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How To Tell If She’s Faking Her Orgasm?

An orgasm is something that almost every woman has faked at least once – but how can a guy tell a fake climax from a real one? There are lots of ways to tell the difference – here’s how to find out if she’s actually had a real climax and how you can spot a fake almost instantly.

I really don’t know, or can’t tell if a woman had a real orgasm or a fake one. If a woman had an orgasm and asks me to slow down, sometimes actually asks me to stop kissing her neck or body for a minute, does that mean the orgasm is real?

–YouTube Viewer

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How To Tell The Difference

If you’re in the moment with a woman during your partner’s orgasm and are really feeling your woman and feeling the energy, you can definitely tell if it was real or fake. A lot of guys get stuck on having the right techniques during sex that they forget to simply be aware of what is actually going on and being in the moment. If you’re not feeling any emotions or energy coming back from her during climax, she’s probably not being honest it.

Note Your Partner’s Breathing

Women begin breathing heavier when they get closer and closer to climax. She’ll be gasping for breath when she’s almost there and she may even start holding her breath for periods of time, simply because she’s so into it and what you’re doing that she literally is forgetting to breathe!

Look At The Vagina

If you’re in a position to look at the vagina while she’s nearing the big “O”, such as with oral sex, you can actually tell when she’s getting ready to climax. If it’s the real thing, your partner’s genitals are going to get a little swollen and flushed, looking pinker than before. Sometimes, when they get very engorged with blood, they can even appear dark red or purple and look much larger than normal.

Pay Attention To The Clitoris

When a woman starts to get aroused, the head of the clitoris will come out from underneath the hood. This is so it is easier for a woman to receive clitoral stimulation. However, as she gets closer and closer to orgasm, it will bury itself underneath the hood again. This is because the clitoris gets more and more sensitive as a woman gets more and more aroused, to the point where the sensations can almost be too much.

Vaginal Contractions

When a woman reaches climax, the vagina is going to start to contract and tense up, and then release very rapidly. This spasming can be felt with your fingers or your penis during sex and it is completely involuntary. This movement is actually almost impossible to fake. A woman can contract the vagina on purpose, but real orgasmic contractions are very fast and irregular, almost “fluttery” like.

After A Real Orgasm

If a woman has truly reached climax and is finished, she’s going to be ultra sensitive. The clitoris and nipples will be very sensitive and she may want you to stop everything all together. This is because after a real orgasm, it’s actually so sensitive it becomes painful.

Sweaty Sex Is Good Sex

When your partner gets close to reaching climax, she’s going to start to sweat either from all the activity you guys are doing or from the muscles being so tensed up, or both. If she’s really getting ready to reach climax, all of your partner’s muscles are going to tense up and become rigid. Your lover’s chest will get red and flushed, and the cheeks will get pink. These things won’t be happening if she’s not truly aroused – if she’s not being honest about it, the most you’re going to get is some porn star noises.

How To Spot A Fake

This technique is actually a little mean spirited, so use it wisely and only if you truly think your girl is faking orgasms. When she’s acting like she’s really close to orgasm and she’s almost there, stop everything you’re doing at once. If she was truly almost there, she’s not going to be happy that you ruined the climax. If it wasn’t the real deal, she’s likely not to show extreme upset at the fact that you stopped.

Ladies: Communicate With Your Partner

Ladies, you know that guys are liable at any time to stop what they’re doing and change it up to something completely different – which can be disastrous if you’re almost over the edge. When you’re getting close, make a point to let your partner know that he needs to keep doing whatever he’s doing until you have an orgasm. Let him know that you’re almost there – so he doesn’t stop and do something else and ruin your climax.

Not Having Sex? You NEED To Watch This!

By loveandsex

Sex is something just about everyone wants – but not everyone always gets it. Some single guys get a lot of sex and other guys hardly get any at all – and dating isn’t as fun when you’re in the latter category. If you’re not getting any, you’re probably wondering what the difference is between you and the guys who are getting laid every weekend – or more. If you’re not getting any, here’s how to fix it and start getting more sex!

