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How To Give Your Sex Life A Makeover Without Shattering Your Man’s Ego

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Sex isn’t something every guy is a natural at. In fact, a lot of guys are very awkward when it comes to pleasing a woman and some guys aren’t able to give their partners an orgasm at all, period. If your man sucks in the sack, you definitely want to give him a few sex tips to point him in the right direction – but how on earth do you do it without damaging your guy’s fragile ego? Here’s how to gently give your guy sex tips, while still making him think he’s the best.

Vocalize Your Pleasure

Even if he doesn’t get it right most of the time, there’s bound to be a few times that he hits the spot exactly the way you want it – and when he does, it’s important that you vocalize your pleasure and make a very big deal about it. You don’t necessarily have to make it into dirty talk – you can simply moan very loudly, gasp for air or yell “Yes!” – or all of the above. The point is, you want to make sure that he KNOWS that he’s done something right. Because once he figures out that he’s on the right track, he’s going to keep doing whatever it is that makes you scream and writhe with pleasure. So vocalizing what feels great to you is beneficial for you both.

Do To Him What You Want Him To Do To You

Sometimes, the best way to give your lover sex tips is to actually show him what you like – on him. If you want him to give you oral sex, try giving him a really great blowjob first. If you want him to touch you with his hands or finger you, show him what you want by giving him a handjob first! The idea here is to show him what you like by doing it to him first. He’ll probably pick up on it right away, but he may not. Keep giving him what you want and he’ll eventually get the idea. If he doesn’t, you can always wait until after you’ve given him a really amazing oral sex session and say, “I would love for you to try that on me.”

Guide His Hands – Or Mouth

If he’s going down on you and just isn’t hitting the right spot, don’t be afraid to gently guide him in the right direction. If he’s licking in the wrong place, gently use your hands to guide his head and mouth to just the right spot. Honestly, he’ll appreciate the pointers much more than he would appreciate his efforts being wasted because he wasn’t sure what you wanted – and you wouldn’t tell him.

If he’s using his hands, gently slide your hand down to your clitoris and show him with your hand how you want to be touched. This won’t upset him if you’re not cocky or condescending about it. You can also move his hand the way you want him to touch you – and after you let go, he’ll continue doing the same movements you showed him.

Leave A Magazine Or Internet Article Out For Him To See

If you find a particular juicy article with sex tips you think your man can use, leave it out inconspicuously for him to find. If it’s a print publication, leave the magazine in the bathroom, open to the page you want him to read. Leave it out as though you were simply reading it yourself and just forgot to put the magazine up. Next time he’s sitting in the bathroom, he’ll probably notice it – and read it. If it’s an Internet article, just leave your browser pulled up like you had forgotten to close it down. You can also minimize the browser and when he pulls up the Internet, the article will pop up “accidentally.” This is especially effective if you and your partner share a computer.

Tell Him – Nicely

If all else fails, you need to talk with your guy about how to make your sex life better – because if he’s getting off, you deserve to have an orgasm too (and an amazing one at that!) There’s absolutely no shame in talking to your guy about how to make sex better, but the way you bring it up is extremely important. If you start the conversation off saying “You need to do this,” or “You do this wrong,” it’s going to make him want to immediately stop listening to you. Don’t criticize your guy – because he’s probably trying very hard to please you sexually. Instead, tell him things you’d love to try, or say, “I love it when you do this, but I think this would be even better.”

8 Ways To Prevent UTI’s During Sex

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Sex can often cause urinary tract infections for both guys and girls. Urinary tract infections happen when bacteria or fungi get into the urethra and these infections can be uncomfortable or painful. When severe, UTI’s can cause extreme pain, bleeding and the inability to urinate. Here’s how to protect yourself -and your partner – from UTI’s during sex.

Drink Lots Of Water

Make sure you and your partner are drinking enough water every day. The body is about 70% water, so each person requires roughly eight or so glasses of water a day. A glass is about 8 oz. – so it’s safe to say that a lot of people don’t get enough water. Replacing drinking water with drinking soda, sweet tea or any other sugary or caffeinated drink can definitely contribute to a UTI.

