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How To Give A Signature Blowjob

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A blowjob can be run of the mill, or it can be amazing. Here’s how to make the blowjob you give one to remember by developing your own signature style.

I love to give head: but it’s amazing when you can drop to your knees to perform a blowjob on a guy and truly rock his world. And I don’t mean in the ‘hooray my girlfriend is giving me head’ way; I mean in a way that will have him screaming, “Wow! That was AMAZING!” Well good news, this is what we’re going for!

Now whilst giving head to girls is often seen as a bit more of an art form; sometimes we can be a bit lazy when going down on guys. You may think that they’re happy with the same old in-out motion: but try these tricks and you’ll have them begging for more.

So listen up ladies (or men), and I’ll tell you how you can make your guy squirm with some advanced added extras to a basic oral sex position.

Choosing The Right Oral Sex Position

Get your guy to lie on his back (preferably erect) and kneel between his legs. Kneeling is better than lying, as if you spread your knees wide apart on the bed, and lean down to give him head, he’ll get a great view of your back and pert ass. Perfect for giving him a taster of what’s coming later.

Tips For Developing Your Own Blowjob Style

  1. Make sure your hands are sufficiently lubricated with saliva (a lot of guys will like the sound of you spitting) or a good dose of lubricant. Silicone based lube is a particular favorite of mine, as it is deliciously viscous, and will make you sliding your hands up and down his shaft even easier.
  2. Begin to massage, using your lead hand, up and down his shaft using a firm grip (the more lubricated he is the harder you can hold) and then lean over to take his penis in your mouth.
  3. As you move up and down keep your mouth and lead hand at a rhythm. Try varying the pace: faster when you want to get him worked up to orgasm, mixed with slowing things down to help him keep going for longer.
  4. As you get warmed up you’ll be able to take him deeper and deeper. Make sure to keep your mouth open wide: lots of guys will like you to be able to take them to the entrance to your throat. With a little practice this maneuver will help you to practice deep throat.
  5. Now this is where most people would stop; instead go beyond the vanilla blow job and get bonus points for incorporating your other hand. As a first step you can use it to add extra pressure to the penis by holding one hand over the other.
  6. Once you’ve got your balance, begin to move your hands independently. One hand can continue the up-down motion, whilst the other holds the base of his penis in a tight grip. Alternatively, you can use it to pleasure yourself, and give him a seductive side show. There are few things sexier than him watching you getting off whilst giving him head.
  7. Feeling adventurous? Then insert the palm of your hand underneath his ball sack on the sensitive perineum (lots of lovely nerve endings there) and apply gently pressure by cupping the area of skin at the base of the penis. From here you can gently massage his balls with your hand… Yes at the same time as the other hand/ mouth perform fellatio!
  8. Feeling really naughty (as I usually am)? Then swap to giving him a double handed jerk-off whilst you lick his balls. Start at his anus (I told you this was rude) and work up to his balls; sliding your tongue up the shaft of his penis, eventually returning to your original position.
  9. Work out what really turns your guy on. Men have different preferences just like women. Get to know whether he enjoys saliva, sounds, licking (or even sniffing!) his balls and then combine his favorite moves to make him go wild.

Practice Makes Perfect

I’m not going to lie: putting these sexy twists on the classic blow job does require practice, determination and a good dose of enthusiasm for the job.

If you find giving a blowjob anything but thrilling, then getting him to thoroughly wash, shave and using flavoured lubricant will help to make your task more pleasurable. Personally, though I think there’s a lot of pleasure you can have knowing how much you can turn someone else on. Do this right and he’ll be so in awe of your multi-tasking womanly powers that he’ll claim it will feel like there are two women giving him oral sex at once, and not just one.

The result? A very happy man, and a whole lot of ‘I owe you’s!

Let Her Touch Your Most Sensitive Spot – And Win Her For Good

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The prostate is one of the most sensitive parts on a man. By letting your girl finger your prostate, she’ll blow your mind – and want to do it over and over!

How Adventurous Are You?

