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Overcoming Early Ejaculation And Making Sex Last Longer

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Premature ejaculation can happen to any guy – no matter whether they’re young or old. If you have premature ejaculation, you’re not alone. You probably feel some anxiety every time you have sex, worrying that you will blow it in double-quick time. While there are differing opinions on the definitions of premature ejaculation, it all boils down to the man ejaculating quicker than he or his partner wants.

The Numbers Don’t Lie

It is not a stretch to say that early ejaculation is by FAR the most prevalent sexual problem affecting men. If men were asked if they have ever had at least one experience of having an orgasm too soon, almost all would have their hands raised up high. Statistics from universal sexual surveys consistently show that at least 30 to 40% of men replied that ejaculating early was an issue.

Getting Over Premature Ejaculation

Learning to effectively overcome PE will depend on its contributory factors. For most men who have to deal with this embarrassing event in their sex lives, the presence of stress and tension in one’s body is a leading cause of PE.

Ever noticed the tension you feel in your body during sex? This can be attributed to various factors, including holding your breath, tightening the muscles in your abs, or certain sex positions where you need to support your weight (e.g. missionary). All these result in muscular tension and increase the potential for an early orgasm.

The male orgasm is basically a series of muscular contractions that release muscular tension. One of the best ways to overcome premature ejaculation is to work on your muscle tension levels. Simple activities such as meditation, stretching, and even basic exercises are very effective ways to reduce the tension in the core abdominal and pelvic areas, and help you gain those crucial minutes during sex.

Other Proven Strategies For Longer-Lasting Sex

Here are 2 specific tips that many guys find useful in getting over premature ejaculation and lasting longer in bed. And I think you’ll find them extremely helpful too.

Bolster Your Ejaculatory Muscles

Your pelvic floor muscles regulate how long you last. If you don’t know where these are, stop your urine midstream and sense the muscle that contracts, somewhere in between your scrotum and anus. That is the muscle that controls both urination and ejaculation. Most men don’t know this, but you can actually strengthen this set of muscles so that you are able to extend your orgasm and even last all night in bed. Simple PC Contraction exercises or Kegel workouts will boost the strength of these muscles and enhance your ejaculatory control.

Focus On “Position Divergence”

The positioning and movement of your penis inside the vagina also affects how long you last. It is very common for guys to penetrate in the standard in and out motion. This type of movement increases the sensations on the penis glans and makes it more difficult to manage your arousal. Instead, try moving your member in a circular motion during intercourse and at the same time, rub your pubic area against hers. Not only will this enhance your stamina, it will stimulate her clitoris better and give her an orgasm sooner. It’s a win-win for the both of you, I’m sure!

Develop An “Ejaculatory Compass”

In many cases, premature ejaculation is a “habit” that has been unwittingly cultivated from young. You see, when most young men masturbate, they tend to use quick strokes to ejaculate quickly so that they can achieve satisfaction without getting caught. If you are used to this quick-fire approach to self-stimulation, you will become accustomed to it even when you are having sex with a partner.

The good news is, such negative habits can be reversed or “un-learned”… simply by allowing yourself MORE time during masturbation. Use this time to get in tune with your sexual arousal; learn how your body responds to stimulation and then associate those sensations to specific benchmarks along your arousal curve. This will help you pinpoint your ejaculatory threshold so that you can take specific steps (e.g. adjust your movements, switch positions, etc) during sex to last longer.

5 Easy Tantric Sex Moves To Try Tonight!

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Tantric sex is a great way to connect emotionally and sexually to your partner. Instead of focusing on techniques to get to orgasm faster, Tantra focuses on the emotional and physical intimacy you share with someone during sex. It also teaches you to focus more on each individual sensation during sex rather than thinking of them as a means to an end. Here are five easy things to do now to have amazing orgasms with your lover.

Sanctify Your Space

If you read the morning newspaper in your bed, or you work from home in bed, eat in bed or do anything else besides sleep and have sex in your bed, then you need to start by sanctifying your space. You’re never going to feel sexual or connected to your partner in the same space that you change diapers in! Start making your bedroom a sex and sleeping only place, so when you walk into the room, you are already starting to get psychologically prepared for sex. You can also splurge on some new silky sheets and a few aromatherapy candles. Anything that you can do to appeal to your senses and get them involved will help you experience sex in a new way.

