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3 Hot Oral Sex Techniques To Use This Valentine’s Day

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Oral sex is the perfect sizzling hot Valentine’s Day gift. It lets your partner know that tonight, it’s all about her and her pleasure. Get ready to camp out down south and give her oral sex that will blow her mind and have her begging on her knees for more! Here are some tips you can use to go down on her that will keep her clawing at the sheets and screaming your name until she has an earth shattering orgasm!

Lick Slowly All Around Her Vagina

Instead of heading straight for her clitoris, use your tongue to explore every nook and cranny of her vagina. When giving her oral sex, don’t spare an inch! Make sure she’s clean and well groomed ahead of time and this should be an easy task. You can even use flavored lube to make your job even easier – and more enticing! Let your tongue brush lightly all over her vagina from top to bottom as you tease her and get her warmed up for the real thing. When you start to really get into it, form your tongue into a firm point and begin to lick and suck deeply. If you typically only lick her clitoris when going down on her, giving her this kind of oral sex on Valentine’s Day will make sure she never, ever forgets just how good you can be in bed!

Finger Her G-Spot And Give Her A Blended Orgasm

This is a great oral sex technique to try on Valentine’s Day, especially if your lover has never had a blended orgasm before. A blended orgasm is a mix between a g-spot orgasm and a clitoral orgasm, and can be one of the most powerful orgasms a woman can ever have. Learning how to give her a blended orgasm will not only make sex hotter tonight, it’s a technique you can use any time you really want to rock your partner’s world. Get her warmed up by licking her clitoris and priming her g-spot to be touched and fondled. Once she’s good and ready, slip your finger inside her vagina with your palm up and crook your finger in a “come hither” motion. You’ll be able to feel the g-spot easily (it’s much harder to do when she’s not completely aroused because it’s not engorged with blood and will feel like the rest of the vagina) and stimulating it is simple – just rub the g-spot back and forth or move your finger in circles. Switch back and forth between clitoris and g-spot stimulation until she’s begging you to bring her to climax. Then do both at the same time until she explodes! This may even allow her to experience female ejaculation if she’s really able to let go.

Take Your Time (And Make Noise)

One thing that women hate when it comes to oral sex is feeling like her man thinks its a chore to go down on her. If he doesn’t like it, she’s not going to like it. Or, she’ll pretend she likes it for a few minutes and really won’t get into it. Let her know that you love eating her out and giving her an orgasm with your mouth. Show her that you’re really enjoying it by looking up at her now and then while you’re doing it and acting as though you’re really into it. Don’t lean your head to one side and lick as though you’re bored with it and don’t want to be doing it. She’ll never reach orgasm that way and your efforts (however minimal they may be) will be wasted. Instead, let her know that you love having your face between her legs by acting like it’s the most delicious thing you’ve ever tasted (yes, this really works!) and making at least some noise. You don’t have to be totally fake about it when giving her oral sex, but playing it up a little bit and showing her that you really love licking her up and down can go a long way in rocking her world. Don’t rush her through oral sex either – take your time and if you’re tired, don’t let on. Let her think you could happily be down there forever.

By giving your lover amazing oral sex and taking her to the next level this Valentine’s Day, she’ll never forget how incredible you are in bed – and she’ll be wanting to have sex with you all the time! Don’t forget that after you give her great head, she’ll want to do the same for you too.

Valentine’s Day – 7 Ways To Make It Sizzle

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Making Valentine’s Day sexy doesn’t have to be difficult. There are lots of super easy and fun ways you can turn up the heat inside the bedroom (or outside of it) for the 14th and most of them don’t require you to spend a lot of money or go too far outside your comfort zone. Read on for seven excellent sex tips to make this Valentine’s Day smolder.

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Give The Gift Of Oral Sex

This Valentine’s Day, give your partner crazy good oral sex – and we’re talking crazy good. Not the “Sure-I’ll-Give-You-Head-If-You-Want” oral sex, the “I’m-Going-To-Die-If-I-Can’t-Get-You-In-My-Mouth-Right-Now” kind. Prep with flavored lubes, do some research on how to please them orally, and plan to be down there about an hour – or however long it takes! This is not a rush job – this is a gift, so make it good. Attitude is important here, because if you act like you can’t wait to get it over with, your partner is going to sense that you’re not into it. Think of it as savoring a delicious dessert or that you’re starving and you just can’t get enough.

Try Something New

Make a point to try something totally new and adventurous on Valentine’s Day. Do something you’ve never, ever done before. Never tried anal sex? BDSM? Roleplaying? The trick here is to select something you’ve never done before, but also something that is only slightly outside of your normal bedroom fare. If you’ve never tried anal sex, don’t whip out a huge dildo to use on her backdoor for the first time. Instead, why not gift her a tiny butt plug or try analingus?