Most men would say “Adventure is my middle name” and “absolutely” with utmost confidence when it comes to sexual intercourse and experimenting with sex positions thanks to PORN and the Kama Sutra.

Women would and answer “it depends on my mood” to both questions. Get the hint? No? Are you retarded or something? Oh man! She needs motivation you dork!

Satisfying a woman entails a lot of time spent on initiating foreplay until her batteries are all charged up and her libido spiking up to the maximum level. I don’t mean just mediocre foreplay and hard slapping and pounding sexual intercourse after dude! It has to give her a very electrifying, explosive, intense and invigorating and masterfully orgasmic experience prior to getting your Jerky, Johnson, Willy, Junior or whatever you call your penis spit-fully satisfied inside her sweet, wet, warm vagina.

Men treat foreplay as just a waste of time and are oh so eager to just get it on. What most men don’t understand is that women who get enough foreplay can go the distance of attempting what only a handful of women would do for their man – and that is, to stimulate the male G-spot.

What Is The Male G-Spot?

“Eeewww!”, “You want me to do what???,”Yuck!”, ”That’s so disgusting! Are you gay?” – Typical reaction of women, who are deprived of enough foreplay, asked or, since we’re talking about sensitive and emotional women, I should say “requested” to stimulate the male G-spot.

For those of you who are clueless about what the hell I’m talking about, brace yourselves – get a cup of coffee, a cigarette, a bottle of beer or anything that could keep you glued to reading what I intend to reveal to the less fortunate ones.

Alright, the male G-spot is the prostate gland and not the head of your penis or your balls. It is located and can be stimulated from the anus. Yup! Don’t blame or question God for engineering it that way. There is a reason for its anatomical position. It is there because it is situated close to the so-called ejaculatory ducts. The term ejaculatory ducts are quite self-explanatory isn’t it? Get the logic?

Getting Her To Do It

This may be such a turn-off but if you give women the pampering and satisfaction she yearns and needs during foreplay, she will go the distance of allowing you to lay on your back with your legs spread apart like when a woman is about to give birth and best achieved when a pillow us under your hips aiding elevation and giving the appropriate angle. Applying pressure on the perineum or the surface of your anus would prep you up.

Stimulating the male G-spot or the prostate gland that resembles the shape of a chestnut requires gentle probing using the middle finger initially, to about 2 inches inside the anus. And the crowd went wild! Geez! Ever heard of a LUBRICANT you chicken? Your partner can make it even more interesting and exhilarating when coupled with fellatio while probing and applying different levels of pressure and intensity on your G-spot.

Trust this soon-to-be sex guru – after such an experience you would surely need to take a very cold shower to keep the conflagration under control because it is definitely illuminatingly hot when a woman does this to you in exchange for treating her like a queen during foreplay.

Auto Fellatio – Can Men Give Themselves A Blowjob?

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Auto fellatio may be something you’ve heard of – but then again, it’s fairly rare. Most often, auto fellatio crops up in fetish porn, but the term refers to the act of a man giving himself oral sex. Guys who are able to do this may enjoy giving themselves oral sex during masturbation. It seems impossible that a man can lick his own penis – but can guys really give a blowjob to THEMSELVES?

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What Is Auto Fellatio?

Auto fellatio is defined as the act of a man giving himself oral sex and licking his own penis as a form of masturbation. This may include manual masturbation or may just involve the mouth only. It may sound impossible for a man to do this, and the truth is, most guys can’t. However, if a man has a particularly large penis size or is very flexible, it is possible that it can be done.

Similarly, auto cunnilingus is where a woman bends forward and gives herself oral sex. However, it is much more difficult for a woman to give herself oral sex than it is for a man to give himself a blowjob. This is because women have a little farther to go to get their mouths in contact with their genitals. Although it is very rare to see either gender give themselves oral sex, it is far less common among women simply because it’s physically more difficult to do so.

Can Guys Really Stretch That Much?

