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Give Her Better Oral Sex And Wild Screaming Orgasms

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Oral sex is something almost every girl loves, but most of the time their partners stick to boring, vanilla sex – and that doesn’t usually include cunnilingus. It’s time to make a move and add a new flavor to these intimate explorations – perform oral sex on your partner! What kind of woman would not want to perspire during a steamy lovemaking? Yes, you read it right. You can have your woman writhe in pure orgasmic pleasure with oral sex.

You can provide the most thrilling cunnilingus she will ever experience by putting a small amount of a female orgasm enhancing cream (such as V-cream) on the clitoris prior to giving your partner oral sex. She will surely have heightened sensations with every stroke and touch that you do to this small organ. Such creams act immediately upon application, making your lover primed for an exhilarating time in bed.

Know The Magic Of Creative Oral Sex

Start oral sex off by giving the inner thighs tender and light touches using your lips. Move upwards to the vagina and allow your tongue to gently stroke the external area using an up-and-down motion for few moments.

Be playful! Stop the movements of your tongue along the external edges of the vagina and let your woman beg for more of what you are already doing. Place gentle kisses and soft caresses using your tongue, and make your teeth nibble gently until you reach the abdomen. Go back down after paying much of your attention on the sensitive parts on the upper torso. She will surely demand that you get to the real business of oral sex and that is what you will do!

Women usually reach an orgasm due to clitoral stimulation so you should pay close attention to that mound of flesh. Imagine that you can only pleasure your partner through those gentle strokes that your tongue can make. Visualize yourself eating ice cream because this is how your tongue and lips should move. Don’t we just love eating ice cream?

Techniques That Will Do The Trick

Allow yourself to experience the same or greater level of pleasure as what your partner feels through the following methods:

  • Perform tender strokes using your tongue.
  • Allow your lover to place external genitalia on your face.
  • While your mouth is busy on the clitoris, you can try penetrating the vagina with your two fingers.
  • You may also raise your partner’s buttocks off the bed or floor and allow the lower limbs to encircle your neck. This may take some effort from you.
  • Trace the letters of the alphabet along the borders of the vagina with the gentle movement of your tongue.
  • Lastly, the circular motion around the clitoris will surely do the magic trick!

Try these proven oral sex moves and show your lover the kind of wild screaming orgasms that she will never forget!

Sex Tips: 5 Ways To Keep A One Night Stand From Being Awkward

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Having sex with someone you just met can be super fun and frisky, but it can also be downright weird if things don’t go the way you planned. There’s nothing wrong with two consenting adults hooking up for some naughty satisfaction, but there are lots of ways to ruin a good one night stand. Avoid one night stand mishaps by following these five simple but essential rules.

Don’t Leave Anything Behind

You might be tempted to leave something of yours behind at your hookup’s house to either get them to remember you or give yourself an excuse to go back and have sex with them again. This is a definite one night stand no-no. When you’re hooking up, make sure that you don’t wear or bring anything valuable to you. You definitely don’t want to wear jewelry and while you may want to look nice, your favorite jeans or best looking shirt is not something you want to leave behind. Let’s face it – if you leave something of yours behind after a one night stand, it’s a good bet you’re never going to see it again. And you shouldn’t.

Don’t Ask For A Phone Number

Some people may feel tempted to score a phone number after a one night stand, even if it’s just to save face. This is one of the worst hookup mistakes you can make! No matter how awesome the sex was or how great an orgasm you had, calling them, texting them or emailing them is just not going to make you look very cool. In fact, it will make you look quite desperate! If you’re going to have a one night stand and have sex with someone you don’t know, make it stay it that way and don’t get to know them. They probably don’t want to get to know you. The one exception to this rule is if you and your f-buddy have decided beforehand that the sexual relationship will be a long standing one, i.e. a booty call.

Don’t Keep Their Stuff In Your House

For the same reason that you shouldn’t leave your stuff behind after one night stand sex, you shouldn’t hang on to stuff around that they might have left at your place. Whether it’s a thong, boxers or a nice watch, pitch it. There’s a reason you don’t bring anything valuable to a sex hookup, especially if it’s with someone you just met or don’t know well. If you happen to have their phone number, you can send them a casual text that they’ve left something, but hopefully you don’t have their phone number and they don’t have yours. If you are able to, however, make sure you designate a completely benign time and place for them to pick it up such as a restaurant during the day or heck, the post office. The idea is to make it completely casual.

Don’t Be Tempted To Cuddle

A lot of girls will insist on cuddling after sex, much to the man’s chagrin. Of course, sometimes it is vice versa. However, if it was a hookup and a hookup only, cuddling is a big mistake no matter who initiates it. You don’t know them and they don’t know you, so why do you want to hold each other in an intimate way? Cuddling completely takes away from the thrill of no-holds barred sex (and sex only) with someone you don’t know. After sex, make a beeline for the bathroom and get yourself cleaned up so you can start getting dressed. A simple, “That was great, thanks!” conversation is all you need after a one night stand.

