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What Is A Micropenis And Do I Have One?

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Penis size is something just about every guy worries about. In fact, most guys are obsessed with their penis size and worried that their genitals too small. Some men may be convinced that they have a micropenis – that is, a clinical condition where the genitals are much smaller than average. But what really makes a small penis a micropenis, and could you have one?

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What Is A Micropenis?

A micropenis is a term that is usually used to describe a very small, or abnormally small penis. The average length of an adult man’s genitals when erect is about 5-6” and a micropenis is any shaft that is less than about 2.8” when erect. So basically, a micropenis is a penile shaft that is significantly smaller than the smallest average size.

What Causes It To Be That Small?

There are a few things that cause this condition, including abnormal testicular development in the womb and testosterone and other hormone deficiencies. If you do have a micropenis, it’s likely that you’re not going to discover this until you’re an adult – all these measurements are for an adult male, because the genitals are normally much smaller in boys.

How To REALLY Measure Your Penis

If you want to find out if your small genitals actually fall into the “micropenis” category, you’ll want to measure it correctly. Remember that most guys who have smaller genitals still don’t fit into the category of having a micropenis – because their genitals are small, but not less than 3″ or so. Here’s the real way to measure your penis:

  • Get your shaft as erect as you can. Make sure you’re really turned on and you’ve maximized your penis size.
  • Have a rule or tape measure on hand.
  • Place one end of the measuring device at the very base of your shaft, up against your groin.
  • Stretch out the tape measure or lay the ruler on your shaft and note where the tip of your penis is. This is your penis length.

If you do have small genitals, or even a micropenis, remember that it’s not all about length when it comes to pleasing a woman sexually and giving her an orgasm. It’s really the width that comes into play during intercourse, so even if you have a short shaft, if it is still fairly thick, you’re good to go.

Can A Micropenis Be Enlarged?

If you have very small genitals, you’re probably going to want look into some type of penis enlargement therapy to help you get a bigger member. Don’t take matters into your own hands though, especially if you’re considering a treatment that is invasive or risky. Consult your doctor beforehand about your options.

He or she can let you know what is available out there to help you get a larger erection, from natural ways like using a penis pump or possibly through surgical intervention. Your doctor can inform you about the risks involved with any type of enlargement therapy and suggest alternatives if some options aren’t right for you.

Don’t try to enlarge your genitals on your own with creams, pills or penis pumps because you may end up doing more harm than good. While creams, pills and pumps may be part of your treatment plan, having your doctor’s okay first will give you the confidence to know that you’re being safe and smart so you don’t end up hurting yourself.

Common Treatments For A Micropenis

Testosterone Therapy

Usually, testosterone therapy is tried first since it is considered the safest and least invasive way to treat extremely small genitals. A man on testosterone therapy to increase his size may take hormone supplements or use hormone creams, and this type of medication can be prescribed to infants in rare cases where the problem is noticed at a much younger age.

Testosterone therapy can also be used during puberty to help increase size, before the window for actual, true penis growth closes.

Surgical Procedures

Surgical procedures to enlarge the genitals are very rarely used, because it’s a risky treatment option and the length of the shaft doesn’t increase that much. A man undergoing surgical lengthening of the penile shaft may only gain a few centimeters, or an inch or so at most.

Penile implants may be an option if you’re just going for raw length, but there are caveats to any surgical procedure you might be considering. Talk with your doctor (or several doctors) about the right options for you – before you have anyone come near your genitals with a scalpel!

Can You Have Sex With A Micropenis?

The better question here is can a man lead a fully satisfying sex life with a micropenis, and the answer is yes! Actual vaginal penetration and intercourse can be difficult, especially if the shaft is really short. However, there are lots of ways you can experience satisfying, fulfilling sex with your partner without vaginal intercourse:

  • Give and receive oral sex
  • Finger her and allow her to give you a handjob
  • Bring sex toys in the bedroom and use them on each other
  • Try different sex positions – you may not be able to have intercourse in the missionary position (especially if you or your partner are bigger around the middle), but you may be able to have intercourse just fine in the doggy style position. Experiment and have fun!

