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6 Hot New Sex Tips To Try Tonight!

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Sex tips are a great way to keep your sex life inspired. Whether you’re getting tired of the same old missionary style, or you’re looking to expand your already amazing sex life, sex tips can take you over the hump. If you and your partner are looking for a way to increase the amount of pleasure and intimacy in your relationship, these sex tips can easily help you out. Here are 5 hot new sex tips to try tonight.

1. Roleplay With Your Partner

Role play isn’t for everybody. There are of men and women that get embarrassed over putting on a costume or having to improv sexy talk. If you and your partner are comfortable with it, role playing can be a great way to put some new kink into your sex life. Some of the most common forms of roleplay involve one partner being dominant and the other being submissive.

Before you start to role play, you should always determine who is going to be dominant and who is going to be submissive. If you want to switch it up in the middle of the role playing then this is fine too. The key is to find a healthy balance so the both of you are satisfied in the end.

2. Set Up Barriers

This is something that is commonly found in the pick up artist community, but it works well with couples also. Barriers are basically used to increase sexual tension. Pick up artists use this to increase sexual tension in an environment that cannot be used for sex. For instance, talking dirty to a girl in a restaurant or getting a her turned on in a nightclub.

You can’t have sex in a nightclub or in a restaurant, so the girl feels safe and more likely to respond in a positive manner. Go out to dinner with your partner and use the barriers to your advantage. Get the sexual tension so high that you can’t wait to get home.

3. Switch Up The Dominance

There are a lot of guys and girls that love to be either dominant or submissive in the bedroom. One of the best ways that you can get out of your comfort zone and experience something different is to switch up the dominance. Instead of always having your boyfriend or girlfriend being the dominant one, take control.

If you’re the one who always takes control, be submissive. In the middle of sex, switch roles so that you are either dominant or submissive. This will not only increase the sexual tension and create a really fun environment for experimentation, it can also expose you to new and creative ways of taking or letting go of control.

4. Use Sex Toys

There are too many couples who rely on their bodies for sexual pleasure. If you haven’t tried sex toys yet, do it. Take a trip to the adult store together and pick out a small vibrator or dildo for your girlfriend. You also might want to try out a cock ring or a vibrating condom. Sex toys are there to enhance your sex life, not replace it.

So many couples think that sex toys are a form of “cheating” or “copping out.” Just because you have a really intense orgasm with a vibrator doesn’t mean that your guy isn’t a good lover. Try out some sex toys to get things rolling or to take your orgasms to the next level.

5. Remove Anxieties

With kids, work, housework or whatever else you have in your life, the last thing that you or your partner wants to do is have sex. Sex is about having fun and it can be an escape from life, however, there are things that your sexual urges can’t overcome. Remove the anxieties from life so you can focus on your sex life. Try to help your partner out on a daily basis so you both have less stress and anxiety in your lives. This will go a long way with your sex life.

6. Double Down On Foreplay

Foreplay is essential for having great sex. While this is not secret, so many men and women tend to forget it when they are in a long-term relationship. It’s way to easy to get to the big show immediately. Take the time that you normally spend on foreplay and double it. If you normally spend about 5 minutes on foreplay, extend it to 10 minutes.

Mix up what you normally do so your partner is surprised. Going from kissing to oral sex is a staple. Mix it up so you are kissing and then giving oral sex and then back to kissing or just fingering. This will make a big difference in the way that your partner gets turned on.

Discover The 3rd Element Of Sex That Will TWIST It Up! (Hint: It’s NOT Another Woman!)

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Sex games are a great way to add spice and fire to your sex life. Use role play, food, sex toys and more to change things up and reignite the passion TONIGHT!

If you want to bring back the fire in your rapidly dwindling sexual relationship, you need to bring this third wheel to bed. When you have this third “member” in your bedroom, the sexual possibilities become so logistically incredible that you can have the balls to say that you never have the same sex twice. It will always be new, it will always be fresh – even though you’re with that same old fart. The third aspect will always make it beautiful for you.

So, what is it?

It’s The “Twist” To Regular Sex!

It’s the imaginative element you introduce to the daily grind that spices up sexual encounters. You’re still the same, she’s still the same, it’s the twist and how you two interact with it that makes your sessions an event worthy of the name sexcapades.

