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Men, Do You Know the 3 Reasons She’s Unhappy With Your Sex Life?

Many women are not having a sex life that is as satisfying as they would like it to be, because their sexual needs are not being met adequately in their relationship.

There are three main reasons that this occurs that both men and women should be aware of that will enable them to help her find more pleasurable sexual experiences.

1. She doesn’t know what those needs are

Sometimes women don’t really understand their own body and how it works. They don’t know what it is that will arouse them or bring them to orgasm.

They may have been brought up to believe it is shameful to explore their body and find out what is pleasurable for them or they don’t understand the necessity. Since she doesn’t know what her sexual needs are, she can’t communicate them to her lover or take the necessary steps to get them met herself.

She knows something is wrong in her sexual adventures, but can’t put her finger on it.

2. He has learned from the wrong sources.

Don’t believe what you hear in the locker room or the standard porn movies. Most men learn about sex from porn movies or from their buddies who are sharing misinformation they learned in porn movies. Traditional skin flicks do not portray realistic situations between people who care about one another.

First of all these types of adult movies are designed for the pleasure of men, not women. So most everything you’re seeing comes from the man’s point of view and what he fantasizes about, not the woman’s.

Contrary to what they teach, having a big penis and thrusting like an Olympic gold medalist is not going to make your woman squeal with multiple orgasms. It’s not likely to bring her to even one orgasm. Additionally, although a woman may allow her man to indulge once in a while, most women do not get off by having semen squirted all over their face.

If you watch standard porn movies, such as Debbie Does Dallas, you need to be aware that what you are watching is for entertainment purposes only. It is not the way things are in reality.

Not only do they portray inaccurate information for pleasuring a woman, but they also cause men to feel inadequate and wonder what’s wrong with them. You need to keep in mind that men in these movies are selectively chosen and are at the extreme end of the male spectrum.

Most men do not have a penis this size and most men do not have this kind of stamina and that is not what a woman is looking for.

In order to learn what a woman really enjoys sexually and have movies that simulate a realistic couple, you need to pick adult videos that were designed for that purpose. Movies made by someone like Candida Royalle are made specifically to be woman and couple friendly.

Additionally you should pick up videos and books that were made by sex experts for the purpose of education. Unfortunately, in our society, no one ever teaches any of us about sex. Most of us learn by trial and error.

With the help of a few high quality instructional videos and books, couples can dispel many sexual myths that may be preventing them from achieving the sexual satisfaction they desire and develop skills that enable them to meet their needs more effectively and become better lovers. Adult sexual education is a powerful tool for both men and women…

3. Lack of communication

Many couples find it very difficult to communicate with one another about their sexual needs or preferences and this is not only a leading contributor to her sexual needs going unmet, but the quality of the relationship overall.

A lot of women are uncomfortable or embarrassed to talk about their sexual needs. Sometimes they are afraid that their lover may perceive them as loose, easy or unlady like. Our society gives women a double message when it comes to sex, on one hand she’s supposed to be a hot little tiger in the sack, yet on the other hand she’s supposed to be pure and virgin like.

This creates an ideal that is impossible to live up to and creates a lot of inner conflict. Women need to know it’s okay to talk openly about what they need and men need to encourage them to do so with a non-judgmental, open and accepting attitude.

Sometimes the problem is that she doesn’t know how to express her needs to her lover. Both partners need to speak openly, directly and honestly.

Couples should be specific and detailed about things like where and how they need touched, how much pressure and speed is needed with each technique and what is the best timing. Share freely information about what techniques and positions are most pleasurable for you.

When something isn’t working or he is not meeting her needs, then she needs to speak up and let her lover know. Don’t suffer in silence.

If saying the words out loud is too uncomfortable, then guide him with your hands. Put his hands, mouth or hips where you need them to be and illustrate. Better yet, show him with your own hands. He’ll not only learn how to satisfy you better, but he’ll also be extremely turned on.

Men, you need to ask your woman what she needs. Don’t assume that everything is okay even if she doesn’t say anything.