Dance With Your Partner

Remember that scene in the second Matrix movie where the entire city of Zion did a sweaty, tribal dance together to the sound of deep, resonating drum beats? There’s a reason that scene was so erotic. Bring that sense of eroticism and energy to the bedroom by scouring the Internet for some sexy tribal music and putting it on your iPod. You can also use anything with a slow, sexy beat to it as long as it makes you want to grind and dance with your lover. Turn the lights down low (you can use candles to enhance the mood) and turn music up loud. Let the beat flow through your body as you dance with your partner. You’ll begin to relax and find that your body is more open and sensitive to pleasure, as well as your to your lover. Let the dancing bring out your sensual, animalistic nature!

Practice Breathing Together

Breathing is an essential part of sex. It allows more oxygen into your body which enables blood to flow to and stimulate your genitals. Practice breathing in and out together with your partner before sex or during foreplay. For example, when you’re kissing your partner or cuddling with them before sex, synchronize your intake and outtake of breath with theirs. As you begin breathing together, you’re also going to do other things together, such as experience waves of pleasure and orgasm simultaneously. While you may not experience a simultaneous orgasm with your lover right away during Tantric sex, practicing breathing together and feeling each other will bring you that much closer.

Use The Sitting Up Sex Position

There are a variety of sex positions that you can use during Tantric sex, but the most popular one is the sitting position, where the woman sits on the man’s lap and inserts his penis into her vagina that way. This position allows for very little movement, but that is actually the point here! You’re not going to be able to do much more than rock back and forth on each other – sliding in and out just isn’t going to happen in this position. However, when you slowly rock and grind against each other, your pleasure will continue to build until the point where you think you can’t take it anymore. Stop, kiss your partner deeply and allow yourself to come down some from the brink of orgasm. Then, take your time building your pleasure up again. Combine this with simultaneous breathing and staring deep into your lover’s eyes and you’ll begin to experience pleasure in a whole new way.

Don’t Rush It

Again, the point of Tantric sex is not to rush into orgasm. This is going to be a long, drawn out process (and that is not a bad thing at all) so you want to make a point to do it when you have a good, solid chunk of time where you’re not going to be interrupted. Whether you start with oral sex and then move into breathing and rocking or a combination of several different maneuvers, you don’t want to rush a single minute of it. Focus on each individual wave of pleasure and encourage your partner to do the same. After some practice, you and your partner may even be able to feel each other’s pleasure and it will begin to heighten your own pleasure!

Try This Super-Secret Steamy Sex Move Tonight!

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Sex positions can make or break your sexual experience with your partner. If you’re in a sex rut, new sex positions can really spice things up and make you and your lover feel like you did when you first got together. If your sex life is fun and healthy, new sex positions can really take things to the next level. Surprise your lover tonight with this fun twist on an old classic.

Traditional Spooning

You’ve probably done spooning before, where the woman lays on her side and her lover enters her from behind. This is a fun one to do, because it can provide a great angle for g-spot stimulation for the woman. It’s also great if she’s tired, or if the man wants to fondle her breasts or clitoris during intercourse. The problem with traditional spooning is that neither partner gets to face each other during sex.

Without chest to chest and eye contact, there is a reduced sense of intimacy during sex. It can feel more like a “job” to do or it may end up just being a quickie that neither partner really enjoys but it “gets the job done,” so to speak. If you want to feel emotionally and physically close to your lover during sex, traditional spooning is probably not one of the sex positions you’re going to want to choose.

Spooning With A Twist

Does that mean you have to give up spooning completely or only enjoy it every now and then? Because having sex on your side can be so much fun and it can feel really great for both the man and the woman! If you love spooning during intercourse with your lover but would like to have more face to face contact with them, you can! You don’t have to find something else to do, just twist your body around so you’re facing your partner on your side. Here’s how do do it:

  • Lie on your side facing your partner
  • The woman’s legs will be straight, but the one not laying on the bed should be lifted up and hooked around her partner’s hip
  • The man will then scoot closer to her so that he can insert his penis into her vagina

Basically, it’s going to be just like you were spooning away from each other but instead you will be facing each other and the woman will have one of her legs hooked around her lover’s hips so that she can bring him closer to her. With spooning with a twist, you’re still having intercourse on your side, but you’re face to face with your lover for more emotional intimacy.

Why This Move Is So Hot For Him

He may be all for trying different sex positions, but does he really want to stare at a woman’s back while he’s having sex, does he? Even if his girl has the most beautiful back in the whole world, guys are visual creatures. They want to see breasts, butts and faces with pleasure written all over them. Spooning with a twist gives him the opportunity to look at his lover’s body in all it’s naked glory, and it also allows him to see her O-face. Which guys love, even if women are embarrassed about what they look like during orgasm!

