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How To Be The Kind Of Guy A Stripper Wants To Date

A stripper has to date men too – but how can you separate yourself from the customers to become the kind of man a stripper wants to go out with?

You need to be:

Confident
Interesting
Masculine
Fun

When you can convey these four qualities to a woman during the first conversation, I guarantee she’s going to want to see you again (or have sex with you that night!).

Yeah, it sounds obvious—you need to be confident and masculine to attract women. Of course. But so few guys actually heed this advice!

Being Too “Nice”

They might read a book like this one and try to be confident and masculine at first, but as soon things start going well with the girl they worry about blowing it. So they revert back to being their “usual selves”—trying to keep the girl interested in them by being super NICE.

(The guy thinks, “If I can prove to her that I’m a nice guy and a gentleman, and that I respect her—and that I’m not looking for sex—then she’ll trust me and want to date me!”)

No. Sooner or later, she’ll want to cut you loose because you’re acting like a typical insecure chump who doesn’t have the balls to act like a man and give her what she’s really looking for: masculinity, confidence, fun and sexual excitement.

By behaving towards women in the “typical” manner, these guys mess up their chances. As for seducing a stripper, you can forget about it; you absolutely must man up if you’re going to capture their interest and get their juices flowing.

I also want you to remember this saying: “The best way to pick up women is to have something better to do than pick up women.”

Have An Actual Purpose In Your Life (Besides Chicks)

Women are attracted to men who have a purpose in life (beyond going out and trying to get laid, or find a girlfriend!). When a guy is passionate about his purpose and focused on achieving goals, that’s sexy. The problem with most guys is that they make a woman their purpose. They’re needy. They’re jealous. They’re worried about losing her. And eventually, they do.

Women want you to be their rock. They want to know they can count on you to make decisions, lead them, and calm them down and get them back on track when they’re going through one of their dramas or mood swings. Women are all over the place emotionally. They’re a swirling sea of emotions, and what they need is a man who can be the rock that their waves crash against.

Be about something. Have interesting hobbies and passions. Set goals for yourself. Have your own opinions, don’t just follow along with the herd.

How To Be A “Masculine Guy”

Be a leader. Lead the conversation. There’s no rule that says you need to talk about whatever topic she brings up. And you’re not required to answer her questions. In fact, I blow off all of a woman’s standard questions. (“Where are you from,” “what do you do,” etc. You’ll always get these questions from strippers because it’s part of their sales routine: they want to build a connection with you before they go for the close (ask you to buy a striptease). You’ve also got to lead physically. I tell girls that I’m hitting on them. I’d love to to be in bed with them.

Men are wired to spread their seed. Women are wired to want to be with men who can provide them with a stable, secure environment in which they can have kids and raise them.

This stuff is happening on a subconscious level. It’s not like while you’re sitting there having a drink with a stripper, she’s thinking, “Hmm, maybe I should let this guy knock me up. He seems like he would provide a stable, secure environment.”

What women (and strippers) are looking for are cues: signals that you have the qualities she is wired to seek in a man. The cool thing is, when you give her these signals (in a way that seems genuine, not phony) she’s going to feel attraction. She has no choice in the matter! It’s in her DNA.

When a man conveys those four qualities in an authentic way, women can’t resist feeling attracted to him—just as you will automatically feel attracted to a young, gorgeous woman with big breasts. You can’t shut off your brain’s “attraction mechanism.” Neither can women.

When you do masculine things in her presence, she senses that you are a confident guy. If you’re confident, you’re going to do things that demonstrate leadership—and then she’ll see you as a guy who can be her “emotional rock” and provide her with the stability she needs to feel safe.

5 Seduction Tips Women Need To Be On Guard For

By loveandsex

Seduction can be one of the most exciting and embarrassing moments in a woman’s life. Being put under the spell of Mr. Wrong can leave you wondering why you were ever attracted to him in the first place. As women, guys approach us on a daily basis. It doesn’t matter if we’re in a supermarket, a bowling ally or on the street guys try to run their game constantly. If you’re tired of falling for the same seduction tricks, there are a few things that you can watch out for. Here is a short list of some things you didn’t know about seduction.

