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5 Phone Sex Tips For Beginners

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Phone sex is all about having a sexy conversation with your man. It’s also known as “tandem” masturbation because you’re fondling yourself while talking to him and he’s doing the same thing. Phone sex can be a challenge if you’re not used to masturbating with someone listening to your moans, or if you’re not used to talking dirty.

Let’s suppose, one night, while you’re talking on the phone with your man, your inner bad girl whispers a suggestion in your ear, “have phone sex with him”. How do you go about instigating sex on the phone? Here are some tips to help you out…

Open Up Sexually

You must slowly open up your sexual side to the man you love. Always worrying about acting slutty will get you nowhere near the girl who can talk dirty on the phone. If you trust your man, and you know that he will never change if you acted “out of character”, don’t be scared to drop F-bombs if he enjoys that. Being shy doesn’t mean you cannot learn how to talk dirty. Start with the words that you can say without cringing.

Gradually open yourself to sexy talk. Phone sex is the perfect opportunity to open your sexuality. You’re providing yourself a sexual outlet, and he gets to listen to your erotic fantasies.

Fantasize

Fantasies are just dreams until you act on them. Because it’s impossible for your man to do erotic stuff with you on the phone, you should talk to him about your fantasies and what you want him to do to you when you meet up.

One good way to do this is to think of “what if” scenarios. Talk about what you would be doing if he were beside you at that moment. If you’ve attended some gatherings with him (high school reunion, your cousin’s wedding, etc.), why not use those events during phone sex.

Men Are Visual

Your man needs to know what you’re wearing, what you’re holding and where you are to feel aroused. He might even ask about the other people in your house to check if they’re out of sight. Most men need to know these things so that they can put everything in perspective.

Even if you’re wearing your dorkiest pyjamas, tell him you’re wearing nighties, red ones. Nighties are easier to remove than pyjamas, so he gets hotter thinking he can “remove” your clothes easily.

Report Your Actions

You know he’s getting hot when he starts asking you to do things like touching your breasts, your thighs and your vagina. Indulge his needs, and do other things to excite yourself more.

Tell him he’s making you horny and you’re now touching yourself with your dildo. Responding to his teasing by acting like you “can’t help” but follow his orders.

Moan When You’re Near Orgasm

When you’re getting closer to orgasm, be more expressive. Tell him you’re feeling really hot and you’re almost there. Scream when you climax so that he can climax with you. If you reach orgasm first, keep moaning to goad him on.

You can tease him by describing how wet you are at that moment, and how you really want his dick inside you. This kind of talk will turn him on and make his orgasm more intense.

5 Sexting Phrases That Will Make Him CRAZY!

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Sexting is an excellent way to initiate foreplay. With today’s technology, it’s easier than ever before to have a private conversation with your lover where you can say anything to each other – and it’s for your eyes only! While sexting is a great way for men to connect sexually with women (since women are language oriented and all), it’s also a great way for women to connect sexually with men. Sure, men are visual creatures and all, however, if you say the right things, you can get him lusting after you and thinking about boning you all night long by just pushing a few buttons.

1. “Thinking About You Makes Me So Wet!

This phrase is a great starting point when you are first introducing sexting to your lover. It’s seductive and sexual without being too kinky or over the top to start with. Guys need a little mental warm up time too, and just like a woman, your man might be taken aback and possibly a little turned off if you just jump right in instead of easing him into the conversation.

Using the word “wet” actually gets him thinking and visualizing you being wet. Since men are visual creatures, this works much better than saying something like, “Thinking about you gets me so hot!” He can’t visualize hot very well, but he can visualize you being dripping wet just for him perfectly!

2. “I Can’t Wait To Get My Lips Around Your….”

Insert your favorite name for his member here and you’ll instantly get him thinking about you giving him an incredible blowjob. In fact, he’ll probably mentally reference the best blowjob you’ve ever given him, because that’s the one he likely remembers the most.

When he responds to this (which he definitely will!) you can take it a step further and begin elaborating on your favorite blowjob techniques. Describe to him in detail what you want to do and you’ll drive him absolutely nuts! He’ll start imagining everything you’re describing and by the time you actually do get home and get your lips around his you-know-what, he will be so crazy with desire that he may just explode right away!

3. “I’m Such A Naughty Girl For Thinking About You Like This”

He loves imagining you as a naughty girl. Even if you’re pretty kinky, you can pretty much guarantee that he’s already imagined you doing naughtier stuff than you already have. If you’re very vanilla, it’s a sure bet that his fantasies include you shedding your good girl image just for him.

By telling him that you’re naughty for thinking about him “like this,” you plant the idea in his head that you’re thinking very very sexy things – but by not telling him exactly what, you’re allowing his imagination to take over. When his imagination takes over, he’ll get so worked up thinking about you thinking about him that he’ll pretty much rip your clothes off you as soon as you walk in the door.

4. “I Want To Be BAD Tonight!”

Again, this phrase gets him thinking about you being naughty and allows him to indulge in his deepest, darkest fantasies with you. You’re still not telling him exactly what you want to do or how “bad” you want to be, because you want his mind to fill in the blanks. You’ll leave him wondering about and anticipating what you have planned – just be sure not to let him down.