Sex positions that allow him to have a woman’s legs (or leg, in this case) wrapped around him, pulling him tighter towards her feel incredible to him. Especially when he reaches climax, he wants to feel as close to his woman as possible. Spooning with a twist helps him feel super physically close to his lover too!

Why This Move Is So Hot For Her

Emotional intimacy is incredibly important for a woman to reach orgasm and really, to even enjoy sex all together. Women are emotional creatures, so straight up sex isn’t going to do a whole lot for her unless her emotions and imagination are involved. The face to face action in the spooning with a twist position is an incredible way for a woman to feel closer to her man emotionally, since she gets to look him in the eyes and watch his face during sex.

This is also one of the best sex positions for her because there is more clitoral friction for her, as well as more g-spot stimulation. Combined with the face to face contact and increased emotional intimacy, the spooning with a twist position is a recipe for an intense blended orgasm!

How To Enhance Your Orgasm – For Men

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An orgasm for men – when they’re by themselves – is often just a “get it done” kind of thing. Guys are used to masturbating quickly, usually because they either grew up afraid to get caught or are still afraid to get caught – and for many guys, it’s a combination of both. Masturbation is a healthy part of any man’s sex life, so here’s how you can make your masturbation sessions so much more satisfying.

Use Lube During Masturbation

As much as this sounds like common sense, there are actually a lot of guys who just don’t use lube during masturbation. They often use nothing, or they’ll use some kind of lotion or petroleum jelly. These just aren’t suitable for masturbation. They dry out too quickly and can cause allergic reactions and rashes on the sensitive skin of the penis. Lube is specifically developed to be used during sex (and this includes when you go solo) so it feels better and will help give you an incredible orgasm.

Water based lube is always a good choice, but silicone based lube is also effective for masturbation because it’s thicker and it lasts longer. Lube is cheap and is available almost anywhere, including your local supermarket or drugstore. Many lubes are now created with special ingredients to either warm the penis or prolong an erection. Experiment with different lubes until you find the one that is best for you!

Consider Using Male Sex Toys

A lot of guys assume that sex toys are just for women to use – but there are actually a lot of fun toys for guys to use too! Masturbation sleeves can make a huge difference in how great your orgasm is. When used with lube, the simple silicone sleeve can make masturbation (and even a handjob from your lady) feel absolutely divine. Many masturbation sleeves come with ribbed or studded interiors, making the experience that much more pleasurable!

There are other male sex toys, including cock rings (which trap the blood inside the penis after an erection and make it last longer and stay harder) as well as butt plugs and prostate massagers. Next time you make a trip to the adult toy store – or if you’re browsing online – take a look and see what they have to offer for you – not just your woman!

Don’t Rush It

Since most guys grew up with the fear of getting caught spanking the monkey, they view masturbation as a “get it done quick” ritual. In fact, most men only need minutes to achieve orgasm when they’re stroking themselves. While an orgasm during a quickie masturbation session is certainly satisfactory, it definitely isn’t what you would consider “amazing” or even “okay.” It simply does the job.

If you want to make your orgasm better, take your time. Plan to masturbate during a time where you are home alone for significant period of time. Lock the doors, close the curtains and take a few deep breaths. Look at some erotica to start getting yourself aroused and then take your time with it. Don’t rush it – if you get close to orgasm, stop stimulating yourself. Pick it back up again after you’ve backed away from the brink of climax a little bit. Once you do this several times, you finally won’t be able to help going over the edge – but by this time, your pleasure will be so built up that the final release is nothing short of incredible.

Watch Porn – Good Porn

Porn is something almost every guy watches, and if he says he doesn’t, there’s an excellent chance that he’s lying. There’s nothing wrong with watching porn – men are visual creatures and have a difficult time becoming aroused and reaching orgasm if there isn’t any visual stimulation. So it makes sense that men watch adult movies when getting off, but surprisingly, a lot of men aren’t watching what really turns them on. Why?

Price could be a factor. DVD’s and subscriptions to adult websites can be expensive. Also, a guy may have a secret fetish that he’s just not willing to admit he has (even to himself) so he just makes do with whatever free porn he can find on the  Internet. If you’re not watching the porn you really want to be watching, just get what you want and get on with it. Even if it means shelling out a few extra bucks. The increase in the pleasure of your orgasm will be well worth it.

Try Prostate Massage

If you’re really freaked out by the idea of anal play (on yourself), then skip this part entirely. But if the idea intrigues you and you just haven’t had the balls to do it yet, read on. The prostate is often considered the male “g-spot” and can provide a man with intense pleasure when it is simulated, especially in conjunction with sexual activity. Some men have experienced prostate massage with their partners, but have never tried it on themselves during masturbation.

