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The 3 Phases Of Oral Sex You MUST Know!

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Oral sex isn’t just going down there and getting your lick/suck on however you like. You can’t just head south and expect her to be able to have an orgasm just from you putting your mouth down there and moving it around for awhile. There’s some technique involved and if you REALLY want to rock her world and give her sheet soaking, earth shattering orgasms, you need to learn these three phases of oral sex TONIGHT!

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What Are The Three Phases Of Great Oral Sex?

While a man may think that he can just jump in and give a girl oral sex and get her off just by moving his mouth around down there, it’s just not true. Sure, girls love it, but there’s a certain way to do it if you really want to make it incredible for her. The best way to bring her to a knee weakening orgasm through oral sex is to move through the different phases of it:

Teasing

Teasing is very important to get a woman warmed up. Even though oral sex is considered foreplay, you need to lead up to it too with a little teasing before fully going down on her. Start slowly and softly. Instead of rushing in to lick her clitoris, start by slowly kissing the insides of her thighs. As you get closer and closer to her vagina, breathe softly on it. Brush your lips against her clitoris lightly enough to tickle her.

When she’s fully aroused and ready for you to get down to business, her clitoris is going to be erect. You may also notice her breathing get a little heavier or that she’s bucking her hips against you, begging for more stimulation. When you sense that she is ready, it’s time to move on to the next step.

Variety

The variety phase is an essential component to great oral sex, because women need variety. Even if you’re using a particular technique that she seems to like really well, it can get tiring after a little while and she may become desensitized to it. Doing different things and experimenting with different techniques is important to get her to climb closer and closer to orgasm.

As you try different things, watch her reactions to them. Gauge her body language to see what she really enjoys and responds best too, as well as other techniques that she seems to like okay, but they don’t really push her hot buttons. Here are some great examples of different moves to try to find out which ones she craves:

  • Thrust your tongue inside her vagina.
  • Use different tongue strokes on the clitoris.
  • Suck gently on her clitoris.
  • Insert your finger in her vagina while licking her clitoris.

Orgasm

When her breathing becomes even heavier and it feels like she’s about to lose control, she’s heading into the orgasm phase of oral sex. When you sense that she is getting close, presumably because you found an oral sex technique that she really responds to, the most important thing is to keep doing what you’re doing. This is not the time that you want to switch up and try a new technique to see if she likes it even better – you may actually ruin her orgasm if you do that. Whatever you find that she likes, that’s what you want to do as she goes through the orgasm phase.

You can start going a little faster and a little harder as she gets closer and closer to climax, so long as you continue to do the same thing. Communicate with her though, and make sure she’s liking what you’re doing. She may not want you to go faster or harder – she may like what you’re doing exactly the way you’re doing it. Encourage her to communicate with you and if you do something that she likes and she knows will make her orgasm, have her say, “Don’t stop!”

Ladies, it’s not up to your guy to read your mind. If you like what he’s doing, be sure and tell him not to do anything else! Or you may end up being disappointed if he misreads your signals and tries to use a different technique just as you’re about to climax.

Have Fun With It

One of the most important aspects of oral sex – for a girl or a guy – is enthusiasm. When you go down on someone and you’re not really into it, they can tell – immediately. So above all, have fun with it! Show your partner you enjoy it and you like pleasing them!

How To Be The Most Confident Lover She’s Ever Had

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Sex is something men love.  That’s hardly news. But what is the difference between getting it on and having the best intercourse ever? Use your brain. Yes, that is the answer. Your brain is the greatest powerful sex organ you have. Thinking about intercourse and understanding what you like is an important but commonly overlooked, step in being great at sex.

When Sex Is More Than Just Doin’ It

Men tend to react simply and physically to arousal: “I see a hot girl. I want to have sex with the hot girl.” Transforming that into mind blowing intercourse means getting to know yourself, and I don’t just mean manually. Understand who you are as a sexual being. These days, men are bombarded with sexual imagery. Porn is readily available. Half-naked girls are constantly bouncing across your TV screen and through the pages of magazines. As a result, men tend to take their sexual cues from outside sources. While new ideas are always welcome, it is important to explore the real reasons behind your arousals, and thrilling ways to satisfy them.

Expand Your Ideas About Sex

Let’s take the hot girl from before. You already know you want to get it on with her, but what is that going to look like? Ask yourself some questions:

  • How do you want to touch her?
  • How do you want her to touch you?
  • What are you hoping to achieve during your encounter (besides orgasm)?

What Turns You On?

Understand what turns you on and why, and learn how to communicate it. Being great at sex works in both your favors. For example, if you love performing oral sex, your partner has the benefit of being in bed with someone who is completely engrossed in the task at hand. She may reach orgasm several times before you’re done. However, if that is something you’re not into, your partner will sense it, and that is uncomfortable for everyone involved.

Getting to know yourself sexually is valuable in understanding your own comfort zone. The kinkiest of kink may be intriguing on screen, but that doesn’t mean it translates well into real life. Understanding your sexual boundaries and how to communicate them to your partner will help you avoid unsatisfying encounters.