If you suggest that you are naughty or want to be bad, make sure you follow through on your sexting innuendo with the appropriate actions. You don’t necessarily have to get as freaky as he might like, but make sure you do something new that’s a little outside your box so he doesn’t feel let down.

5. “I Want To Take All Of You In Me”

When you use this phrase during sexting, you’re suggesting that he has a big penis, just not in so many words. This plays to his ego and makes him feel great about himself, and he’ll love the idea that you feel like he’s bigger too.

You’ll also get him thinking about penetrating you – which he thinks about all the time anyways – but you’ve just added a little more fuel to his thoughts. He’ll begin imagining having sex with you in tons of different ways and sex positions, effectively getting him wildly turned on by the time he gets home and slips in between the sheets with you!

What Your Partner REALLY Wants During Phone Sex!

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Phone sex can be a great way to keep your relationship interesting if you have distance issues. Even if you live in the same city, this dirty deed can be a mood killer if not handled properly. Here is what real men and women are saying about it.

What She Said:

Imagination And Tone

Phone sex is all about imagination and your tone of voice. This is much different than sexting. There is nothing you cannot talk about! Since guys are super visual and you are miles away, a great idea is to describe to your guy what you are wearing. After he has a nice visual describe to him what you are doing to yourself. Keep your voice low and sultry.

To help get yourself in the mood, you should put on something sexy that feels good on your skin, light a few candles to set the mood and keep any toys and lubes near by. Another hot tip is to describe a sex romp you two had in the past! Describe what you two did and then tell him how hot you feel thinking about it.

You can also describe in details what you would do to him if you had him with you.  There are no rules or boundaries and when you trust your partner you can let your inhibitions run wild. And if you are unsure of what to say, a deep low moan escaping your lips is worth a thousand words!

What He Said:

Be Specific And Be Slow

Tell your partner what you would like to do to them, in great detail. Let the story build. I also think it’s great to be naked when you talk dirty to your partner. It’s best to have access to your naughty bits with your dirty talk and just the fact that you’re naked, helps set the mood. It will really help you fall into that world.

Realize that phone sex is fantasy based, so feel free to let your mind wander and imagine yourself having the best sex you and your partner have ever had in a dream location. Maybe it’s about you two having sex on the beach, maybe it’s about the two of you having sex in public.

Maybe it’s slow and sensual love making, may it’s about hard and nasty fucking. Maybe he wants to do you and your best girlfriend, maybe you want to fuck him in the ass with a strap on. Or maybe it’s about trying an orgy for the first time. From straight sex to swinger sex, let your imagination go wild!

Then let your fingers do the walking. If you’re on the subway, it’s maybe a bit different, but if your alone at home, and you and your partner both don’t orgasm, what’s the point? Get your lover hot and bothered, and make sure you cum loudly for them, and they of course need to return the favor. Tease, please and play all you like, but make sure you end it with a bang.

And above all, have fun. Dirty talk is a skill and it takes practice, but what’s the downside of that? Phone sex is fun and should be enjoyable. It’s not rocket science and it’s not hard labor (unless of course, those happen to be sexual fantasies of yours). So relax, un wind and get your rocks (and other things) off!

Phone Sex: How To Make It Totally Hot!

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Phone sex can be the key to keeping a long distance relationship from getting ice cold. Check out these tips to turn up the heat!

If you have a spouse who travels, phone sex can be just the trick to keeping the passion hot while they are living out of a hotel. Make an appointment to meet via phone before you go to bed so that you can use dirty talk and mutually masturbate. If you have to, write down some ideas ahead of time to get things started.

Don’t Be Afraid To Let The Fantasies Take Over

This is ‘fantasy time’ for both of you, since you obviously can’t be there to touch each other, so it’s perfectly okay to touch yourself. Set up the scenario and then just describe over the phone how you would want it to play out. Tell each other in great detail what you’re doing to your body and ask them to do the same.

Take your time. Good stories are worth the extra effort. Ladies, describe to him what you’re wearing and don’t be naked at the start of the call. He will want to hear you unbuttoning, unzipping and undressing. His imagination will paint the perfect picture if you tell him step by step what’s happening as you do it.

What To Say

Tell him you want to hear him undressing and to tell you every detail. Ladies, as you’re telling him you want to wrap your lips around his cock, ask him to stroke it and if he can look down and see you taking him in.

Men, when you tell her that you want to ease just the head of your penis into her wet and waiting vagina, ask her to take her fingers and pretend that it’s you. If you want to set aside a time for later that evening, start sending some emails or texts early in the day.

Here are a few examples of what you could say to get his attention:

“I get so wet when you call me – please call me!”

“When I get back home, I’m going to give you the most amazing blowjob of your life!”

“I’ve been sitting at this desk for hours, and the thought of you, here, bending me over – it is driving me crazy!!!”

“I can be 6 states away, but when I hear your voice on the phone my nipples get hard and I get wet, and warm you know where!”