Bathe Before And After Sex

This is probably one of the best things you can do to help prevent getting a UTI during sex. Both men and women naturally harbor bacteria all over the body, however, it’s not necessarily the kind of bacteria you want to introduce to your genitals during intercourse. Hot, sweaty sex (the good kind) can definitely create a breeding ground for bacteria and contribute to urinary tract infections. Simply make a shower before sex part of foreplay – and make sure you wash up afterwards as well.

Women: Be Careful What You Use Down There

Scented lotions, sprays and soaps can irritate the delicate tissues of the vagina, which can lead to an infection. Even products that are designed for use in, on or around the genitals – such as douches or feminine deodorant sprays – can irritate the vagina if there are any chemicals, soaps or perfumes in the products. Avoid douching, and stick to using only plain, unscented soap during showers or baths. You may also want to take showers instead of baths, as bacteria and fungus in the bathwater can easily travel up the urethra.

Wear Cotton Underwear

If you or your partner do not wear cotton panties, briefs or boxers, you may want to switch to wearing cotton only. Any time there is heat and moisture around the genitals, it can cause bacteria to breed. Cotton fabric allows moisture to evaporate through the fabric, while other fabrics (such as polyester or lingerie items) can trap moisture near the genitals.

Change Sex Positions

Sex positions where the penis rubs up against the urethra – such as missionary or girl on top sex positions – can also cause urinary tract infections. This is because the friction during sex actually pushes more bacteria up the urethra. Instead, try sex positions that don’t involve the urethra, such as doggy style or reverse cowgirl.

Urinate After Sex

Make sure that along with showering after sex (or having sex in the shower!) that you also urinate immediately after having sex. This will help flush out any bacterial or fungus that was pushed into the urethra during intercourse. While this isn’t going to completely prevent UTI’s from ever happening, it can certainly help reduce the occurrence of a UTI or at least make the UTI less intense and easier to treat if you do get one.

Pay Attention To Your Sensitivities To Condoms And Spermicides

Spermicide and condoms with lube or spermicides can also help contribute to urinary tract infections if you’re a fairly sensitive person. This can happen to both men and women, although, it is more common for women to get UTI’s from intercourse, condoms and spermicides. When you try a new product, make sure you aren’t using anything else new at the time. For example, don’t try out a new lube and a new condom at the same time.

This is because if you find that you have a sensitivity to the product, you’re not going to be able to tell which one it is. Introduce each new item alone and pay attention to your reaction to it. If you’re sensitive to it or get a UTI, try something else until you find something that works with your body chemistry. There are lots of lubes that are available for sensitive skin!

Increase Your Vitamin C Intake

Extra vitamin C will help adjust the pH in your bladder and urethra, making it difficult for bacteria to actually live there and cause an infection. You can do this by taking simple vitamin C supplements, or by drinking more vitamin C rich juices. If you do choose to go the juice route, make sure that you’re not drinking juices that are packed with sugar, as this can actually make UTI’s worse.

7 Ways You Can Increase Your Sex Drive NATURALLY!

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Sex doesn’t always stay hot, especially in a steady, long term relationship. But that doesn’t mean you have to get an Rx from your doctor just to be able to have regular sex with your partner. Medications like Viagra and even herbal remedies can leave you with unwanted side effects. Instead, boost your libido NATURALLY with these 7 tips.

Drink A Glass Of Wine

A huge reason for any decrease in sex drive for both men and women is stress. In fact, it could definitely be argued that stress is the number one cause for a lack in libido, whether sudden or gradual. A glass of wine or two before hitting the sheets with your partner will help you relax and forget some of the stresses of the day, which is an important part of getting your body and mind ready for sex – especially for women.

Wine also has healthy antioxidants in it that are essential for sexual function – however, it is important that you don’t overdo it on the wine. If you don’t like wine, grab a brew (beer has a few benefits of its own) but stay away from the hard liquor. Don’t have more than one or two drinks, or you may end up making your libido even lower and men who have had too much to drink tend to have problems getting or keeping an erection.

Quit Smoking (If You Smoke)

Smoking cigarettes can deeply affect your sex life, much more than you think it would. Both men and women can experience a reduction in libido due to smoking, most notably because nicotine is a vasoconstrictor – meaning that nicotine causes blood vessels all over the body to shrink. Since reaching orgasm is pretty dependent on blood flow to sexual organs for both guys and girls, smoking cigarettes can either make a person just not feel like having sex (because less blood is getting to the genitals) or have trouble getting to climax.