It not only adds another source of pleasure, it distracts the couple from the sameness that is their love-making by focusing their attention not on that-same-set-of-breasts but on something else. The twist provides the avenue for novelty in spite having the same sexual partner – which comes in handy for people in long-term, committed relationships.

Ways To Change It Up

This aspect can be about anything. Let’s say the couple decides to make the change in location. That is, they never have sex in the same place or that they make sure they’ve done it in every corner of their house, or every bathroom/floor in the building. Or they vow to do it in every branch of a famous hotel chain around the country. Some retirees plan their trips so they make love in every state in the US.

Another example would be the time change, which is replete with many variations. A couple could set their timer for 5-minutes, during which they could do anything they want. But after the 5-minute mark, they have to drop everything – no matter how orgasmic it is. It’s a quickie with a time limit! Or they can dare set personal records for the fastest quickies.

A couple may also decide on different intervals before they can bump uglies. For example, they can set a 3-day interval for sex – regardless if they get horny or not – making them look forward to the day they can have it. (The interval can be increased or decreased as the couple sees fit, or they can write different intervals on sheets of paper, throw them in a hat and draw one.)

Adding music also presents many variations. A couple can change their background tunes on a weekly or monthly basis, knowing full well that the beat to which they make-love will affect the love-making itself. Sex accompanied with Beethoven symphonies will be different from that with Jamaican groove.

The Only Limit Is Your Imagination

As you can see, there is no limit to the elements one can introduce. And the change in focus from the partner to the third aspect of sex doesn’t negatively affect the relationship since the twist is not a 120 lb. blonde who lives next door.

In fact, quite the opposite happens, the excitement brought about by the eroticism of a mutually endorsed twist rubs on the partner and strengthens the bond. There’s that feeling of being partners in crime, a certain “we-ness” developed because “we” are doing something others are not.

The third aspect of sex can truly be anything – anything at all. It need not take you to different locations and can be as simple as: running different types of fabric on each other’s bodies while blindfolded. It’s deceptively simple, but when you actually try it, it’s as if you’re in a different world.

Go with themes, topics and variations that interest you. The process of coming up with the creative twist is in itself a very challenging and exciting affair, making for warm and playful coffee table conversations. If you can engage your woman and dial-up her anticipation and desire for it, you’ll have someone who’ll never let you out of sight.

3 Role Play Sex Games That Will Make Your Valentine’s Day UNFORGETTABLE!

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Valentine’s Day is an excellent time to have some out of the ordinary fun. Most couples like to try something new and a little different when February 14th rolls around, so if you want to spice things up, here are some exciting role play sex games that will make this year absolutely memorable.

Lonely Man On A Business Trip

This is an excellent role play for Valentine’s Day because it is a fantasy that allows you to get really creative if you want. Just imagine your partner is a lonely business man out on work related travel. He’s depressed and all by himself on Valentine’s Day with no one to talk to.

You can play this scenario out a lot of ways. Have an “affair” while he is out of town on business and his wife is at home. Be the sexy maid that stops by his room to give it a clean, only to find him undressed and alone. Use your imagination! Here are some great ways to give this fantasy a sexy spin.

  • Book a hotel room
  • Wear an outfit that works for the part you’re playing (for example, a sexy maid’s costume)
  • Nice champagne over ice

Sexy Stripper

You really can’t go wrong by playing the part of a stripper on Valentine’s Day and giving your lover a sexy striptease to get him turned on. Even if this idea seems played out to you, it most certainly is NOT played out to your man. Men can watch the same girl do the same striptease over and over again and STILL get excited. Why do you think strip clubs are so popular? Here are some things to consider if you want to make your striptease as fun and exciting as it can be.

  • Pick a good song that you’re comfortable with
  • Practice! You’ll be no good if the first time you dance is on him
  • Consider taking lessons
  • Get an outfit that he’s never seen before – one that not only looks great, but feels great on
  • Have confidence! He’s going to love it no matter what you do or how good you are

Teacher/Student

This is another super fun sex game you and your partner can play on Valentine’s Day. Even if you’ve done this one before, the subject is so broad that you can literally do teacher/student ten times and never do it the same way twice. So don’t count this one out!

