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How To Slow Down Your Orgasm And Get More Stamina In Bed

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Premature ejaculation will make you kiss your sex life goodbye. Don’t let it control you! Delay your orgasm with these simple premature ejaculation tips!

The ability to control or slow down one’s orgasm and outlast a woman in bed is one of those skills that every hot-blooded, testosterone-driven man wants to learn. None of us are born with the innate ability to control our orgasm on command. In fact, for the purpose of efficient procreation, most of us are NOT predisposed to last very long. Premature ejaculation is very common, especially amongst healthy, fertile men in their 20’s to 40’s.

Even though Mother Nature has a humorous way to making men “come quickly” during sex, you can actually turn around this shortcoming and significantly improve your endurance in bed.

Achieving Quantum Shifts In Stamina With Your Most Powerful Sex Organ

No, I don’t mean a man’s penis. Your most powerful sex organ is not located in between your legs. Despite common perception, your brain – not your crown jewels – controls when you reach an orgasm.

Many men allow negative, self-defeating thoughts to flood their mind when they make love. For instance, they fear they will ejaculate too soon; they worry their partners will be disappointed with quick-fire sex, etc. Ironically such thoughts tend to have a self-fulfilling prophecy. They make premature ejaculation become a REAL problem.

“You Are What You Think”

In many cases, early ejaculation occurs or even worsens as a result of habitual negative thoughts. For example, when we ejaculate early, many guys start blaming themselves with thoughts such as: “I’m no good, I’m a total failure in bed” or “Nothing ever goes my way”. Our feelings follow what we think, and negative thoughts like these can keep us from fixing premature ejaculation and lasting longer.

The Converse Is Also True

Most men who are successful – especially those who are from humble beginnings – have one thing in common: they trust in the power of positive thinking. They don’t sweat the small stuff, and they believe in making incremental progress towards their goals.

The secret to success of any kind – including overcoming premature ejaculation – is to banish negative thoughts from your mind altogether and adopt a successful mindset.

It may take some time and effort, but practice this: Whenever you start to doubt about your own sexual endurance, banish that doubt from your mind, and meditate on your goal instead (e.g. lasting 10 minutes and giving her sensational orgasms).

Thinking positively does not mean you pretend that an early ejaculation won’t happen. It’s how you deal with it that counts. Don’t fear initial setbacks in your quest to last longer. Look upon them as learning experiences. You will only get better, and your sex life will transform, I promise!

How to Make Sex Last Longer and Give Women EXPLOSIVE Orgasms! (This is Embarrassingly Easy…)

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Premature ejaculation is no joke – it affects hundreds of thousands of guys of all different ages and races. It can wreak havoc on your sex life, because reaching orgasm too quickly isn’t satisfying for you or your partner. Most female partners of men who suffer from PE rarely have an orgasm during intercourse at all. They usually either have to have an orgasm first through oral sex or take matters into their own hands afterwards.

PE will destroy your sex life, destroy your ego and may even destroy your relationship. Women don’t want to be with a man who can’t last long enough in bed to give them an orgasm. They’re not going to stay in a relationship where they’re not sexually satisfied. So if you really want to have a healthy, happy relationship, you’re going to have to beat premature ejaculation once and for all.

Check out this FREE REPORT: How to end the embarrassment of premature ejaculation AND last longer in bed…

Premature Ejaculation IS NOT Your Fault!

If you’re like other guys, you may think that your PE is your own fault. You may feel like there’s something you’re doing wrong during sex, or there’s something wrong with you that is causing this.

That couldn’t be further from the truth! That is a huge myth that a lot of men who suffer from PE believe. But the truth is, it’s not your fault at all. Once you realize this, you can begin to cure your PE forever! Supplements, pills, creams and sprays are only going to temporarily fix your problem – and who wants to put a numbing spray on their penis so they can’t feel anything during sex anyways? The key is to find the ROOT of the problem so you can solve it for good.

What Pharmaceutical Companies Are TERRIFIED You’ll Find Out!

The makers of pills and creams that claim to help you last longer in bed are absolutely terrified that you’ll find out the information contained in Ejaculation By Command. They don’t want you to know how YOU can control your own orgasm NATURALLY, without anything at all! They want to keep selling you supplements and sprays so they keep making money.

The truth is, you don’t need ANY of these products!

So What Is The Absolute Best Way To Last Longer In Bed?

