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5 Tips For Better Car Sex

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Car sex isn’t as easy as it sounds – especially if you’re on the go. Having car sex is great fun and super titillating (and an awesome way to spice up your sex life) but getting comfortable – and getting off – can take some creativity. Here are 5 excellent suggestions for having better car sex, so you and your partner can get it on behind the wheel.

Road Head

If you’ve never had car sex before, you’ve probably at least given road head. Giving a blowjob while your partner is behind the wheel is daring and sexy – and it’s the perfect way to turn a boring road trip into something more fun and exciting! Safety is key here, because the giving partner usually can’t keep their seatbelt on during the blowjob. Try doing this on a back road, or a deserted highway with no curves, stop lights or stop signs. When you’re about to have an orgasm, pull over or stop the car in some way, especially if you feel like you’re losing control. You also want to make sure the road you’re driving on is smooth, without dips, bumps or potholes!

The Hood Of The Car

When the weather is mild, the hood of your car will serve as a great platform for car sex. Of course, you’ll want to be in a deserted area or private garage if you’re not looking to get caught by anyone. Perform oral sex on your partner by having them sit on the hood while you crouch, or have her sit on the hood and stand during intercourse. The hood of the car is also a great place to get in the doggy style position, with her leaning over the hood of the car and the man standing up behind her. The trunk sometimes also works for this, but the hood is probably your best bet for simplicity and comfort.

The Backseat

The backseat of the car is, of course, the most popular place to have car sex. If it’s too cold to do it outside on the hood (or too hot), the backseat of the car provides a comfortable place to get busy without being exposed to the outdoors. It’s also a great place for car sex if you’re looking for a little privacy. You can get into lots of different sex positions in the backseat of the car, including doggy style, missionary, woman on top or even reverse cowgirl. Oral sex can be performed in the backseat, but usually only in the sixty nine position where both partners are giving and receiving oral sex.

The Front Seat

While the front driver’s seat won’t work at all (except for road head) for car sex, the front passenger’s seat can allow you to get into some interesting – and fun – sex positions! If you want to do oral sex in the front seat, lean the seat back as far as it will go and have your partner straddle your face. You can also do girl on top in the front seat, and the angle is perfect for mind blowing g-spot orgasms in this position.

Making Car Sex Comfortable

If you haven’t cleaned your car out in awhile, now is the time to take it for a full wash and vacuum. Crumbs and old food wrappers are not sexy – nor are they comfortable if you’re laying on them naked! Make sure to have condoms with you, but never store them in your car if it’s too hot or cold outside (this could break down the latex and make the condom ineffective). You’ll also want to have some paper towels, tissue or wet wipes available so you and your partner can clean up easily after you have sex. Planning ahead and having a few things available to you before you have car sex will keep you from regretting it later.

Car Sex Safety

Safety is, of course, the most important factor when it comes to car sex. If you’re parked and in a secluded area, it’s pretty safe as far as not incurring bodily harm goes. You may or may not get caught – which may or may not be part of the sexual thrill! If you’re trying to have sex while you’re in a moving car (namely if someone else is driving), you stand a chance of getting hurt if the car wrecks. In the latter situation, you also have other people to worry about too – whoever is driving on the road with you could be involved in an accident with you. Just remember that when you’re having fun, it’s important to be safe too!

Female Ejaculation: Give Her A Squirting Orgasm In 7 Easy Steps!

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Female ejaculation exists, and a squirting orgasm is like the holy grail of all female orgasms. This might be new to you, but contrary to popular belief, women do experience the release of ejaculation just like guys do. Kudos to the men who can make their ladies “gush” and attain the ultimate in sexual ecstasy! For those who want their women to achieve a squirting orgasm during your intimate moments with your girl, the following steps will come in handy! (Warning: Once you please a woman in this manner, it will create incredible bonds of intimacy between the both of you – so use this tips ONLY with the woman you really love).