This is a fun fantasy to play out, no matter which way you do it – whether you’re the teacher and he’s the student, or the other way around. If you decide to go with playing the part of the teacher while your partner plays the part of the student, you can really take it to a whole new level.

If you’re the teacher, use this as an opportunity to get your lover to try a few things that they wouldn’t normally try. Now you don’t want to go too far out of the box here, but make sure you do teach them a few new things. Because it’s a game, they’ll be more inclined to try some activities that they ordinarily wouldn’t go for, as long as they’re only slightly outside your partner’s comfort zone and not way out there in bestiality and whatnot. Here are some ways to make the teacher/student sex fantasy even more fun!

  • Dress the part. Again, costumes are a great way to really up the immersion factor when doing a role play.
  • If you’re into domination or submission, you can also consider “punishing” the naughty student. This can be exceptionally fun if you’re teaching your lover how to do something very, very naughty.

When experimenting with role play for Valentine’s Day, whether you’ve done it before or are just trying it out for the first time, remember that the most important thing is creativity. Even if you can’t afford to book a hotel room or splurge on costumes, it’s your attitude that is the most important thing of all.

While it’s nice to keep a sense of humor about the whole thing, you’re not going to enjoy it as much if you and your partner think it’s so silly you’re laughing your asses off. So use your imagination and be creative as you can, but make sure you’re taking it seriously enough that you and your partner actually get into it. Remember to relax and have fun, because that’s what it’s all about! Having fun!

Dirty Talk, Role Play & The Holidays!

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Dirty talk and role play are fun, but can be even more so when the end of the year hits. Here’s how to have some sexy fun this holiday season!

Once you’ve gotten used to using words and dirty talk in the bedroom, couples sometimes choose to venture into role playing. This can allow your dirty talk to evolve further because you’ve changed the dynamics and this opens up more opportunities to converse in a sexual setting.

Hot Role Play Examples!

  • Prisoner and Warden’s daughter
  • Professor and Naughty School Girl
  • Headmistress and Pupil
  • Adam and Eve
  • Cowboy and Cowgirl at the Rodeo
  • Nurse and Patient
  • Doctor and Patient
  • Hollywood Starlet and Producer (imagine the casting couch audition)
  • The Professor and Maryann
  • Boss and the Sexy Secretary
  • Police Officer and the Traffic Stop (works for either sex being in charge)
  • Stripper and Club Patron
  • Photographer and Model
  • Rock Star and Groupie

More Great Ideas….

Take the initiative and surprise him by handcuffing him to the bed (you can use silk scarves if you don’t have the real thing) and tell him he’s under arrest!

Advise him of his rights – that he’s not allowed to do anything but watch as you pleasure yourself. After you’ve put on quite a show for him and you have had an orgasm for him, ask him if he wants to be freed from the handcuffs so he can join in, but make him work for it! He’ll need to convince you of why he should be set free – maybe you’ll let him off for some “good behavior,” or just make him beg!!

Dress Up & Holidays

Take role playing a step further by dressing up. People use Halloween as a time to throw on an outfit and for an evening pretend like they are someone else. Imagine your wife in a sexy little Fireman’s outfit – while you lay in the bed screaming that you’re on fire and wait for her to come to your rescue. There are so many themes you can use and you can purchase affordable costumes online or make your own.

For some people, you can lower your inhibitions by playing dress up and getting to act like you are someone you’re not with an outfit sometimes makes it easier to throw a few words around that you might not say on a normal encounter.

You can work other holidays besides Halloween to your advantage as well. On Valentine’s Day set the mood by changing out the light bulbs in your bedroom to the red ones they sell at party supply stores. Surprise him or her with chocolates and champagne in bed and a homemade card with a dirty talk story that you’ve written about how you want to celebrate the night.Chris

Christmas Ideas

The whole month of December can be used for Christmas ideas. Stick a sprig of mistletoe into the belt loops of his pants with a little dirty talk note telling him in great detail where you plan to kiss him once he gets home from work. It will be a tough day at the office for him to think of anything else besides quitting time.

