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How To Give Her “Orgasms On Full Throttle” (Great For Any Penis Size!)

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Is your penis size important in sex and in giving her powerful orgasms? In other words, is a bigger penis better for sex? That seems to be the proverbial question that men have been asking since the dawn of civilization.

Well, what if I told you that your penis size is not a big deal after all? In fact, it is the lousiest among all “tools” you can bring to the bed!

Why is that so? Well, read on and find out…

The Truth About Penis Size And Sex

Ask any woman who loves great sex and have experienced great sex. Chances are, she will tell you that the size of one’s manhood does not feature much in how she enjoys the experience. So put aside that penis extender or male enhancement pills you have been popping all day! A big penis is a great asset to have, but the skills you bring to bed will be your defining moment during sex. Besides pumping in and out, what else can your penis do?

Do Casanovas And Don Juans Have Great Assets In Between Their Thighs?

The secret is out. No they don’t! Even if a guy is small like a mosquito, he can still outperform any clueless lad with a much bigger “asset”! As long as you know how to please, pleasure and caress any woman properly, you can bring great sex to the bedroom, anytime anywhere! And believe me when I say that those Casonovas and Don Juans in the world are only average as far as their penis size goes.

The Myth About Penetration And Orgasm

Penetration is just about the only thing that happens during intercourse. Well, that is just what most guys think. When in the throes of pleasure, most men would focus only on themselves and pump away until they reach the inevitable goal – their own orgasm. But is your woman enjoying a great time too? Well, most probably not!

You see, women are incredibly different from guys. Women don’t just live for the moment of orgasm. They relish the way they are brought to a climax. And the simple truth is this: The vast majority of women are not able to reach an orgasm though penetration alone simply because her clitoris – the nerve center of a woman’s orgasm – is not properly stimulated via penetration. So your penis, big or small, does not figure much in triggering those incredible waves of pleasure in her.

So How Do I Give Her An Orgasm?

Simple! Just observe what SHE does when she stimulates herself (a great majority of women can reach an orgasm through masturbation alone!). Mimic the motions, the angles, the intensity she use on herself. Then use them on her!

When it comes to great sex, take things SLOW. Don’t use sex as a means to an end. Instead be a man who plans for the future BUT also live for the moment. Be a man who starts a night of lovemaking without considering his own orgasm, but focus on securing a body-shaking climax for his lady. This is the type of men women would gladly die for.

Now achieving that kind of body-shaking, wild-screaming orgasms that most women crave for, will depend on how you build up the sexual tension. Savor each stage of lovemaking as if each phase can bring her to an orgasm (indeed it can!). Raw, passionate kissing that sets free a woman’s sexual inhibitions can bring her right to the edge of a climax. And so can the great prelude to intercourse – foreplay. Even a good dose of oral sex can give her mind-boggling orgasms that leave her breathless.

The key is to live for the moment and don’t let your focus waver away from her. Believe me, when you are able to do this, you will enjoy sex for its full glory and splendor, just like how a woman enjoys it. And when you finally reach your own orgasm, it will be more mind-blowing than anything else you have experienced before!

Give Her G-Spot Orgasms During Sex With This 1 Easy Move

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Finding a woman’s g-spot is hard enough, let alone knowing what to do with it when you do. There are lots of g-spot stimulation techniques that work well, such as the “come hither” technique, but most of them are performed using the hands and fingers. What if you want to give your partner a g-spot orgasm during sex with your penis? Many men think it’s impossible, but it’s really not. Here’s how you can give your girl a toe curling, headboard banging g-spot orgasm using only one simple move – and it’s so easy, you’ll wonder why you didn’t think of it before!

The Move

Have your partner lie on her back in the missionary sex position with you on top. You can have her raise her legs a little for deeper penetration if you wish, but it isn’t necessary to perform this move. As you’re thrusting your penis in and out of her vagina, place your hand on her lower stomach, just above the bone of the pelvis and press down gently. Make sure your partner uses the bathroom right before having sex, because this trick can often make her feel a little like she has to urinate. The sensation of having to pee when you’re stimulating the g-spot is actually her body filling itself with female ejaculate – you can tell that it is ejaculate and not urine because it is not possible for the kidneys to fill the bladder that quickly right after using the restroom.