Smoking cigarettes can also lead to blockages in the arteries of the penis, leading to problems with erectile dysfunction. If you’re a woman who smokes, reaching orgasm can be near impossible, especially for those women who have smoked for many years. Also, women who smoke take longer to conceive when trying to get pregnant than non-smoking women. Do your sex life a favor and put your cigarette out.

Get A Professional Massage

Again, stress is a huge contributor to a decreased libido. Getting a professional massage – whether you’re a man or a woman – can boost your libido by allowing you to de-stress and relax. It also helps physically relax your muscles and even the simple act of being touched by another human being can be enough to re-awaken your body and your sex libido.

If you’d rather have a more erotic massage before having sex, you probably don’t want to book an appointment with a professional masseuse. Instead, light your favorite scented candle, put on some soft music and massage your partner (or have them massage you). Focus on relaxing their body and mind before you let your hands wander to the naughty areas and you get started with foreplay.

Boost Your Self-Esteem

If you have a low self esteem and don’t like the way you look, you’re definitely not going to want to get naked with your lover as often. If you’re really down on yourself (and you may not even realize it), think about what it is you don’t like about yourself. Are you overweight? Would you rather have a more toned stomach or tighter thighs and glutes? If that’s the case, go exercise! Exercise will not only help you get in shape and raise your self esteem, it will also pump powerful endorphins through your body that actually help contribute to sexual arousal all by themselves.

You can also boost your self esteem with simple things like a spray tan, a haircut, a new outfit or even a Brazilian wax. Think about what you could do personally to build your own self esteem, go do it! You’ll notice that you feel more confident afterwards and feeling great about yourself leads to great things in the bedroom!

Have A Heart To Heart With Your Partner

Women need to be emotionally and physically turned on to really want to have sex. If a woman isn’t feeling emotionally connected to her partner, she’s not going to want to have sex with him as often, if at all. If there are relationship issues at all, they definitely could be contributing not only to your partner not wanting to have sex with you, but you’ll also feel less like having sex if you’re fighting with your partner.

If you’re having relationship problems, sit down and have a heart to heart discussion with them. Go to couples counseling if you need to. Forgive things that you need to forgive and see your partner’s point of view. Do what it takes to work out your issues and when you do, you’ll notice a huge jump in how often you have sex – and how good it is!

Try Yoga

Yoga, like any exercise, will help promote  blood flow to your body – including those parts responsible for great sex and excellent orgasms – and increasing blood flow throughout your body will heighten your libido in a number of ways. You’ll feel better and have more energy for sex, you’ll feel more confident and sexy, you’ll be more flexible and can get in different sex positions, and overall you’ll feel better all over.

If yoga isn’t your thing, try Pilates or even simple stretching exercises. If you’re not an active person, just start walking. Walk to your mailbox and back, and make it a little farther each time you go. Committing to exercise will help you feel healthier and sexier, and will help improve your sex life more than you would think!

Check What Medications You’re On

There are lots of medications that can contribute to a low libido or even problems having an orgasm or getting and keeping an erection. However, it’s hard to tell which medications may be contributing to your sex problems and it can be especially difficult to narrow down the culprit if you’re taking more than a few medications – and this even includes herbs and supplements! If you’re concerned that a medication you’re taking might be contributing to a low libido or erectile dysfunction, make an appointment with your doctor. Never stop taking any medications without checking with your doctor first!

Some medications that cause sexual dysfunction aren’t going to be ones that you can come off of – like heart disease, mental health and diabetes medications. If this is the case, talk to your doctor about your alternatives. However, if you ARE able to get off one or more medications that are known to reduce sex drive, you’ll notice a jump in your libido!

Can A Man Restore His Foreskin After Circumcision?

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Circumcision is a commonly performed surgery in the U.S. on male babies. As more and more information becomes available about circumcision and its after effects, less and less parents are electing to have this done on their male children. However, there are hundreds of thousands of boys and men out there that have been and continue to be circumcised. What happens when a boy becomes a man and decides he wants his foreskin? Can he get it back?