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If You’re Single And Not Getting Sex

If you’re single and you’re not getting any, these three steps will help you get laid more often. However, if you’re married and looking to get more sex, these techniques are definitely not for you! If you follow these steps while you’re married, it will likely cause more trouble than it’s worth, considering that these techniques are all about how to score with lots of different women.

Step One: Approach One Girl A Day And Ask For Her Phone Number

Make a committment to approach one new woman a day and ask her for her phone number (bonus points if flirting is involved). This simultaneously achieves two things. First, you will inherently become much more comfortable talking to women. When you’re constantly going up to women and making conversation with them, you become more and more aware of what to say and when to say it.

Second, it increases your chances of getting a girl to actually say “yes” simply because after talking to so many women, one of them is bound to. By asking tons of women out, you’re actually improving your odds at getting a date – learn to focus on the number of women that say “yes” instead of the number of women that don’t. Even if you ask fifty women for their phone number and only get two responses, that’s still two women that are interested in dating you and possibly sleeping with you!

Step Two: Design A Date With Multiple Activities – Ending At Your Place

You’re much more likely to have sex on the first date if you design it so that it ends up at your place. Plan a date where you’re moving around a lot and doing multiple activities. Dinner and a movie is cliche, and afterwards, there can be an awkward moment when you’re figuring out what to do next, especially if you’ve hit it off and want to continue spending time with each other.

Here are a few ways you can convince her to go to your place, after you’ve taken her to a few other places first.

Make or purchase a really yummy dessert. Then, let her know that you “made” her something really delicious and she just has to come over and try it. This sounds cheesy, but it actually does work!

Use the things around you to your advantage. For example, do you have a great view from your balcony or your backyard? Do you have a pool or some really exquisite fine art? Perhaps you have a crazy roommate that your date just has to come meet. Look at the things around you and decide what could possibly be interesting to a woman and use that to your advantage when trying to get her to come back to your place.

Step Three: Acquire Sexual Skills

You can get different women back to your place with the above steps, but if you’re not wanting to bomb out and never have sex again with this same girl, you’re going to need to acquire some great sexual skills. This is the true secret to getting a lot of sex all the time. Most guys that get sex have a few girls that they have sex with all the time, rather than doing it with someone new every time. This is because a guy that is really good in bed will have the women he sleeps with coming back for more!

Take some time to research on how to give a woman a really great orgasm. Learn how to please a woman with incredible oral sex, and then learn how to stimulate the g-spot or the a-spot and give her types of orgasms she’s never had before. If you learn what a woman likes in bed, you’re really only going to have to date a few women – because if you blow their minds during sex, they’e going to want to go back to your place again and again.

4 Tips To Drive Her Wild With Razor Sharp Female Orgasms

By lloydlester

Oral sex is a great way to give your lover a mind blowing orgasm. The fact is, what makes a perfect sexual life is when you give your woman the powerful orgasm she deserves. And the most wonderful way for your partner to experience the ultimate excitement is by making your woman feel you will do anything for her without asking anything in return.

Oral Sex Equals Orgasm!

Cunnilingus, in simple terms, is oral sex for women. Cunnilingus gives a heightened sexual excitation in women. If you don’t know how to do this, then it will turn out to be just another forgettable experience for your partner. But with these 4 tips below, you will certainly triumph in bed and give your lover a truly memorable erotic adventure – complete with powerful orgasms, no less!

Arousal Multiplier

Many men make the mistake of jumping right in and start stimulating their women with their tongue. While oral sex is usually considered as a form of foreplay to intercourse, you still need to get your partner warmed up first. Women are like analogs… you need to slowly turn the dial to heat it up. Take your time to playfully tease your partner; kiss on the neck and nibble on the ear lobes; gently stroke the inner thighs. All these little, sensuous gestures will turn a woman on quickly and get her ready before you start giving oral sex.

Oral Manifesto

The right way to use your tongue can be compared to how a cat or a dog drinks from a bowl of water. Try observing these animals when they drink; you will see how their tongues move in and out of their mouths at a really fast pace. This is exactly what your tongue should do when performing oral sex on a woman and licking the clitoris. Your tongue has one of the most powerful muscles in the human body. Put it to good use!