Learning To Accept Yourself

If you have a micropenis – or just very small genitals – it’s easy to be down on yourself or wonder if you’re ever going to meet a woman who wants to be with you – or who can be sexually satisfied by you. Don’t worry so much about what women may think. Learn to accept yourself and love yourself for who you are and how you were made. If you have self confidence – and know how to please a woman orally or with sex toys – she’s not going to care about your size.

How To Talk To A Woman About Sex – Without Freaking Her Out

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Guys need sex advice, especially when it comes to talking to a woman about doing the nasty. Sex is something you want, but you’re not exactly sure how to ask for it. You could be getting along great with a girl and bring up the topic of sex, only to end up scaring her off completely. Here’s how to have a conversation with a girl about sex, without sending her running.

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Bringing Up The Topic Of Sex Is Risky Business

If you’re nervous about bringing up the topic of sex to a woman – even if you’ve been seeing her for awhile – you have good reason to be. There are many women that will be offended by the discussion of sex, no matter how polite or discreet you are about it.

Every woman will react differently to the topic of sex and the same woman may react in different ways to the same topic, depending on her mood. When talking about sex with a woman, you’re liable to strike out at any moment – but approaching it the right way can make all the difference.

The Indirect Approach

Probably the easiest and most friendly way to bring up the topic of sex with a girl is indirectly. Start talking about sex in a way that doesn’t directly involve you or her. For example, you’re definitely going to get shot down if you start talking about what kind of sex positions she likes. However, if you bring up the topic in an indirect way, such as telling a funny story about sex positions gone wrong, she’s more likely to laugh with you and open up to the idea of talking about sex with you.

Make sure that when using the indirect approach, you keep everything about other people in other situations. Don’t directly reference you or her, and definitely not you and her together. If you start talking about what “she” likes or what “you” want, you’re going to scare her off instantly.

Start Learning About Sex

For a girl to be comfortable talking about sex with you, you’ve got to be comfortable with the idea of sex yourself first. If a little dirty talk makes you blush or stutter, you’re not going to convince any girl to carry on a conversation with you like that. It can be difficult if you come from a conservative family, however, the more you learn about sex the more you will be able to talk about it smoothly and confidently. Read a sex advice column, or check out some online resources for sex tips and sex advice.

Pay Attention To Her Response

One thing that a lot of guys miss when having a conversation of this nature is reading a woman’s cues and knowing when it’s gone too far – and when to stop. There are many cues a woman will give you to let you know that now is not the right time to talk about this and she’s not into what you’re saying. If she’s exhibiting these signs during the conversation and you press the issue, you may end up turning her off for good.

  • Turning or looking away from you.
  • Acting embarrassed or blushing.
  • Stuttering her responses or acting nervous in general.
  • Short responses or refusal to answer any questions
  • Trying to change the topic

If She Engages You

If you’ve stayed confident and cool, made her laugh and created a little bit of playful sexual tension, she might end up engaging you in the conversation about sex and even contribute to it, taking things further. If she does engage in the conversation with you, you know that you can take it to the next level and start talking about things that have more to do with you and her. Signs that she’s into it are:

  • Making eye contact with you or looking at her lips
  • Laughing at your jokes
  • Joking with you, cracking jokes of her own
  • Touching you or accidentally brushing up against you
  • Standing close to you

Building Sexual Tension

If she seems responsive to talking about sex at first, it’s up to you to create sexual tension between you and her. This is what will ultimately lead to actually getting to have sex with her! The best sex advice to get a woman into bed is to always leave her guessing and keep a flirty element of mystery about you. When revealing information about yourself, don’t give away too much at once. Let her wonder a little bit and allow her imagination to go wild.

Being Sexually Confident

Girls are naturally attracted to sexually confident guys. They’re not attracted to wimpy looking guys that don’t look like they’re secure in themselves at all – so to even get her to want to talk to you, you’ve got to exude an air of self confidence and friendliness. However, you must remember that sexual confidence can go too far and suddenly become creepy and obsessive. Make sure that your sexual confidence doesn’t border on the strange side. You definitely don’t want to come across as just another horny guy looking to score – because this will turn her off immediately.