Don’t Stalk Them Online

So you’ve gotten the one night stand out of your system and it was great. The oral sex was great, the intercourse was great and it was exactly what you needed. Leave it there and move on. Too many people (mostly women, but some men too) are tempted to stalk their f-buddy online on various social networking sites like Facebook or MySpace. Sure, you’d like to check out some pics of your super hot hookup, but do you really want to see his wedding pictures or the pictures of his kids? Do you really want to see what her boyfriend looks like or who else might have hit that? Exactly. If you simply can’t resist checking out their Facebook page, for the love of all that is sacred, do not “friend” them or leave a comment. The best way to move forward after a one night stand is to do exactly that.

7 Ways To Get Laid By Being Just A Friend

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Think you can’t seduce a woman who’s just a friend, huh? Well that must suck, especially because the movies and TV make it out to be such a big deal. They say if you’re her friend, you’ll never be anything more than friends with her. Well I’m here to tell you that’s not the case.

In fact, it’s a bold faced lie.

And in this article, you’ll discover 7 seduction tips that show how being “just a friend” can HELP you turn your friendship into a sexual relationship. (Maybe you can even date her in the long run)

Be The Nicest Man She’s Ever Met

Boy, just reading that makes you feel like you’re less “sexy,” right? Well, you should know that women love “nice guys” – they just don’t like “weak men.” What’s the difference? Well a nice guy is someone who treats a woman right. Someone who makes her feel special, sexy and important.

And a “weak man” is a man who lets other people walk all over him.

But fear not! Because there are a few, very simple, very easy ways to show her that YOU are a nice guy, not a weak man:

  • When she says something you don’t agree with, don’t agree with her. This doesn’t mean you have to be a prick. Be nice, just don’t be afraid to say “no” or “I don’t agree with you” every once in awhile.
  • Tease her, and put her down lightly. You see, nice guys are afraid of ever hurting her feelings. So afraid, they never tease her or make fun of her at all. You should feel free to make fun of her funny mistakes, the same way your friends tease you when you accidentally leave the garage door open, for example. This type of “teasing” is extremely attractive to women. (An example: Oh man, you’re terrible at that. Nope, I’m never letting you do that, ever again.)
  • You don’t have to return her calls if you’re busy. For example, she calls and you’re playing video games with a friend, feel free to let the call go to voicemail. Don’t be afraid to take your “alone” time, she’ll understand.

Don’t Be Afraid To Be Romantic

Romance is another trait most nice guys have. Yet you may be embarrassed by how romantic you’d like to be with women. For example, you might be thinking, “well what if she doesn’t like it? What if I’m coming on way too strong?”

And sometimes, you’d be right. Most of the time, however, women love a little romance. Even from their friends. So showing your romantic side will win you brownie points – if you follow these three rules:

  • RULE ONE: The romance should always be for you. Yeah, you buy her flowers to brighten her day. But why did you think about buying flowers in the frist place? Was it because you were in a romantic mood? Or because buying her flowers would make you feel good? As long as your emotional pleasure is the main CAUSE of romance, she’ll pick up on it, and appreciate the gesture. (This is what women’s intuition is for)
  • RULE TWO: Don’t overdo it. Little gestures are bigger than big gestures. A pair of slippers for her to wear because she’s always cold in your house is a MUCH better surprise than a candle light dinner for two (unless it’s Valentine’s Day, or a special holiday.) Keep your presents small…
  • RULE THREE: Curb your compliments. When you get the urge to compliment a woman, take a second and stop. Do you want to make her like you? Or do you want to make her feel good? The second is good. The first is “weak man” territory.

Make Her Feel Good

Who do you like to hang around more? A friend who makes you feel bad or a friend who makes you feel good?

Being a nice guy means wanting to make people feel good. Being a weak man means wanting to make people like you. Here’s how you can stay on the “ nice guy” side:

  • When you’re talking to someone, always ask yourself, “How can I make this person feel good ABOUT HIMSELF?” Most men ask “How can I make this person feel good ABOUT ME?” And it’s a losing, weak man question.
  • Feel free to become interested in people. You may feel like you get “too” interested in people, and you may feel like they’ll be annoyed you want to know so much about them. Such a thing has NEVER happened! People will talk about themselves for HOURS, as long as you make them feel good about themselves. So ask away.
  • Finally, always compliment. Never criticize. A great book for dealing with people is “How To Win Friends And Influence People” written by Dale Carnegie. His main principle: Never criticize, condemn or complain. And if you’re trying to get a girlfriend, get laid or even get a one night stand, being positive will get your farther than bitching or whining.

