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How To Stop Ejaculating So Fast During Sex

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Is premature ejaculation making your sex life lousy because you cannot seem to stop ejaculating so fast during sex? Do you feel frustrated, embarrassed and depressed because you are unable to satisfy your partner sexually?

If it’s a one-stand stand, you can forget about the embarrassment of premature ejaculation (PE) and move on. But for men who are married or in a long-term committed relationship, the double whammy of having to deal with PE and the potential fallout in his relationship can be overbearing.

The Law Of Large Numbers

You are NOT suffering from premature ejaculation alone. Millions of men just like you have to put up with the embarrassment of having an orgasm too quickly during sex. It’s just that guys don’t usually talk about such things, and most don’t know how to deal with it properly.

Beware Of The “Trappings” On Offer

In their quest for a “quick fix” for their PE problem, many men choose to seek out products on the market that claim to help them last longer. You are probably well aware of stuff such as desensitizing lube, gels or in general – anesthetics that you can apply on your penis glans to help you last longer when you make out.

These products work to a certain extent, by reducing your level of sensitivity to stimulation. The downside is that these solutions are NOT permanent cures. Without relying on these products, you will be back to your usual short-lived stamina. This means you have to whip out that bottle of spray or that tube of gel every time you plan to have sex.

While there are many proven techniques and methods to deal with the problem of premature ejaculation. But too many men focus on these specific techniques instead of the ONE important fundamental that is holding them back from achieving the sensational stamina they yearn for. Let’s take a look at this vital fundamental.

Setting Realistic Goals

“I want to lose 10 pounds in a week!” Realistic? No. Safe? No.

“I want to run a triathlon, six weeks from now… but I’ve never ran one before.” Realistic? No. Smart? No.

Such goals will ultimately set you up for failure and disappointment, and perhaps even serious health impairment.

Setting realistic goals is the first important step towards achieving any self-improvement endeavor, and that includes overcoming premature ejaculation. Start by KNOWING your current benchmark. How long can you last right now? Based on this yardstick, set a number of short-term goals while you work towards the ultimate goal.

Take for instance, you want to be able to last 15 minutes during sexual intercourse. If you’re lasting just one minute now, your end goal may be way off; you may end up losing motivation and getting frustrated. Instead, try setting weekly goals of adding 2 minutes to your stamina, by working on specific, natural techniques that help improve your ejaculatory control.

Sounds easy and straightforward? It does…

But if you stay committed and work on your ejaculatory control every week for 8 weeks, you will have surpassed your original goal by going at least 16 minutes! That new benchmark will become PERMANENT. And your wife or long-term partner will be very thankful for it, I promise!

Permanent Solutions For Lasting Longer

The best way to overcome premature ejaculation is to first understand what causes it in the first place. For the vast majority of men, all they need is to simply re-train how their mind and body react during sexual stimulation. By practicing simple cognitive techniques and exercises to re-condition the ejaculatory reflex (usually through masturbation), you can increase the threshold or tipping point where ejaculation is imminent.

Many sexual therapists also recommend natural training and reconditioning as the first important step towards ridding yourself of premature ejaculation and lasting longer for your female partner.

How To Make Her Fantasize About You In 3 Easy Steps

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Sex of all kinds is fun, but it takes some fantasizing to really get into truly great, awesome sex. To have the kind of sex that will make your toes curl and your knees go weak (for both you and your partner), you have to get your girl to start thinking about you sexually. Instead of fantasizing about guys that aren’t you, you need to get your girl to create a fantasy with you in it by being your woman’s ultimate dream guy. Here’s how.

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Fantasy Is Crucial To Great Sex

The physical aspect of sex certainly feels fantastic, but that’s not all there is when it comes to getting busy with your lover. Fantasies are incredibly important to sex that is out of this world, especially from a woman’s perspective. A guy can simply have intercourse and completely enjoy it for what it is, while a woman’s mind must be involved for your partner to even become sexually aroused in the first place.

By getting your lover to start having fantasies with you as the main subject, you’re getting the mind and imagination working. Stimulating your lover’s imagination is crucial to getting your partner to enjoy sex (and to really let go of inhibitions so YOU can enjoy it too) and it’s extremely difficult to get a woman turned on without getting the imagination involved first. If she’s using you to fuel sex fantasies, she’s halfway turned on before you ever hit the sheets.

