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The 3 Phases Of Oral Sex You MUST Know!

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Oral sex isn’t just going down there and getting your lick/suck on however you like. You can’t just head south and expect her to be able to have an orgasm just from you putting your mouth down there and moving it around for awhile. There’s some technique involved and if you REALLY want to rock her world and give her sheet soaking, earth shattering orgasms, you need to learn these three phases of oral sex TONIGHT!

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What Are The Three Phases Of Great Oral Sex?

While a man may think that he can just jump in and give a girl oral sex and get her off just by moving his mouth around down there, it’s just not true. Sure, girls love it, but there’s a certain way to do it if you really want to make it incredible for her. The best way to bring her to a knee weakening orgasm through oral sex is to move through the different phases of it:

Teasing

Teasing is very important to get a woman warmed up. Even though oral sex is considered foreplay, you need to lead up to it too with a little teasing before fully going down on her. Start slowly and softly. Instead of rushing in to lick her clitoris, start by slowly kissing the insides of her thighs. As you get closer and closer to her vagina, breathe softly on it. Brush your lips against her clitoris lightly enough to tickle her.

When she’s fully aroused and ready for you to get down to business, her clitoris is going to be erect. You may also notice her breathing get a little heavier or that she’s bucking her hips against you, begging for more stimulation. When you sense that she is ready, it’s time to move on to the next step.

Variety

The variety phase is an essential component to great oral sex, because women need variety. Even if you’re using a particular technique that she seems to like really well, it can get tiring after a little while and she may become desensitized to it. Doing different things and experimenting with different techniques is important to get her to climb closer and closer to orgasm.

As you try different things, watch her reactions to them. Gauge her body language to see what she really enjoys and responds best too, as well as other techniques that she seems to like okay, but they don’t really push her hot buttons. Here are some great examples of different moves to try to find out which ones she craves:

  • Thrust your tongue inside her vagina.
  • Use different tongue strokes on the clitoris.
  • Suck gently on her clitoris.
  • Insert your finger in her vagina while licking her clitoris.

Orgasm

When her breathing becomes even heavier and it feels like she’s about to lose control, she’s heading into the orgasm phase of oral sex. When you sense that she is getting close, presumably because you found an oral sex technique that she really responds to, the most important thing is to keep doing what you’re doing. This is not the time that you want to switch up and try a new technique to see if she likes it even better – you may actually ruin her orgasm if you do that. Whatever you find that she likes, that’s what you want to do as she goes through the orgasm phase.

You can start going a little faster and a little harder as she gets closer and closer to climax, so long as you continue to do the same thing. Communicate with her though, and make sure she’s liking what you’re doing. She may not want you to go faster or harder – she may like what you’re doing exactly the way you’re doing it. Encourage her to communicate with you and if you do something that she likes and she knows will make her orgasm, have her say, “Don’t stop!”

Ladies, it’s not up to your guy to read your mind. If you like what he’s doing, be sure and tell him not to do anything else! Or you may end up being disappointed if he misreads your signals and tries to use a different technique just as you’re about to climax.

Have Fun With It

One of the most important aspects of oral sex – for a girl or a guy – is enthusiasm. When you go down on someone and you’re not really into it, they can tell – immediately. So above all, have fun with it! Show your partner you enjoy it and you like pleasing them!

How To Be The Most Confident Lover She’s Ever Had

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Sex is something men love.  That’s hardly news. But what is the difference between getting it on and having the best intercourse ever? Use your brain. Yes, that is the answer. Your brain is the greatest powerful sex organ you have. Thinking about intercourse and understanding what you like is an important but commonly overlooked, step in being great at sex.

When Sex Is More Than Just Doin’ It

Men tend to react simply and physically to arousal: “I see a hot girl. I want to have sex with the hot girl.” Transforming that into mind blowing intercourse means getting to know yourself, and I don’t just mean manually. Understand who you are as a sexual being. These days, men are bombarded with sexual imagery. Porn is readily available. Half-naked girls are constantly bouncing across your TV screen and through the pages of magazines. As a result, men tend to take their sexual cues from outside sources. While new ideas are always welcome, it is important to explore the real reasons behind your arousals, and thrilling ways to satisfy them.

Expand Your Ideas About Sex

Let’s take the hot girl from before. You already know you want to get it on with her, but what is that going to look like? Ask yourself some questions:

  • How do you want to touch her?
  • How do you want her to touch you?
  • What are you hoping to achieve during your encounter (besides orgasm)?

What Turns You On?

Understand what turns you on and why, and learn how to communicate it. Being great at sex works in both your favors. For example, if you love performing oral sex, your partner has the benefit of being in bed with someone who is completely engrossed in the task at hand. She may reach orgasm several times before you’re done. However, if that is something you’re not into, your partner will sense it, and that is uncomfortable for everyone involved.

Getting to know yourself sexually is valuable in understanding your own comfort zone. The kinkiest of kink may be intriguing on screen, but that doesn’t mean it translates well into real life. Understanding your sexual boundaries and how to communicate them to your partner will help you avoid unsatisfying encounters.

