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7 Titillating Tips To Unleash The Sexual Desires In Her

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Even the best sex advice in the world doesn’t shine a candle to this amazing suggestions on how to get a “good girl” to shed her own inhibitions and become a wild, sexy and sex-obsessed woman in bed. This is something that probably every guy would love an answer to. The simple truth is that most women have this dual “good girl/bad girl” characteristic in them.

You see, a normal woman, even one who appears prim, proper and pristine, will experience moments in her life when she is more or less sexually expressive. The truth is that you hold the amazing power to quickly shift a woman’s feelings and emotions about her own sexuality and sexual ability. You can make her suddenly feel a sexual connection with you and become wild and sexually adventurous. The key lies in YOU achieving a balance with your own sexuality and sexual desires.

Don’t Be Afraid To Reveal Your Own Desires To Her

By the law of reciprocity, your willingness to open up to her holds the key to bring out the more adventurous and wild streak in her. For example, if she’s a little apprehensive, try revealing your own sexual fantasies first. Tease her out of her sexual shell and heighten her anticipation of what’s to come next.

When You Are Making Love To Her, Touch Her With Confidence

Increase her desire by exercising self-restraint. For instance, refrain from heading straight for her clitoris during sex. Instead, tease her playfully. Kiss her gently, allowing your tongue to work its magic on all her sensual spots, from her ears, to her neck, down her navel (skip her vagina) and traverse down her inner thighs to her toes.

Revel In Her Sexuality

Learning to genuinely appreciate her body is extremely powerful in getting her to totally relax and be ready for your advances. Most women feel insecure about their bodies and how they look, so compliment parts of her body and make her feel hot and sensuous about herself. Women respond very well to positive reinforcement. So let her know that you appreciate her body for all its splendor and how you enjoy the things that she does to you in bed.

Know What You Are Doing In Bed

Understand the facts about female sexuality and how to give her an orgasm. Sex is not just about using tricks, tips and techniques, although these are important aspects of sensational lovemaking. It is also equally important to pay attention how you can connect with her emotionally before and during sex.

Give Her The Right Kind Of Foreplay

Talking about foreplay, you should know that women need to be adequately aroused and stimulated from sufficient amounts of pre-intercourse stimulation before they are ready. Contrary to what most men believe, touching and caressing her private parts and engaging in oral sex are not really considered proper foreplay. These are really sexual acts on their own, and not the sexual prelude that woman generally needs. Foreplay should involve mental activities that will heighten her arousal (such as talking dirty) as well as physical acts that target her non-sexual erogenous areas (e.g. massaging her back).

Address Any Performance Issues Immediately

If there are issues that hamper your performance or ability in bed, address these as soon as possible. For instance, if you find yourself ejaculating prematurely during sex or if you have problems with erectile dysfunction, make sure you get the right help and deal with these without delay. There are many effective self-help programs that improves a man’s performance and their overall sexual confidence.

Never Force Yourself On Her

Don’t pressure her to have sex when she is not in the mood. You can still connect with her in a different manner – give her a sensuous massage or cuddle together in front of the fireplace, for instance. If you get her in the right frame of mind before sex, making her climax suddenly becomes ten times easier for you. A woman’s mind is her most powerful sex organ… it is THE focal point of her orgasm. If you can make her feel completely comfortable in your presence and make out with you with total abandon, giving her a powerful climax is in most cases, just a clitoral rub away!

Believe it or not, by simply demonstrating these characteristics, you will bring about powerful and lasting changes in the way your woman views her ability to indulge in wild, adventurous and wanton sex!

How To Have Amazing Sex – Tonight!

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The best sex advice is that sex doesn’t have to be boring – but it’s easy to get in a rut, especially when you’ve been in a relationship with someone for quite some time. But it doesn’t have to be blase – in fact, it can be completely and utterly amazing by doing just a few simple things to change up your routine a little. Check out these suggestions and start getting busy – right now!

Stop Waiting For The Right Time

Couples who have been together for awhile are no stranger to the quickie. However, when one or both partners start becoming disenchanted with sex, they may start waiting for the “perfect” time to have sex – you know, the moment when everything just clicks, you and your partner are both horny as hell and you’re both super into it.