The far majority of guys cannot stretch far enough down to actually get their mouth on the head of their penis. You have to be extremely flexible and fit to be able to do it! It is very difficult to actually stretch that much, and it is often painful or uncomfortable. It can cause muscles to pull and tear, because the body has to be in such an extreme position for auto fellatio to take place. Usually, guys who are able to perform auto fellatio have experience in gymnastics or have some type of gymnastics training. Another way this can be achieved is by having someone help push the body and head forward towards the penis.

The truth is, however, that even guys who are able to perform auto fellatio cannot go all the way down on their penises. Most of the time, the mouth can only reach the head of the penis or the top of the shaft. It is very rare for a man to be able to stretch enough to get his entire penis in his mouth. For this reason, it is common for men to masturbate  with their hand and stroke the shaft of their penis while performing auto fellatio. This is because they can only lick and suck the head of their penis, so they complement it with the movement of their hand on the shaft.

Can Auto Fellatio Be Learned?

While having a background in gymnastics or having exceptional flexibility is helpful when it comes to being able to perform oral sex on yourself, this activity can be learned. Even if you’ve never been very flexible before, you can learn to stretch your body into a position that makes it possible for you to connect your mouth with your genitals. It will definitely take time and patience to learn, and it’s not something that you’re going to be able to do overnight. You will need to practice stretching daily, going a little further each time.

You can also do this up against the wall for better stability. The wall allows you to lean your lower back against it and angle your penis closer to your mouth. Be aware that auto fellatio is not something that the body was naturally built to do – go slow and if you experience any pain, stop immediately! It’s easy to pull or tear muscles when stretching your body to such an extreme.

Is Ingesting Semen Harmful?

Many guys wonder what their own semen tastes like – and if ingesting it is harmful in any way. It’s not – in fact, women do it all the time! However, if the idea of tasting your own semen (or ejaculating in your own face) turns you off, auto fellatio is probably not something you want to try. It’s unlikely you’d be able to get out of the awkward position you put yourself in quickly enough to avoid ejaculating in your mouth or on your face. While the ability to “suck yourself off” sounds neat, it’s more of a novelty than anything else. You’re going to get much more pleasure from masturbation or a blowjob from your partner.

Low Sex Drive – How Can A Woman Get Her Libido Back?

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The libido changes in lots of ways throughout life, for both men and women. A low sex drive can mean a lot of things for a woman, especially after giving birth. Here’s how to figure out why she has a low libido and how to revv up your partner’s libido again after the baby is born.

Question: My question is, since my wife gave birth 18 months ago she is never in the mood, EVER. Now I work midnights and take care of the baby during the day to save on daycare costs. During that time at home, I cook, I clean, I do laundry and of course take care of the baby. I do this because I know her job is stressful and she works hard and the last thing she wants to do when she comes home is cook and clean. I thought all of that might help, but it didn’t. How can I help her get her get her libido back??? Thanks for the help!

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Why A Woman’s Libido Might Change

There are a million different reasons a girl might experience a change in your lover’s libido, whether it’s a decrease or an increase. Usually it boils down to hormones. Throughout a female’s life, the levels of hormones in the body, such as estrogen, differs greatly. She may have a rampant sex drive at a younger age, only to experience a drastic decrease in libido during the aging process and the levels of hormones in the body begin to change. This is especially true right after giving birth. The good majority of the time a female experiences a change in libido, a change in hormones is what is responsible.

Communication Is Key

Make sure that you actually have an open line of communication with your partner about what is going on in your relationship, especially when it comes to sex – or the lack of it. Your partner may have no clue how you feel about the situation if you’re not talking to her – so make sure you’re actually communicating about what is happening.

Physical Reasons A Female’s Sex Drive Can Decrease

If your partner just isn’t feeling good and isn’t feeling like having sex, it may be time to make an appointment with her doctor. There are several purely physical reasons that a girl might experience a decrease in libido, such as:

  • Changes in hormones
  • Having a baby, especially if it was a difficult birth
  • Significant weight gain
  • Taking certain medications, especially anti-depressants and anti-psychotics

Emotional Causes For A Reduced Libido

Aside from physical factors, there are also lots of emotional factors that you need to consider when trying to find the root of a female’s lack of libido.

