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How to Please A Woman in Bed – 3 Things Every Man Must Know

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Have you ever noticed how hard it is to please a woman in bed? Chatting up a woman and getting her to go home with you is a lot easier in comparison, if you really think about it, and we all know doing that is not a walk in the park. Sleeping with a woman and making sure she enjoys herself does not seem complicated at first, until you realize that just days after your hook up, she’s avoiding you and won’t go out with you anymore because she thinks you’re a lousy lover.

What does it take to make a woman feel great in bed? What does it take to make her think she will never find another lover like you forever? These are some of the questions that have been plaguing men since the beginning of time. However, what we don’t realize is that there are certain things that can be done to guarantee you’ll always be great in bed.

Read on to find out the three things you must know when you’re in bed with the girl of your dreams!

Go Down On Her

Believe me, you will come off as a “wimp” if you tell a girl that you’re not into cunnilingus. Women enjoy that, and moreover, they expect to get that whenever they’re in bed with a man. If you’re less than willing to go for it, you might as well never expect a girl to go down on you. Just like everything else, oral sex is a two-way street. If you can’t give it, don’t expect to receive it.

Foreplay

If you’ve ever thought of skipping foreplay to get to the main event quickly, you’re risking being tagged as a lousy lover from the very start. You see, for women, foreplay is a big factor in what makes a man great in bed.

Kissing and touching at the onset increase a woman’s anticipation, and fires up her imagination. If you get her to that point of frenzy just by doing effective foreplay, you won’t have to worry about increasing her excitement enough for her to climax.

Cuddling

Cuddling is important whether this is done before sex or afterwards. I’m sure you want to sleep right after (who doesn’t?), but you have to consider that the woman you’re with might want to do something else after her climax, such as talk, hug and kiss some more.

Take these three tips and use them to improve your sex life.

After talking to so many men about their sex life for years, I recognize the main factors why girls tend to think some men suck in bed. Most men will never learn how to be a sexual dynamo if they don’t consider what the woman is feeling before, during and after sex. The fact is, the most mind-blowing sex can only happen if the man puts a woman’s sexual needs first before his own.

Best Sex Positions For Losing Weight

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Having sex can make you feel great about your body. If the sex is with someone you care about, sex can become more than just another “fun” event. Sex can be a tool you can use to make your relationship stronger. However, did you know that sex could also make you thinner?

The physical exertion involved in having sex can amount to a significant amount of calories burned. I cannot think of a more enjoyable way to shed the pounds. If you’re looking for an excuse to have sex with your man tonight, tell him that sex is now a part of your daily workout routine. He’ll be glad to participate, and you can lose weight in the process.

Here are three of the best sex positions for losing weight.

Pushups In The 69 Position

Normally, you would hold your body steady and bob your head up and down while you’re in the 69 position. However, instead of doing it this way, you can change the way you perform a blowjob by moving your whole torso instead of just your head and neck. Think of it as doing half-push ups while having sex.

The Squat

This sex position is just a variation of the woman on top position. Instead of kneeling during penetration, you can plan your feet on both sides of his body and squat. Going up and down while in this position can be tiring, but you can be sure it will burn some calories.

Do several repetitions until you simply can’t go anymore, or until he has climaxed. This can be your cardio exercise for the day. You can also strengthen your leg muscles by doing this repeatedly.

Participative Missionary

The typical missionary position calls for more action on the guy’s part, but if you want to lose weight while having sex, you can try “participating” while in the Missionary position.

While he’s on top and you’re lying flat on your back, lift your torso up to kiss his lips or his neck. Hold this position for a while and then go back down. The trick is to not use your arms to lift your body off the bed. Instead, use your torso.

To effectively lose weight while having sex, try doing it on the floor or on your yoga mat. This is better than doing it on the bed because the mattress might be too soft for any exercise to be effective. You can also do some leg stretches while your man is on top of you and your legs are over his shoulders.

It is important to let your man know about your new exercise program so that he will not think it’s strange when you mutter rep counts under your breath or when you start stretching your legs and arms in weird angles.

How To Make Sex Over 40 GREAT! (Ladies Only)

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Sex tips specifically for women over forty can help older women have a super hot, satisfying orgasmic sex life! Sex tips for these women differ slightly than sex tips for younger women, because as the body ages, it is important to realize that sex can be different too. But that doesn’t mean you can’t have AWESOME sex! It could be better sex than you ever had!

Use Plenty Of Lubrication

A lot of couples assume that if they’re turned on, they don’t need additional lubrication during intercourse. Having plenty of lubrication, natural or otherwise, is essential for great sex for both younger couples and older ones, although, older women may find that they need a little more than they used to. This is not at all uncommon. In fact, every couple should have a bottle of good, water based lubricant in their nightstand drawer, because honestly, it just makes sex feel better!