While the “right time” may have happened more during the beginning of your relationship, it’s natural for this to taper off as day to day life gets in the way. Who’s going to be horny and want it at 9:00 at night after working all day, cooking dinner and doing homework and baths for the kids?

Instead of waiting for the “right time” to do it with your partner, just do it. Commit to sex one night, even if you’re both tired or you’d both rather be watching a movie or sleeping. You may even need to schedule it like you would schedule a date. By doing this, you’re actually giving yourself the opportunity for sex that is great because chances are, you and your partner will both get into it after things get started. If you just wait for it to happen the right way, you’ll never get busy.

Set Up A Date For Sex – During “That” Time Of The Month

Actually, not the time of the month you’re probably thinking about. Studies show that women are most receptive to sex during their ovulation time – about fourteen days after the first day of a woman’s period. During this time, women feel super sexy and confident, and may start masturbating more or making advances on their partner. In fact, studies also show that women double their chances of having an orgasm when they’re ovulating as well.

Set up a date for sex during your ovulation period. Plan for a babysitter, buy some candles and head out for a romantic dinner. Do whatever you need to do to make that night special. Planning for time in between the sheets with your partner when you’re at your sexual peak means that you’re pretty much guaranteed an incredible night with sex that is out of this world.

Just remember that you’re also more fertile during your ovulation period – so use condoms or birth control if you’re not planning to get pregnant.

Get Emotionally Close To Your Partner

One reason that couples who are in a relationship stop having great sex together because they’re arguing often, or they feel like they’re just not that emotionally close with their lover anymore. If a woman doesn’t feel emotionally and spiritually connected to her partner, she’s not going to be able to let go of her inhibitions and enjoy sex.

Plan a date where you and your partner can get away from it all and just reconnect. This doesn’t mean going to the movies or sitting in a loud, crowded bar. Plan a date that allows you and your lover to really talk – like going hiking together or having a picnic in the park. Heck, you can even have a picnic in your backyard. Ask each other the basic questions all over again (like what your favorite food or color is) because you’d be surprised at how even couples who have been together for years can forget the basic stuff that makes their lover who they are.

Get Kinky

Having plain, vanilla sex? Exchange it for trying a few new moves in the bedroom. Add a little kink by trying out some light bondage or blindfolding, or simply try a couple new sex positions next time you get busy. When couples start to know exactly what to expect during sex (because it’s been the same thing the last twenty times), it can get pretty boring.

Instead, try new things that are just a little outside of your box. You don’t have to get super crazy and try things that make you uncomfortable, but changing your routine up just a little bit can make all the difference in the world when it comes to having better sex. Tonight, try doing something just a little different like doing it on the couch or fingering her g-spot while you go down on her.

Top 10 Extreme Viewer Questions

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As sex gurus, we get asked tons of questions about sex, oral sex and everything in between. Some of the inquiries are pretty basic how-to stuff, like how to give a great blowjob or the best way to have anal sex. However, we do get a lot that are pretty interesting! Since sex pretty much comes in every flavor, you can imagine we’ve gotten some that lean more towards dark chocolate than vanilla. Here’s the ten most extreme things we’ve been asked by our audience.

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10. I’m Attracted To Girls – How Can I Share A Threesome With My Husband?

She’s attracted to girls – but she’s married? Can she share a threesome with her husband, or would it destroy their marriage? We weighed in on this one, and her fears are legitimate – she’s afraid she’ll never be able to live up to a threesome when she has sex with her man by herself. We recommended starting slow with talking about it first and then possibly moving on pictures or videos of women having sex together, then working their way up to a threesome. Our advice is that a threesome is never all or nothing. You can do as much or as little as you like!

9. Q&A: What Is Your Opinion On Fetishes And Bestiality?

We get asked what our opinion is on a lot of stuff when it comes to sex – but this is definitely the most interesting so far. There are lots of fetishes out there that many people might think are “weird” or strange, but don’t actually hurt anyone. Then, there are other fetishes that absolutely cross the line. Bestiality, for example, is one of those. We’ve always said that the golden rule is this: As long as whatever you’re doing involves only consenting adults (and animals definitely don’t fall into that category) and it doesn’t hurt anyone, you’re good to go.