Why It Works

What this special g-spot stimulation technique does is press the g-spot lower towards your penis, allowing your penis to rub up against it more firmly. Many women aren’t able to acheive g-spot orgasm through penile penetration because the g-spot is located on the top wall of the vagina, about two to three inches in. Because of the angle of the g-spot, it can be quite difficult for your penis to rub up against it during sex. By pressing your hand down on her lower stomach, you are pushing the g-spot closer to your penis. This will allow you to stimulate her sweet spot with your penis, allowing you and your partner to possibly reach simultaneous orgasm together. You can also try using this technique when you are fingering her to increase the pressure on the g-spot and decrease the amount of pressure you have to use with the hand that is doing the fingering. Experiment with different variations of this technique to find out which one your partner likes best!

Female Ejaculation Through G-Spot Stimulation

Every woman can ejaculate, but not every woman knows how. Deep, firm g-spot stimulation is required for a woman to experience female ejaculation (also called squirting), making this technique one of the best ones to use if you’re trying to get your partner to actually ejaculate when she reaches orgasm. When a woman is about to ejaculate, it may feel like she has to urinate. If she’s used the bathroom right before sex, you can reassure her that she is not about to wet herself – instead, she is about to have an amazing orgasm! Encourage your partner to let go when she experiences this feeling and bear down into the orgasm. It may take some practice, but using this g-spot stimulation technique is a great way to teach her how to ejaculate!

Using The Move For Multiple Orgasms

All women have the ability to reach orgasm over and over again, and having multiple orgasms is one of the best ways to truly satisfy (if not exhaust) your partner. It is rare for a woman to have more than one orgasm through stimulating her clitoris, but using clitoral stimulation will make her g-spot easier to find. This is because after orgasm, it is engorged with blood and the nerve endings are primed for sexual pleasure. Give your partner a clitoral orgasm by performing oral sex on her, and then move on to penetration. Use the above mentioned technique and place your hand on her lower stomach, pushing the g-spot firmly up against your penis. She will already be primed for orgasm from you going down on her, so it won’t take long for her to reach orgasm number two. Using this technique, you may even get her to have three or four orgasms, but take heart if it doesn’t happen right away. If she’s never experienced a g-spot orgasm before, she may need some time to figure out what her body is doing and how to go with the flow.

The 5 Hottest Oral Sex Tips On The Planet – For Her

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When giving your girl oral sex, you’re bound to rock her world no matter which techniques you use because let’s face it – almost every girl out there loves oral sex. There are, however, some oral sex techniques that will blow the rest out of the water. Just about every girl responds with earth shattering orgasms with these top 5 oral sex tips, so read on to find out how you can make your lady’s thighs quiver with pleasure.

Flick Her Clitoris With Your Tongue

Stick the tip of your tongue out and form it into the shape of a firm point. Lick your partner’s clitoris firmly from side to side (or up and down, whichever she responds to best) with the tip of your tongue, flicking it as fast as you can. This will bring her to orgasm faster than just about any other oral sex technique out there, because you’re actually stimulating the entire clitoris when you do this. The clitoris that you see on the outside of her vagina is not all there is to it – the clitoris actually runs on either side of her vulva, underneath the skin. By flicking it quickly with a firm pointed tongue, not only are you stimulating it from the outside, but the vibrations you’re creating stimulates the part that you don’t see as well.

Say Your ABC’s

If you want to take your time when going down on your partner, slowly working her up to a toe curling, sheet grabbing orgasm, use this simple yet effective technique to drive her absolutely wild. Form your tongue into a firm point and trace the tip of it over your partner’s clitoris in an “ABC” pattern. You’ll start with the letter “A”, tracing either a capital or a lowercase “A” onto her clitoris with your tongue. Do this slowly and work your way through the alphabet, all the way to the letter “Z.” This is a technique that is best performed at a slow pace, but you can also speed up how fast you trace the letters depending on what she seems to like. You can also vary your speed to bring her closer to orgasm and back down again until she just can’t hold it in anymore.

Finger Her While Licking Her Clitoris

To give her a blended orgasm, finger her while you go down on her. As you’re licking her clitoris, slowly insert your finger into her vagina palm side up. Feel for her g-spot and once you find it, use the “come hither” motion to stimulate it. Switch back and forth between licking her and fingering her, until she’s close. Then you can begin doing both techniques at once. Your partner will love having you stimulate both of her hot spots at once and her orgasm will be wall shaking!