“I can’t believe that here I am in San Diego in the middle of intense negotiations with these clients and all I can think about is having you under this conference room table, on all fours, lifting up my skirt.”

Did you know that when I’m in my hotel room and can’t get you off my mind, I masturbate? It’s true! Your name spills from my lips over and over again as I orgasm.

Use The Tools At Your Disposal

Home phones, office phones, hotel phones, cell phones are all game when it comes to a surprise call and some hot phone sex. Also, don’t be afraid of “inconvenient times” or being somewhere. Excuse yourself to the bathroom and make a game of how quiet and fast you can be! Be creative and open, and you will have lots of fun!

Sexting: How To Evolve From Dirty Texts To Pictures

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Sexting is a great turn on, but what do you do when you want MORE? Men enjoy visual stimulation as opposed to mental, which is why women love getting dirty texts but men want to actually see something sexy. Here’s how to get your partner interested in sending you something more visually engaging.

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Sexting Turns Her On – But What About Him?

Sexting is a great way to engage a woman and get her so turned on, she’s pouncing on you and ripping your clothes off as soon as you walk in the door. In fact, it’s one of the best foreplay techniques and you don’t even have to touch her to do it! Women respond very well to imaginative words, and when you send her naughty texts, you’re literally speaking her language. You’re bypassing her inhibitions and directly stimulating her mind – which is where arousal starts for a woman.

But where does it start for a guy?

Men are visual – meaning, words just don’t do that much for them. Sure, you’re going to love a text from your partner talking about how much they want to go down on you tonight, but is it going to make you crave her like a dirty text is going to make her crave you? Not exactly. But what if she sent you a picture of her breasts? Now THAT will turn you on! Problem is, what if she’s too shy to send you a picture or movie?

How do you get her to do it?

Slowly Introduce Your Partner To Sending Pictures/Videos

Just like with anything sexual that is new or that you and your lover have never tried before, it’s important to start slow and work your way up. You don’t want to approach your girl and ask her to send you a picture of her vagina if she’s never even sent you a dirty text before. So start with the basics!

Start by sending her flirty text messages. Tell her how pretty you think she looked before she left for work this morning, or let her know how much you can’t wait to see her when you get home. Once you’ve got her hooked to the surprise messages you’re sending to her, start sexting. Make your texts a little more naughtier each time. For example, tell her that you thought she looked great this morning and when she says “Thank you,” lead into telling her what she was wearing made you wish she wasn’t wearing it!

Don’t expect to get her texting you pictures and videos of her in just one day, especially if you and your partner have never sexted before. It’s going to take time to get her involved, and you want to make sure she enjoys it every step of the way. Make her feel cherished, sexy and beautiful first (both on the phone and in person) before you ever try to bring up her sending you pictures.

Once she’s responding well to your sexting, you can start thinking about taking it to the next level.

How To Get Your Lover To Send Naughty Pictures

A great way to introduce her to the idea of sending naughty pictures back and forth is to first send her a sensual picture of you! No, not a penis shot, because that will probably just offend her. You’re looking for a sensual picture. Something that gets your partner’s imagination working without showing too much. A woman isn’t going to be turned on by a picture of your cock erect and stark naked. Girls respond much better to sexual innuendo instead of porn. Instead, send her something like this:

  • A picture of your erection inside your jeans
  • A shot of your happy trail with your fly unzipped
  • A photo of your chest all wet and soapy in the shower

You get the idea. Send her something that intrigues her without showing her too much and possibly offending her. The great thing about sending her a sensual picture of yourself is that she will most likely respond with something sensual for you!

Introducing Your Partner To Sending Videos

Once you’re successfully sending sexy photos of yourselves back and forth, you may be chomping at the bit to see even more. You want to see your lover in action, but how do you get her to graduate from sending stills to sending something that you can actually masturbate to?

Start by letting her know how much her photos turn you on. Give her lots of encouragement and let her know that she looks beautiful and extremely sexy in every photo that she’s sent you. Tell her that you would love to see some of that in action!

You can also entice her with the idea of making a homemade porn for you by telling her how much it would turn you on to masturbate to HER instead of to some other random woman. Let her know that you care about her and she’s the one that turns you on the most – this may very well be all you need to convince her to make you a movie. She’ll love the idea that you’d rather be watching her than someone else.

You can start by making a movie of you both having fun together. If you’re both on film, she may not be as apprehensive about it. Make sure the lighting is flattering and tell her that she doesn’t have to get naked if she doesn’t want to. Sexy lingerie can be just as titillating as full nudity and sometimes even more so!

Giving Your Lover Positive Reinforcement

Make sure that you’re giving your partner encouragement and positive reinforcement when she does send you photos or makes a movie with you or for you. If she’s not getting any positive feedback, she’s not going to get into it and she’s certainly not going to keep doing it. Don’t be afraid to tell her just how much seeing her in photos or movies gets you hot!

Make sure that when you do have sex with your partner that you take the time to give her at least one good orgasm, if not more. If she’s sending you the photos and movies that you want to see, make sure that she’s getting what she wants as well.