8. What Are Crabs And How Do You Get Them? Dangerous Sex Toys?

This question came from a virgin girl who got crabs – but couldn’t figure out where she got them. She was sharing a vibrator with her sister, but her sister doesn’t have crabs either. What happened? Crabs can be transmitted a number of ways – through sex or even through the sharing of unwashed underwear. Regardless of where the crabs come from, it requires a trip to the doctor. Our recommendation here? To get individual sex toys – or at least clean them thoroughly with hot, soapy water or a special toy cleaner.

7. Is Cross Dressing A Turn Off To Women?

Like we said, everyone has their fetishes. This guy enjoys cross dressing, but he’s not sure if women will actually go for it or not. While the majority of women probably wouldn’t consider cross dressing a turn on, there are some out there who could really get into it. Our advice her was to look online – either at fetish or online dating websites – so he can find out up front whether a girl is interested in cross dressing or not.

6. MILF Fantasy – Should I Have Sex With My Ex’s Mom?

A guy with a MILF fantasy broke up with his ex girlfriend and had now has a clear window to her single, beautiful mother. He offers her a massage, she says yes – and thanks him with a passionate kiss. However, he may have missed the golden opportunity by not acting on the kiss right away. He wants to have sex with her, but can he get her back in the same mood or has she already had too much time to think about it? Our advice was to re-create the opportunity and see if she reacts the same. Unfortunately, this doesn’t always end well and he may have missed out on his chance for good.

5. Cuckold Fantasy: My Wife With Another Man – Why Do I Like It?

This guy wants to see his wife having sex with another man – but isn’t sure if his fantasy is too weird. We give this guy props – most guys would turn green with jealousy if they saw their wife even flirting with another man, let alone getting it on with him. He wants to see his wife enjoy herself and have a great orgasm, whether he’s the one giving it or not. Our advice on this one? We told this guy to relax and have fun.

4. Q&A: My Girlfriend Wants To Do Me With A Strap On

Lots of girls (and guys) want to bring sex toys into the bedroom, but this girl wants to do her guy with a strap on dildo! If he’s into it, that’s one thing – but he wasn’t, and the idea of anal sex (on him!) downright gave him the creeps. We recommended that he communicate with his partner and let her know that he just wasn’t feeling it. If she doesn’t respect him (it’s his body after all), he might need to move on to someone who does.

3. Help! My Husband Is Forcing Me To Make A Porn Video!

We’re all down for making amateur porn if both partners are interested, but this wasn’t the case here. This woman’s husband threatened to leave her if she didn’t let him film her having sex with other men. She’d done it before, but decided it just wasn’t for her. They constantly fought about it and he said that if she loved him, she would do it. On this one, the advice was really easy to give – it’s time for her to get out of there! If someone is trying to manipulate you into doing something you don’t want to do (especially when it comes to sex), you’re better off moving on. Period.

2. Desperate Housewife – Husband REFUSES Oral Sex!

Most guys love getting a blowjob – but this guy doesn’t. Problem is, she’d really like to give it! We suggested that she talk to her husband openly about how much she’d love to give him head. Communication really goes a long way with situations like this. However, if he just won’t buy into it, she may need to learn to accept his sexual preferences – especially if it’s his religion or moral beliefs that is involved in his decision making process.

1. My Husband Wants Me To Have Sex With A Donkey

There’s a few things that are just outside of our box and this is one of them. This woman’s husband wants her to have sex with a donkey – on film – and he’s threatening to leave her if she doesn’t comply. Not only is her husband manipulating her to try to get her to do something she doesn’t want to do, he’s also putting himself and her into possible legal trouble by participating in bestiality. This woman needs to get out and fast!

Penis Size – What About Vagina Size? Do Girls Have A Size Too?

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Sex is something every guy obsesses over – and the biggest obsession of all is how big their penis is. Guys know they’re not all the same down there, but is it the same for girls? Do women have a certain “vagina size” too? Are some women bigger down there than others? Here’s the lowdown on how what’s in a girl’s pants can be different from one woman to the next and how to handle it when it comes to having sex.