Give Her Respect

You respect her. This means you treat her like a lady. This means you want to take things slow, and not rush into a sexual situation she may regret later. This is fine and OK. Here’s what you NEED to remember, though:

  • Women are sexual. Just like men are sexual. Just like you are sexual. This doesn’t mean you’re thinking about sex 24/7 (or maybe you are) This means you like sex (and oral sex and anal sex and…you get the picture), and you want sex to be a natural part of your life. So when you respect a woman, don’t forget to respect this part of her personality, as well.
  • This means no judging, no calling her a slut, but it also means you can feel free to hold her hand, stroke her hair and kiss her, as long as the timing is right.

Once You Get Into Bed With Her….

Being a nice guy, you think sex with this girl is going to be important and special. Well, Skippy, that’s what she wants, too. She wants sex with you to be special and important and romantic and emotional and dirty and kinky and sweaty and FUN.

So use your desire to get sexual with her as a TOOL to treat her nicely:

  • Make your first time sex special. After a nice date, come back to your place and invite her up to watch a movie. From there, you can gradually make your move, so sex feels like something that “just happened” for her. This is the greatest gift you can give a woman.
  • Also – during sex – feel free to make her feel special. Do this by telling her how sexy she looks and how good she’s making you feel. You don’t like having sex with a silent woman, do you? You like when she tells you how good she’s feeling. Return the favor – show her how special she makes you feel.

How Being Shy Can Actually Help You

Here’s a ground-breaking thought: Women like shy guys. Women like quiet guys. Why? Because shy, quiet guys are mysteries to be solved. And women can’t get enough of a man who’s a mystery. So why aren’t women beating down your door to date you? Because women are scared of making the first move.

So the one – EXTREMELY EASY – way to use your shy side to date ANY woman is simply to make the first move. To ask her out to coffee. To touch her first. If you do this, and she knows you’re shy, she’ll know how big of a move this was, for you.

And she’ll feel special and flattered by it – exactly the way you want her feel.

Let Her Know That You Like HER…Not Some Random Girl

And this is the most important quality of all! Because you’re her friend and because you’re a nice guy, you like her for her. You don’t want just some random woman’s random sex. You want her. You want her good parts. You want her flaws. And you want her because you think SHE is special.

Don’t underestimate how powerful this urge is. Imagine someone walking up to you and saying, “I’ve traveled the world and I’ve met hundreds of thousands of people. I’ve seen the pyramids in Egypt and I’ve walked along the Great Wall of China. I’ve met every culture, every nationality and seen things I couldn’t have imagined or made up in a thousand years. But you are the most important person in the world to me, and I want to be with you.”

Makes you feel special, doesn’t it? Obviously it’s an exaggerated example, but doesn’t it match up with SO MANY of the romantic fantasies in movies and books? Luckily for you, you actually feel this way about her.

So don’t be afraid to show it. Just make sure you don’t come across like a “weak man” trying to suck up to her, for attention.

Unhappy Couples Make These Sex Mistakes – Do You?

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Sex mistakes are something that happens in almost every relationship, especially if two people have been together for any real length of time. Some of them aren’t going to be that bad and may give you or your partner a laugh or two, but we’re not talking about passing gas on accident during sex. There are a few problems that guys and gals have that can cause distress in the relationship – or end it completely. Do you make sex mistakes that could end it all?

Waiting To Get In The Right Mood

This is one of the worst mistakes that you can make! Many people in relationships wait to get in the right mood before having sex. While waiting for the mood to strike will definitely make for an incredibly hot evening, the chances of that actually happening are few and far between. For many people, day to day life often gets in the way of sexual intimacy and it’s difficult to actually get in the mood after a long day of work, making dinner and taking care of the kids. Instead of waiting for the mood to hit you, try setting a date for sex and do it whether you feel like it or not. Chances are, once you shut the rest of the world out and focus on you and your partner getting it on, you’ll find that you’re much more into it than you were when you started.

Foregoing Trying Something New

If you are stuck in a “comfort zone,” you’re certainly not alone. Like chicken soup when you’re sick, the boring old, we’re-doing-it-just-to-be-doing-it sex is comforting – but unlike chicken soup does, this very rarely ever hits the spot. Break out of your rut by trying a few new things instead of simply sticking to what you know. Try some new sex positions, or incorporate a new sex toy into the mix. You can play sexy dress up or even try taking dirty to each other. Use your creativity! No matter what you do, don’t get stuck doing the same thing over and over in the bedroom. It’s time to mix it up!

Thinking Sex Education Is For Beginners

People who have been doing it for awhile seem to believe that reading up on sex or how to give their partner an incredible orgasm is for beginners. They assume that since they’ve been doing it for years that they know all there is to know about it! Instead of thinking that you already know how to push your partner’s pleasure buttons, try reading a little bit on how to go down on your partner and get them begging for more. Or, you can always try communicating with them by asking them what feels good, what they like and what they don’t like. Don’t worry – an old dog can learn new tricks!