Relax And Have Fun

Remember that dating and talking to women is all about having fun and getting to know people. If you’re too uptight, worried or nervous about talking to women about sex, you’re not going to get very far. Relax, be yourself and focus on having a good time and making sure others have a good time as well. If you get your date laughing, talking and having fun, she’ll become more and more relaxed around you – giving you the opportunity to bring up the topic of sex without her shying away.

How To Give Multiple Orgasms Like A Porn Star

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Multiple orgasms are considered the “holy grail” of sex for women – if you can give her more than one, you’re golden. Porn stars are often looked at as “sex gurus” – and in a way, they are. They do it A LOT more than the average person. Adult films are known for featuring some of the hottest women on earth, but they aren’t just about showcasing women who look good on camera.

The people who are able to make a career in the adult industry are all known being abso-freaking-lutely AMAZING in bed. The top porn stars in the world are better at giving their partners incredibly intense orgasms than just about anybody out there.

Can You Have A Porn Star Sex Life?

Now, just because you might never be receiving an award at the AVN, doesn’t mean you can’t have the sex life of a porn star. Here are several very powerful ways to give your partner multiple orgasms BEFORE you penetrate her, using only your fingers.

So how do you give your partner incredible, body-shaking orgasms with nothing but your fingers? Simple, just keep reading, and take notes.

Women can have many kinds of orgasms, but today we are going to focus on two kinds: Clitoral, and G-spot orgasms. First, you are going to learn how to make her cum by each one individually, and then I’m going to show you how to combine them for something so explosive, she very well may pop your ear drums from screaming so loudly.

Clitoral Orgasms

Doctors and other sex education experts have all agreed that a woman’s clitoris was designed solely for sexual pleasure. So being able to stimulate it properly is a great way to make her shake and moan for more.

In order to locate her clitoris, take your middle finger and starting at the opening of her vagina, slowly work your way up a bit, until you feel something that feels like a tiny knot. This, my friend is her clit, and all of the thousands of amazing nerve endings in it will thank you for finding it.

Now, start to slowly make small circles with your finger on her clit (either clock-wise or counter clock-wise, it’s up to you). Once you have a nice comfortable and even pace, you’ll very quickly notice her body shaking and her breathing pattern changing. Keep doing EXACTLY what you are doing. Too many men change up their technique, and this absolutely ruins the experience for women.

You should also keep in mind that the lighter you touch her clitoris, the better. Since she is so sensitive there, touching her any harder then you would touch your laptops track pad, could very easily hurt her and ruin the experience. Just this one simple technique alone can give just about any woman multiple orgasms, very quickly.

G-Spot Orgasms

First of all, the G-spot isn’t actually a “spot,” it’s actually an entire area located approximately 2 inches inside the vagina on the upper vaginal wall (on her stomach side, instead of the anus side).

So while your partner is lying on her back, insert your middle finger in to her vagina, with your palm facing upwards. Stroke your finger along her upper vaginal wall until you find something that feels like a ribbed surface, similar to the inside of your mouth, right behind your top row of front teeth.

Congratulations, you’ve now done something that most men will never do. You’ve found the G-spot! And now that you know where it is, it’s time to learn how to simulate it properly.

With her laying on her back, and you kneeling in front of her, with your middle and ring or pointer fingers touching her G-spot, you are going to want to use a “come over here” motion.

One thing you need to watch out for is the amount of pressure you use when fingering your partner. Most men are very strong, and don’t realize just how much they are using. Remember to be gentle when you are stimulating a woman’s G-spot, because it’s hard for us to enjoy what you’re doing, if is uncomfortable.

How To Tell If She’s Digging It

Okay, so how do you know that you’re woman is really enjoying it? Well asides from the moaning, screaming, body shaking, and her digging her mails in to you; you should pay close attention to her breathing patterns.

If her breathing seems a little erratic, and almost as if she’s panting, then that’s a great clue that you are doing a good job; but you can do even better.