1. Some Guys Really Do Just Want To Know The Time

Not all approaches are part of the seduction game. Men do approach women that they are attracted to, but a guy that needs the time could also just need to know what time it is. Brushing off every guy that tries to approach you is not the way to go through life. If a guy walks up and tries to ask you a question about a product then be aware that he might just need to know if the product works. When he starts to transition the conversation into where you work, if you’re single or any other personal information be on the lookout for seduction.

2. Speaking Of Time, If He Doesn’t Seem To Have Enough Of It…

A time constraint is one of the most widely used aspects of seduction. The basic concept makes the guy seem limited during his approach. This is the same concept that Internet marketers use to get you to buy a product. They say something like “I can only talk for a second,” which is reminiscent of “for a limited time only.” If a guy tries to pulls this on you, have your guard up. The reason that so many guys use this is because it does work. This is a universal game. What works on you will also work on other women.

3. He Seems More Interested In Your Friends

One of the biggest signs that a guy is seducing you is that he ignores you and goes for your friend. This is a tactic that has gotten a lot of women. What it does is it gets you thinking “Why isn’t he talking to me?” You feel a little rejected so you start vying for his attention instead of him vying for your attention. This is a good method for picking up women and if you look at any nightclub or bar after 11pm you will probably see it. Once the conversation has died a little he will start to talk to you and you will feel special. This is a fake feeling that he has crafted.

4. “Bouncing”

Another method of seduction is called “bouncing.” Bouncing basically involves getting you away from your friends. This is the sign of an experienced expert. He will basically tell you something like “Let’s go to this place for a quick drink.” He is trying to bounce you away from your friends. Seduction is all about putting you a place that you might not feel very comfortable in. If you have never been to a club, bar or restaurant then the most comfortable thing that you have there is him. Be on the look out for this seduction technique when a guy tries it and you won’t get played.

5. He Knows Everything

Does the guy you are talking to seem to have an answer for everything? Is he leading the conversation and saying all the right things? Does it seem too good to be true? If you answered yes to any of these questions then you are probably the prize in a seduction technique. Routines are a way for guys to get enough confidence to talk to you. The reason that they have an answer for everything is because they have done the routine hundreds if not thousands of times. You should start to pick up on his routine throughout the conversation. If you do pick up on it, give a short answer to end the conversation and watch him squirm.

Getting played through a seduction technique is not something that any girl wants to go through. Knowing the signs of seduction is the best way to avoid being a victim in a guy’s routine. Seduction can be fun when you know that you’re being seduced, Making him work for it and then shutting the whole situation down can bruise even the most experienced seduction expert. Take these signs into consideration the next time that you think you’re being seduced.

Why You Need To Know Strip Club Shifts To Bag A Hot Stripper!

By deancortez

A stripper works certain times to make more money, and timing is everything when it comes to bagging a stripper. Getting to know how the club works is a must!

Most strip clubs operate on three shift intervals: Days, Swing and Graveyard. Each is a different animal, and has pros as well as cons.

Days

This shift usually runs from about eight in the morning until five in the evening. Day shift dancers are a mixed bag: in a big club you’ll probably find some stunners, but this is also when the less attractive ones work. Some stunners will choose this less lucrative shift because they have personal commitments that prevent them from working evenings—such as kids, or a boyfriend who wants her home at night. The less attractive ones are employed during the day because the club management needs live bodies on the floor in the daytime and they’d rather the more attractive girls be on the floor at night.

Swing

Swing shift runs from about five until one in the morning. This is usually when you’ll find the top-shelf hotties. Also, most new dancers break in on swing shift, which is also known as the “party shift.” As the busiest of all shifts, this one has the most girls, the most customers, and the most challenges for you to deal with. While swing shift dancers might be the hottest, they’re also in higher demand because this is when the club sees the most traffic. This might make it difficult to engage the dancer you want in an extended conversation, since there are other guys willing to shell out money for a private striptease.

Graveyard

In cities where clubs are permitted to be open until very late (such as Las Vegas, where the clubs never close), graveyard shift runs from about midnight until about seven in the morning. If I go to a strip club on a weekend, I hit it late (which in Vegas means after 4am, after I’m through at the bars).

As a local, I don’t want to get caught up in hordes of drunken tourists throwing money around. Better to let the crowd thin out, then show up and work your magic. This applies to whatever city you live in.