Pinch Her Nipples

The super sensitive nerves in your partner’s nipples are connected to the pleasure nerves in her clitoris and vagina, so pinching or rubbing her nipples as you go down on her will drive her absolutely wild. To tease her, start by stimulating her nipples with your mouth and stimulating her clitoris with your fingers. After you’ve gotten her good and aroused, switch to stimulating her nipples with your hands and using your mouth where your hands used to be. She’ll love the different sensations on each of her body parts. If you can keep your balance, try fingering her g-spot as you lick her clitoris and pinch her nipples. The multiple sensations will bring her to a climax like no other!

Don’t Spare An Inch

When going down on your partner, don’t leave an inch of her vulva or vagina unexplored. This is easier if she practices good genital hygiene habits, so if she’s not super fresh beforehand, start by taking a shower with her and soaping her up first (this will also help turn her on). As you begin to lick your partner’s clitoris, don’t stop there. Move your tongue in and out of her every fold. You can even penetrate her vaginal opening with your tongue or place your entire mouth over her vulva and suck. Just use your creativity here and make sure you don’t leave anything between her legs un-licked or sucked on. When performing oral sex on a girl, many guys stick to the clitoris only, which leaves many sensitive spots unexplored. You’ll treat her to dozens of new sensations as you “go where no other has gone before.”

The Male G-Spot: How To Find And Stimulate The Prostate Gland

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Believe it or not, men have a sort of “g-spot” too, and when stimulated, it can bring him explosive, amazing orgasms – we’re talking the kind he’s never had before. The male g-spot is called the prostate gland and it’s not at all difficult to find and stimulate. When you do, he’ll beg you for more! There are a few things to keep in mind before you stimulate his prostate gland and when you do, such as making sure he’s into it first (it is easiest to stimulate from inside the anal cavity) and using a good lube. Here’s how to find and stimulate your partner’s prostate gland and have him writhing in carnal pleasure!

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The Male G-Spot Is His Prostate Gland

The male g-spot is called the “prostate gland” and is located about 2 inches inside the anal cavity on the top. That means when you’re facing him, you can insert your finger, feel along the top wall of his anal cavity and you should feel a small, chestnut sized “bump” of flesh. This is the prostate gland. It is often best stimulated with a “come hither” motion if you’re using your finger, meaning that once you locate the prostate gland, move your finger in a motion as though you were telling someone to “come here.” You can also use side to side movements or simply place your finger on the prostate gland and apply firm pressure. Different guys like different things here, so make sure to experiment to find out what he likes best.

Is He Interested In Prostate Play?

Before you get super excited about giving him an amazing orgasm and slip your finger in his anus to stimulate his prostate gland, you need to make sure he’s into it first. This is not something you want to surprise him with, because a lot of guys are a little squeamish about their anuses. Some guys are a little homophobic and feel that any anal play (on him, not on you of course) is considered “gay” and if this is the case, he may want you to stay as far away from his backdoor as possible. You can also slowly introduce him to the idea of prostate stimulation without inserting anything into his anus by playing with his perineum during a blowjob. The perineum is the skin in between his testicles and his anus, and it can be stimulated with firm, kneading pressure. This indirectly massages the prostate gland and will give him an idea of how pleasurable prostate stimulation can be, but it is nothing at all like direct prostate stimulation. If he seems to like it, inch your hand closer to his anus and see what he does. If he doesn’t seem uncomfortable, play with his anus a little as you’re applying lube to the opening. If at any point he stops you, prostate stimulation may not be for him.

Stimulating The Prostate Gland With Sex Toys

Many sex toys are made specifically for prostate stimulation and can often be easier to use than your finger once you’ve located the prostate gland. Don’t try to use a sex toy the first time, because it will be more difficult to feel the prostate gland and know you’re in the right spot. Prostate massagers are often thin with a bulbous tip that is angled to properly reach the prostate gland. Other prostate sex toys include butt plugs – which range from large to very, very tiny – and glass sex toys or vibrators. Make sure that any anal sex toy you use is made with a wide base or a ring at the end that will prevent the toy from slipping inside the anus and getting lost.

