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How To Keep Her From Getting Bored With Sex

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Sex CAN get boring after awhile if you’re not working hard to introduce variety into your sex life. Here’s how to stop her from yawning when getting it on.

It’s Not Easy To Give Her The Big O

As you have probably noticed, making a woman orgasm is not as easy as they make it look on TV. The one spot that you’re sure will lead to climax is the size of an eraser, and it won’t get all worked up over just anything. You’re a man. You’re used to the penis which works like a rifle: load it, point it, shoot it.

A woman’s trigger is far more difficult than that. You have to find it, but you’ll never find it if you don’t prepare her first. Once you do find it, it’s inexplicably moving all over the place on you, and you get frustrated because all the blood you need to make your brain function correctly has rushed into your penis. How on earth are you supposed to please a woman if you can’t even figure out her body?

Keep Trying!

There is one technique that will help you through this: don’t give up! I’m not saying that every single time you must work until you make her orgasm. That can be irritating. However, if the both of you are consistently giving up on her orgasm, it’s red alert time, pal. The more she doesn’t reach climax, the more the idea of having sex with you becomes a chore.

She understands that sex is an important part of a relationship’s function, so she will do it even if she doesn’t get much out of it. Additionally, if she’s having sex with little pleasure, you may feel closer to her, but she will be frustrated with you. Perhaps the stereotype of the harpy wife isn’t so much to do with the fact that women are lunatics as it is that men grow lazy in the bedroom over time? How nice are you when you haven’t gotten off in months?

How To Get HER To Want It From YOU

Think about it this way: you know that working out is vital to your health. However, when you are out of shape, it’s all you can do to make yourself get to the gym. When you’re strong and fit, you like to work those muscles out, and you look forward to physical activity. It’s the same with sex.

If a woman’s clitoris is not getting a consistent work out, there is not much incentive to have sex. When she’s coming on a regular basis, then her clit can’t wait to be touched! If you give her the proper stimulation, she may actually be begging you for sex every once in a while!

Make Him BEG For You – With Only 1 Easy Technique!

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Sex is pretty simple for a fella – he puts it in and off he goes. Sure, men like foreplay too, but intercourse is where it’s at for the guys. Once he’s inside, he’s home free. But what if you could tease him SO bad that he begs you to wrap your legs around him? What if you could make him want you so much, that he feels like he’s going to explode? Here’s how!

Start By Giving Him A Great Blowjob

Men like foreplay. It’s not necessarily a requirement – because let’s face it, he will get off if you just skip straight to sex – but you can really turbo charge his desires by beginning with a blowjob. No, this isn’t a “finishing” blowjob. You don’t want to suck him off to the point of orgasm, because that will defeat the purpose. You’re going to use this as your warm up.

The pace you want to go at throughout this entire scenario is slow. Not painfully slow, but deliciously slow. You want to accentuate every single move you’re making, so you want to go slow, slow, slow. When giving him oral sex, start out by gently licking up and down his penis like a lollipop. This isn’t going to do much for him physically, but he’ll definitely enjoy the show, so make sure you make some eye contact here and make sure he’s in a position where he can watch.

As you get farther into the blowjob, you still don’t want to speed things up too much. Move your mouth up and down his penis, but do it very slowly. Let him feel your lips dragging up and down his penis, and over the veins and ridges of his erection. He will love it, and it will get him ready for what you’re going to do next!

Choose Your Sex Position

This maneuver is really going to work only in the missionary or woman on top sex positions. You may think this is a drawback, but it’s not – it’s about time you learned how to make boring old missionary or woman on top hotter than it ever has been before!

When your guy is nice and warmed up (and you should be too, if you enjoy giving oral sex at all – and if he’s made plenty of noises and gestures to let you know that he’s really into it) you’re going to slip into the sex position that you plan on using. If you want more control over your own orgasm, woman on top is an excellent choice. If you’ve already gotten yours, say if you fingered yourself or used a vibrator while you were going down on him, or if missionary really is your thing, then let him take his place on top of you.

The 1 Easy Trick To Get Him To BEG For Release!