To bring this intimate mood to the next level, get creative and try out various tongue strokes (hint: circular strokes produce a tantalizing effect on most women). You can also use your tongue to spell different letters of the alphabet and see if she can guess what you are spelling. She will probably be squirming with ecstasy as she tries to figure out what you are going to do next. Go slow, use your tongue and tease your lover.

Pleasure Multiplier

When you are giving your partner oral sex, there is nothing to stop you from leveraging on the magic from your fingers. If you know how to use fingering and your tongue, you will exponentially intensify the pleasure she gets from you. Here’s the trick: when you are kissing the clitoris, use your thumb or index finger to rub it simultaneously. By giving sufficient stimulation to the clitoris, you will set up your partner for a really explosive orgasm, and make it happen in a hurry too.

Rhythmic Consistency

To give your tongue some needed rest in between strokes, and to spice things up a little, try the “humming” technique. Make use of any melody that you can think of and hum it, with the position of your head remaining unchanged. The vibration from the sound you are making will reach the vagina, providing additional stimulation to the clitoris.

When you sense your lover’s orgasm approaching (e.g. when breathing quickens; and hands start gripping the sheets), keep a steady tempo as you continue to stimulate the clitoris. Refrain from changing what you are doing, as that might cut your partner out from the orgasm she’s yearning for. Once you find a rhythm that gets your lover going, stick with it… and keep at it until you bring your partner over the edge!

Your lips and tongue are your best “tools” to bring your lover to an orgasm. Science has proven it. Experience has confirmed it. More than intercourse, oral sex is craved by many women, but delivered by very FEW men. So give your partner the pleasure she deserves, and in return you will get more sex than you could probably handle!

The A-Spot: What Is It And How To Find It

By loveandsex

An orgasm can occur a variety of ways, each providing different sensations from the other. You can give an orgasm by stimulating the clitoris or the G-spot. But have you heard about the A-spot? What is it, how do you find it and what do you do to give your girl an orgasm with it? Here’s the down low on the A-spot and how you can stimulate it to give your sex life a fresh new twist.

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What Is The A-Spot?

The A-spot is scientifically known as the “anterior fornix erogenous zone” but has also been called the AFE zone, AFE, A-spot, epicenter, deep spot or second G-spot when referring to it. The A-spot is an erogenous area inside the vagina that when touched firmly can lead to possible squirting, extra lubrication and intense arousal. This can sometimes happen even when there has been no other sexual stimulation at all. When the A-spot is continually stimulated, a woman can experience an incredibly intense, squirting orgasm.

Where Is It Located?

The A-spot is located behind the G-spot, right in front of the woman’s cervix. If you imagine that the G-spot is about two inches inside the vagina on the top wall, the A-spot is simply just a little further than that. It too is on the top wall of the vagina, but to stimulate it, you definitely need to go really, really deep. It may feel very rough or textured, and you’ll be able to tell once you’ve found it based on your partner’s level of pleasure at the time.

Once you reach the right area, she may have an instant orgasm, or she may just let you know that it feels really, really good. Communicate with your partner about what hurts and what doesn’t, because this technique can cause pain if not done properly or your partner doesn’t let you know what feels good and what hurts.

What Does It Do?

The A-spot is designed to re-direct vaginal fluids (these can be considered ejaculatory fluids) that are produced during a G-spot orgasm into vaginal lubrication. For this reason, when stimulating the A-spot, the vagina will lubricate quickly and a lot of the time, excessively. Some women report that an A-spot orgasm is much more intense than a G-spot orgasm, while other women report that they don’t feel that different at all.

How To Stimulate The A-Spot

Stimulating the A-spot isn’t that much different from doing so with the G-spot. Since they’re both located on the top wall of the vagina, you’re going to insert your fingers (one or two, depending on what your lady likes during fingering) palm side up. Curl your fingers up slightly, in a “come hither” motion.

Doing so will cause the tips of your fingers to press and rub against the A-spot. You can use the G-spot as a sort of “landmark” – if you know where it is, you can think about just going a little further. If you don’t know where it is, don’t try the A-spot technique because it’s more advanced. Start with learning more about the G-spot and how to stimulate it first.