The Ultimate Fingering Orgasm

If you can perfect those two techniques, you will be able to do what 95% of men cannot do – give her a blended orgasm.

If you think about it, combining both techniques should be pretty straightforward right? While your partner is lying on her back, you would use your dominant hand to stimulate her G-spot while simultaneously using your other hand to make those tiny circles on her clitoris.

Well, like most of life’s greatest pleasures, this is a bit trickier then you would think.

Since you are using both of your hands to perform different tasks, the brain has a very difficult time processing both things at the same time. If you have ever tried to play the drums, you should know exactly what I’m talking about.

Practice Makes Perfect

The only way to get this technique down perfectly is to practice, practice, practice. I highly recommend waiting until you are alone in your house to do this. Start by using a pillow as if it was a woman. Lay it down flat on either your bed or couch and imagine that it is your partner’s body.

Start with the clitoris technique for a few minutes, and then switch to the G-spot one. Once you feel comfortable enough, try to do them both at the same time. Most people will find this very frustration at first, but don’t worry. Star very slowly, and then gradually speed up a little.

If you practice this for 10-15 minutes a day, you should have no time mastering it within a couple of days (a week at the most). And then think about how amazing of a feeling it will be to know that you are one of the few people alive with the ability to give virtually any woman you want simultaneous multiple orgasms BEFORE penetration?

How To Talk A Woman Into Bed

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Sex isn’t something you can just jump right into – most of the time, anyway. Girls need a little warm up time before getting in the mood, and they don’t get turned on the same way guys do, just by looking at someone of the opposite sex naked. Girls respond better to sensual, seductive language. Here’s what you can say before sex to get her hot – and ready to jump in bed with you!

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Girls Love Words

Remembering the fundamental difference between men and women is probably going to be your key to success in getting a woman to have sex with you. Men are essentially visual creatures and respond well to visual stimuli such as porn, but girls on the other hand, enjoy words more, such as sexy stories and erotic novels. This is why you will see a woman not really care about a porn, but get completely horny after reading a sensual novel.

Be Aware Of Her Insecurities

Guys love to compliment girls and girls love to be complimented – however, if you’re complimenting the parts of her body that she’s insecure about, it’s going to turn her off. For example, you may think her belly is so cute or hot and she may think her belly is her most flawed body part. Women don’t look at themselves the same way men do – as just being hot from head to toe. A woman will stand in front of a mirror and pick out her “flaws,” even when she looks great.

When talking to her and telling her how amazing she looks, find out what she likes best about herself. It may not even be something sexual – she may think her feet are really cute (especially if she gets pedicures often) or she may love her hair. It doesn’t matter what it is – if you find a way to compliment what she loves about herself, it will get her turned on more than anything else you can say.

Compliment Her With Emotion

When you do find something to compliment or talk about, it’s important that you do it with emotion and sensual words. Telling her that her hair looks “great” or her legs are “hot” isn’t going to get you anywhere with a woman. Instead, make sure that the words you choose to use are full of emotion. Tell her that her legs look “amazing” or “incredible.” Touch her hair and talk about how “soft” and “silky” it is and how you love the feel of it on your skin.

Remember that giving empty sounding compliments can actually do more damage than good. If you and your partner have used the “L” word to tell each other how you feel, don’t be afraid to use it now. Tell your partner how much you love her and care deeply for her – this will get her emotions on fire!

Use Descriptive Language

Because women are such verbal creatures, choosing descriptive language is extremely important. Telling your lover how “horny” you are or saying that she looks “hot” isn’t going to cut it if you’re trying to get her in bed. Instead, try these easy to use, descriptive words next time your talking to a woman:

  • “Soft” as in: “Your skin is so soft and smooth.”
  • “Silky” as in: “Your silky pajamas make my skin tingle.”
  • “Hard” as in: “It has been so hard waiting for you all day.”
  • “Ravish” as in: “I can’t wait to ravish your body.”
  • “Luscious” as in: “Your lips are so luscious, can I kiss them?”
  • “Intoxicate” as in: “The sultry sound of your voice is completely intoxicating.”