When there’s less friction and more sensual gliding, things are going to feel better. This is especially true for older women, because as the body ages, the vagina can become drier and less supple. Using good quality lubricants like Pjur can help moisturize the tissues down there and make your genitals look and feel supple and young – not to mention, sex will feel better without the uncomfortable friction!

Have Lots Of Foreplay

When you’re younger, you can often jump right into sex without a lot of foreplay because sex is newer and more fun – it doesn’t take long for the body to get excited. But when you’ve been around the block a few times so to speak, just the idea of having sex isn’t enough to get a woman turned on. Women naturally require lots of foreplay before sex to get them aroused enough for sex to feel good, yet this is one of the sex tips that is most commonly ignored.

Don’t underestimate the power of foreplay and make sure that you engage in it as often as possible. Foreplay can start as soon as you wake up – lovingly caress your partner, tease them and whisper naughty things in their ear. You’ll both be thinking about sex all day and by the time you get home, it will be all you can do not to rip each other’s clothes off and get it on right then and there.

Invest In Good Quality Sex Toys

When you get older and more experienced with sex, you will naturally want to try new things and stretch your boundaries a little bit. Investing in some good quality sex toys can definitely spice up your sex life. Go shopping with your partner or alone and look for sex toys that you can use together as well as during masturbation. Let your partner get a masturbation sleeve to spice up his solo sessions, and get yourself a great little clitoral vibrator that you can use with him or on your own. When you’re over forty, you can afford to take some risks and experiment with new and fun sex toys!

Share Your Fantasies

If you’ve never shared your sexual fantasies with your lover, now may be the time. You’re getting older, so there’s really no point in keeping everything to yourself and never getting to live out your fantasies. This works well when you’ve been in a long term relationship with someone for quite awhile, because you tend to get more comfortable with someone as you age and continue to have a relationship with them.

So instead of being shy and keeping all of your sexual fantasies to yourself, take a little risk and start to tell your lover what really turns you on. Take turns sharing with each other what new things you’d like to try, or different ways you’d like to do things. If you’re comfortable and safe in your relationship, revealing your innermost desires can really be a lot of fun!

The Fantasy Box

Even if you’re older and wiser, sharing your deepest sexual fantasies with your partner can be a little nerve wracking. Try a Fantasy Box. The Fantasy Box concept is an excellent way to introduce new and different things in your sex life in a fun, new way. Each of you write a few different fantasies that you’d like to try and put them on slips of paper. Put them in a special box, a hat or whatever you can find and mix them up. Pull one out and have a blast acting out the fantasy! This way, you both get to try each other’s fantasies without judgement.

5 Tricks To Keep Married Sex Hot – REVEALED!

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Sex tips aren’t just for newbies – even couples who have been having sex together for years can use a handful of sex tips to keep the temperature in the bedroom from plummeting. Here are five suggestions that will keep sex with your spouse as great as it was in the beginning!

Lavish Your Partner With Oral Sex

When you and your lover first got together, oral sex was most likely on the menu more often than it wasn’t – this is probably due in part to the fact that you most likely engaged in oral sex before you actually did the dirty, and also because it was new. As you and your spouse have aged and have gotten more comfortable with each other, you likely don’t shave every day or make sure your nether regions are groomed and presentable for oral sex. Therefore, going down on each other has probably taken a bit of a backseat in your marriage.

Bring that back by lavishing your partner with oral sex. Take a shower with your partner first, and make shaving or washing part of foreplay. Getting your spouse fresh, clean and smelling good for cunnilingus or fellatio is a turn on for both you and your lover! Once they’re ready, sit them down and pitch your tent between their legs – yeah, you’re going to be camping out there for awhile. This is what is meant by lavish – lick every single nook and cranny, slowly as though you never want it to end. Be enthusiastic and never give your partner the idea that you’d rather be doing something else. It’s likely they’ll return the favor – and it will be mind blowing!

Go Super Slow (Make Sure The Kids Are In Bed)

Make sure the kids are in bed – or call a babysitter and head to a hotel for a night of long, drawn out sex. Married couples are often overwhelmed with daily life such as work, kids, bills and other day to day stresses that they’re lucky if they get to squeeze in a quickie here and there. If you want to heat your sex life back up though, you’re going to need to make time to enjoy your partner sexually.

On your night “off” so to speak, plan for a romantic evening with dinner, dessert, candles, romance – the whole nine yards. Once you get to foreplay and sex, don’t speed it up – keep going slow and don’t be in a rush to get to the finish line. Enjoy each and every moment like it was “new” – just like when you and your spouse were first together. So what if you’re not checking your phone for a few hours? It’s totally worth it.

Try New Sex Toys

This doesn’t necessarily mean introduce more vibrators or dildos into your sex life – because you probably have already had your fair share of those. You’ve done vaginal penetration, you’ve vibrated the clitoris – it’s time to find something really, really new to do! If you’ve never tried anal sex, buy a teeny-tiny butt plug or anal vibrator that allows you to experiment with anal sensations without committing to full on anal sex. Never tried bondage before? Grab an Under The Bed Restraint that slips under your bed (and is easily hidden when not in use). Let go of your inhibitions and explore things that turn you on that you’ve never tried before.