Foreplay Isn’t Just Physical

Foreplay isn’t just about giving your partner oral sex or kissing them passionately. A huge part of foreplay before sex is the anticipation, the excitement and the fantasies about what is going to happen. That’s actually what makes having sex with someone new so awesome – you’re excited about it and the anticipation is sometimes better than the actual sex itself.

Step 1: Become Your Partner’s Fantasy

Start by finding out what kind of guy really trips your lover’s trigger. Does she love the idea of a police officer, who can assert his authority? Or does she like the idea of a different kind of man in uniform, such as a mechanic or a handyman? Find out whatever your girl’s fantasy is and develop a separate sexual persona that involves some kind of role play with the type of man that really gets your partner off.

Doing this will make it much easier for your girl to think of you sexually if she can see you in the role that she’s already attracted to. Essentially, you are becoming the man of your woman’s fantasies.

Step 2: Get A Great Body

A lot of people may think that focusing too much on physical appearance is shallow, but having a great body is actually incredibly important if you want your girl to think about having sex with you. The reality is, you care about how you look, she cares about how she looks and you both care about how you look to each other.

Having a great body will also make you feel much more confident about the way you look. You’ll be able to let go of your inhibitions more easily, and feel more confident when your partner looks at you in all of your naked glory. Being in great physical shape also gives you more energy and stamina to last longer in bed! Feeling great about the way you look and feeling strong and healthy on the inside will make sex that much more pleasurable and it’s simply just a better quality of life.

Step 3: Master The Skill Of Dirty Talk

Understanding how to get your partner aroused is an important part of getting her to think of you. Since a woman gets aroused with the mind first, work on mastering the skill of dirty talk. Dirty talk is like an “on” switch to the part of your woman’s brain that processes sex and even a few simple phrases such as, “I can’t wait until you get home tonight” or “You’ll never guess what I’m going to do to you as soon as I get my hands on you.”

What you’re doing here is turning the switch on and then leaving your partner to imagine what you’re going to do until you actually get to do it. You’ll also want to master the skill of emotional talk, such as telling your lover how she steals your breath when she walks into the room or how much you love the fact that she’s yours and only yours…to do with what you please. Be creative and come up with phrases that will really get your girl thinking – of YOU!

6 Sex Misconceptions – Rules That Were Meant To Be Broken

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Sex includes many unspoken guidelines that supposedly dictate what can or can’t be done in or outside the bedroom. However, sex can get boring fast that way. There are many myths about sex – in fact, some of these “guidelines” for sex can definitely go to the wayside. Break these so-called guidelines and spice up your sex life tonight!

Myth #1 – Men Don’t Like Giving Oral Sex

It’s a common myth that men enjoy getting a blowjob, but they don’t exactly like to return the favor. This myth originates from the “I don’t feel so fresh” ads from long ago, where women got a bad rap for having a smell – of any kind – down there. The truth is, some guys don’t like going down on a girl – but most of them actually do. Women are terrified they don’t smell right, even if it’s just the natural scent of their bodies. Don’t worry about it and let your man blow your mind with his tongue.

Myth #2 – You Shouldn’t Have Sex On The First Date

Sex on the first date has long been a “faux pas.” You’re supposed to wait until at least the third date, right? This is an old rule that should definitely be broken – that is, if you have the opportunity to be on a date with someone who so totally rocks your world that you can’t wait to get your hands on his clothes and rip them off. In that case, why not? If you and your date are both consenting adults and have discussed safe sex, seriously – why not?

Myth #3 – Sex Should Be Serious

Yes, all the sex scenes in the movies make us feel as though our sex lives are nowhere near as enthralling, but come on – who hasn’t passed gas on accident while getting it on after burritos and margaritas for dinner? Come on! Sex is fun, and it doesn’t have to be serious all the time. If you accidentally make an idiot out of yourself, get stuck in a not-so-flattering sex position, or get interrupted by a call from the in-laws, laugh it off and go back to doing whatever you were doing before. Your mate will love your good sense of humor and the ability to roll with the punches.