Benefits Of Having An Intact Penis

You might wonder why a man would decide, after being circumcised his whole life, would decide he wanted to have an intact penis. While the U.S. has made a circumcised penis the “social norm” over the years, circumcision surgery is actually not commonly performed in other parts of the world. Studies have shown that the procedure is extremely painful for male babies and carries a high risk of infection when the wound is exposed to urine and feces in a diaper.

Sexually, there are many benefits of having an intact penis. For example, the penis is much like the clitoris in how the tissue is. The tissues of both the head of the penis and the clitoris are moist and packed with hundreds of thousands of sensitive nerve endings. In a clitoris, the hood of the clitoris protects it from chafing, which can be extremely uncomfortable because the tissue is so sensitive. The foreskin (also called the prepuce) functions much the same way. It protects the moist head of the penis (called the glans) from chafing and when an uncircumcised man has an erection, the glans is exposed and he can experience sexual pleasure and orgasm.

So what happens to the glans once the penis has been circumcised? The exposed tissue rubs up against a diaper or clothing, chafing it. The glans is designed to stay moist, but without the foreskin, the skin of the glans dries out and becomes tough like the outer surface of the skin on a person’s arms. The sensitive nerve endings become less sensitive, and in some cases, a man is unable to achieve climax because the head of the penis has lost so much sensitivity due to being exposed to air and clothing instead of being protected by the foreskin.

What Is Foreskin Restoration?

Foreskin restoration is the process of restoring the prepuce on a circumcised penis. This can be done a number of different ways and although none of them provide a man with his true foreskin back, they help provide a protective covering over the glans so the penis can regain its sensitivity. Successful restoration will also provide a man with a natural, uncut looking penis. If successful, it would be very hard to tell the difference between a penis that has never been circumcised and circumcised penis that had underwent foreskin restoration. Men who have had this done report that sex and oral sex feel better.

Non-Surgical Restoration Methods

Non-surgical restoration methods are more popular than surgical restoration, simply because it is less invasive (a huge plus) and there isn’t any chance of infection or malformations after surgery. However, the drawback of non-surgical methods is that it takes a very long time for the foreskin to actually be restored. This can take several months or even years depending on the method used.

Basically what happens here is a device or tape is used to stretch the skin on the shaft of the penis up and over the glans. The device or tape will hold the skin there, allowing it to stretch. There are actually some devices made for this, such as the Dual Tension Restorer, that are available on the market for men to purchase. The stretching is usually done for several hours at a time and it is a similar concept to surgeons who use skin stretching techniques to create more skin to use for a graft. Studies show that stretching the skin stimulates a process known as mitosis, which will help regenerate new skin with similar properties of the old skin.

If you wish to restore your foreskin using a non-surgical stretching method, patience and determination are required. This is something you will need to be dedicated to, since it may take several months or even years to see results. However, with non-surgical methods, you are able to continue having sex as you normally would.

Artificial Foreskins

Artificial foreskins are available for purchase as well, which are simply placed over the penis and help cover and protect the penis from chafing like a normal prepuce would. The most notable model is the SenSlip, which comes in a variety of sizes and natural looking colors. It is worn almost like a condom would be, and can be moved back and forth just like a normal foreskin. This keeps the glans moist and protected, while still allowing the wearer to retract the device to use the restroom or to clean the penis. Manufacturers of the device report that after several weeks of wearing the SenSlip, sensitivity during sex is restored.

Surgical Restoration Methods

Surgical prepuce restoration is not desirable, but has immediate results. Unfortunately, procedures to surgically restore the foreskin leave undesirable results and are extremely invasive. The procedures are usually followed by pain, swelling, inability to have sex for an undetermined period of time and a significant risk of infection.

Usually what happens during a surgical foreskin restoration is a skin graft is removed from somewhere on the body (usually from the scrotum) and stitched on to the shaft of the penis, covering the glans.

Foreskin Regeneration

Regenerating the prepuce is a possibility, but not something routinely done in the medical community. This would be done surgically, under anesthesia. An incision would be made at the scar of the circumcision and the scar tissue would be surgically removed. After this, a special chemical solution would be applied to stimulate the penis to regrow its own, true foreskin. Presently, this procedure has not yet reached the clinical trial phase.