Let me ask you a few simple questions…

  • Have you ever looked forward to a night of great sex, but as soon as the lovemaking began, you climaxed within seconds again?
  • Do you like having sex… but your inability to last is filling you full of anxiety… to the point where you’re actually beginning to dread sex?
  • Do you wish you could last longer and give her the pleasure you know she deserves?
  • Do you ever worry that your woman will cheat on you or leave you for another man who can satisfy her needs in bed… something you just can’t do right now?
  • Have you tried sprays and creams that promise to desensitize your penis… and delay your ejaculation… but you feel uncomfortable using it and telling her to wait 10 minutes so that it could start working?
  • Do you feel inadequate when you come too soon, and even though your woman says it’s okay, you still feel that she’s disappointed in you?
  • Do you get so embarrassed and so self-conscious about your performance that you find any excuse you can to avoid sex?
  • Are you desperate to find a way to end your premature ejaculation, but nothing seems to work. Do you feel you’re wasting the best sexual years of your life simply because you’re too afraid or too embarrassed to ask for help?

If you answered “YES!” to any or all of these, then I really want to stress to you…

You are NOT alone.

How would your life be different right now if you were able to last 20 or 30 minutes in bed? How about an hour?

Would you feel more confident? Would you feel more proud?

You wouldn’t feel so self-conscious or nervous because you’re afraid of climaxing too quickly.

Bottom line is as a man, you want to be able to please your woman. If you don’t feel confident in your abilities, it’s going to come through when you’re close to them.

So if you’re ready to finally say goodbye to the challenges, frustration, and anxiety that’s holding you back from living your life to the fullest, that can ALL change right now…

Here’s How To Enjoy The Kind Of Sex That You Once Only Dreamed About

Our good friend Lloyd Lester has created an amazing program called “Ejaculation By Command“.

Ejaculation By Command is a revolutionary product that will teach you, step by step, how to cure premature ejaculation forever and last longer in bed – so you and your partner can have a better, more satisfying sex life. Not only will you be able to control your orgasm long enough to give your girl a sheet soaking climax, you’ll enjoy your own orgasm that much more!

This is a PROVEN, successful way to cure PE naturally!

Even if you think beating PE is impossible, even if you have suffered from it for years, you can say goodbye to it FOREVER using the easy, successful tools in this book.

What You’ll Learn…

  • How to last at LEAST 20 minutes longer…TONIGHT! Guaranteed.
  • The #1 LIE that leads men to believe it’s their body that is the problem
  • A simple, 3-step formula that you can use every time you have sex, for the rest of your life!
  • How to end the shame, frustration, humiliation and insecurity that is caused by premature ejaculation
  • How to overcome mental barriers to sexual endurance in 9 simple steps
  • 4 powerful breathing strategies that will amplify your staying power and prolong your orgasm for as long as you want
  • How to outlast HER during sex
  • The single most powerful strategy that will drive any woman completely wild in bed and lets you into her orgasmic world of pleasure, even if you ejaculate too soon!

What People Are Saying About Ejaculation By Command…

“[This] has led to the best sex we’ve ever had (including the four extra times during the rest of that evening!)” – Blair C.

“What I like most about the program is that [it] clearly shows you the most effective methods for lasting longer in bed. I’m no longer embarrassed; I have more confidence during sex, and have more fun as well! I would recommend this product because it does EXACTLY what it says in the title!” – W. Leighton

“I like the fact that I can have long and great sex now with my wife. And we both look forward to free weekends to have sex with lots of variety. This book has changed my life. My sex life has improved tremendously and I’ve also become much more confident around women.” – Martin M.

If you’re ready to turn your sex life around and start having mind-blowing sex in a way you or your partner ever thought was possible, then get your copy of Ejaculation By Command now!

With these simple tricks, you can start by lasting 20 minutes longer TONIGHT! No going to the store and buying supplements or creams, no waiting for anything to come in the mail. Just download the program, start reading right now and give your partner the time of her life RIGHT AWAY!

Why should you have to wait for an incredible sex life, anyways?

Act Now and say goodbye to premature ejaculation for good!

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8 Ultimate PE Busters

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Premature ejaculation will make your sex life less than stellar. Get rid of PE forever with these eight easy but successful premature ejaculation busters!

1. Ladies First

Before busying with your thing, get busy with her. Before penetration, give her orgasms via oral or manual labor. So even though it’ll be a short and bumpy ride, at least she’s had her moments in the sun.