The brain is a powerful organ. Your body only reacts the way the brain instructs. When you understand the satisfaction of the intercourse you’re having in your mind, you can bring it to the bedroom. You will be a more self assured with sex, allowing you to satisfy both yourself and your partner better than ever.

How A Woman’s Orgasm Works

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An orgasm isn’t something that men can easily give until they understand the basics of how a it comes about. You’ve probably heard this disconcerting fact before: 75% of women do not reach orgasm during intercourse. This doesn’t mean that 75% of women don’t climax at all, it means only 25% of them can climax while you’re pumping away and screaming baseball statistics into their ears.

This is a rectifiable situation, and it starts with you, buddy. Understanding the four stages of the orgasm, as laid out by sexperts Masters & Johnson, can help you put your significant other into that desired 25%, and make her like you better!

The Stages Of Orgasm

  • Excitement
  • Plateau
  • Orgasm
  • Refractory
  • Resolution

The Excitement Phase

So what happens when you are excited? Blood rushes to your penis, and it gets hard. It is similar for women. Blood rushes to her genitals causing her clitoris to swell and her vagina to increase in diameter and length. Her cervix and uterus are pulled up, and her body produces lubrication, i.e. she gets wet. While this doesn’t happen as quickly as it does to you, 5 minutes into Meet Joe Black she ought to be ready to go.

The Plateau Phase

The term plateau gives the impression that there is not a lot happening. On the contrary, there is a lot going on. Your heart rate and your breathing speed up. Blood is congested in your genitals, waiting to blow. This is the same for her. Listen to her breathing and feel her heart rate. If you don’t notice a change, go back to step one.

The Orgasm Phase

Now here is where men and women differ. Men have a Point of No Return (PNR). This is when there is no stopping a man. He is going to orgasm even if his mother walks into the room. Women do not have this. A woman can be a split second away from orgasm, and it may be interrupted. She must be stimulated all the way through her climax!

The Refractory Period

After this, there is the Refractory Period. That is the part where you’ve climaxed, you may still be hard, but you are definitely not climaxing again. Once again, women do not have a Refractory Period! They go back to the Plateau stage. This confuses men. To them, the orgasm is the end game. Once it’s achieved, the act is over. For women, they’re just getting started. Each proceeding orgasm is more intense than the previous. Given proper stimulation, a woman can reach an “orgasm cloud” where her multiple orgasms are so strong and so continuous, that they seemingly blend into one constant orgasm.

The Resolution Phase

After the Refractory Stage comes the Resolution. This is the part where you’re blissfully snoring before the condom even comes off. Since women don’t go through the Refractory Stage, Resolution begins once stimulation has ended. If you have satisfied her sexually, you have flooded her brain with endorphins, the happiness hormone. That means she will be happier with you, less likely to be angered by your dirty socks on the floor. Well, at least for a few hours anyway.

Q&A: Sex Positions And How She Can Last Longer When She’s On Top

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Sex positions can help you go faster in bed or last longer, depending on which ones you use. Different sex positions help accomplish different things, such as reaching the g-spot better or providing more clitoral stimulation.  Many women like to be on top to speed orgasm up, but there are a lot of women that can actually climax too quickly this way! Here’s how to last longer when riding your man.

Question: My boyfriend really likes it when I’m on top, but I’d like to know how I can last longer in this position. After 2 minutes I get tired! If I let myself go and enjoy, I get paralysed by the pleasure, if I try to focus I lose it. Please help me!

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Why Girl On Top Is So Great

This sex position is great for many women, because it allows them control over basically every aspect of sex with their partners. When a woman is on top, she can control the pace, as well as the angle and depth of penetration. Having her man underneath her and being in control of everything will often help a woman reach orgasm faster than during other sex positions like missionary or doggy style.

Unfortunately, it’s easy for a woman to get tired when she’s riding her man, because she’s basically the one doing all the work. Her legs or arms may cramp up, or she may get a cramp in her hip depending on what angle she’s at. If she’s trying to go faster after her orgasm so that her man can catch up, she may get tired quickly and be uninterested in continuing, especially if she’s already “gotten hers.”

Go Slower

If you tend to get tired easily when using woman-on-top sex positions, try going slower. Ladies, you don’t have to reach climax within minutes of getting on your guy, just because you can. Stretch it out and make it last – not only will going slower feel better and allow your pleasure to really build, it will also help your guy catch up to you more easily when you can’t hold it in anymore. You’ll last longer because you’re not getting tired as quickly, and also because you’re concentrating less on reaching orgasm and more on prolonging intercourse.

Also, try supporting yourself some with your arms, or use pillows so that your partner can take over some of the thrusting when you get tired. He can do this easily by lifting his legs up a little, bending his knees and putting his feet on the bed (or the floor, couch or wherever you’re at), allowing him to use his feet and legs as leverage to thrust. Not only will this give you a break from doing all the work, it will feel really amazing for him!