Using Sex Toys

You can also use sex toys to stimulate the A-spot, if you have trouble doing so with your fingers. Many of the vibrators and dildos that are specifically made for G-spot stimulation can also work well for the A-spot. In fact, many sex toys that are designed for this are actually better than using your fingers, because they’re longer and many of them are designed with a special bend in the neck of the toy to reach the intended area. However, you’ll probably want to find the A-spot with your fingers first, before using sex toys, so you know where it is and where you want to put the toy.

Communication And A Safe Word

Communicating with your partner about how this technique feels and whether it hurts or not is extremely important for this to work, especially considering how deep you’re going. You can easily cause pain! Make sure your partner knows that she needs to be honest with you about how she’s feeling, and encourage her to use a safe word if it hurts and she’d like the activity to stop. She can say “stop,” unless that doesn’t really mean “stop.” A safe word is better because you’ll both know exactly what she means (that she’s in pain) and that she for sure wants to stop.

How To Stop Ejaculating So Fast During Sex

By lloydlester

Is premature ejaculation making your sex life lousy because you cannot seem to stop ejaculating so fast during sex? Do you feel frustrated, embarrassed and depressed because you are unable to satisfy your partner sexually?

If it’s a one-stand stand, you can forget about the embarrassment of premature ejaculation (PE) and move on. But for men who are married or in a long-term committed relationship, the double whammy of having to deal with PE and the potential fallout in his relationship can be overbearing.

The Law Of Large Numbers

You are NOT suffering from premature ejaculation alone. Millions of men just like you have to put up with the embarrassment of having an orgasm too quickly during sex. It’s just that guys don’t usually talk about such things, and most don’t know how to deal with it properly.

Beware Of The “Trappings” On Offer

In their quest for a “quick fix” for their PE problem, many men choose to seek out products on the market that claim to help them last longer. You are probably well aware of stuff such as desensitizing lube, gels or in general – anesthetics that you can apply on your penis glans to help you last longer when you make out.

These products work to a certain extent, by reducing your level of sensitivity to stimulation. The downside is that these solutions are NOT permanent cures. Without relying on these products, you will be back to your usual short-lived stamina. This means you have to whip out that bottle of spray or that tube of gel every time you plan to have sex.

While there are many proven techniques and methods to deal with the problem of premature ejaculation. But too many men focus on these specific techniques instead of the ONE important fundamental that is holding them back from achieving the sensational stamina they yearn for. Let’s take a look at this vital fundamental.

Setting Realistic Goals

“I want to lose 10 pounds in a week!” Realistic? No. Safe? No.

“I want to run a triathlon, six weeks from now… but I’ve never ran one before.” Realistic? No. Smart? No.

Such goals will ultimately set you up for failure and disappointment, and perhaps even serious health impairment.

Setting realistic goals is the first important step towards achieving any self-improvement endeavor, and that includes overcoming premature ejaculation. Start by KNOWING your current benchmark. How long can you last right now? Based on this yardstick, set a number of short-term goals while you work towards the ultimate goal.

Take for instance, you want to be able to last 15 minutes during sexual intercourse. If you’re lasting just one minute now, your end goal may be way off; you may end up losing motivation and getting frustrated. Instead, try setting weekly goals of adding 2 minutes to your stamina, by working on specific, natural techniques that help improve your ejaculatory control.

Sounds easy and straightforward? It does…

But if you stay committed and work on your ejaculatory control every week for 8 weeks, you will have surpassed your original goal by going at least 16 minutes! That new benchmark will become PERMANENT. And your wife or long-term partner will be very thankful for it, I promise!

Permanent Solutions For Lasting Longer

The best way to overcome premature ejaculation is to first understand what causes it in the first place. For the vast majority of men, all they need is to simply re-train how their mind and body react during sexual stimulation. By practicing simple cognitive techniques and exercises to re-condition the ejaculatory reflex (usually through masturbation), you can increase the threshold or tipping point where ejaculation is imminent.

Many sexual therapists also recommend natural training and reconditioning as the first important step towards ridding yourself of premature ejaculation and lasting longer for your female partner.