Turn Your Partner Into A Buffet

Instead of going out for entertainment after dinner on Valentine’s Day, why not make dinner the entertainment? Certain foods are considered sensual, such as chocolate, strawberries, champagne, sushi and even oysters. You can make these foods even sexier by eating them off your partner! Have your partner lie down on the table naked and set a few pieces of sushi on their bodies for a sexy Sushi buffet. Then for dessert, drizzle chocolate sauce all over them and lick it off – slowly!

Go Outside The Bedroom Doors

This Valentine’s Day, have sex somewhere other than your bedroom. It’s a great way to spice up your sex life without using new sex positions or bringing sex toys into the mix. You’d be surprised at what a simple change in location can do for the heat level between you and your lover! Try having sex somewhere else in your house (shower sex anyone?) or get naughty in your local laundromat, the balcony of a hotel room or even in your car. Check out our 1001 Best Places To Have Sex In America for the best ideas!

Bring Out The Sex Games

After dinner on Valentine’s Day, take the entertainment home and try out some super hot sex games with your partner. There are tons of great sex games available at online sex toy stores like Adam & Eve, such as sexy dice or a sensuous board game with a spinner. If you want to keep things low cost, you can also turn your favorite game into something naughty. Try out naked twister or strip poker with stuff you already have at home, or play a simple but sizzling game of truth or dare. When you use your imagination, you can pretty much make any game sexy.

Watch Pornography Together

Unless watching porn together is something you and your partner do regularly, it can be a super hot way to spice up Valentine’s Day. If you watch porn together all the time, it’s not going to feel as special as it will if it’s a once in awhile treat. Pick a really steamy, erotic movie to watch together and make sure no one else is home. Avoid choosing a hardcore sex flick that just shows people banging away on each other – something more sensual is best for Valentine’s Day. You’ll probably get busy right there on the couch with the movie going! Bonus points for doing it outside the bedroom.

Put A Twist On Chocolate

Sure, chocolates are pretty cliche for Valentine’s Day, but add a twist by introducing chocolate scented condoms, chocolate sauce or even chocolate flavored lube for a great blowjob or cunnilingus. There are tons of great ways to make chocolate sexual. If you’re feeling really creative, try replacing the chocolates in traditional heart shaped box with chocolate condoms, or put small penis shaped chocolates inside (usually found at party supply stores). Get creative!

The Best Sex Positions For Mind-Blowing Orgasms

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Do perfect sex positions actually exist? They do! However, the most awesome sex positions for men and women are different. Also, did you know that by moving even one inch in any direction while in these sex positions, you can dramatically change the feeling and intensity of the pleasure?

Take your time to find the best angles for the both of you, while using these sex positions.

The Best Position For Women To Climax

The reverse missionary is identical to the traditional missionary except that she is on top. This is probably the easiest position for a woman to have an orgasm because she can control the friction to her clitoris or G-spot.

Since you typically want the women to orgasm first, this would be one of your first positions and then move to a position where the guy has full control of his orgasm.

You can vary your leg positions by both of you spreading your legs, or by alternating the one who has them spread and the one who has them together.

The Best Position For Men To Orgasm

Practically every animal species utilizes the rear-entry “doggy-style” position, so it is a natural one for humans to enjoy, as well. Although you won’t have face-to-face contact, there are many benefits. It is great for guys because it gives them full control.

This is one of the greatest sex positions for hitting her G-spot and allows you to fondle her breasts, stomach, clitoris, back, neck and other sensual spots. Even she can touch her clitoris in this position.

She kneels before you (some women enjoy it more if their head is down on a pillow) and you enter her from behind. The main benefit for the guy is a view of her beautiful bottom and being able to see the action, while getting incredibly deep penetration (above-average guys need to be careful as deep thrusts might hit her cervix, which can be quite painful).

The Mistake Couples Make Using Sex Positions

Of course, books show dozens, if not hundreds, of sex positions, but the reality is that there are maybe only eight basic positions, with slight variations for each. So what happens when you’ve tried all eight positions to death? Let’s face it – ­­in the end, lovemaking is generally always the same.

That’s why you should explore ALL aspects of sexuality about each other. I don’t mean anything freaky here. I just mean cultivate an adventurous spirit. Turn foreplay into a game. Add a prop or two.

Try a new place. How about starting off with a plate of fruits? There are literally HUNDREDS of ways you can make your lovemaking more exciting, passionate and fulfilling long-term, rather than just trying new sex positions.

Want A Better Sex Life? You Don’t Have to Break Up To Get It

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Sex is an essential component in every intimate partnership and without it, the partnership can suffer. Whether you’re just having a dry spell, or you’ve recently discovered that you and your new love interest aren’t physically compatible, it’s no fun when the sex is bad.

What if everything else is going great, though? Should you end things in the pursuit of better sex? Should you suffer through the subpar sex as long as everything else is peachy? Believe it or not, if you’re willing to put in some effort on your own part, you may find you’ll have to do neither.

Does Bad Sex Equal A Break Up?