Make Sure Your Body Language And Facial Expressions Match Your Emotions

Once you’ve gotten the language down pat, you want to make sure that your body language and your facial expressions not only match your emotions, but also match the descriptive words you’re using. If you’re telling her how luscious her lips are, lick your lips and look deeply into her eyes, switching your gaze from her eyes to her lips until you move in for the kiss.

You don’t want to tell her how soft and silky her hair is if you’re not going to run your fingers through it and pull her in for a deep, sensual kiss. You don’t want to tell her how difficult it was waiting for her all day if you’re not actually showing her how you feel through your facial expressions and your body language. Make sure that you’re not only communicating with your verbal language, but you’re also communicating through your actions and facial expressions as well.

How To Get Your Man In The Mood – TONIGHT!

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These sex tips to turn the heat up with your lover are almost GUARANTEED to work! Even though men are usually up for having sex, sometimes you need to put in a little effort to get your partner to start thinking about slipping in between the sheets with you. Apart from telling him up front that you want to get it on, try these super steamy sex tips tonight and have him begging for more!

Cook With Cloves

Cloves have long been known to be an aphrodisiac for both men and women, but they get a lot less press than other aphrodisiacs such as oysters or ginseng and ginkgo biloba. One woman who ate a clove soup with her man ended up having sex with her man all night – and it happened again the next time she made the soup! Cooking with cloves can definitely revv up your lover’s libido and have him craving sex – and it will work for you too! Next time you make dinner, find a recipe that has cloves in it, such as a ham baked with cloves or a clove flavored Bundt cake.

Be A “Damsel In Distress”

Men love to rescue women – it’s hard wired into their DNA to do it. Does this mean you have to completely give up your female independence to make him feel like the Alpha male though? Of course not. However, playing a “damsel in distress” every now in then will be all you need to get your partner wanting to lift your skirt up and bend you over.

Next time you want to get it on with your lover, have him come over and fix something for you or lift something really, really heavy that you just can’t manage to lift by yourself. Whatever you ask him to do, make sure it’s something really manly that you couldn’t possibly do on your own. Bonus points if he comes over to do his job and you’re wearing skimpy lingerie. He’ll definitely get the idea then!

Play A Little Hard To Get

Men also love the chase – it’s part of the reason they really don’t like clingy women. Men want to be with a woman who is confident enough not to NEED him too much or smother him with affection. Use this tactic to your advantage by playing a little hard to get. Flirting is probably the best way to do this. Flirt with your partner unabashedly – tease him, banter with him and let him get a glimpse of your ass in a tight pair of jeans as you walk away. It won’t be long before he’s tearing your jeans off and initiating a night full of passion.

Dress Up

You don’t necessarily have to dress up to get your partner to start thinking about sex, but take some time to make sure you look good. Often, women get comfortable in relationships and don’t do their makeup as often or worry about what their wearing. Usually, this isn’t a problem because men love to see their women in a pair of pajama pants that make your butt look good.

However, sometimes women get too comfortable and a guy’s “sex mechanism” doesn’t get turned on or want to have sex as much – because you’re not looking sexy, you’re not feeling sexy. And he can pick up on that. So go get a pedicure, a manicure, a wax job and buy a new bra and panty set. Do your hair and makeup, even if you’re just hanging out around the house. If you’re confident and looking hot, he’ll want to jump your bones ASAP.

Make Out

Another thing that couples forget about when they’ve been in a relationship for awhile is how much fun just kissing can be! Remember when you first got together with your current partner and you spent hours just kissing without worrying about when you were going to have sex or even what you were going to do next? There’s really something about making out with your partner – without thinking about sex – that makes sex even hotter when you finally do head to the bedroom!

Next time you and your lover are hanging out on the couch and watching a movie, lean over and start kissing his neck softly. Move up to his lips and kiss him deeply. If he starts to move his hands to start taking off your clothes, stop him. Use your lips to show him that you just want to kiss – for now. After you’ve teased him enough with your lips, then you can let him take it further.