Ask her what feels good, check in with her when you’re performing a technique and make sure it’s pleasurable. Ask her specific questions like, does that feel good, do you like to be touched here, is that too soft or too hard, how does that feel.

There is not a one size fits all sexual technique for women. Each woman is unique and what is pleasurable for one woman may not be the case for another woman. Get to know your woman.

Sometimes I hear that women try and tell their lover that they are not as satisfied as they would like to be sexually, but he doesn’t really hear them or they are met with resistance or indifference. He sometimes gets angry, doesn’t take her seriously or dismisses it as not important. He feels threatened or inadequate and becomes defensive.

When this happens, then she shuts down and stops trying, eventually she grows resentful and your whole relationships suffers. If your woman tries to communicate her sexual needs to you, it is not a criticism of you, your manhood or your sexual skill. Don’t take it personally.

She’s trying to teach you about her body and sharing herself with you on the deepest level possible. She’s opening herself up to you and allowing herself to be vulnerable in the most ultimate sense. It is an honor that should be cherished. Take it as an opportunity to grow closer to your woman, enhance your relationship, learn and become a better lover.

Does Your Woman Have Trouble Reaching Orgasm? Try These 2 Powerful Tips…

By paultony

I think you will agree with me that there is nothing more frustrating and tiring when you know you have done everything right in helping your partner achieve an orgasm, yet she still never reaches it.

It is frustrating because you have no idea what you have done wrong in terms of technique, and it is tiring because your hands, jaw or any other part of your body is aching from the never ending rubbing, licking or sucking.

In the end, nobody is having fun, and the whole ordeal turns into a nightmare.

Here are two tips to help your woman achieve any type of orgasm without difficulty;

She Must Be In The Mood

This is one of the biggest obstacles that will stand between you and your woman when it comes to helping her easily achieve an orgasm. If she is not in the mood, and is only having sex to end your begging and moaning, helping her achieve any type of orgasm can become very difficult.

Your woman needs to be in the mood for sex. It should never be a chore for her. Think about it; if she gives in and says yes so that you can stop your whining, she will want to get it over with as soon as possible.

Because of this, your woman will be trying very hard to orgasm, hoping that she can satisfy you and get it over with as soon as possible. Unfortunately, the opposite effect occurs. Because your woman is trying so hard to orgasm, she develops a mental block, thus finds it difficult to orgasm. In the end, nobody wins.

How Do I Get Her In The Mood?

Well, you could try the “ seduce her during the day” routine. This can be achieved by spoiling and flirting with your woman. Take your woman out for a romantic dinner. Give her a romantic gift. Charm your woman by telling her how beautiful she is. All of this might or might not work , because at the end of the day, it is up to her whether she truly feels in the mood, or not.

The best way to get your woman in the mood is by letting it happen naturally. Unlike men who generally get horny at the snap of a finger, women get horny for sex at certain times of the month. These “In the mood” days usually occur between ovulation and menstruation. This is somewhere between the 14th and 28th day of their cycle.

Knowing When That Occurs

The trick is to find out when these days occur. The only way to know this is by waiting and watching. If you pay attention, you will soon notice when she is feeling hornier than usual. When these days occur, make a mental note of it.

Not every woman is the same. While some women admit that they feel horny just before their period starts, other’s report to feel at their horniest right after their period ends.

During the days when your woman is in the mood, it will be a lot easier for you to seduce and make love with her. She will become more sensitive and responsive to every type of touch, thus stimulating her hot- spots to reach orgasm becomes a lot easier as well.

Do Not Go Faster Or Change Direction Just Before She Orgasms

The reason many women fall short of having an orgasm is because their partners believe they should go faster or change the direction of movement when their woman is just about to orgasm. This is a big mistake.

If your woman signals you that she is about to orgasm by moaning or breathing faster, just keep doing what you were doing at that point to get her to this stage of arousal. Do not change a thing. Don’t go faster. Don’t change direction of movement, and for crying out loud, don’t friggin stop. Continue doing what ever you are doing until she has totally completed her orgasm.