If the sex is bad and you’re not that compatible elsewhere, then breaking up makes perfect sense. If everything else in your relationship is good, though, you can’t let a bad sex life ruin things for you. Discussing the state of your sex life can be uncomfortable, but you owe it to yourself and your partner to talk openly about it.

If you’re not having sex at all, you should just flat out address it with your S.O. Depression and stress can significantly lower people’s libido, so your partner may just be preoccupied. Don’t take that as an affront, but work with your mate to get back into the habit of having more sex. Tell them that you miss having sex because you really enjoy it, and see if you can’t start having sex a little more often.

Don’t be pushy, and allow them to ease back in. The funny thing about having more sex is that the more you have it, the more you want it. Over the course of a few weeks, you could find you’ve both gotten back into the swing of things.

Give Your Partner Pointers

What if you are having sex, and it’s just terrible? How do you create a better sex life? You don’t have to be as straightforward about this at first. The next time you’re doing the deed, playfully suggest that you try something new, like oral sex or anal sex.

Our partners, whether male or female, typically do want to satisfy us. They’re never more open to receiving a few gentle pointers than when you’re both in the heat of the moment. Be careful not to be critical of what they’re doing wrong.

Just steer them away from whatever they’re bad at by giving them new ideas. If subtle hints don’t work, then you will need to sit down and have a serious discussion about it. You may even want to seek out a therapist together. At the very least, you might want to research better sex tips online and in books. Discuss your findings together, and try to be open minded. Don’t be surprised if your mate offers up some criticism of their own.

They may become defensive and get upset when they find out that you’re not having the good time they thought you were. On the other hand, they may be relieved and admit that things haven’t been going well for them, either. Most importantly, you need to make sure that they understand that the reason you want to improve your sex life is because you love them and want to make sex better between the two of you.

Communication Is The Most Important Tool You Have

When it comes to having better and more sex, communication is the key. If you can handle things diplomatically, you’ll probably get the results you want. Keep the mood light and word things as kindly as possible. If there’s anything that your partner does that you do enjoy, such as oral sex, point it out.

Compliment them where you can, and the more negative remarks won’t seem as hurtful. Try to put yourself in their shoes and tell them in the way you’d want to be told. Be tactful, and remind them of how much you love them. If you both really care about each other, you’ll find a way to make it work.

How To Find The G-Spot And Techniques To Drive Your Partner Wild

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G-spot orgasms are considered the “holy grail” of all the female orgasms, although women are capable of having clitoral orgasms as well. But finding the G-spot and knowing how to pleasure it is the hard part! Here’s an A-to-Z on everything you need to know about the G-spot!

How To Find The G-Spot

First of all, the G-spot is actually a zone, rather than an actual ‘spot.’ The G-spot is located about 2 inches inside the vagina on the topside. (On the underside of her stomach.) You’ll know when you’ve found it because it feels like a ribbed bump, like the roof of your mouth just behind your front teeth.

Stimulating The G-Spot

While most men would love to satisfy their ladies with penetration, it’s not always the best idea. Why? Because it depends on factors like the position, her level of arousal, and penis and vaginal shape and size. In short: using fingers is the easiest way to reach orgasm with the most chance of success.

Warming Her Up First

In most cases, women need to have their clitoris stimulated before stimulating the G-spot. But once it’s fully stimulated, the clitoris is often too sensitive for direct contact. Ask your lady. Otherwise, the G-spot may feel dry and uncomfortable. After this point, you can move onto the G-spot.

The Best Sex Position To Use

To really stimulate the G-spot, you’ll need to be in sex positions that give you great easy access to work your magic. Here are two suggestions:

  • Your lady lies on her back while you lie next to her, using your stronger arm.
  • She sits in doggie-style position, while you sit and pleasure her from behind. Actually, if you want even more passion and excitement, try changing from one position to another over the course of your stimulation.

How To Stimulate The G-Spot

The motion you want to use is the “come over here” gesture, using your fingers. Keep in mind that the G-spot is different from the clitoris, which means, in most cases, you’ll stroke it slightly harder than the clitoris. Start by massaging it lightly and work your way up to a point she finds incredibly satisfying.

How To Tell If She’s Enjoying It

First of all, remember that the best feeling will vary for every woman. Alternate between two very slight movements or spots to find what she likes best. You’ll know what she likes by her breathing or when she firmly grips you. Having said all that, there is a way to make this experience even MORE pleasurable.

The Missing Piece To A Powerful Orgasm

Did you know that prolonged foreplay is said to intensify orgasms? That’s right. However, men often focus so much on “performing” that they forget about spicing up their lovemaking with new and exciting things. Let’s face it; most of us are guilty of this. You take your clothes off. Away you go, and, within a few seconds or minutes, the routine is over. But as the bedroom magic fades, it becomes harder and harder to make woman achieve orgasms.

Why? Because women long for variety in their sexual experience. The very best way to please women long-term is to have an entire ‘bag of ideas’ ready to pull out whenever they’re needed. I cannot stress the need to keep your lovemaking fresh and exciting in every way. That’s the secret to fulfilled lovemaking.