2. Go To Your “Happy Place”

Take deep, full breaths. Proper breathing is central to your sex life, as every physical activity needs to be attended by sufficient air. Taking deep breaths relaxes you and allows your body to handle excitement.

Ejaculation issues usually fester the highly excitable men who are extra-sensitive to stimulation. The best handling of this is by having generous amounts of oxygen in the body, especially the head.

3. Slow Down

You’re unlikely to reach orgasm if speed is significantly slower than what you’re used to. So stop thrusting like crazy and go for deeper, slower thrusts — look for sexual positions that minimize pelvic & hip movement. These regulate the frequency of penetration.

By slowing down and taking your time, you not only delay ejaculation, you build tension – thereby making your climax many times sweeter. It’s the sexual investment for a richer and creamier blow. We tease ourselves for this very reason. It’s not only for the woman’s sake, it’s so when we finally decide to let loose, it will be four times better!

4. Stop Thrusting And Do Something Else

If slowing down is good, stopping completely is even better. (Don’t worry, your partner won’t lose her arousal.) Once you begin thrusting, there’s no rule that says you have to pump all the way to ejaculation. No shame in backing off and teasing yourselves in the process.

Get busy with kissing and other stuff instead. This stalls or even reverses your progress towards inevitability, creating more ANTICIPATION. Woman on top is a good position which will please her greatly while reducing the friction for you.

5. Spread Your Legs

This minimizes the tension and pressure in your genitals and groin area – which automatically buys you time.

6. Use A Condom

For safer sex, always use a condom. But beyond that, the protective sheath results in decreased sensitivity for your jimmy – saving it from getting overly excited.

7. The Squeeze Technique

When you’re nearing inevitability, pull out and squeeze the head of your penis. This forces blood out the genitals, relieving some of the built up pressure – inadvertently, it also forces you to stop penetrating. Repeat this technique several times before finally spraying.

8. Do Not Memorize Batting Averages!

Others say that a slideshow of anything gross can make that cum retreat back up. Distracting yourself with the picture of the cafeteria lady dancing to the tune of Macarena will definitely help. But how fun would that really be? You’re there with this amazing woman, and you’re busying with that?!

Forget the cafeteria lady, don’t memorize batting averages! We have sex for the joy it brings, not for a degree in sports broadcasting! Running rotten pictures in your head as a way to delay ejaculation is superficial. You can’t call it teasing, you’re merely castigating yourself.

Sex, as a moment by moment experience, is supposed to be experienced fully. In fact, the opposite of numbing yourself, AWARENESS, is key. Be aware, and therefore, regulate the stimulation you give yourself.

Close your eyes, feel how wonderful it is to be inside a woman’s vagina. Keep your breaths full. And remember to back off, slow down or do something else when you approach dangerous grounds.

When you absolutely cannot hold off any longer – LET IT LOOSE – you can’t delay it forever! There’s a difference between teasing and torture too, you know. Last as long as you can, blow your load of semen and don’t worry about it. If she’s already had an orgasm or two before you, she’s probably tired and going to be glad you’re done.

How To Keep Having Sex Even After You Ejaculate

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Foreplay is usually before sex, right? It doesn’t have to be! Use foreplay to give your partner an orgasm if you ejaculate too early.

Women don’t care if you’ve ejaculated or not, but THEY DO CARE IF YOU STOP THE FUN. They’re pissed with guys who don’t understand a most basic sexual principle: Just because you’re relieved doesn’t mean I am. The issue with premature ejaculators is not the white liquid – it’s that after they shoot, fast guns stop everything and act like the woman is also done.

Who Decides When Sex Is Over?

The man? The woman?

For most, it’s neither. It’s an orgasm. Semen is an oracle declaring to men, “That’s all folks!” Feeling relieved, they believe this and retire like car salesmen without any after-sales service.

But here’s the thing: Semen really is just semen. It means you climaxed, good for you! The juice represents the procreative aspect of things, but sex isn’t solely for procreation, is it?

AN ORGASM DOESN’T SAY OR MEAN ANYTHING unless you want it to. You can treat it as if nothing happened.

Men stray after they spray when they make their orgasm the sole goal.

When that’s the case, then there’s really no difference between masturbation and intercourse – the hot girl is irrelevant. (Be careful when setting goals, they’re double edged. They set your focus, but they also define your blind spots.)

Yeah, the penis-inside-the-vagina bit may be over, but not the fun. For there’s no stopping a couple from doing other stuff. Penetration isn’t the only thing on the menu. Thrusting may be over for now, but not the sex.