Put the head of his penis into your vagina – but no further! Have sex with just the head of his penis. If you’re on top, this is easy to do. If he’s on top, you’re going to have to position your legs around his hips so you can use your leg muscles to stop him when he starts going in too far. What makes this so sexy is that you’re not “letting” him enter you fully!

Again, remember that your pace is slow. You want him to feel the warmth and the wetness with the head of his penis (which is the most sensitive part, mind you) but if you go too fast, some of the sensations may be lost since you’re not giving him sensation on the entire length of his penis. By going slow, you accentuate each movement, so letting only his head enter you is going feel amazing for him.

After just a few minutes of doing this, you want to either thrust yourself down onto his penis, or use your legs to pull him deeply into you, depending on what sex position you’re in. This is the ONLY part that isn’t slow – you want to get his shaft into your vagina fully in one quick movement. You should hear an audible “gasp” at this point, because he will be overwhelmed by the sensations!

Only allow a stroke or two before you pull him out and only let him use the head of his penis. Remember to go slow enough for him to feel everything! After a few times of allowing him to feel his entirety inside of you, he’s going to be begging for release! In fact, he may very well turn the “alpha male” on and just take you!

How To Introduce Cunnilingus Into Your Relationship

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Oral sex is something that almost every girl loves once she’s tried it, but a lot of women haven’t been brave enough to let their partners put their heads down there. Is your woman a cunnilingus virgin? Lucky you, it’s your sexual duty to initiate her in the erotic joys of cunnilingus!

This may come as a surprise to you but not all women come with full knowledge and acceptance of cunnilingus or ‘being eaten out’. From a woman’s point of view, oral sex is often a matter of trust, i.e., opening up her most ‘scared place’ for ‘close scrutiny’ to you. In fact, believe it or not, there are plenty of women out there who are more open to sexual intercourse than cunnilingus. They claim that the latter is a more ‘private affair’. I know, go figure.

If your partner is a oral sex virgin, don’t lose hope end assume she’s deadest against it. For all you know, she’s simply waiting for the right guy to show her the high sexual pleasure that it brings.

Discuss, Don’t Dictate

The wrong approach to take is to STATE that she ‘needs’ to experience cunnilingus. For one, you probably don’t even know why she’s not into being muff dived yet so don’t assume anything. Instead, communicate with her about it. Ask if she has any negative impressions or bad experiences regarding oral sex so that you’re better able to address whatever it is that’s eating her up (pun intended).

Also, showing that you’re willing to discuss and understand her shows your caring side, which in turn makes her trust you more, which in turn makes her more open to the thought of you going down on her.

Try, Don’t Force

As a cunnilingus virgin, it’s understandable that she may be a bit squeamish about the whole affair the first time. Don’t expect compete and wild abandon here. And don’t force her to feel great about it either by ramming your tongue deeper into her or propelling it like helicopter blades. You might hurt her, making her think oral sex is not pleasurable at all!

Also, don’t be offended by immediate reaction she has. For example, here’s a story from one of my clients, let’s just call him Jack.

So Jack was eating his lady out. Since she was new to cunnilingus, her emotions about all the new sexual feelings where everywhere. Her physical response to this was to bring her thighs tightly together – that’s right, squeezing Jack’s head between her legs! Anyway, Jack understood this so he GENTLY pried her legs apart and licked her clitoris more gently to make her relax.

Can you imagine if, feeling a bit of pain, Jack drastically pulled his head away? That would rudely abruptly her sexual pleasure and might even make her think he doesn’t like eating her out after all.

Explore, Don’t Just Apply

Although she may be a oral sex virgin, it doesn’t mean that techniques that worked for your previous partners will work on her. For one, some women, like it rough, others don’t. Some women like their g-spot massaged while being licked, others don’t. And so on.

So for her first time, just be gentle and go with the flow. Be attuned with her body and its reactions instead of trying to apply – what you think – is a great cunnilingus formula.

Encourage Trust, Not Misgivings

Again, since this is her first time with oral sex, it’s important to start gently so that you earn her trust. If you go down there like Rambo, and chances are she’s not ready for that at all, she will instinctively assume that she’ll experience some sort of pain or discomfort. As a result, she will not be completely open to the whole thing anymore.

