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How To Give A Woman An Orgasm With A Small Penis

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Penis size isn’t the only thing responsible for female orgasms – you CAN please a woman with a small penis! Here’s how to make your penis size COUNT!

Is your penis size important in sex and in giving her powerful orgasms? In other words, is a bigger penis better for sex? That seems to be the proverbial question that men have been asking since the dawn of civilization. Well, what if I told you that your penis size is not a big deal after all? In fact, it is the lousiest among all “tools” you can bring to the bed! Why is that so?

The Truth About Penis Size And Sex

Ask any woman who loves great sex and have experienced great sex. She will tell you that the size of one’s manhood does not feature much in how she enjoys the experience. So put aside that penis extender or male enhancement pills you have been popping all day! A big penis is a great asset to have, but the skills you bring to bed will be your defining moment during sex. Besides pumping in and out, what else can your penis do?

Do Casanovas And Don Juans Have Great Assets In Between Their Thighs?

The secret is out. No they don’t! Even if a guy is small like a mosquito, he can still outperform any clueless lad with a much bigger “asset”! As long as you know how to please, pleasure and caress any woman properly, you can bring great sex to the bedroom, anytime anywhere! And believe me when I say that those Casonovas and Don Juans in the world are only average as far as their penis size goes.

The Myth About Penetration And Orgasm

Penetration is just about the only thing that happens during intercourse. Well, that is just what most guys think. When in the throes of pleasure, most men would focus only on themselves and pump away until they reach the inevitable goal – their own orgasm. But is your woman enjoying a great time too? Well, most probably not! You see, women are incredibly different from guys. Women don’t just live for the moment of orgasm. They relish the way they are brought to a climax.

The simple truth is this: The vast majority of women are not able to reach an orgasm though penetration alone simply because her clitoris – the nerve center of a woman’s orgasm – is not properly stimulated via penetration. So your penis, big or small, does not figure much in triggering those incredible waves of pleasure in her.

So How Do I Give Her An Orgasm?

Simple! Just observe what SHE does when she stimulates herself (a great majority of women can reach a orgasm through masturbation alone!). Mimic the motions, the angles, the intensity she use on herself. Then use them on her!

Penis Size Matters – Or Does It?

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Penis size is a big deal to girls – isn’t it? Or is it just an issue for guys? Does penis size really play that big of a role in sex, or is it a myth?

At one point or another every guy has pulled the old ruler up to himself to see how he measures up. Men are very touchy about their penis size. They think that the size of their Johnson signifies how much of a man they are. Without getting into the psychology of how a small member can affect a man’s life, we’ll just say that it does matter.

The problem is that a lot of guys think they have a small penis when in fact they are right at or above average. If you have caught a glance of another guy in the locker room and felt embarrassed, you need the facts first. Here is the real truth about your penis size.

Average Size When Flaccid

The average penis size when flaccid is about 3.75 inches in length. A flaccid member that measures between 3-4 inches in length when it is not erect is average. It is true that some guys have bigger penises than others. If you feel self-conscious about your genitals when changing in a locker room, remember that you are about average. If you’re not average, move on to the erection measurements. It must be noted that some guys are “growers” not showers. The head and shaft can enlarge by up to three times its length when erect.

Average Size With Erection

Most guys will not fret over being small when it’s flaccid. The biggest aspect of worrying about your penis size comes from being with a woman. When you’re with a woman, you will be erect. The average size of an erect member is about 6-7 inches in length. When you’re measuring your shaft, use a tape measure.

These are easier than using a ruler. Hold the tape measure at the tip of your penis and then bring it down to the base where your shaft meets your scrotum. If you have seen guys in the locker room with a Johnson that hangs 5 inches long, remember that it probably only grows to about 6-7 inches. Very few men actually have 9-11 inch penises.

What About Sex?

The main question that every guy has is whether or not he will be able to satisfy a woman. Unless your shaft is less than 4 inches in length there is no anatomical reason that you will not be able to please a woman in bed. Most guys do not know that the woman’s vagina is only about 3 inches long. This means that even with a 4 inch member, you will be able to reach her g-spot.

The vagina will expand and contract during sex, but only by 1 inch. If you have ever watched a porno with a guy that has a 10-11 incher, you may not have noticed how far he goes in. Most women are not comfortable taking the whole thing inside of her because the vagina is not equipped for that length.

What Can I Do?

There are a lot of enlargement products on the market. Pills, patches and extenders are just some of these. Pills like Viagra, Cialis and Extense are designed to increase blood flow. This has little to do with actual penis size. These pills are designed to make an erection stronger. If you really want to extend the length of your shaft, you should look into penile exercises.