By keeping these two powerful points in mind, helping your woman achieve an a-spot, g-spot or clitoral orgasm will be very easy task. Instead of your lovemaking sessions being frustrating and tiring, they will be a lot more enjoyable and satisfying for you and your partner.

Multiple Orgasms – Did You Know That It IS Possible For Men Too?

By carlatara

Tantra is such a vast subject that it’s fascinating and awe-inspiring. It includes so much that it can be very confusing to the beginning student. Tantra is an art, a science, a way of life that is honest and courageous. It includes and faces squarely our sexual energy, this awesome force that some religions fear and want to suppress.

It can be used to help us reach our highest potential of pleasure, and union with the divine. To achieve this, it offers a series of exercises in breathing, tone vibrations, the use of certain muscles, and concentration on certain symbols representing the energy centers of the body.

One of the techniques it teaches allows men to have an orgasm without ejaculating, which makes it possible for him to come again and again.

How is This Possible?

Well, by using tantric principles, such as breathing, visualizing, and squeezing the love muscles to draw sexual energy from the sex organs up the spine to the back of the brain, a man can learn to ride the waves of orgasm and start coasting along the crest of those waves like a skilled surfer.

He can go down in the valley of the wave and enjoy playing more safely in a sweet and intensive romantic/spiritual space, absorbing the benefits resulting from the heightened pleasure he just achieved. He feels as if he’s buzzing with energy, more open and tender toward his partner and himself.

They can look into each other’s eyes, exchange gentle caresses, or simply breathe together to expand the state of bliss. All this can be done without the man losing the precious life-force contained in his semen.

Then the couple can proceed to make love actively, and reach several peaks in one love session. After having reached several peaks and experienced several body orgasms, the man can choose to have an ejaculatory orgasm if desired.

Controlling Ejaculation

How quickly a man can learn to control his ejaculation response depends on how much he practices, and the attitude he practices with. It’s almost a paradox: The more patient and loving you are with yourself, the less in a hurry to achieve quick results, the faster you’ll learn.

That’s because relaxation is the key, and you can’t be relaxed if you’re very goal-oriented. When you’re goal-oriented, you’re tense and usually judgmental. Ideas like, “I don’t know if I’ll ever learn this stuff…..Perhaps it’s not for me….I’m wasting my time….” or similar discouraging thoughts will retard the process of learning.

Be Positive and Loving

Start with self-pleasuring sessions as though you would pleasure the body of a god, or a person you love and admire. In such a case you wouldn’t care how long it takes that person to learn ejaculation control, or anything else. It helps if you set the mood by lighting a candle, burning your favorite incense, and perhaps having some of your favorite flowers or inspiring pictures in view.

The right kind of music can help set the right atmosphere for relaxation as well. Each time you pleasure yourself and feel an ejaculation approaching, try to become more consciously aware of all the signals your body is sending you. With practice, you’ll be better able to anticipate, and then regulate, your reaction.

Regulate Your Reaction

By the way, the more I work with clients concerned about ejaculation control, the more I realize that the word “control” is not really appropriate. It’s rather a redistribution of energy throughout the body. With breathing techniques and the use of your PC (pubo-coccyceal) muscles, you engage your imagination.

Visualize that you’re bringing the very hot energy that has collected around your genitals to the rest of your body, especially to your heart, mixed with a feeling of love for yourself. It’s almost as if you’re opening up a dam and letting the flow of water run along the river. Imagine that it’s a river of warm energy, love and light, spreading throughout your body.

Most men need to try more than one session before they can actually own the techniques that will extend their pleasure by postponing their ejaculation.

While reading about these techniques can point you in the right direction, it really helps when someone knowledgeable can guide you through the experience, and this is one of the areas where an experienced Tantric practitioner can aid you immensely in your practice.