After Restoration

Men who have had successful prepuce restorations report that not only are sex and masturbation better, but they also feel emotionally satisfied that they now have their foreskin back after having it taken from them without their consent as babies. It can give a man a sense of feeling like he’s gotten back something he’s lost. Female partners of men who have had this done are also pleased with the results, because sex feels better for them too.

Rethinking Circumcision

Choosing to be circumcised or having your child circumcised is a difficult decision to make. Ask your doctor questions, but remember that a circumcision is a completely elective procedure. It is not required and an uncircumcised penis will remain healthy and will function normally. Men who have been circumcised report:

  • 33% have prominent, noticeable scarring
  • 27% had too much skin removed, making getting and keeping an erection uncomfortable or painful
  • 16% report curvature of the penis due to an uneven amount of skin being removed

If you’re considering circumcision, rethink it. Ask questions and get information. Whatever decision you make is up to you, but be sure you’re making an informed decision.

Can A Woman Have A Double Vagina?

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Sex oddities pop up all the time, from a 12″ penis to female genitals that can hold 31 pounds. You might think you’ve heard it all when it comes to strange things about sex, but there’s more out there than you can imagine.  For example, can a girl actually have more than one vagina?

Just What Is A “Double Vagina?”

A double vagina, also known within the medical community as a “didelphic uterus,” is when a girl actually has more than one uterus, cervix or canal. It is not uncommon for a woman with a didelphic uterus to have two canals, however, it is also possible for a woman to have more than one uterus but with only one cervix and canal. Regardless of the presentation of this condition, it is not something that can be seen even when the girl is fully naked. It’s all internal. In fact, there are many women who may not even be aware that they have this condition!

Are Two Better Than One?

You might think that having a double canal would be more fun during sex – after all, wouldn’t it bring a whole new meaning to the term “double penetration?” The truth is, there is usually one primary uterus, cervix and canal and the secondary organs are much smaller. A lady with more than one canal may not even be aware that she has the condition. This is due to the second vaginal canal usually being no larger than the width of a pencil and may be hidden within the labia and folds of the vulva.

A common side effect from a double vagina is longer, more intense periods with more pain and bleeding. Some women may experience more “breakthrough bleeding” if they wear tampons – this is because often each uterus will have its menstruation at the same time and since the tampon is inserted only into the primary canal, the woman can experience bleeding around the tampon from the other uterus and canal.

How It Affects Sex

Usually, this condition will not affect sex at all since the secondary one is so much smaller. Some women may experience pain during sex due to this condition, but this is uncommon as the canal is made to stretch to accommodate a variety of different penis sizes.

During sex, the penis is usually inserted into the primary vagina, without regard to the smaller, secondary one at all. In fact, if a girl doesn’t tell her partner that she has more than one, he may never even know! Since the secondary canal is never used for penetration, a woman is still able to experience sex with as much pleasure and capacity for orgasm as any other girl. The g-spot should still be present in the primary canal.

How It Affects Pregnancy

While having a double vagina doesn’t necessarily affect sex all that much, it can be more complicated if a woman with this condition becomes pregnant.

  • It is possible for sperm to travel through both canals and fertilize eggs within each uterus separately. This can also happen at different times. A girl could be several weeks or months pregnant in one uterus, and then get pregnant in the second one. The deliveries could then be several days, weeks or months apart!
  • Each uterus is smaller than what an average uterus would be, so it is possible that neither uterus would be suitable for carrying a fetus to full term. In a study of 18 pregnant patients with a double vagina, only 67.5% of the babies survived. Most of the women required a c-section surgery to deliver the baby. However, with proper prenatal care and a doctor who is familiar with the condition, the fetal survival rate is most likely much higher.

How The Condition Is Treated

Most of the time, a girl with more than one uterus and more than one cervix or canal requires no treatment at all. Another similar condition, called a uterine septum, may require surgery, however, surgery is usually not recommended for women with more than one uterus, cervix or vagina.

How Common Is A Double Vagina?

About 1 in 3,000 women have a double vagina and many of them may not be aware of their condition. Usually, if a girl does not have any symptoms such as painful periods or excessive bleeding, she may never know that she has more than one. The condition is usually discovered when a woman sees her doctor or gynecologist with complaints of very severe pain during menstruation or pain during sex.