Question: My cousin masturbated with a toothbrush and she couldn’t get it all in – she only got 4 inches. It was like a wall was blocking it and when she pushed it. It didnt hurt but it wasnt pleasant either (this happened to me too). I’ve heard girls have a “size” too. Does this mean she’s extra small or is it that she’s a virgin?

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If She’s A Virgin

If a woman is a virgin and has never had sex before, and even if she’s never inserted anything into her vagina before at all (including tampons or sex toys), her vagina is definitely going to be smaller than if she had participated in intercourse. Most virgins have a flap of skin inside the vaginal canal called the hymen, which will break when enough force is put behind penetration. Sometimes the hymen can break unexpectedly for no reason, such as during activities like horseback riding.

When something penetrates the vaginal canal and pushes up against the hymen, the hymen will resist and make it more difficult to push the object in. This will most often cause discomfort and even pain in some cases. If the hymen is broken, it can also cause light to moderate bleeding.

Once The Hymen Is Broken, Are All Vaginas The Same Size?

Just like penis size differs from man to man, the vagina size (both outside and in) can differ greatly from girl to girl. Just like no two people are the same and everyone is different in their height, weight, hair color and body type, their genitals are going to be different as well.

The vagina lays flat when there is nothing in it, and expands when a penis or object (such as a vibrator) is inserted inside. Some women are designed to accommodate objects that are thicker in width, while other women’s bodies can stretch to accommodate an object that is longer. However, this can change as a woman gets used to thicker and thicker (or longer and longer) objects.

For example, a woman who has had sex with a man that has a very big penis will be able to tolerate a larger object such as a large dildo or other sex toy, while a woman that has only been penetrated with small objects would not be able to tolerate something very large. Just remember that once stretched, not always stretched – the vagina can go back to its original shape over time.

When A Woman Has A Baby

A prime example of vagina size changing is when a woman gives birth. A baby is very large in comparison to how large a vagina is, but the vaginal canal and opening is made to stretch to accommodate a baby when it is born naturally.

While the vagina may tear or be cut when a woman gives birth, it generally goes back to the way it was before the baby was born, in both width and length.

How Genetics Come Into Play

How high the cervix is up inside a woman’s body is entirely dependent on genetics. This refers to the length of the vaginal canal, because the cervix is where the vagina stops and the uterus begins. Just like some women are shorter and taller than one another, their vaginas can be shorter or longer depending on the genes they were born with.

Sex Before Marriage?

Many religions suggest waiting until marriage to have sex and while that can be the right choice for many individuals, it does prevent the couple from figuring out whether their sexual anatomy is compatible with one another. For example, a woman may find out on her honeymoon right after they get married that her husband’s penis is eight inches long and her vagina will only fit four or five inches.

If you and your partner don’t fit together physically, it makes it nearly impossible to have a satisfying sex life. If you and your partner decide to take your genitals out for a “test drive” to see if you are sexually compatible, remember to make safe sex your priority.

How To Tighten The Vagina

Many women desire to tighten their vaginal canals to give their partner (and themselves) more pleasure during sex. Many women want to reduce the gap between their partner’s penis size and their vagina, creating a tighter fit and more friction during intercourse. Exercises that help tighten these muscles – called the PC muscles – are called kegel exercises and are performed by squeezing your PC muscles as though you were stopping the flow of urine. Repeat the squeezing over and over to strengthen the muscles and make the vagina tighter.

How To Stretch The Vagina

Experiment with sex toys of different sizes, starting small and working your way up. This is especially true if you’re new to sex, have never experienced a large penis size or just have a very small vagina. You can work with your vaginal muscles to stretch them out and make it more comfortable for you to be penetrated by larger and larger objects.

Remember when using sex toys or even while having sex to always use lube, especially if you’re experimenting with an object that is larger than you’ve ever tried using before. Lube will make everything go much smoother!

7 Lovemaking Mistakes That Couples Make And How To Avoid Them

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Did you know that people who try to spice up their lovemaking, often make their experiences LESS fulfilling? It’s true. Over the years, I’ve seen couples make the same mistakes over and over again, when trying to improve their love lives, and I’d like to teach you how to overcome and avoid these problems.