Doesn’t it makes more sense to wrap up when both partners are satisfied, whether this is attended by one orgasm or not, than wrap things up simply because one sees white liquid?

Treat Your Orgasm As If Nothing Happened

This doesn’t mean that you continue with the poking. No! What can you do with limp equipment, really? Forget your thing. After reaching orgasm, you experience a virtual absence in arousal, a refractory period of 5-15 minutes. Since you already got into her pants, you can easily dress up & leave or doze off, and there’s absolutely nothing she can do about it. Now this is where most men blow it big time.

Invest in the refractory period and distance yourself from the other guys.

MAKE THE NEXT SEVERAL MINUTES ABOUT HER!

Notice how easy it is to tease and please when you’re done? You really don’t need much after you’ve sprayed, do you? You can actually think straight, can you?

Forget your temporarily dilapidated tool and unleash your most prized possessions – your tongue and hands.

Give her oral sex and get busy. Explore her body as if the first time. Kiss her ears, neck and back. Stroke her hair. Pull it lightly. Caress her shoulders, gently sweep her inner thighs. Get busy with her nipples and stroke her breasts. (Are you sensing more foreplay coming?)

In a few minutes, you will feel another surge of the urge. In an instant, you will become a man again. It’s like being reborn, only better. It’s your second chance at bat, an opportunity the average guy rarely finds.

The loss of arousal and erection are not final. Barring medical conditions, arousal and erection should return. You may be calmed and satisfied after one blow, but just you wait a few minutes and you’ll be begging to ride her again.

Simply knowing this brings you on a different footing from the inexperienced boy who retires after one shot and anxiously wait for next week’s booty call. He never gets to meet his 2nd and 3rd winds!

This is the real issue with premature ejaculation, it’s how you treat her when you’re done.

What You Need To Know To End Premature Ejaculation Forever!

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Premature ejaculation can totally ruin your sex life if you let it. Here’s what you should know to get rid of it for good.

Premature ejaculation is one of the most common sexual dysfunction that affects men. Most guys, at one point or another, will wish for the ability to last longer in bed. While actual figures may vary, as many as 4 in 10 men face the embarrassment of finishing too soon during sex. “Too soon” often means 2 minutes or less. And it does not help that the vast majority of women require more than 10 minutes to properly get aroused and achieve an orgasm.

What Does It Matter If Men Don’t Last Long Enough

In most cases it does. For men, it can be downright embarrassing to fall short when it comes to their endurance in bed. It can take away the confidence of most guys who are suffering from premature ejaculation. For women, nothing is worse than a sexual relationship that repeatedly fails to deliver the pleasure that she deserves. And for guys who ejaculate even before intercourse (yes, some men have it that bad), it can put a tremendous strain on the relationship especially if the women wishes to get pregnant.

What Exactly Causes Premature Ejaculation?

Varied factors are at play here. Early conditioning is one major contributor to ejaculation problems. For most men, their sexual experiences (including masturbation) are often a rushed affair to avoid detection. Naturally, over time this conditions a man to climax in rapid fire turnaround time. On the other hand, anxiety and “nerves” are known to contribute to premature ejaculation as well. In other words, if you are nervous or anxious about your performance in bed, you are more likely to shoot off quickly. Some guys claim that consuming small amounts of alcohol help “calm their nerves” and enable them to last longer. But it certainly is not a recommended approach for treating premature ejaculation permanently.

Treatments For Premature Ejaculation

If you have early ejaculation problems, there are various treatments or cures available, depending on the severity of the problem. For mild cases – for example, you are already lasting 5 minutes and wish to last longer – there is no need to make an embarrassing trip to the doctor. Simple distraction techniques can help improve your sexual endurance. Thinking about something non-sexual can help reduce your sexual arousal and enhance your staying power. Alternatively, some form of local anesthetic gel or lotion can be useful. This is applied directly onto your penis before sexual intercourse to dull the sensations during sex. But this solution has its downsides, including less pleasurable sex and possible allergic reactions for both the guy and his partner.

For more severe cases of premature ejaculation (if you are lasting 2 minutes or less), there are natural techniques and exercises that will help alleviate the problem. The Masters-Johnson method, which employs a specialized penis grip to reduce the desire to climax, is one well-known anti-ejaculation technique. Another popular and highly effective solution is to focus on cognitive behavior treatment such as the stop-start technique, which basically aims to alter a man’s sexual response to gain greater control over his ejaculation.