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Q&A: How Many Sex Foreplay Options Can We List In 30 Seconds?

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Foreplay, for many couples, is the cornerstone of their sexual experiences. However, many couples just don’t engage in enough foreplay! For most of them, a lack of good, fresh ideas is what keeps them from really exploring foreplay with their partner. What are some new foreplay ideas that you can share with your partner?

Foreplay (Wikipedia) – is a set of intimate psychological and physical acts between two or more people meant to create and increase sexual arousal, in anticipation of sexual intercourse.

Can be anything from flirting to playful teasing, to physical stimulation and beyond.

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Physical Stimulation

Many foreplay options include physical stimulation. This is the most direct route to get your partner turned on before sexual intercourse. Touching your partner all over their body, especially in their erogenous zones, can heat things up in the bedroom pretty quickly. Physical stimulation during foreplay can include anything and everything from oral sex, kissing, genital massage and much, much more. Sometimes, just physical stimulation isn’t enough when it comes to foreplay. Oral sex and hand jobs can only go so far time and time again. Although these things are pleasurable, our bodies and minds desire something fresh and new in the bedroom every once in awhile. Get creative with sex toys and come up with new ways to turn each other on physically before sexual intercourse.

Psychological Stimulation

A big part of foreplay, especially for women, is the psychological factor. A person’s mindset plays an important role in the quality of sex, and for many people, being sufficiently turned on mentally is a huge prerequisite for great sex. You can have psychological or mental foreplay with your partner all day if you want. Send sexy text messages to each other, make a naughy phone call or simply give your partner those bedroom eyes to let them know you are turned on and you want it at the soonest possible moment. You can turn your partner on this way well before you even get to the bedroom! One great way to turn your partner on psychologically is to watch pornography with them, or read a steamy novel or erotic book together. All you have to do is use your imagination a little bit and you can come up with dozens of ways to turn your partner on without laying a finger on them.

Making Foreplay A Bigger Part Of Your Sexual Routine

No sex life that doesn’t incorporate at least some degree of foreplay is a good one. While quickies are certainly satisfying sometimes, nothing can take the place of some good old fashioned creative foreplay in the bedroom. Both men and women enjoy foreplay and most of them report wanting more of it – so why isn’t everyone doing it? Foreplay takes time and these days, we’re lucky to have a few moments to ourselves to use the restroom in between work and kids. So foreplay often gets crossed off the list of “Things We Wish We Had More Time For.” Here’s the thing – you’re going to need to make time for more foreplay. The quality of sex with your partner will greatly improve because of it!

Q&A: Should I Talk To My Parents About Sex?

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Lots of people have questions about sex, especially those in the younger generation. Who is responsible for answering questions about sex? Should a child or teen turn to their friends to learn about sex? Or should they turn to television, movies or music?

I’m 13 and I’ve known about sex since I was 10 years old. Should I ask my parents to tell me about sex, even though I already know?

–YouTube Viewer

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Shirking Responsibility

So should a teen ask his or her parents about sex? Some teens – and parents – would answer that question with a resounding, “No!” In fact, many teens get their sex education from their friends, their friends’ parents, comics, video games, movies and music. But it isn’t the entertainment industry’s job to teach kids and teens about sex. It’s the parent’s job. Much in the same way that a parent should teach a child that the stove is hot, a parent should teach their child about sex. Now that doesn’t mean you have to give your kids tips on the best sex positions, but teaching them about why sex should be approached carefully and safely is a parent’s job. STD’s and pregnancy can hurt a teen as much, if not more, than if a child puts their hand on a hot stove. Besides, who wants their kids learning about sex from the backseat of a car in the video game Grand Theft Auto? Have you seen that video game? It’s time for parents to step up and get past their discomfort and talk to their kids about sex. And it’s time for kids to stop thinking it’s “gross” to have your parent give you sex education because well, they might know a thing or two.

Thinking About It?

If you’re thinking about talking to your parents about sex – or if you’re a parent thinking about talking to your kids about sex – go for it. Ditch the discomfort and learn how to be open and honest. Kids – you may have learned about sex from Johnny’s dad’s funny magazine while his parents weren’t home, but that doesn’t mean you know everything about sex. Ask your parents. You don’t necessarily have to tell them you’ve already heard some things about sex, you definitely need to ask them to share their thoughts and opinions with you, as well as the facts. Parents – if your kids ask about sex, answer their questions! You might be shocked at the ages that some kids are coming up with certain types of questions, but you won’t do any good by refusing to answer their questions. Your kids will still be curious, and they’ll end up getting their information elsewhere. Provide your kids with the truth and they’ll respect you for it.

Safer Sex

The only way teens and even adults are going to start having safer sex is if people get over their fears about sex and start talking about it. Talking about how to prevent sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancy is the only way to stop it from happening  – knowlege is power and in this day in age, no one has to be afraid to talk about sex anymore.