Also, at the very least, she may not feel much sexual pleasure at all, enabling her to incorrectly assume that oral sex is no big deal.

Make It All About HER Pleasure

Try not to be the great Casanova as you go down on her or revel in the fact that you’re her sexual teacher, and she your helpless sex student who wants nothing more than to accept your moves.

Sometimes, men can get so full in their heads about how they’re such great lovers that the focus is all wrong. So this time, make it all about her. Her body, her reactions, her sexual pleasure. If she achieves an orgasm during cunnilingus, GREAT but it’s not your goal.

Your goal is to simply let her know how sexually enriching cunnilingus is and that it’s another way you can enrich your relationship – sexually and otherwise. Good luck!

6 Leg Shaking G-Spot Techniques That Will Make Her SQUIRT!

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G-spot orgasms can be earth shattering and make your girl soak the sheets – when done the right way. Learn five ways to give her a gushing orgasm TONIGHT!

Come Hither

If you’ve ever found the g-spot, it’s likely you found it with the “come hither” motion. This movement is an excellent way for a man to stimulate a woman’s g-spot either alone during fingering or during oral sex. It’s easy to do and can be done fast or slow.

How To Do It: Insert one or two fingers – preferably your index and/or middle fingers – into her vagina with your palm facing up. Move your fingers in a “come hither” motion, as though you were motioning for someone to come to you. The g-spot is about two inches in and on the upper wall of the vagina (the stomach side, not the butt side), so this technique is the most commonly used to find and stimulate the g-spot.

Tapping

Tapping the g-spot can provide faster stimulation than other techniques because it requires less movement of the hand and fingers, which enables the hand to be moved faster. If you have strong hand and finger muscles without arthritis and have some stamina, you can get a very fast pace going, almost like your fingers are “vibrating” against it.

How To Do It: If you want to “tap” the g-spot, you’ll want to slide your fingers into her vagina in the “come here” position. Instead of moving your fingers in the “come here” motion, you’re going to “tap” it instead. This will involve slight bending of your fingers, but not near as much as if you were going to do the complete come hither motion.

Circles

Circles are an excellent way to go slow and put firm pressure on the g-spot. Most girls can only tolerate firm pressure very slowly in the beginning, before she’s fully aroused.

How To Do It: You’re again going to insert your finger or fingers into your lover’s vagina with your palm up. Once you feel her swollen erogenous zone, you’ll be able to rub it slowly with the pads of your fingers in circles. Start out doing this lightly, and then progress to firmer pressure. Pay attention to your partner’s responses and body language to determine your speed and pressure.

Side To Side

Most of the time, the front and back of the g-spot get all the attention when a man uses the “come hither” motion when fingering her. If you want to pay attention to the sides of the area (and the sensitive, nerve packed sides of the vagina), you want to use the “side to side” technique.

How To Do It: With your hand in position and your palm up, simply move your fingers from side to side. You’ll be using your wrist mostly to control the motion, and the fingers stay only very slightly bent. This maneuver is easy to switch to if your hand or fingers get tired using any of the other maneuvers. This is a great technique to use during cunnilingus!

“The Hook”

“The Hook” technique is a variation of the “come hither” motion. This technique allows you to put very firm, concentrated pressure on her sweet spot.

How To Do It: With your hand in the “come hither” position, curl your fingers towards you. Instead of flexing your fingers back into the position where they are only slightly bent, you’re going to keep them curled forward. Then, you will flex your wrist, moving your entire hand in the “come hither” motion. This allows you to push harder and deeper into her g-spot.

Push Her G-Spot Towards Your Fingers

Sometimes, the g-spot is tucked away and is difficult to find and stimulate with just your fingers. You can push her g-spot towards your fingers so that you can stimulate it more firmly. This is where the squirting orgasms come in!

How To Do It: With Your fingers inside her vagina, put your other hand – palm down – on her lower stomach, just above her pubic bone. Press down as firmly as is comfortable for your partner. This pushes the g-spot towards the fingers.