The brain is a powerful organ. Your body only reacts the way the brain instructs. When you understand the satisfaction of the intercourse you’re having in your mind, you can bring it to the bedroom. You will be a more self assured with sex, allowing you to satisfy both yourself and your partner better than ever.

Top 10 Best Redneck Places To Have Sex

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Sex can be classy, or it can be downright dirty. Getting it on in the country, or just the way a “country gal” might, can be a lot of fun and may end up being really memorable! Want to know some truly “redneck” places to have sex? Here are ten you and your partner can have fun trying!

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In A Barn Loft Full Of Hay

While the hay might be coarse and itchy (heads up, bring a blanket), this can definitely be a romantic and sexy way to connect with your inner “redneck.” The smell of the hay will help you get in touch with your country side, and you and your lover can have fun bringing the term “rolling around in the hay” to life.

On The Fence In The Middle Of A Farm

One of the best things about being on a farm is that you’re really out in the middle of nowhere. There’s almost never anyone around, so you can have nearly complete privacy while still being out in the open and experiencing the thrill of “public sex.” Hop up on a picket fence and get busy! Make sure to avoid having sex on electric cattle fences – they’re pretty easy to spot, but if you do mistake an electric fence for a regular fence, your bum is going to be sorry!

Grab A Quickie At The County Fair

The county fair is a great place to grab a quickie. There are plenty of places to do it, and almost no one is paying attention – they’re too busy playing carnival games or people watching. Next time the fair is in town, find a secluded nook and get it on with your lover. Standing sex positions are probably your best bet here, there’s no telling what is on the ground – it could be anything from petting zoo waste to sticky popcorn and cotton candy.

On A Hunting Platform In A Tree

Find a much better use for a hunting platform and use it for sex instead of shooting wild animals. This can be super fun if you’re not afraid of heights – just be careful and make sure that the platform you’ve chosen is sturdy enough to support both yours and your partner’s weight combined. Don’t go at it too vigorously though – shaking the entire tree might not be in your best interest.

At A Public Laundromat

There are few things more raunchy than having sex in a public laundromat. If you happen to go when it’s either really early or really late (never on the weekends, laundromats are always super busy on Saturdays and Sundays), you will often find yourselves alone for quite some time. Take advantage of the privacy and bend over a commercial washer doggy style!

In A Car Lift At The Auto Shop

When your car is being worked on, sneak into the backseat and have sex while your car is lifted up in the air. The bonus? No one will be able to hear you and your lover getting it on over the noise of the machinery in the shop. The caveat? It’s going to be pretty tough sneaking in the backseat without anyone from the shop noticing you. Even if you manage to get up there without anyone being the wiser, you’re probably not going to be able to get out without someone seeing you.

On A Blanket In The Middle Of A Pasture

This one is actually very easy to do and you probably won’t get caught doing it. Find an empty pasture and bring a blanket – and a picnic if you like – and relax under the open air. Do this at sunrise, sunset or at night under the stars. It’s simple, fun and super romantic! Just be sure to avoid the cow paddies.

Under The Bleachers At A Monster Truck Rally

If the idea of monster trucks crushing each other and the sound of twisting metal turns you on (what redneck doesn’t like monster trucks?), grab two tickets to a monster truck rally and get busy under the bleachers. No one will be able to hear you over all the noise, so be as loud as you like!

In The Back Corner Of The Dollar Store

This may be difficult to do without getting caught, but it is possible. Next time you’re bargain hunting at the dollar store, sneak to a back corner or aisle that isn’t frequented by customers or staff. If you can’t manage to have sex, start a little foreplay like a handjob or deep kissing that can be continued at home.

On The Sofa At A Truck Stop Lounge

This is probably the raunchiest, most redneck spot of them all. If it’s late at night, it’s unlikely that anyone will notice or be bothered by you and your lover getting busy on the couch – just make sure to bring a blanket. You don’t know what – or who – else has been on that couch!

How A Woman’s Orgasm Works

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An orgasm isn’t something that men can easily give until they understand the basics of how a it comes about. You’ve probably heard this disconcerting fact before: 75% of women do not reach orgasm during intercourse. This doesn’t mean that 75% of women don’t climax at all, it means only 25% of them can climax while you’re pumping away and screaming baseball statistics into their ears.

This is a rectifiable situation, and it starts with you, buddy. Understanding the four stages of the orgasm, as laid out by sexperts Masters & Johnson, can help you put your significant other into that desired 25%, and make her like you better!

The Stages Of Orgasm

  • Excitement
  • Plateau
  • Orgasm
  • Refractory
  • Resolution

The Excitement Phase

So what happens when you are excited? Blood rushes to your penis, and it gets hard. It is similar for women. Blood rushes to her genitals causing her clitoris to swell and her vagina to increase in diameter and length. Her cervix and uterus are pulled up, and her body produces lubrication, i.e. she gets wet. While this doesn’t happen as quickly as it does to you, 5 minutes into Meet Joe Black she ought to be ready to go.