Jelqing is a very popular exercise that “works out” the penis. The shaft is a muscle and it can be made bigger with the proper exercises. This could take months before you see any kind of return so be prepared before you think that it’s a miracle cure. Penis pumps can be used for enlargement, but they can hurt if not used properly. Make sure that you know how to use one before you try it out.

Your size is going to have little to do with how a girl sees you. If you have a very small member, you should talk to your doctor about possible solutions. Penile surgery is not recommended very often as it comes with a lot of risk. If you are an average size, you’ll still be able to give a woman an orgasm.

You will be able to do everything that a guy with an 8 incher can do. Check out some jelqing exercises if you would like to get a little bigger. Some people claim they have gained an inch to an inch and half from jelquing. Penis pumps are another product shown to work, but you must be careful. Talk to your doctor before you decide on anything, as they will be able to give you personalized advice.

Is A Penis All It’s Really Cracked Up To Be?

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A penis is the be all and end all for a woman’s pleasure, right? Wrong! In fact, here’s why the penis is actually the MOST inadequate tool for a female orgasm!

Aaah, The Penis

Monuments have been built for it, product lines have mushroomed for the promise of making it larger, longer and harder – it’s the thing every man wishes 3 extra inches of. The Penis. Every self-respecting guy is expected to get it up, those unable to do so are left feeling psychologically and physically incapacitated – an old fart with a limp tool.

But, what if I told you that the penis is the most inefficient tool used during sex?! What if you find out it’s not the winning ticket to Orgasmville?

Truth Is, Penis Size DOESN’T Matter!

Women of experience know they can have an amazing time regardless of girth, length or color. Contrary to popular belief, the secret to a great encounter doesn’t hang on that thing dangling between your legs.

Besides dart in and out, what can a schlong do, really?

So What Does A Penis Really Do?

Come to think of it, tremendous muscular control is required to simply nod it up and down. One has to rock the pelvis and hips just to swing, push or bat it around. It takes only two forms, flaccid and firm. The first looks wrinkled, spiritless and docile. The second is merely hard, worthy of the name ‘hotrod’ because it’s just that – a rod – maneuvering only in straight line motions, curved at best.

Then, it has the nasty habit of failing guys when they need an erection the most. But sometimes, it awakens when it’s not supposed to, (forcing its bearer to remain seated longer than he planned to.) And it would certainly douse your enthusiasm when you realize that what hardens it is plain old blood.

And yet, men treat it as if it’s the best thing, placing undue prominence on something that’s not even a close third to the real machineries of sexual warfare. So stop peddling the thing as if it’s all that. Stop glorifying the penis, get out of the cult!

You Do Not Need A Huge Cock To Give Her Great Sex

Enough with the SIZE issue. Too many otherwise rational men needlessly lose sleep and hair over it. Do you really think your equipment can be huge enough so your woman’s vagina can’t contain it? I don’t think so! Babies come out of those things! It can expand when it needs to. And do you really think bigger is better? Deeper is better?

Definitely not! A huge cock stabbing a petite vagina only results in an irritated woman and a painful experience. Put yourself in her high-heeled shoes. Women don’t love gagging on those life-threatening logs during a blowjob and they’re not psyched to have it up their backdoors either.

Penile size should instead commensurate vaginal capacity. In this sense, to be average is best. Besides, guys who think they’re small are actually oftentimes average. And those with genuinely diminutive members need not fret, though one may be hung like a mosquito, one can be a better lover than any clueless 12-inch guy.

Another Issue – Getting It Up?

Definitely a touchy subject for the elderly and those with performance anxiety. Zero erections create that feeling of uselessness and unwelcomed termination. As if the limpness declares, “Not tonight buddy! Go watch the Weather Channel.”

This reflects the: SEX = PENETRATION = PENIS paradigm. And if indeed you think this way, it is indeed over. But if you get a sexual reprogramming, widen your horizons and think: SEX = PLEASURE = FUN, then you’re up for something else – even when you don’t have a hard-on. For many are the possibilities.

Ironically, worrying about it chases the erection away. When you worry and pressure yourself, you always lose, always. As one cannot will or worry a penis to life. Instead, focus on other stuff. Be mindful, for example, of the tingling sensations given by your partner – as she touches and kisses your body. In time, that which you don’t chase will come. That’s a paradox in action.

Are Your Friends Ruining Your Sex Life?

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Sex tips from your friends can actually be wreaking havoc on your sex life. Watch out for these three bogus sex tips – they’re likely not true.