A Note On Squirting

If a woman has never squirted before, it can take a few times to actually get her there. It requires a woman to fully let go and surrender to the sensations, and this can be difficult for some women mentally and physically because the firm pressure on the g-spot that is required for a woman to squirt actually makes her feel like she has to pee. Put a towel down, encourage your lover to relax and let her know that if she does soak the sheets, it’s going to be totally hot!

Tantric Sex Techniques To Make You Last Longer In Bed

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Tantric sex can teach men how to delay their orgasm and last longer in bed – here are 2 techniques to use during masturbation to help increase your stamina.

According to studies, around 75% of women do not reach an orgasm during intercourse. Why? For one, it’s because he or she does not know how to properly sexually stimulate her so she never really reaches sexual tension enough to come. Another reason is this: he comes too fast.

Frankly, clinical premature ejaculation is not the issue here. Women simply take longer than men to climax. Period. So how do we bridge this gap? Well, why not engage in exercises that will help you last longer in bed? This way, you’re giving her all the time she needs to get all revved up for a glorious climax.

Exercise One: Pressing The Prostate Point (PPP)

Okay, here’s a bit of a male anatomy lesson. Between your testicles and anus is something called the perineum. There’s a soft spot there through which you can apply pressure to your prostate. Now for most men, prostate stimulation reduces the likelihood of reaching orgasm involuntarily. This is because it washes out from the prostate gland the fluid that is necessary for ejaculation.

If you push hard enough on your prostate point right before orgasm, it actually blocks the emission phase (or ejaculation phase). This exercise prevents seminal fluid from entering the urethral canal when your orgasmic spasms start. Even if you have orgasmic contractions, the semen remains inside your body and is re-absorbed. This is also known as having a Dry Orgasm and no, nit’s not painful!

  1. Pleasure yourself till you begin to feel the tension that tells you you’re on your way to coming.
  2. Stop all motion, locate your prostate point, and press upward firmly for 10 to 30 seconds. You should feel the sexual tension you were just feeling begin to ebb away.
  3. Now pleasure yourself again. This time, go a bit pass the tension you felt in Step 1.
  4. Stop all motion, locate your prostate point, and press upward firmly for 10 to 30 seconds. You should feel the sexual tension you were just feeling begin to ebb away.
  5. Now pleasure yourself again. This time, go a bit pass the tension you felt in Step 3.
  6. Locate your prostate point, and press upward firmly for 10 to 30 seconds. However, this time, try to continue stroking yourself as you do this.
  7. 7. Continue doing this exercise till you master reaching higher sexual peaks and bringing yourself down again.

Exercise Two: Root Lock

Inside your body, at the base of your penis is the muscle called pubococcygeus. People fondly call it PC for short. This exercise teaches you to use your PC muscles to delay ejaculation.

To perform a Root Lock, hold your breath momentarily and push your pelvic muscles out like straining to empty your bowels. Some claim they prefer pushing ‘in’ rather than out but that’s all up to you really.

  1. Pleasure yourself till you begin to feel the tension that tells you you’re on your way to coming.
  2. Exhale all your breath and hold it, keep your eyes wide open looking upward, push your tongue on the roof of your mouth, tighten your fingers, hands, and feet, and push out on your rectum until your arousal ebbs away.
  3. Now pleasure yourself again. This time, go a bit pass the tension you felt in Step 1.
  4. Exhale all your breath and hold it, keep your eyes wide open looking upward, push your tongue on the roof of your mouth, tighten your fingers, hands, and feet, and push out on your rectum until your arousal ebbs away.
  5. Now pleasure yourself again. This time, go a bit pass the tension you felt in Step 3.
  6. Exhale all your breath and hold it, keep your eyes wide open looking upward, push your tongue on the roof of your mouth, tighten your fingers, hands, and feet, and push out on your rectum until your arousal ebbs away. But this time, contract your anal muscles inward and upward while pulling your stomach toward your spine. Which works better for you, in or out?
  7. Continue doing this exercise till you master reaching higher sexual peaks and bringing yourself down again.

By now, you should be realizing that tension in whatever way, shape of form, is your ‘enemy.’ So each time you make love to her, and you feel that you’re reaching a sexual peak that can easily lead you to orgasm, delay your orgasm and wait for her will you?