I don’t suggest visiting during peak hours. I like to go to the club on slow nights. No matter how strong your dating game is, if the club is packed with guys, her main focus is going to be on making money.

IMPORTANT NOTE: The next time you visit a club that you like, find out the shift changes. (Ask a waitress.) Then, plan your future visits around the shift changes. I like to show up an hour or two before the swing shift (late afternoon-evening) ends and the graveyard shift (late night-early morning) begins.

This way, when I suggest meeting a girl after her shift, I know they’ll be off work soon and I’ll be fresh in their minds when they clock out. On the other hand, if you meet a stripper at the beginning of her shift, her memory of you will be hazy (if she remembers you at all) eight hours later, after she’s consumed a bunch of drinks and entertained twenty other guys. So, timing really is essential.

The Three Types Of Strip Clubs

By deancortez

A stripper works at one of three different types of strip clubs – do you know all of them and how they affect your chances of seducing a stripper?

1. Upper Class Adult Clubs

When a strip club has valet parking, this is your first sign that it’s an “upper class” establishment. Once you’re inside, the presence of bathroom attendants are another indicator (one of the most useless and annoying jobs ever created).

This means you can expect to pay a cover charge of at least $20 and drinks will average around $8. On the plus side, the talent pool will be loaded with ridiculously hot women.

In upper-class strip clubs in Vegas—the city that has this down to a science— I’ve actually encountered some of my favorite porn stars working among the dancers. If that sounds crazy, just consider the financials!

These chicks might make $1,000 to spend a day shooting a scene for a porn flick, getting pounded for hours under hot lights in every imaginable position. In the club, they can easily make twice that amount without having to fuck anyone. And, it’s a great place to meet wealthy customers who are looking to pay her for “full service” when she gets off of work. (Many porn stars do “escort work” on the side.)

I’m guessing that a lot of porn stars you might recognize are working in the strips clubs in Los Angeles and Las Vegas right now. The porn industry is seriously hurting due to the rise of internet file-sharing sites, where you can download millions of hours of porn for free. This is killing the porn DVD market, which has led to less movies being made for tighter budgets. So, don’t act surprised when you see one of your favorite “stars” walking up to you and offering you a lap dance!

Even some of the waitresses in these upper-class clubs are 9’s and 10’s. The staff will have a professional attitude and understand the concept of “customer service,” unlike the scary-looking ex-cons who run the door (and even work as managers) at lower-end clubs.

Expect a ratio of fake to real breasts somewhere around 10:1, and top-shelf liquor that is not watered down. These clubs accept credit cards, but usually the fees are so high (ten to twenty percent range) that you’d be a fool to not be carrying cash. Some upper-class clubs feature “shower shows” onstage or lube, mud or oil wrestling matches pitting strippers against each other. Now that’s entertainment!

The advantage of upper class clubs is twofold. First, there some insanely hot women to check out. Second, there are plenty of second and third-tier strippers who are still extremely sexy, but aren’t getting a whole lot of attention compared to the A-listers. The slightly lower-tier girls are the ones that I like to target. They’d be superstars in the lower-end clubs. But here, they’re small fish in a big pond and need to work hard to make their money.

They’re a little bit insecure, too. They’re beautiful, but they’re always comparing themselves against the A-Team “turbo hottie” hustlers who are the superstars where they work. This means they’ll be OK with sitting down with you for a drink and some conversation, without trying to use high-pressure sales tactics. This is when you will work your magic.

2. Middle Class Clubs

The middle-class strip club is similar to the upper-class joints in many respects, with the following exceptions: the fake breasts to real breasts ratio leans more towards the real (but not in a good way); if there is a bathroom attendant, there isn’t enough room for him and he’s always in the way (which makes him even more of a pain in the ass); there’s usually no valet; and while the talent pool contains some stunners, you also occasionally see dancers you wouldn’t sleep with even after twenty shots of tequila.

The main difference, basically, is that these places are cheaper than the upper-class clubs.

3. Lower Class Strip Clubs

The lower-class strip club can provide plenty of good, cheap fun, despite the funky smell and the desperate condition of many of the dancers. You can sense that more than a few of the girls are working to support children and a Tony Montana-sized drug habit. You will often find, however, that there is one “big fish” working in this small pond: a total stunner who chooses to work here rather than in one of the bigger clubs, because this place has less competition.