Change The Angle And Depth Of Penetration

If you find that you’re just simply reaching orgasm too quickly when you’re on top and your guy is lagging behind, you may need to change the angle or depth that your partner’s penis penetrates so you don’t get too excited too fast. Pull back a little bit and don’t bump up against his pelvis if you notice that gives you a lot of stimulation to your clitoris. Or, sit back or move forward a little to keep the head of his penis from rubbing so much against your g-spot.

Try The Reverse Cowgirl

One of the best sex positions for women to last longer when she’s on top is the reverse cowgirl. This involves a woman riding her man, but while facing his feet instead of his torso. Not only does this give your guy quite the show, it also helps you to keep from reaching climax too quickly. This is because you’re not grinding your pelvis so much against his and stimulating your clitoris, and his penis is also at an angle that doesn’t rub the g-spot as much.

Trying Different Sex Positions

While you may really enjoy girl on top sex positions, if they’re not working, they’re not working. You may need to switch to something else – at least for a while anyway – so you’re not climaxing so fast and leaving your partner in the dust so to speak. Finding different sex positions that allow you and your partner to orgasm closer together (or even have a simultaneous orgasm!) may soon become your new favorite.

Sex is supposed to be fun and enjoyable. If you’re stressing out over not being able to last very long in one sex position, just try another and go with the flow. Experiment to find what works! Chances are, it’s going to be more than one thing that does the trick, but it just may not be what you expect.

Male Sex Toys – 5 Things That AREN’T For Her!

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Male sex toys are becoming more and more popular as guys realize that they’re not only for women. Men can have just as much fun during masturbation as a woman can! Here are some must have male sex toys!

A Masturbation Sleeve

Every guy needs one of these! Forget masturbating with your hand – these soft jelly or skin-like sleeves are specifically designed to maximize a man’s pleasure during masturbation. Male sex toys just don’t get any better than this – there are hundreds of different materials, sizes and looks to choose from, so it’s not at all difficult to find one that you really enjoy. Men who use masturbation sleeves report better, deeper orgasms and more overall satisfaction.

Also, keep in mind that to use a masturbation sleeve, you need a bottle of lube hanging around. Most lube will work, but pay attention and don’t use silicone lubes with silicone sleeves, or oil based lubes with latex sleeves. A good, water based lubricant will work with any material.

A Cock Ring

Most guys don’t think about using a cock ring during masturbation, but it can make a world of difference! Cock rings aren’t just for guys who have erectile dysfunction and can’t keep it up, nor are they just for couples who like a vibrating bullet in between them. A soft jelly cock ring can just feel great during masturbation, while a stiffer one can prolong a man’s erection and make his orgasm absolutely incredible.

A Prostate Stimulator

You may have heard that the best male orgasm comes from massaging the prostate gland – however, many guys are still too shy to try anal stimulation. If you can get past the “ick” factor that many men have when thinking about playing with the anus during masturbation, you can have a lot of fun and even more pleasure.

A good drawer full of male sex toys isn’t complete without a prostate stimulator. If you’re new to it, or are still a little creeped out by it but want to achieve that amazing orgasm that everyone is always talking about, try starting with a smaller prostate stimulator. A tiny butt plug will get you used to anal play during masturbation, and as you get more and more into it, you can replace your beginner’s sex toys with more advanced ones.

A Penis Pump

Penis pumps are also not male sex toys that are confined to men that struggle with erectile dysfunction. Any man can enjoy a penis pump, especially if he wants to mimic the sucking feeling produced during oral sex or if he just wants a bigger, harder erection. Penis pumps are often inexpensive, and you can even get pumping models that have a soft jelly or skin-like “masturbation sleeve” attachment.

Be careful when using a penis pump, and never, ever use a vacuum cleaner instead of a pump made specifically for sex. If you pump too hard, you can cause bruising or pain and discomfort. Not worth it! But when used correctly before or during your masturbation session, you can experience more pleasure with a bigger, longer and harder penis.

A Masturbator Mount

If you really want masturbation to feel like a vagina, try purchasing a masturbator mount. Some mounts may only be compatible with some brands of masturbation sleeves, while other types of sleeves cannot be mounted at all. If you’re looking into a mount, make sure you choose one that is compatible with the masturbation sleeve that you already have or are willing to purchase a new one.

A masturbator mount will hold the masturbation sleeve for you, so you can enjoy it absolutely hands free. There are different styles of mounts depending on which sex position you enjoy most – and you can pick the one you like instead of trying to find one that you and someone else will enjoy!

You will love the hands free action that a mount can provide, because it makes it feel even more like sex. Even with a masturbation sleeve, there’s something about doing it with your hands that makes it feel not as good as the real thing (probably because it isn’t the real thing). However, with a mount, you can trick your brain into thinking you’re actually doing the dirty, especially if you close your eyes or have your favorite porn playing on the television in front of you. Just don’t forget to lock the doors!