Try All Natural Sexual Enhancers

There are plenty of libido enhancers on the market and a lot of them don’t work worth a damn. However, there are some great products out there that will definitely heighten the sensations experienced during sex – and we’re not talking Viagra here. Sensitivity gels and creams work well, as do tingling and sensation intensifying lubes. One of the better sexual enhancers on the market these days are Penthouse Performance & Pleasure Shots – one for guys and one for gals. Like a little energy drink, you chug it and in about thirty minutes, everything feels amazing!

Find A New Sex Position Or Two

One mistake that married couples often make when trying to spice up their sex life is bringing in tons of new sex positions – and it’s difficult to get really good at one or two if you’re just trying as many as you can. Instead, pick one or two new sex positions that give you and your partner new sensations and work on mastering them. After a few tries, the sex position will still be “new” enough to bring the heat, but you’ll have practiced it enough to know exactly what to do to make it feel incredible.

21 Short & Sweet Sex Tips You CAN’T Miss!

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Sex tips come in all forms – lengthy, detailed and more. But THESE sex tips are easily digestible, so you don’t want to miss out on these sexy little jewels!

If You Have Trouble Reaching Orgasm

Masturbate before sex first, but don’t let yourself reach climax. Then, when you and your partner start getting it on, you’ll zoom to the peak in no time.

If You’ve Never Had An Orgasm

Masturbate. Enough said.

Use Your PC Muscles During Sex

Girls, squeeze his penis with your vaginal muscles as he’s thrusting. Do this one the “out” stroke and it will be easier on you, do this on the “in” stroke and you’ll feel super tight to him.

Don’t Neglect Your Nipples

Either have your partner pinch, lick and suck on them or do it yourself. This works especially well if you’re on the edge but just can’t seem to tip over.

Act Out Your Fantasies

There are lots of ways to act out your fantasies, even if you can’t go all out. Get a few inexpensive props and let your imagination run WILD!

Do The Opposite Of What You Usually Do

Most people start having sex slowly, and work up to a faster and faster pace. Mix things up by turning it around so you’re starting out super fast and slowing down as you get closer and closer to orgasm. This will drive you both absolutely crazy!

Talk Dirty

If you don’t already do this, start. It makes a huge difference in how hot and naughty your sex life feels.

Use Pillows

Invest in some really good, fluffy yet sturdy pillows. Use them to help you reach different angles during sex by propping various body parts up with pillows. Get creative with this!

Bring The Edibles To The Bedroom

You know, the sexy ones. Cherries, whipped cream, caramel, chocolate sauce…you get the idea! Have your lover for dessert!

Try Sixty-Nine

If you’ve never had simultaneous oral sex before, now is the time to try. Once you get going and get lost in the moment, it will be hard to tell who stops and starts where and who is doing what!

Show Your Partner What You Like

Are you shy? Get over it! Display your masturbatory habits to your partner so they can see what you like and re-enact it.

Forget Missionary

Sure, it’s great and all but work some other sex positions in there too. Girl on top helps a woman reach orgasm faster, while doggy style feels absolutely naughty.

Never Underestimate The Power Of The Wet T-Shirt

Don a white t-shirt and undies, and step in the shower. If you’d rather not get the house soaked, make sure he’s in the shower when you get in.

Engage In PDA

Not the romantic kind, unless it’s that kind of event. We’re talking about the nasty, naughty, get-a-room kind of PDA here.

Try On Lingerie Together

Visit a lingerie store and try on your favorites together. This is especially fun if you don’t have the money to buy anything but still want the experience of seeing each other in your sexiest skivvies. Bonus points if you actually end up getting it on in the dressing room.

Give Your Partner Only Oral Sex, All Night Long

Forget about yourself for a night, and give your lover hours and hours of oral sex. Make the night all about THEM. Can’t stand the torture? Masturbate yourself while you go down on them. They’ll love it!

Be A Show Off

Walk around the house naked. Do the dishes naked. Better yet, next time you lie down for your partner, spread your legs wide and let them get the best view imaginable. They will love the fact that you’re not even a tiny bit shy in front of them (but only them).

Look Mom, No Hands!

Give your partner oral sex with your hands held (or tied) behind your back. The feeling of only your mouth will drive them absolutely insane!

Sex Games

Sex games are severely underrated. Find a brand new sex game that you’ve never tried and do it TONIGHT!

Go Deep

The best sex positions for the deepest penetration vary from couple to couple based on both individuals’ body types. Experiment with different sex positions until you find the one that allows you to have the deepest possible penetration!

Don’t Be Afraid To Scream!

Unless you’re going to get kicked out of your place, don’t be afraid to let a guttural moan or scream out every now and then. The animalistic sound is incredible!