How To Tell If She Is Faking Her Orgasms! And What To Do If She Is…

By wwilcox

It’s every sexually active man’s fear, that his partner or partners have or are faking their orgasms. So is there a way to tell if a girl’s only acting like she’s in pleasure heaven? And what can a guy do to turn her amateur dramatics into fully blown, sexual satisfaction?

The female orgasm has always been shrouded in mystery for men (and many women!). Unlike a guy’s guaranteed sexual pay-off, a female orgasm is never a certainty; for it to occur at all requires a whole host of special requirements to be met.

Things like the male’s sexual technique, the woman’s knowledge of how her body works and responds to different things, and the female’s mood at the time of sex all play a part in either preventing or allowing an orgasm to take place.

So let’s tackle the first issue: what signs should you look for to tell if a girl’s putting it on in the sack and not really reaching her ultimate climax?

1st Signal That She May Be Faking Her Orgasms

BLOOD FLOW SIGNALS. When a woman is sexually aroused, the blood flow to specific parts of her body change. These changes are most notable (and useful to us guys!) when a woman climaxes by reaching an orgasm. Here are the Blood Flow Signals you should watch out for:

A. Watch her cheeks as you have sex and take note of how red or blushed they are. When a girl climaxes, the blood flow to her face typically increases, you’ll often notice her cheeks suddenly become more pink and flushed.

B. Another part of the body that receives an increased flow of blood when a woman reaches orgasm is the nipples – again, try to watch out for how they change as you have sex and especially when she appears to be having an orgasm. If she IS truly cumming, her nipples may very well become harder and more “erect”.

C. Her chest is another GREAT place to notice the after-effects of an orgasm. A massive percentage of women, right after they climax, have a red flush on their chests that almost looks like a light rash. If your girl has this, it’s a strong sign she’s just achieved the magic “O.”

D. Lastly, her vagina’s lips (labia). Look for a slight swelling and reddening as another indication that she’s not play-acting her ultimate pleasure.

2nd Signal That She May Be Faking Her Orgasms

The above blood flow signals are usually noticed just after a woman’s climaxed. This sign is noticeable only when she’s actually experiencing an orgasm. Try to feel or sense tiny contractions in her vagina. These twitches often happen as a natural result of what a woman is psychically going through and feeling and serve as a really good, accurate indicator of whether or not she’s actually cumming.

3rd Signal That She May Be Faking Her Orgasms

When they reach orgasm, most women sort of zone out for a moment and then, over the 15-20 seconds that follow their climax, slowly come “back around.” Look for this zoning out effect by watching her eyes after she supposedly cums. Do they look sort of glazed or glassy, even for just a few seconds?

The good thing about this sign is that women rarely ever try to or even know how to fake it, so when you DO notice it, it actually tends to mean something significant (and positive!).

4th Signal That She May Be Faking Her Orgasms

Lastly, consider the way she acts and behaves. When she ‘climaxes’, is it usually from the same kind of stimulation. For example, does she tend to cum most of the time from oral sex or penetrative sex? Is it usually towards the end of your lovemaking or does it seem to happen randomly.

If her orgasms ARE wild and inconsistent and brought about seemingly by completely different kinds of stimulus, there may be something…amiss. Also, does she talk about having an orgasm a lot? Say, after you finish sex, does she often confirm, even without you asking, that she had a great time and came lots? A lot of women do this when they think the man hasn’t believed their orgasmic reactions, so consider what she says and the way she says it carefully.

Overall, your goal is never to be a private investigator in bed. You simply want to know if she’s being satisfied or not, right? To help you ascertain whether or not you’re regularly bringing her to orgasm, look for the 4 signs and signals you’ve just read.

If you DO think she’s faking it, I recommend first talking to her about it. But then, as the real answer to the problem, you should pick up your game and learn exactly how to physically satisfy her, or for that matter, any woman. There are dozens of techniques and strategies for doing this, all ready to be learned and applied to your sex life…so don’t wait any longer to revolutionize your performance and ability in bed.