Using The Right Lubricant

Anal play is not to be had without a good sexual lubricant – and a lot of it! The anal cavity does not lubricate itself and as a result, anal sex without lube can be painful and may even cause some of the delicate tissues down there to tear and bleed. Not cool! You can make anal play and prostate massage more comfortable and pleasurable by applying a very generous amount of lube to the outside of the anus, your fingers and whatever sex toy you choose to use. Feel free to apply more lube as needed. If you are using a condom or latex glove of any kind, make sure to use only water based lube, because silicone lube will break down latex and cause condoms and gloves to become ineffective.

How To Have A Blended Orgasm – Your Step By Step Guide

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While having one orgasm (or more) is good, having a blended orgasm is absolutely fantastic. Women have the unique capability of having both a clitoral orgasm and a g-spot orgasm at the same time, and when they do, it will just about blow the roof right off. If you’ve never had a blended orgasm before, there are a few simple steps you can follow to learn how to not only give yourself a blended orgasm during masturbation, but also to help your man give you a blended orgasm through sex and oral sex. Here is your step by step guide to mastering the blended orgasm!

Masturbate First Before Trying With Your Guy

If you’ve never had a blended orgasm before, you’re likely not going to have one if you try it for the first time when you’re with your guy. Instead, grab your favorite sex toy and head to the bedroom for a little bit of solo fun. To have a blended orgasm, you need to be relaxed and completely in the moment – which is not likely if you’re feeling pressure from your guy to have a huge orgasm.

Start By Stimulating Your Clitoris

Start masturbating by gently touching your clitoris, either with your fingers or your favorite sex toy. Use a dab of lube here if you like, although some women enjoy touching their clitoris without lube. Do this for a short while until you notice that you are fully aroused and stimulated.

Switch To Stimulating Your G-Spot

Switch from stimulating your clitoris to stimulating your g-spot. You can use your fingers for this if you’ve reached your g-spot before that way, but you’re probably going to have more luck with a sex toy that is designed for g-spot stimulation. If you’ve never found your g-spot before, this is a good time to try doing so. Once you find your g-spot, stimulate it gently with your favorite strokes until you’re very, very aroused.

Stimulate Both, Switching Back And Forth

Once you’ve reached a state of complete and total arousal, start switching back and forth between stimulating your clitoris and stimulating your g-spot. You’re probably going to be using two hands while you’re masturbating, and if you’ve never done so before, it’s important that you’re alone and comfortable and not self conscious at all. If your guy is with you or watching you the first time you do this, it’s very likely you’re not going to be able to get relaxed enough to achieve orgasm at all, let alone a blended orgasm.

Stimulate Both Your G-Spot And Your Clitoris At Once

When you feel like you’ve almost reached the point of no return by switching back and forth between stimulating your g-spot and stimulating your clitoris, start stimulating them both at once. Again, this is going to be a two handed adventure. At this point, you can go as hard or as soft as you like to reach orgasm, depending on what feels good at the time. Starting off with firm pressure is not the way to go when you first get going, because you need plenty of time to warm up and become aroused. However, once you’re really into it, firm pressure (especially against your g-spot) might be just what you need to push yourself over the edge. In fact, many women report experiencing female ejaculation when they masturbate this way and have a blended orgasm.

The Right Sex Positions For A Blended Orgasm

While having a blended orgasm is possible in many different sex positions, there are a few that will make having this type of orgasm easier. Doggy style is a great sex position for a blended orgasm, because it allows his penis to stimulate your g-spot from behind while you are able to reach down and touch your clitoris yourself. Woman on top is also another good position for a blended orgasm because women can control the depth of penetration and grind up against his groin for clitoral stimulation.

Having A Blended Orgasm During Oral Sex

Many women report that the best types of blended orgasms are through oral sex. Try this after you have acheived a blended orgasm on your own through masturbation. Have your man go down on you and slowly lick your clitoris first, before slipping his fingers in your vagina and stimulating your g-spot with the “come hither” motion. You can have him repeat the steps above and switch back and forth from stimulating your clitoris with his tongue to stimulating your g-spot with his fingers. Of course, you’ll be in absolute heaven when he starts doing both at once!