  • Being tired or exhausted from work or taking care of kids
  • Lack of time together as a couple
  • Lack of emotional connection
  • Lack of confidence and feeling unattractive, especially after having a baby or gaining weight
  • Depression or anxiety

A Word On Postpartum Depression

Postpartum depression is a serious issue that can happen after a girl has a baby, but it can be difficult to spot, since it’s normal for women to feel a little down after giving birth – this is most commonly referred to as the “baby blues.” However, when it becomes serious, it can be dangerous to leave it untreated. If you suspect that your partner may have postpartum depression, don’t judge or criticize. Show your partner love and support, but make sure to see a doctor immediately. Serious postpartum depression can cause a woman to harm herself or the baby, which never ends well. Symptoms of postpartum depression can include:

  • Lower libido than before the baby
  • Loss of appetite
  • Insomnia
  • Intense irritability and anger
  • Overwhelming fatigue
  • Lack of joy in life
  • Feelings of shame, guilt or inadequacy
  • Severe mood swings
  • Difficulty bonding with the baby
  • Withdrawal from family and friends
  • Thoughts of harming herself or the baby

What You Can Do To Fire Up The Libido

If you’ve ruled out some of the more serious reasons that your partner might be experiencing a decrease in libido there are a few things you can do to try to get that spark back into your sex life.

Plan A Date Night

Often, after having a baby, everything becomes all about taking care of the baby. There’s very little time left for you and your partner to actually spend time together away from the baby and reconnect. You need to remember why you’re a couple in the first place! The baby will be just fine with a babysitter or grandma and grandpa while you and your partner go on a date. Stay in touch, but remember that you need to take some time for the two of you.

One of the most important aspects of planning a date night is that a girl doesn’t usually have the opportunity to dress up, do her hair, put on makeup and go somewhere when she’s a full time mother – especially if there’s a full time job involved. Giving your partner the opportunity to feel like a woman again can work wonders!

Romance Your Partner

You may just be missing that element of romance that used to exist in your relationship but doesn’t anymore. Most of a female’s arousal is actually mental, and for a girl to feel sexual, she must be completely relaxed. Draw a nice bubble bath and pour your partner a glass of wine (if the baby isn’t nursing). Give your partner a massage, or buy a gift certificate so she can go get one.

Focus Your Attention On Your Partner

Remember that for a woman to feel important to you and valued by you (which is necessary for a lady to want to be come sexual with you), she has to feel like you’re paying attention to her and value what she has to say. Talk to your partner one on one, with the television off. Ask questions about how she feels and what she thinks, and then actually listen to the answers!

When You Do Have Sex

When you and your partner actually do have sex, it’s very important that you focus on her pleasure – and make sure your lover has an orgasm too! Worship your lover’s body and make her feel sexy in the way you touch and look at her. Give your partner oral sex and let her have an orgasm first, and even more than once if you can!

If She’s Having Trouble Reaching Orgasm

Many women have trouble reaching orgasm, especially after having a baby. After giving birth, things may be a little sore, or may just feel a little different down there. Don’t be afraid to bring in some props like arousal gel or warming lube. Of course, lube is especially crucial for sex after having a baby, because you can really hurt the sensitive tissues down there if the vagina is dry – which is more likely after giving birth.

3 Ways Pocket Vibrators Will Blow Your Mind!

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Sex toys don’t have to be huge to get you off. Large sex toys often aren’t practical – they can be heavy and cumbersome to use, difficult to travel with and may use a lot of batteries or require plugging in to a wall outlet to operate. Often, better orgasms come in small packages! Here are three ways small vibrators will rock your world!

As a woman that likes to have things on demand (my favorite movies recorded, microwave meals in my fridge) I love to have a toy that is as instantly practical as it is tingly. Gyrating rabbits, and dildos that resemble the Incredible Hulk’s forearm, are all well and good for being stowed away at home; but are not the easiest of items to sneak away for a dirty weekend, or keep in your handbag.