#1: An Exciting Prelude To Begin Sexual Exploration

Make the foreplay hot and steamy for your partner. Start out with small bites on the earlobes and along the contours of the neck, followed by smooth and tender sucking on both nipples. Use light touches along the torso with your fingertips. Do these until you come into contact with the inner thighs. Let your lover be the one to guide you once she is prepared to take the exploration to a new level.

#2: Licking Is More Than Just The Movement Of Your Tongue

Start off by sliding your tongue along the vulva to the clitoris and along the borders of your lover’s vagina. The upward and downward motion of your tongue should be done repeatedly and unhurriedly. Use the broad part of your tongue for best results.

#3: Light Touches Along The Mounds Of The Most Private Areas

Allow the tip of your tongue to travel along the labia minora. To make this more pleasurable for a woman, let your tongue slide along this minute mound along with with some momentary sucking.

#4: Next Stop Is The Clitoris

Tenderly suck on your girl’s clitoris. You can move your tongue in various directions. Make your hands busy at the same time. Gently caress both breasts and have the tips of your fingers make light touches on the nipples and on more sensitive spots.

#5: Roll That Tongue!

Curl your tongue into a tube-like shape and insert it into the vagina as gently as you can. This step may be a little tricky especially for first-timers, but with enough practice, you can make your partner go wild.

#6: The Power Of Your Fingers

Insert two fingers into the vagina with your palm facing upward. Find the G-spot – a mound of flesh inside the vagina, about one to two inches in size. Lightly touch and add pressure on the G-spot using your fingertips. You will feel this flesh swelling up and become more rigid as you continue to stimulate it.

#7: The Most Awaited Moment – A Squirting Orgasm!

At this point, she will most likely reach the peak of sexual excitement and be able to experience the “gush” of female ejaculation. However, before she ejaculates, she may have a tingling urge to urinate. Assure your girl that it perfectly safe to let go. Act natural and make your partner feel that you are totally at ease, because this way, the sexual encounter becomes a lot more special. And with this, she will surely ask for more!

Kinky Sex: 6 Sex Fetishes You Didn’t Know Existed

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There’s kinky sex and then there’s kinky sex. You may think that a little bondage and some fuzzy handcuffs in the bedroom is pretty out there, but it’s guaranteed that there are dozens (and maybe even hundreds) of different sex fetishes and fantasies that you didn’t even know about. From diapers to stuffed animals to erotic asphyxiation, check out these sex fetishes that you probably didn’t know existed!

Diaper Fetish

If you’ve never heard of a diaper fetish, now you have. People who enjoy diapers while making love (or just enjoy wearing diapers period) are called “diaper lovers” or “adult babies” and contrary to popular belief, they have no interest whatsoever in pedophilia. People who enjoy using diapers during coitus may like to urinate in the diapers or have their partners urinate in them, or may enjoy pulling the diapers to the side to perform oral sex on their lovers. Some adult babies will go so far as to purchase child like pajamas or even use pacifiers while sleeping or while making love. Now that’s kinky sex!

Erotic Asphyxiation

A truly dangerous form of kinky sex, this is one of the sex fetishes you don’t want to mess with. It is more dangerous than pleasurable and is one of the only sex fetishes that can result in death. Either during intercourse or masturbation, a person who enjoys erotic asphyxiation will tie a cord, scarf or other item around their neck to cut off blood and oxygen to the brain during orgasm. This supposedly makes an orgasm much more intense and satisfying. At best, the person who is participating in erotic asphyxiation will pass out at the point of orgasm and come to a little later after the body resumes normal function on its own. At worst, passing out before the cord is untied will cause the brain to go without blood and oxygen too long – causing brain damage (if the person is discovered in time) or death.

Klismaphilia

Klismaphilia is often one of the sex fetishes that people who enjoy anal sex like, and this is a form of kinky sex indeed. Klismaphilia refers to the sexual pleasure that some people derive from giving or receiving an enema. People who enjoy this activity will often fantasize about getting an enema, and will get aroused and may even reach orgasm while getting an enema or during the elimination process. Klismaphiliacs may go to the doctor or hospital to get an enema under the pretense of being constipated, or they may engage in this activity in secret as many adult toy stores offer devices such as enema tools, latex gloves and vaginal speculums for those into medical fetishes.