Thinking Sex Is A Means To An End

After being with someone for awhile, you stop relishing every moment you’re naked with your partner. You’ve seen her butt and her breasts a thousand times and she’s seen your package up close and personal more times than either of you would like to count, and not because you were doing it at the time. Men and women that live together or spend a lot of time together see each other naked a lot and often in very compromising situations. This usually leads people to feel less like taking their time with foreplay and more like doing it just to get an orgasm. Take some time out to cherish your partner’s body and enjoy it like you did before you saw it on the toilet or plucking stray hairs in weird places.

Withholding Sex

Women are notorious for withholding sex from their lovers when they’re angry. Chances are, the guy doesn’t even know why she doesn’t want to do it – or what he did wrong in the first place. Save the withholding for when you really have a headache or aren’t feeling good. Withholding to punish your guy won’t do a darn thing besides keep you from getting an amazing climax. Instead, tell your man what you’re upset about or why you’re angry and talk it out instead of being passive aggressive. You may just find that after talking to your partner and hearing an apology or his side of the story may make you less angry – and everyone knows that some of the best sex on earth is after a huge fight!

What To Keep In Mind – And In Your Purse – If You’re Single

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Safe sex is the best kind of sex, especially if you’re single. Many single women aren’t ready to get pregnant and have a baby, and nobody wants to contract a sexually transmitted disease or infection like chlamydia or HIV and AIDS. If safety is on your checklist for great sex, here are some things you may want to keep in your purse in case you get caught in an an impromptu situation and want the freedom to have safe sex if you’d like to.

Condoms

Keeping condoms in your purse may seem like a no-brainer, but many women end up getting caught in impromptu sex situations unprepared. Condoms protect against pregnancy and most STD’s. Although condoms aren’t foolproof, they’re the best sex accessory if you want to have fun and safe sex without having to worry about getting pregnant when you’re not ready or contracting a sexually transmitted disease or infection that is at best inconvenient and at worst life threatening. You may also want to keep flavored condoms in your purse in the event of oral sex. When keeping condoms in your purse, don’t throw them in there unless they’re in a protective sleeve or case first. Putting condoms in your purse loose can cause the wrapper or condom to get holes in it when all of the stuff in your purse bounces around during daily use. Guys shouldn’t put condoms in their wallet, because this can cause condoms to break down faster due to temperature issues. Condoms should be kept clean and dry and at room temperature to stay effective. Always inspect the wrapper first to check for holes or damage, and make sure you check the expiration date if you’ve had it for awhile.

Spermicide

Some couples don’t like using spermicide for pregnancy protection, but it can be an excellent option if you’re with an STD free partner and don’t want to use condoms, but still want protection from unplanned and unwanted pregnancy. Spermicide is also a great option for women or couples who want another layer of protection in addition to condoms or birth control – or both. Spermicides come in many different forms, some that are more convenient than others. Contraceptive foam is the least expensive, but may burn or cause discomfort for you or your sex partner. Suppositories are good options because they are small and easy to carry, but your partner will most likely know that you’ve used spermicide. The newest type of spermicide on the market is a contraceptive film. It is a thin, clear square that looks like plastic and is folded up and placed in the vagina behind the cervix. It takes about ten to fifteen minutes, but the film will “melt” and create a gel-like barrier of spermicide in front of the cervix. They can be kept in a purse or wallet and can be used discreetly without your partner knowing you’ve used it.

Birth Control

If you’d like to take pregnancy protection into your own hands, consider going on birth control if you’re not already on it. Talk to your doctor about the right kind of birth control for you and how to take it so it is most effective against unplanned pregnancies. Birth control doesn’t protect against STD’s, so if you’re with a new partner, make sure you’re using a condom as well. Plan-B, or emergency contraception, is a good thing to keep on hand as well, in case a condom breaks or you miss too many birth control pills.

Dental Dam

A dental dam is a small square of latex or plastic that is laid over the vagina during cunnilingus to prevent the transmission of sexually transmitted diseases. Contrary to popular belief, there are many STD’s that can be transmitted through oral sex on a woman including chlamydia and yeast infections. Keeping a dental dam in your purse will ensure that you’ve got it if you need it – for example, you’d like a new partner to perform oral sex on you but he won’t do so without the necessary safe sex tools. Many women believe that using a dental dam is less pleasurable than feeling the tongue itself, but you can closely mimic this feeling by putting a dab of lube underneath the dental dam, in between the latex and the clitoris. This allows the dental dam to slide around on the vagina, much like a tongue or mouth would. Many dental dams come in flavors, making it much much more pleasurable for the partner giving the oral sex.