Myth #4 – You Have To Have An Orgasm Every Time

Pretty much every woman has been in the situation where she’s not in the mood, but he can’t keep his hands off her. Many women will give in and give their guy some lovin’, but they’ll end up faking their orgasm so he thinks she’s satisfied. Hold up – it’s totally okay not to have an orgasm every time you have sex with your man. It’s okay to put out just for him, because he’ll get yours next time. What isn’t okay is letting your guy believe that whatever he did to give you the big “O” is what he needs to do every time…and the only person that suffers in that situation is you.

Myth #5 – If You’re Great In Bed, You’re Great With Everyone

A lot of people believe that if you’re really great in bed, you can rock anyone’s world. But everyone has a different idea of what great sex is and what it isn’t. Everyone likes something different between the sheets, and you can’t please everyone. Truth is, you can be really great at sex with one person and give them multiple orgasms in a single sex session, and the next person you sleep with, you can totally bomb out and wonder what the hell happened to your mad skills. If you’re in a relationship, focus on being the best for that person. If you’re single, just have fun!

Myth #6 – If He Cheated, He Doesn’t Care About You

Men have gotten a bad rap for being notorious cheaters. In fact, rumor has it that most men who cheat on their partners do it because they just don’t love them anymore. Right? Wrong! If your man cheats on you, chances are, he didn’t mean to. Ask him. He may have been drunk and in a compromising situation, where a woman was all over him and wouldn’t leave him alone. Or he may have thought he wanted something and then realized it was a very, very big mistake. Cheating is not the end of the road ladies, unless you’re absolutely sure that’s what you want. He may still love you and want to be with you – talk it through and ask him why. You might be surprised at what you hear.

Top Erogenous Zones For Men And Women

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Most sex tips cover instructions on how to stimulate areas on both men and women that are well known to create pleasure, but there are actually lots of pleasure points that many sex tips and advice manuals don’t cover. Here’s a list of spots on a woman’s body (and a man’s) that when touched, licked or tickled will drive them absolutely wild!

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Best Pleasure Points For Women

Lips, Neck And Ears

Women love the soft, sensual feeling of kissing, so their lips are a huge pleasure point. Her neck and ears also contain lots of pleasure receptors, and you can use them to your advantage when kissing your girl. Kiss her softly on the lips, letting your tongue slide ever so slightly across her mouth. Then, kiss and lick softly down her chin, up her neck and behind her ears. Draw her earlobe into your mouth for a light suck and she’ll melt.

Breasts And Nipples

The breasts and nipples are obvious pleasure points on a woman (they’re mentioned in almost every sex tips manual), but few mean really know how to use them to get a girl warmed up before sex. A lot of men will tweak or pinch a woman’s nipples expecting her to become turned on, when in reality, she craves a soft and gentle touch at first. Spend time caressing your lover’s breasts with your hands and kissing softly and rubbing your lips across her nipples. Use your breath to blow warm or cool air on your partner’s wet nipples to send shivers down her spine.

Inner Thighs, Behind The Knees, Crease Of The Elbow

These pleasure spots aren’t ones that you normally hear about, but they’re powerful ones nonetheless. When you’re kissing and licking up and down your partner’s body during foreplay, don’t skip her inner thighs, the back of her knees and the crease of her elbow. These spots are packed with nerve endings and pleasure receptors and when these spots are caressed, it will drive her wild.

Clitoris And G-Spot

These are obvious hot points and you definitely don’t want to skip over them when getting your partner turned on! When licking her inner thighs, let your tongue brush lightly over her clitoris to tease her and bring her closer to orgasm. When you’ve had enough foreplay and are ready to get the main event started, start giving her oral sex. Slip one or two fingers gently inside her vagina (make sure that she’s either wet enough or you have a generous amount of lube on hand) and find her g-spot.

Best Pleasure Points For Men

Neck And Ears

Both men and women enjoy having their neck and ears stimulated. When making out with your lover, kiss him softly on the lips and then move your way to his neck and right behind his ear. When licking and sucking this sensitive skin, breathe heavily and make sure he can hear the delicious sounds you’re making as you savor his skin.

The “Happy Trail” And His “Cut Lines”

The “happy trail” is the area between the navel and the start of a man’s groin. The “cut lines” are areas on either side of the groin where the legs come meet the abdomen. Both of these areas are very sensitive and you can use them to your advantage as you’re licking and sucking all over your partner’s body.