Here are the 7 lovemaking mistakes. Are you making them?

Mistake #1: Feeling Scared Or Embarrassed About Trying New Things

Have you ever had an idea to spice up your lovemaking but were afraid of what your partner may think? Believe it or not, in 90% of cases, your partner would LOVE to try something new, too, but they’re just as uncomfortable or embarrassed about bringing it up as you are.

And you don’t need to introduce whips, chains or a third person. That’s nonsense! There are hundreds of ways to bring kink and variety to your passionate play that aren’t crude or dangerous and that your partner is sure to be comfortable with.

Mistake #2: Trying To Convince Your Partner To Have Sex

If your lover is tired or not in the mood for sex, trying to convince or persuade them to have sex almost NEVER works. On the other hand, when a person is sexually aroused, their body releases the chemical ‘adrenaline’ into the bloodstream. This chemical is what gives you the energy for lovemaking. So here’s how to arouse them the right way. Yes, even if they’re tired.

Ladies: Want to get him in the mood? Give him a blowjob or a handjob between 9 and­ 10 in the morning. This is when his testosterone levels are highest for the day. For better results, also wear something sexy or nothing at all. He’ll like that.

Lads: Deep passionate kisses are one of the biggest ‘turn-ons’ for women. Looking in her eyes and touching her face while kissing her can really increase arousal, too. And give some attention to her neck – ­­it will drive her wild. But don’t rush this! Spend quality time building up her arousal with your sensual kisses.

MISTAKE #3: Neglecting Foreplay To Enjoy Intercourse Sooner

People in a relationship (especially men) tend to neglect foreplay so they can begin to enjoy lovemaking sooner, but did you know that foreplay is actually said to intensify orgasms? That’s right. If you kiss, caress and touch longer, you can make your lovemaking even more satisfying.

So SLOW DOWN. Take your time. If you want to make it even better, tease your partner in a playful way. (This works like crazy.) If you find something that they really enjoy, stop doing it, move back, and then do it again later. The more you pull back and push forward, the more they’ll want it. And the more intense their experience will be. There are many games you can play to heighten this anticipation, too.

Mistake #4: Using Sex Toys Or Porn To Make Your Lovemaking Better

When sex hits a rough patch, many couples (men especially) think that a video, some plastic or vibrating thingy will instantly takes things through the roof. Wrong! While sex toys can certainly have their place in your lovemaking repertoire, relying on them can be extremely dangerous. These outside sources of pleasure can quickly make lovemaking even less fulfilling.

Why? Because you don’t want your partner to end up looking forward to their plastic toy for pleasure more than they look forward to pleasure with you, do you? Couples need to first fully discover how to please all their spouses’ body parts before introducing other elements. Use them as a spice, not the main course.

Mistake #5: Trying To Make A Woman Orgasm With Penetration Only

Men often feel “unmanly” if they can’t satisfy their woman from intercourse. But what they need to understand is that a large number of women can’t achieve orgasm through normal lovemaking.

Just knowing this takes the pressure off men completely. Now there’s no need to get upset when their women don’t reach orgasm. Instead, men should master the art of cunnilingus (going down on a woman).

Mistake #6: Trying To Orgasm At The Same Time

Simultaneous orgasms are quite overrated. Instead of aiming for one orgasm that you share together, focus completely on the woman’s needs first. Hold off from the positions you find most enjoyable and instead make love in ways that are most pleasurable for your lady, until she is completely satisfied. That way you have a much greater chance of both climaxing.

Mistake #7: Sticking To A “Set Routine”

You know the drill. You take your clothes off, insert part A into part B, and, within a few minutes, the routine is over. Sound familiar? No matter how fantastic lovemaking can be, there’s no denying it can get boring over the years. And the reason is because lovemaking in its basic act is always the same. But the danger is letting it get “too routine,” which can begin to affect your relationship.

The BEST WAY to protect your love life and precious connection with your partner is to have lots of new lovemaking ideas ready at your disposal. That’s the secret.

In fact, when you have an abundance of NEW tips and techniques ready, you’ll enjoy more hot, steamy and passionate lovemaking, discover newfound enthusiasm to make love and even do it  more often.