may start caressing her inner thighs.

Right after the bath, dry her up and begin with the most awaited foreplay. Not only will you prepare her physically, you will also put her into the feel of having an exhilarating moment with you – guaranteed to prime her for an amazing orgasm later.

Sexting Works Like A Charm!

If you and your partner have creativity in mind, you may take this passionate plan away from the privacy of your home. You can take her to a restaurant for dinner. Once in the restaurant, excuse yourself for some private time in the bathroom. Then call her using your cell phone, as she waits for you at the table. Tell her about your deepest and most intimate desires while on the line. This will surely please her because women are very imaginative about sexual fantasies especially with the person they go to bed with!

You may continue this sexual innuendo after dinner as you ride in the car to a secluded place. Play a sensual music in the background, something that will set the atmosphere for the two of you. Then whisper gently into her ears everything that you have planned to do to her.

Once you hear her ask for more, take her! If the car seems uncomfortable for the two of you, you may want to head to the nearest motel in town. And with the intense sexual anticipation already building up, you will certainly give her the best sex (and and climax) ever!

How Erotic Massage Will TRIPLE Your Partner’s Sexual Desire!

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Erotic massage can be exactly what your lover needs if your life has dwindled. Find out how erotic massage can make your girl want it again!

When She Doesn’t “Want It” Anymore

One of the most common complaints among men in long-term relationships is their female partner’s lack of sexual desire. And no matter how many different attempts they make to sexually are one of the most common complaints among men in long-term relationships is their female partner’s lack of sexual desire. And no matter how many different attempts they make to sexually arouse their partners, more often than not, they find themselves having to go to bed at night without sex, along with feelings of frustration and rejection.

What a lot of men don’t understand is that a woman’s desire for sex is directly linked to how she feels about her partner and her relationship. If her needs are being met by her partner and she feels happy and emotionally connected to her partner, she will be more receptive to sex.

Sexual desire is part of a man’s chemical makeup. That is not the case for women. A man is almost automatically wired to desire sex. A woman, however, has to have a reason to desire lovemaking. While a man can feel instant arousal by the sight of his female partner showering naked, it usually takes a lot more for a woman to feel aroused. And this is exactly where erotic massage comes into play!

How Erotic Massage Can Help

Erotic massage can be quite rejuvenating both physically and sexually for both partners. This is due to the massage having the ability to influence our brain chemistry through the stimulation of our endocrine glands. During this stimulation, our glands produce more serotonin, DHEA, testosterone, and oxytocin—chemicals responsible for inducing sexual desire.

For women, the effects of an erotic massage are like a natural aphrodisiac. In addition to the stimulation of hormones linked to sexual desire, the massage also increases blood circulation. As the hormones begin to flood into her enhanced blood stream, she becomes sexually aroused and her desire for sex increases. Erotic massage has also been proven to enhance orgasms in women. One scientific study conducted by the University of California San Francisco found that women given a 15-minute Swedish massage experienced increased levels of oxytocin—a hormone that is released during climax. So not only does her desire for sex increase, she’ll also be more likely to have an orgasm.

Erotic massage can also reduce anxiety about sexual performance in both men and women. Preliminary findings of a study at the Touch Research Institute showed that couples that massaged each other had lower levels of sexual performance anxiety. They also reported increased physical intimacy (Hernandez, 2000). With reduced anxiety and increased affection and intimacy, many couples’ sex lives are rejuvenated by introducing sensual and erotic massage into their relationships.ouse their partners, more often than not, they find themselves having to go to bed at night without sex, along with feelings of frustration and rejection.

How To Tell If YOU Need A New Sex Toy!

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Sex toys can burn out over time, or you can get tired of them. Sometimes, you just want something you’ve never tried before! From time to time, you’re going to have to replace your sex toys or buy new ones, but it can be hard to part with a favorite. Here are five things to look for to tell if you need to chuck your current vibrator and go shopping for sex toys!

It Runs On Batteries

There are a lot of great sex toys that run on batteries, but there are far, far better ones that are rechargeable! They cost a little more, but in the long run, you’re paying for that in batteries anyways. Rabbit style vibrators use a LOT of juice, and if you own one, you’re probably at the store buying batteries every other week.

If your favorite sex toy runs on batteries, consider replacing it with a version that is rechargeable. If you’re looking for a Rabbit style vibrator, try the LELO Ina. Smaller bullet style vibrators also come rechargeable.

It Contains Phthalates

While jelly sex toys look really pretty, they can contain dangerous chemicals called phthalates that have been linked to cancer. If your sex toy contains phthalates, you could be unknowingly increasing your risk for developing cervical cancer. Ditch the cheap jelly materials and get something made from body safe silicone, wood or hard plastic. If you absolutely have to have sex toys made from jelly material or any material containing phthalates, protect yourself by slipping a condom over it before insertion.

The Vibrations Aren’t As Strong As They Used To Be

When you first got your vibrator, it was perfect. The vibrations were exquisite and catapulted you to orgasm land in no time flat. But a few months later, you notice that it takes a little longer to reach orgasm, and you have to press a little harder each time to feel the vibrations. Are the vibrations getting weaker? Probably. Sex toys aren’t made to last forever. If yours constantly sounds like it’s running out of power (even if you just put fresh batteries in), it may be time for an upgrade.

It Looks Dingy Or Has An Odor

Unfortunately, not all sex toys are non-porous. When shopping for one, try to get a body safe toy that IS non-porous (like glass), but you may not have known that going into purchasing your current one. If any of the sex toys you’re currently using don’t look as clear or shiny as they used to, or they’ve picked up an odor, it’s time to throw them away. Sex toys made from porous materials like jelly can pick up bacteria during use, and body fluids can begin to soak in. When you really think about it, you don’t want that hanging around in your nightstand!

You Want A New One

Every girl should have her own sex toy – or more than one! Couples should also have plenty of sex toys to play with! If you simply want a brand spanking new toy (whether it is an exact replica of your very favorite or something you’ve never tried before), you have every right to get yourself what you want! Even if you just bought one and you’re not happy with it or want something to accompany it, go out and get another one! Get whatever you want, provided you’ve got the funds.

Get A Good One!

You also have the right to invest in a good sex toy. Go for quality materials from a reputable manufacturer. Be choosy. Consider where you want to use it and what you want it to do. Do you want to travel with it, or do you want one that is ultra discreet? Try the LELO Mia – it’s rechargeable via USB port and looks like a tube of lipstick. Do you want a clitoral vibrator that is completely waterproof and you can use in the tub or shower? Get the We-Vibe Touch.

Look for the sex toys that meet both your needs and your desires. If you really would benefit from having a vibrator that you can take with you anywhere (for example, if you travel a lot for work), or the only peace and quiet you get in a crazy household is in the shower, then spending the extra money on a vibrator that meets your needs and gives you what you want is well worth it.