Q&A: I Want to Take My Girlfriend to a Swinger Club

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Swinging and threesomes – it seems as though it is everywhere and is the new “it” for sexual relationships. Is it? Should you incorporate swinging into your lifestyle? Would your partner enjoy going to a swinging club?

I just celebrated my 2nd anniversary with my girl and I was thinking of asking her to go to a swing club – what should I do?

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Evaluate Your Intentions

First of all, if you’re thinking about taking your partner to a swinging club, think about why you want to take her to a swinging club. Is this something she is interested in, or something you want her to be interested in? Is this something you want and just want her to go along with? Or have you and your partner talked about swinging in the past and both you and your partner showed interest in swinging? The reason you need to look carefully at why you want to swing is because swinging isn’t for everyone. In fact, only the strongest and most trusting relationships can survive swinging. You and your partner both must be completely non-jealous and confident in each other to be able to swing successfully.

Ask Yourself Questions

Sit down and ask yourself a few questions to better guage your partner’s possible response to being asked to a swinger’s club. Does your partner get jealous easily? Is she very possessive of you? If so, swinging may not be her style. Does she show interest in the same sex, or in threesomes or foursomes? Has she talked about swinging or having an open relationship in the past? If this is the case, you might want to talk to her about it. It’s important to think about how your partner will react to being asked to swing before you ask them. If you jump in without thinking ahead, you may offend your partner to the point of damaging the relationship. Sure, it may not be a big deal to you but swinging is that big of an issue to some women. Even suggesting it if she is not open minded may make her feel as though you don’t like her sexually or that you are interested in other women, both of which are not good things for a woman to think.

How To Approach It

Do not – and we repeat – DO NOT ask your girl to go to a swinger club if you haven’t talked about swinging or threesomes first. If swinging is something you would like to try or you think your partner might be interested in, approach the subject slowly. Watch some threesomes with your partner and ask her what she thinks of them. Take it slowly, but communicate with your partner about what she likes and where her interests are. If she respons well, suggest that she might enjoy going to a swinger club. Make it seem like her idea. If she is not open to the idea of swinging, definitely don’t push it. Leave it alone and learn to enjoy sex with your partner in a variety of different ways. Forcing the swinging issue with an unwilling partner isn’t worth it if you value the relationship at all.

Q&A: Can Masturbation Cause Weight Gain Or Stunted Growth?

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Masturbation myths are everywhere. Does masturbation cause blindness, weight gain or stunted growth? Will too much masturbation make your palms grow hairy or make your penis get bigger? Hearing all of these masturbation tall tales can definitely cause some confustion about masturbation in general, especially for boys just beginning to discover masturbation and their own sexuality. What is the truth when it comes to masturbation and myths?

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

Myth or fact – can masturbation cause weight gain or stunted growth?

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Is Masturbation Harmful?

In one word: No. Masturbation can actually be healthy for boys going through puberty as well as adult men. Almost every man masturbates, and most boys do too when they going through puberty. Masturbation relieves sexual frustration and can help you relax and improve your mood. Masturbation can be harmful if done too much, and in this case, “too much” is not subjective at all. If your penis becomes raw or begins to hurt, you’ll know you’re masturbating too much. Other than masturbation abuse, it is not harmful at all. It won’t cause blindness or make your palms go hairy, or even cause weight gain or stunt your growth. These are all myths that are associated with masturbation that simply don’t have any truth to them. .

Where Did The Masturbation Myths Come From?

Masturbation is often considered taboo, although less so now than it used to be. Several years ago, especially in religious societies, masturbation was considered “bad” or even “evil.” Masturbation was considered an abomination in some societies and in others, it was simply something men “didn’t do.” As a result, mothers wanted to keep their sons from learning that masturbation could be pleasurable and created myths that masturbation would cause all kinds of horrible things to happen to any boy that masturbated. Boys and men lived in fear that if they did masturbate, something bad would happen to them as a result. In addition to the fear of physical consequences of masturbation, with such noticeable conditions as sudden blindness or hairy palms, the entire town would know what they had been up to behind closed doors and they would then face social rejection as well. The only thing that masturbation myths are rooted in is fear.

Should I Talk To My Doctor About Masturbation?

Doctors know that pretty much every guy masturbates, so if you’re a healthy guy, you don’t need to talk to your doctor about your masturbation habits. You DO need to talk to your doctor if you find that you’re masturbating too much, or it is painful or your penis is becoming raw. These things are not symptoms you experience from normal, healthy masturbation. Also, if you are experiencing unexplained weight gain or growth issues, those ARE things you need to talk to your doctor about because they’re not from masturbation – they could be a symptom of another medical condition.

All in all, masturbation is a healthy, natural part of every man’s life. It is natural for people to want to satisfy themselves sexually when they’re first learning about masturbation and their sexuality, as well as later in life as a part of a healthy and happy sex life.