If you’re open to the idea, purchase a small butt plug to start. You can also use a finger on the hand that you’re not using to stroke your penis. Make sure you have lots of good lube on hand, because anal play can really hurt without proper lubrication. To find your prostate on yourself, you will need to use the “come hither” motion (if you’re using your fingers) and move toward your stomach. This usually involves reaching down in between your legs rather than trying to reach around from behind. Go slow and work your way up in size if you’re using sex toys. Remember that if it ever hurts, stop! However, with practice, prostate massage can give you the kind of orgasms you never dreamed you’d have.

9 Ways Sex Can Make You Healthier

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Sex feels good, there’s no doubt about that. But most people think that it is purely a recreational activity. However, studies show that it can actually improve your health! Couples who have great sex often lead healthier lives than those who don’t do it as often, don’t have a close, satisfying sexual relationship with their partners or single men and women who don’t have sex at all. Even masturbation can help make you healthier! Here’s how sex can give your wellness a boost.

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Give Your Immune System A Boost

Believe it or not, sex can actually improve the quality of your immune system! Studies show that regular, satisfying nookie can actually increase the effectiveness of your natural immune system by increasing the amount of immunoglobulin-A in the body. Immunogloblulin-A is the first antibody to react when the body has been invaded by a cold or flu virus, so more of this in the body is a good thing, especially during cold and flu season! What a great excuse to stay home in bed on a cold winter day, cuddling and making love with your partner!

Lower The Risk Of Death

Sure, sex is great and all, but did you know it can actually lower a man’s risk for death? The same goes for masturbation, because studies show that men between the ages of 45 and 59 who had an orgasm twice or more in a week’s time actually lowered their risk for death by as much as fifty percent!

Decrease The Risk Of Prostate Cancer

If you’re a man between the ages of twenty and fifty and ejaculate frequently, you’re actually decrease your risk of developing prostate cancer in the future! In this case, the more you ejaculate, the more you’re lowering your risk! Do you need a better excuse to ask your partner for more sex? The studies showed that men decreased their risk of developing prostate cancer by as much as 33%!

Make Your Period More Regular – And Stop Aging In Its Tracks

Women who are more sexually active – getting busy approximately a few times a week – tend to have menstrual cycles that are more regular than women who don’t have sex as often. This same study also produced findings that women who got it on at least weekly – without ever missing a week – aged more slowly than women who didn’t do it as much.

Ease Post Menopausal Symptoms

After menopause, the vagina can become dry and uncomfortable, and women can experience hot flashes as well as other symptoms when their bodies stop producing estrogen and other hormones necessary for reproduction. If a woman who has reached menopause has sex frequently – and at this age, “frequent” is considered about three or more times per month – her vagina tended to dry out less and produce more lubrication. She is also less likely to experience hot flashes. This is because sex increases the amount of estrogen in a woman’s body, which is the very thing women start to lack when they go through menopause.

Increase Your Threshold For Pain

Believe it or not, stimulation of a woman’s g-spot will actually help increase her threshold for pain. This is because pleasurable stimulation (with or without an orgasm) produces endorphins in the body – which are as effective as morphine at blocking pain. A woman can nearly double her pain threshold with regular sex!

Burn Calories And Boost Your Mood

Of course, it can help burn calories and boost your mood, for two reasons. First, your body burns calories during sexual activity because you’re working your body and sweating, but the activity will also boost your metabolism throughout the day (especially if you have morning sex), allowing your body to burn more calories during the day than it would have if you hadn’t had sex. A great orgasm will also boost your mood, as will the sheer act of being physical and feeling intimate with your partner.

Prevent Build Up Of Toxic Substances In The Body

If you’re a man who smokes cigarettes, drinks alcohol excessively or participates in illicit drug use, you might be surprised to find that certain substances – including cancer causing carcinogens – can build up in the ejaculatory fluid. Without regular sex or masturbation to expel the ejaculate, the body can simply harbor these chemicals and they will continue to build up until there finally is a release. Keep carcinogens and other unwanted chemicals from building up in your ejaculatory fluid by getting busy with your lover or masturbating until you reach climax regularly.

Decrease Headaches And Arthritic Pain

Studies also show that great sex reduces the intensity and frequency of headaches in both males and females, as well as the frequency and intensity of arthritic pain. This can be contributed to the release of endorphins through the body during sexual pleasure, especially during orgasm. If you have headaches often, or experience body aches and pains caused by arthritis, try increasing the amount you have sex with your partner or the amount you masturbate alone.