Pocket-sized vibrators are the latest weapon in your arousal arsenal that will help you, and maybe a lucky male partner, enjoy naughty games on the go.

Hide It

As a ‘modern woman’ I reserve the right to masturbate at the office, the gym, or on my way to my boyfriend’s apartment; problem is all of those bright pink, spikey vibrators aren’t the easiest things to just ‘tuck away’ in the pocket of your handbag.

Pocket vibrators however, often come craftily disguised though as an unassuming article: there are the ‘butter fingers’ that look (ok, not that convincingly) like a candy bar; and then there are the ‘ lipstick vibe’s’. These small vibrators are sneakily shaped like a common place lipstick but conceal a naughty secret. Whether you’re more likely to have a candy bar or a lipstick in your handbag; there are pocket vibrators out there with enough stealth to make it through security at the airport; or your mother-in-law glaring into the contents of your carry on.

Play With It

Every girl should have a bullet!

These little devils are often only the size of the tip of your thumb but pack a punch. When inserted onto your clitoris they can vibrate so specifically that you’ll shudder more than with larger (and clumsier) vibrators.

Remote bullets are probably your best bet for fun and games with a deviant other half. Give your (lucky) boyfriend the remote control to adjust the speed and frequency of your vibrations; and then just pop the bullet into your panties. You can make this part of your normal foreplay routine; but I think it’s best to play some games instead.

If he wants to watch the football when you want some attention; get him to control your vibrations ‘remotely’ from the couch as you relax on your bed. Who knows he may even realize it would make great sense to join you during the commercial break!

In fact with a bullet you can forget ever having to have him cry ‘honey, dinner!!’ and get him to ‘buzz’ you instead.

Vary It

Bullets also come in a few other varieties. Some of them are not remotely controlled but instead there is a cable that connects the bullet to the remote; much like you might have seen with vibrating cock rings. Something about wires is distinctly ‘unsexy’. However, if you’re using a bullet during sex to stimulate your clitoris it does stop the two small parts becoming separated: let’s face it, it would be a tragedy that if in the heat of the moment you lost the remote to your favorite toy down the side of your bed!

Durex’s bullet variant is a slightly stranger design. The ‘play touch finger’ resembles those fake ‘witch fingers’ that you once cracked out as a kid over Halloween before you went trick or treating. Its design means that a soft rubber ‘finger’ slides over your own index finger, on the end of which is a bullet.

The bullets themselves are individually battery operated which means that they pack a punch. However, whatever genius worked out that Durex’s pocket vibrator design gave the most “Kapow” was severely let down by a designer who failed to realize that masturbating with a huge, synthetic finger puppet is just plain weird.

Boost It

The ‘play touch finger’ is also something I’d be too chronically embarrassed to pull out in front of a partner (though it feels so good I could probably overlook its ugliness when I’m alone… and blindfolded). So it misses out the best use of pocket vibrators; that they add spice to your sex life, without making your partner feel seconded to seven inches of silicone.

If you’re new into your relationship and don’t know how your other half feels about sex toys, these discreet little weapons will allow you to introduce some more buzz to the bedroom without referencing ‘Crocodile Dundee’, “You call that a vibrator? THIS is a vibrator!”

Pocket sized vibrators can be chucked casually into your over night bag and brought out at the crucial moment to ensure your orgasm. The clitoris is notoriously hard to stimulate during missionary (unless someone’s hand can be taken away from balance to be put down there). But the bullet is much smaller than your frenzied fingers and can slot comfortably between you and your partner as he penetrates you.

These ‘magic’ bullets are then well worth adding to, or beginning, your sex toy collection. In fact if you’re a woman who likes her orgasms clitoral, they’re invaluable.

And if you’re a forward thinking man who likes to please women, or want to know how to really tease a girl in a club, then they’re not only small enough to fit in a handbag: but can be slotted into a wallet too.