There are other reasons why hotties will occasionally choose to work in lower-class clubs. I once had sex with a super-hot Filipina dancer at a grimy little club located a few blocks from the Vegas Strip. She could have easily been a star at one of the big clubs in town. But she lived with her family—who had no idea what she was actually doing for a job. She worked an early evening shift because she had a 1:00 am curfew. She was intimidated by the bigger clubs and all of their bitchy “pro” dancers. So, she chose to work at this place.

My point is, you never know what gems you might discover by exploring the lower-end clubs. I love these joints, personally. The girls have less competition among themselves—and so do you. These places do not normally attract high rollers. If you’ve got game, you shouldn’t have a problem lining up dates with the girls outside of the club. They’ll be happy to hang out with you for a drink or two. Normally, they’re sitting with fat old guys with bad breath who are trying to feel them up.

6 Sexting Tips For Couples

By serenapaige

Sexting has taken the world by storm. The most common question about sexting is “Why would anybody send naked pictures of themselves?” The answer is that it can be really hot. If you would like to introduce sexting into your relationship there are a few things that you should know beforehand. Whether you’re just trying to mix things up or it’s been a long time interest, sexting can build a lot of anticipation throughout the day. If you’re not too sure how to start sexting as a couple, here are a few guidelines to follow.

1. Start Out Slow – Very Slow

Sexting is all about anticipation. If you rush into it you’re going to ruin all anticipation. Have you ever seen a stripper yank all of her clothes off in first 20 seconds of dancing? Of course not. You want to build up to the main event with your girlfriend or wife. A great way to start out is to ask them what they’re wearing. This gets them into the frame of mind to get descriptive. If you’re texting your boyfriend or husband, you can text them the same thing. When they text back, tell them how much you love that outfit and then make a physical reference. “I love how your ass looks in that dress” or something similar.

2. Plan What You’re Going To Say

Make sure that you’re comfortable with the things that you’re going to say. Remember that you will have to see your partner at some point so you don’t want to say anything that is too embarrassing or out there. For women, this isn’t really a problem. Men can handle, and will probably welcome, complete filth. However, men should watch it. It’s all too easy to fall into the sexting trap and send something that will turn her off or creep her out from the comfort of your cell phone’s keyboard. Think about what you’re saying before you send the text.

3. Lead Up To The Dirty Talk

Sexting can get very dirty, but lead up to it with anticipatory messages. “Wish you were here right now” or “I can’t wait to come home” can lead to a lot of anticipation. If your partner sends you something like this, ask them “Why?” This can lead into sexting easily. After your partner has texted you “Why?” follow up with something that is not necessarily dirty, but more loving. “I need you right now” or something like that is enough to get the message across without the attachment of a picture of your penis.

4. Actually Use Dirty Talk

Once you have established where the conversation is going it’s time to get into the grunt of it. “My cock is so hard” or “My pussy is so wet” works well as a follow up. If your partner is really sexual, they are going to follow up to your message with something even dirtier.

5. Escalate It

Sexting require escalation. Starting off slow and bringing the sexual level up is essential. You must escalate the sexting until you have a good rhythm going with the messages. Wait a little while between the texts. 3-5 minutes between the texts will build anticipation. Can you picture your partner sitting at his or her desk at work staring at the phone waiting for dirty talk to pop up? If not, then you’re not doing it right!

6. Send Pictures

Picture messaging has taken the cell phone industry by the balls. This is also a staple of sexting. When the time is right in the conversation you can ask for a picture. Tell your partner to go into the bathroom and take a dirty picture for you. This works much more for women than men. Surprisingly, women aren’t as likely to ask for a picture of your dong. There was a line in Seinfeld that pretty much applies to this: “Men are utilitarian. They’re built like Jeeps.”

The male body can be sexy, but it’s nothing compared to a woman’s body. Guys should remember that what they are saying is going to play much more of a part than a picture of them standing in a mirror with their penis in their hand.

Sexting can bring anticipation for the moment that your partner walks through the door in the afternoon. However, you need to know what you’re doing before you can get your partner turned on. Couples that sext often have better sex because text messages can be less personal than a face-to-face conversation. Having the ability to express your sexual desires through a phone can help you open up. Follow these guidelines and you’ll find your partner rushing home to fulfill their cravings.