The Plateau Phase

The term plateau gives the impression that there is not a lot happening. On the contrary, there is a lot going on. Your heart rate and your breathing speed up. Blood is congested in your genitals, waiting to blow. This is the same for her. Listen to her breathing and feel her heart rate. If you don’t notice a change, go back to step one.

The Orgasm Phase

Now here is where men and women differ. Men have a Point of No Return (PNR). This is when there is no stopping a man. He is going to orgasm even if his mother walks into the room. Women do not have this. A woman can be a split second away from orgasm, and it may be interrupted. She must be stimulated all the way through her climax!

The Refractory Period

After this, there is the Refractory Period. That is the part where you’ve climaxed, you may still be hard, but you are definitely not climaxing again. Once again, women do not have a Refractory Period! They go back to the Plateau stage. This confuses men. To them, the orgasm is the end game. Once it’s achieved, the act is over. For women, they’re just getting started. Each proceeding orgasm is more intense than the previous. Given proper stimulation, a woman can reach an “orgasm cloud” where her multiple orgasms are so strong and so continuous, that they seemingly blend into one constant orgasm.

The Resolution Phase

After the Refractory Stage comes the Resolution. This is the part where you’re blissfully snoring before the condom even comes off. Since women don’t go through the Refractory Stage, Resolution begins once stimulation has ended. If you have satisfied her sexually, you have flooded her brain with endorphins, the happiness hormone. That means she will be happier with you, less likely to be angered by your dirty socks on the floor. Well, at least for a few hours anyway.

Q&A: MMF Threesome – How Can I Get Him To Try It?

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A threesome can be fun for everyone involved, but how do you get your man interested in swinging with another guy? Many men are down with swinging, but only if it’s a FFM threesome – not a MMF. However, if he gets to indulge in his fantasy of two women, shouldn’t you be able to indulge in your own fantasy with two men? How do you get your lover to be open minded about a MMF threesome?

Question: My husband and I are toying with the idea of having a FFM threesome, however I am more interested in meeting with another couple than with just another woman. But my husband can’t stand the idea of another man with me. I feel as though it isn’t a fair trade! How do I open my husband up to the idea of a foursome over a threesome? Or should we call the whole thing off?

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Communicate With Your Partner About Where The Boundaries Are

If you and your lover have some differing opinions about what is okay and what isn’t okay during a threesome, it’s essential that you talk to them about it before you actually engage in any type of play. You want to hash out where the boundaries are beforehand, so neither of you are left uncomfortable or hurt by anything that goes on. So where do you draw those boundaries?

Start with flirting and work your way up. It may seem awkward to try to imagine and talk about all the possible scenarios that you could end up in during a swinging situation, but it’s important to talk about each one of them separately. For example, you may be comfortable with kissing, but your partner may not be because it’s too intimate. They may want to reserve kissing just for the two of you. Talk about flirting, kissing, touching, oral sex and anything else that crosses your mind. You want to know going in what is okay and what isn’t. Draw the line at what you’re both okay with – if one of you isn’t comfortable with something, don’t push the issue.

Talk To Your Partner About The Way You Feel

Most people wouldn’t see it as fair for your lover to get to indulge in his fantasies but for you to be unable to indulge in yours. However, just because it’s obviously not fair doesn’t mean that you should discredit your partner’s feelings about the situation. Talk to your lover about how they feel and why they are uncomfortable with a MMF threesome. Ask them why and listen to their questions and concerns openly. Don’t be critical of your lover and remember that it doesn’t need to turn into a fight.

On the same token, your partner needs to listen to your concerns as well. Explain to them why you feel it’s unfair and suggest some possible solutions to the issue. Once you understand his point of view and he understands yours, you can start to find a compromise that works well for both of you. Is there another fantasy of yours that you’re dying to try that could be substituted for the MMF threesome? Or does he have another fantasy that he wants to act out that doesn’t involve being hypocritical?

If They’re Not Into It, Let It Go

Remember that your partner’s concerns are just as valid as your own, even if they seem unfair. If the thought of you with another man really makes him uncomfortable, even if he’s in the room and it’s consensual, then it’s not something you want to continue to harp on. If you try to talk him into it, he may do it – but begrudgingly and you’re in for more than you bargained for there.

If you and your lover have trouble finding a common ground, think about the possibility that swinging just isn’t right for your relationship. And that doesn’t mean that it’s not right for your relationship ever, but simply that it’s not right for your relationship right now. If you can’t come to a consensus where both you and your partner are happy with the results, put the issue to bed and come back to it at a later time.

There are tons of different things you can do besides a threesome to add spice and variety to your sex life. Try experimenting with a little bondage or roleplay, or read about new ways to give your partner an orgasm. Don’t get stuck thinking a threesome is the only thing that is going to make your sex life as hot as it used to be!