Wrap your headboard in Christmas lights and your partner when he or she is heading home from the office or puling into the driveway with a little dirty talk. Tell your beloved that you have blown a fuse and that the lights are not working in your bedroom. Once he or she arrives home to check out the situation, be waiting and using your best dirty talk let him or her know that the only real outlet in the room is waiting to be plugged into by the electrifying, red hot cock!

Any holiday can work to your advantage. Think outside the box! Be creative.

Top 10 Most Common Kinks & Fetishes

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BDSM, kinks and fetishes are actually more prevalent than you may think. Check out the ten most popular kinks & fetishes!

Foot Fetish

People with a foot fetish get sexually aroused by women’s feet. A foot fetish and a shoe fetish are often mistaken for one another – people with a shoe fetish are sexually aroused by shoes and feet in them, but usually not by feet in general. Those with a foot fetish are the exact opposite – they are sexually aroused by feet, which may or may not include footwear. This could be in the form of just looking at feet, licking and sucking on them or involving them in sexual activity.

Role Playing

Tons of people enjoy role playing, whether they’re avid BDSM enthusiasts or couples that could be considered relatively “vanilla.” Role play is so much fun, because it allows you to experience different sexual fantasies without going too far outside your box (or outside your relationship). Some sex role play fantasies include:

  • Hot nurse (or doctor), ailing patient
  • Teacher, naughty student
  • Sexy cop, person getting arrested

Breasts

It’s no secret that a big number of guys have a breast fetish! Most guys absolutely love breasts and will watch porn that features women with large breasts or sexual acts taking place with breasts, and they’ll also pay special attention to their lover’s breasts during sex. Some guys will enjoy grossly enlarged breasts (we’re talking HUGE), while others just like ones that are pretty big. Men with breast fetishes may have a particular interest in nipples, but not all of them will.

Butts

It’s also not at all uncommon for some guys to be aroused by butts – especially the nice, large, round variety. Most guys with a special attraction towards butts are going to enjoy rear entry sex positions. They may also really like anal sex. Interestingly enough, there are many guys who are “butt guys” and many guys who are “breast” guys, but very few men (if any) are actually both.

Public Sex

People love the idea of having public sex. There’s just something about having sex around other people – who could possibly see you – that seriously gets people off! Some couples may role play the idea of having public sex – or choose to do it somewhere really discreet where it’s almost impossible to get caught – while others really will get it on out in the open, without regard to getting caught. For some, the idea of getting caught (and actually getting caught) is the biggest turn on of all.

Shoe Fetish

Again, a shoe fetish is a largely popular form of sexual gratification – but it is often mistaken for a foot fetish. A shoe fetish is going to be specifically centered around shoes (and sometimes feet in them). The shoes are almost always high heels, and often very “bondag-ey” looking. Fetish footwear often includes lots of straps, buckles and leather! Some shoe enthusiasts feel like the higher the heel, the better.

Piercings & Tattoos

People have long linked pain with pleasure, and many people will say that there’s a fine line between the two. It’s not hard to figure out that there’s a lot of people on this planet that enjoy not only getting piercings and tattoos, but being around other people that have them as well. However, did you know that a lot of people who enjoy piercings and tattoos get sexually aroused by them? They will be more inclined to have sex with someone that is pierced or tattooed than someone who isn’t, and may even be sexually aroused by the process of getting tattooed or pierced.

Domination & Submission

This is also one of the more popular forms of BDSM & fetishes, because so much fun can be had if you’re creative with domination and submission. Some people have a personality that leans more towards a dominant nature, while others will have a more submissive personality. This can work really well in couples, because dominant and submissive personalities will usually feed off each other.

Rough Sex

This goes back to pleasure being linked to pain. Many couples enjoy BDSM and rough sex, which may include:

  • Slapping
  • Spanking
  • Biting
  • Restraints
  • Hard and fast penetration that typically goes deeper than “normal”

Certain Fabrics

Believe it or not, it’s not at all uncommon for people to be aroused by the feel and texture of certain fabrics when they rub up against the skin. This can include:

  • Satin
  • Silk
  • Leather
  • Rubber
  • Velvet

People who are sexually aroused by different kinds of fabric will often have pajamas, lingerie or their sheets that are made of this particular fabric.