Where did you learn about sex? Health class? Your dad? But where did you learn about having sex? A lot of your early knowledge of intercourse probably came from your buddies, especially the ones who claimed to be getting some. Bad news, friend, they were just as clueless as you were.

They too were relying on information from dudes who claimed to be having a bunch of sex and weren’t. Unfortunately for women everywhere, a lot of this locker room talk has no merit, yet sticks in the sexual psyche of the American male. Here are some things your buddies have bragged about, and shouldn’t have.

They Equate Penis Size With Sexual Prowess

Men seem to think that the bigger the penis the better. Guess what guys, size doesn’t matter – much. There are so many ways to pleasure a woman, and penetration is actually the least effective. Only 25% of women orgasm during intercourse. That doesn’t mean that 75% of men have tiny, unsatisfying penises, it just means that it’s difficult for women to cum during sex. So most of a woman’s climaxing happens during what you consider “foreplay,” which happens before your penis even touches her.

They Went Down On A Girl For Like, “Two Hours”

This one even he may actually believe. When a man realizes a woman is going to let him stick his penis in her, every second leading up to that desirous act feels like an hour. It’s not. Most men also think that performing oral sex on a woman is just something you do to get her wet enough to handle your impressive member. Not true.

What you consider foreplay is, to her, part of the sexual experience as a whole. Instead of rushing through it so you can get to the “actual sex part,” keep yourself tuned into her responses. Pleasing her can be pleasing yourself. And remember, women aren’t one-hit-and-quit like men when it comes to orgasms. So if you start the orgasm train early, she will definitely be impressed.

They Brag About How Long They Can Last

Let’s put this to bed once and for all. Gentlemen, women do not want a man who can penetrate her continuously over the course of several hours. The genital area is home to some extremely delicate tissue, and the body can only produce so much lubrication. This is not to say that women don’t like sexual acts that last over the course of several hours.

For a woman, sex begins the minute the decision is made to have the sex. This kissing, the caressing, and the dirty talk are as important to her as the penetration itself. If you allow yourself to be a part of that, you may be surprised at how intense the sexual experience can be for the both of you!

Is My Woman Spilling Secrets About Our Relationship?

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A relationship should be a private thing between two people. Your lips are sealed, but hers never stay shut! How do you handle a woman who’s an open book when you’re super private? how do you prevent her from talking about your naughty bits and other intimate details?

What She Said:

Well, it’s pretty simple – you can “find out” by asking her directly and you can “get her to stop” by requesting her to, respectfully, cut it out.

Just Ask!

It sounds like I’m being a smart ass, but it’s actually a fairly straightforward solution. You don’t want to be in a relationship where there’s a bunch of game playing going on. The phrase “finding out” makes it sound like you’re going to be snooping around on your mate. That doesn’t sit well with me and, my guess is, it probably won’t sit right with her either.

If your partner is, in fact, talking about everything in your relationship to her girlfriends, ask her to cease and desist. Keep in mind that everyone needs an outlet outside of their partners – her pals allow her to vent safely, which actually helps keep you off the hot seat. However, while friends are very important, they shouldn’t supersede your romantic connection.

It sounds like you’re worried private things in your relationship are being discussed, and that’s left you feeling vulnerable. That’s perfectly natural – no one likes the thought of his or her privacy being compromised. While your girl might need to spend an evening dishing with the gals over martinis, it’s perfectly reasonable to put some boundaries in place. This is out of respect for you and the health of your relationship.

Keep The Sex Talk Off Limits

There are some things that are off limits – even to girlfriends. I’d never divulge my husband’s confidences for some Happy Hour chatter – well, then or any other time. The size of his penis and our sex life is for us to share – not fodder for my gals. Acknowledge to your woman that you understand a woman needs her friends, but let her know subjects that would make you uncomfortable if other people knew. If you’re in a good relationship, your partner will respect your request and all should be well.

What He Said:

Yes, you should ask her and yes, your partner shouldn’t say certain things to her girlfriends, but the real question is how will you know?

So your partner says nothing is said about your penis and how you use it, or whatever else you don’t want her friends knowing. How do you know your partner won’t tell them?

You kind of have to just trust her. If your S.O. loves you, it shouldn’t be an issue. Your partner probably won’t be saying this stuff to her friends, but if your partner is, ask her to stop. Your S.O. should respect your boundaries and needs in a relationship. (Beware the girls who say they are “an open book” that means they blab their shit to everyone).

Just make sure to say things like “this is something that stays between us” or “don’t tell your friends about this” so your S.O. can’t come back and say “you never told me not to tell” cause women are crafty like that.

Seriously though, you should know the answer to this question. If you don’t trust her by now, why are you with her?