How To Give Your Woman The Kind of Orgasm SHE Wants

By paultony

Ok, after spending a good amount of time on foreplay, your woman is finally highly aroused. You decide that now is the time to get physical with her.

So, all you need to do is get into your favorite sex position and pound away. Before you know it, your woman will be achieving some “Earth-Shaking” orgasms, right?

Well, if you are happy to live in “Never Never” land, then go for it.

There is a lot more to intercourse than a few fancy sex positions and thrusting like a sledge hammer. Unfortunately, most men do not realize this, thus leaving themselves wondering why many women find it difficult to achieve any type of orgasm through intercourse.

Though it is never a good idea to approach sex as if it were a science project, it is important to understand that a little bit of logic can go a long way.

The Big “O” Decision

First you have to decide what orgasm you would like to help your woman achieve. Do you want to give her a g-spot, a-spot or clitoral orgasm?

In order to make the correct decision, you have to take the time to learn your partner’s sexual likes and dislikes. Would she actually enjoy receiving a g-spot orgasm? Some women find the feeling of g-spot stimulation to be a little uncomfortable, painful, or just outright annoying. On the other hand, some women see the g-spot as the ultimate form of ecstasy.

The a-spot also shares a love/hate relationship with many women. The reason for this is that the a-spot is situated between the cervix and the bladder. If stimulated correctly, some women can achieve very powerful orgasms. However, most women don’t enjoy having a penis pounding on their cervix wall, as it can be very painful.

So, before you take the plunge, make sure that you have learnt your woman well enough to know what her likes and dislikes are, otherwise you might find yourself pounding away for no good reason, and who knows, she might just fake the orgasms just to get it over with.

Sex positions play a very important role during intercourse, but only if used correctly. Yes, sex positions are fun and erotic, but they are also the foundation of allowing your partner to achieve certain types of orgasms. For example, not all sex positions are ideal for clitoral orgasms, just as not all sex positions are ideal for g-spot orgasms. The same applies for a-spot orgasms.

If you want to give your woman an a-spot orgasm, you need to consider the following

The a-spot lies deep within the vaginal canal between the cervix and the bladder.

Deep penetration is needed in order to reach and stimulate the a-spot.

The a-spot is best stimulated with pressure, not friction.

It would therefore make sense to find a sex position that allows for deep penetration without having to thrust too hard in order to reach the a-spot. The sex position must allow you to comfortably stimulate this area through gentle yet firm pressure.

If you want to give your woman a g-spot orgasm, you need to consider the following

The g-spot only lies a few inches on the upper wall of the vaginal canal.

Shallow penetration is needed in order to reach and stimulate the g-spot.

Like the a-spot, the g-spot is best stimulated with firm gentle pressure.

In order to stimulate the g-spot, you would need to use a sex position that allows you to easily angle your penis to thrust up against the g-spot while at the same time applying pressure to it as well.

If you want to give your woman a clitoral orgasm, you need to consider the following

The clitoris is actually quite a large organ than looks almost like a “wish bone”. The end of the clitoris is the only part that sticks out at the top of the vaginal entrance. However, most of this organ actually lies on each side of the vaginal canal near the entrance of the vagina.

At the moment it is agreed that most of the stimulation to the clitoris happens at the part sticking outside the vagina. Some experts argue that other parts of the clitoris can be stimulated as well.

Depth of penetration is not important. All that matters is that any part of the penis must rub against the clitoris.

Unlike the g-spot and a-spot, the clitoris is best stimulated by friction through rubbing, not pressure.

Therefore, the best way to help your woman achieve a clitoral orgasm would be by using any sex position that allows you to comfortably stimulate your woman’s clitoris by rubbing any part of your penis against it.

Let us summarize

In order to effectively give your woman powerful orgasms, you need to first know what type of orgasms she wants to receive.

Once you have figured that out, your next step is to find the best sex position that allows you to correctly angle your penis, as well as allow the correct depth of penetration of your penis in order to reach and stimulate that particular type of orgasm.