The Head Of The Penis

When you feel like you’ve had plenty of foreplay and are ready to take things to the next level, begin giving your lover a blowjob – but don’t put your lips all the way down his shaft! Instead, you’re going to focus all of your licking and sucking on the head of your partner’s penis while you hold his shaft in place with your hand. This area is extremely sensitive (the most sensitive part of his penis) and he may not be able to tolerate a lot right away, so start slow. This is definitely one of those sex tips that will get him squirming!

Perineum And Prostate Gland

A man’s “g-spot” is considered to be his prostate gland and when stimulating it, you can give him some of the most amazing orgasms he’s ever had. If your man is anal shy, try rubbing firmly or pressing a vibrator against his perineum (the area between his scrotum and anus). This creates indirect stimulation to the prostate gland. If your guy digs anal play, lube up and slip your fingers (or a prostate massager) in about two inches and make the “come hither” motion. He’ll love it!

How To Avoid The Biggest Mistake Almost All Men Make In Bed

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You can read hundreds of sex tips a day and still make this blunder – almost all guys do. No matter how great a guy may think he is in the sack, he’s probably still making this incredibly simple to avoid but still common mistake. Are you guilty? Here’s what every guy should avoid in bed if he wants to have amazing sex and why.

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Almost All Men Trying To Be Good In Bed Make This Simple Mistake

There is one simple slipup that almost all men make in the sack, and they don’t even really know what it is or why they do it! Most guys are completely oblivious to this blunder, because very few technique books talk about it. Even guys that are seasoned in the sex department will get caught doing this, and they’ll do it over and over again because they’re just not seeing it as a problem – because it doesn’t easily point itself out. Both men that are new to having sex and those who consider themselves Casanovas in the sack can be guilty of doing this, without realizing that they’re actually sabotaging themselves:

Problem: Trying Too Hard To Put On A Good “Performance” And Forgetting To Enjoy It

The problem that a lot of guys have when they get down and dirty with a woman is focusing too hard on putting on a good performance. Many men start looking to advice books and websites that give them pointers on how to pleasure a girl, but sometimes this can actually do more harm than good. Guys can become so focused on technique – like exactly how to perform oral sex or what sex positions are the best for g-spot penetration – that they forget to actually enjoy the simple act of having sex!

Why Is This Bad?

When you struggle to put on a good show when you’re in bed with your partner, you’re forgetting to enjoy it and you’re also forgetting to make sure that your partner enjoys it too. Being too focused on technique can cause you to become more withdrawn from the emotional aspect of having sex, which is pretty much the exact opposite of what women want their guy to do. Almost all women want to become more emotionally involved in sex, rather than less.

Remember when you and your current flame first started having sex, weay back at the beginning of your relationship? Remember how great it was? This was because you were less focused on the “how to” aspect of doing it and completely absorbed in the experience of having it with someone new.

How To Fix It

There’s an easy way to fix this problem and make you and your partner feel more connected to each other during sex. Commit to using no “techniques” for a month straight, and focus only on enjoying the experience of having sex. This is much like first time sex, when you nor your partner really know what you’re doing and you’re just going with the flow. You can re-create that by going with the flow now, and forgoing trying to perform certain techniques or use certain sex positions.

Instead, just do what feels good and encourage your partner to do the same. After you’ve spent a month just enjoying the experience of having sex with your lover, then you can bring back in the techniques and use them to make it better. You’ll be more apt to know which technique to use at what time, because you’ll be more in tune and connected with your lover. Even the best sex tips just won’t work until you’ve built that foundation of learning to have sex and enjoy the experience with your partner without all the fancy stuff.

Use This Anytime You Need To Spice Up Your Sex Life

If making love with your partner starts to get boring again, repeat the above steps to bring the fire back into your sex life. Going a month without using any kind of special sex tips isn’t something that will just benefit your sexual relationship with your partner once, it can be used again and again to add a “fresh” feeling to it when it gets boring or mundane over time.

You can also try taking a break from sex all together for a few weeks or even a month. That saying that “absence makes the heart grow fonder” also works with your groins too! Watch how just taking a break from using special techniques or from it all together will make your sex life explode!