Hybristophilia

Hybristophilia is a fetish that is described often as the “Bonnie and Clyde Syndrome” where people (most often women) have a sexual fascination with someone who has committed a violent or gruesome crime. Many prisoners with sensationalized murder cases receive “fan mail” in prison from women who have sex fetishes or fantasies about the perpetrators of the crime and may even fantasize about being a part of the crime or witnessing it happening. Since most hybristophiliacs aren’t able to experience this type of kinky sex in person, their sex fetishes are usually expressed during masturbation. Some women, however, have even been known to marry the objects of their affection while they’re in prison. Passive hybristophiliacs often stick to writing letters to violent criminals, while more active hybristophiliacs may even be an accomplice in a heinous crime.

Plushophilia

Plushophiliacs have sex fetishes with stuffed animals or people who wear animal costumes, such as sports mascots or holiday characters such as the Easter Bunny. Men and women who are plushophiliacs may enjoy having intercourse with their partners dressed up in plush costumes, or they may experience this sex fantasy during masturbation with a small stuffed animal. Both men and women can be plushophiliacs, but not all fans of furry critters enjoy them sexually – called “furry fandom.”

Burusera

Burusera is the Japanese equivalent of a “panty fetish.” Men with Burusera style sex fetishes enjoy smelling, touching, masturbating with and even licking a girl’s used panties. This type of kinky sex was so prevalent in Japan at one time, that many Burusera shops existed to cater to clientele that wanted to purchase used panties and swimwear for sexual pleasure. Unfortunately, many more young girls were targeted as providers of used panties than those over the age of 18, so many Burusera shops were shut down and laws were passed to keep young girls from selling their panties to individuals or shops.

5 Sex Mistakes Men Make In Bed – And How To Avoid Them

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Most guys make sex mistakes in bed, blundering about the bedroom instead of knowing what they’re doing. The most common challenges they face when doing it with their partners is not technique or how to’s, but their own assumptions and misconceptions about making love from a woman’s point of view. Start putting yourself in her shoes and you’ll quit making rookie errors and start rocking her world and giving her an earth shattering orgasm. Here are the top five sex mistakes that a man will make in bed and how you can avoid them!

Assuming What Worked For One Woman Will Work For Another

Guys are notorious for thinking that if they did a great job pleasuring one woman – let’s say with oral sex – that the same exact techniques will work on another woman. They often will believe that because the first woman had an amazing, mind blowing orgasm, that he suddenly decoded how women work and can give every woman an orgasm if he simply just repeats what he did the first time on any other woman he ends up doing it with. This is one of the most common but jeapordizing sex mistakes a man can make! The reality is that no two women like the exact same things and discovering what a new lover likes is part of the beauty of having a new sexual relationship. Instead of assuming you know exactly what a woman wants or needs based on what you’ve done before with other women, wipe the proverbial slate clean in between each partner and get to know what they like and dislike through good old fashioned trial and error.

You Think You Offer Everything She Needs

Many women can’t reach orgasm without the aid of a vibrator or other sex toys. A lot of men share the misconception that if a woman needs a vibrator to reach climax that there’s something “wrong” with her. A lot of guys go into a sexual relationship believing that everything his new partner needs is underneath his belt buckle, but that assumption couldn’t be farther from the truth and is one of the more common sex mistakes that men can make. If your partner needs a vibrator to have an orgasm, think of the vibrator as a sort of “partner in crime” to assist you in making your partner scream your name while in the throes of pleasure.

You Forget The Lube

Unfortunately, one of the biggest sex mistakes that guys make is forgetting to bring – or use – a good, water based lube. A lot of guys think that if he just gets her turned on enough that she’ll get wet – and of course, the wetter she gets, the more he turned her on, right? Not exactly. A woman could be very turned on and not have very much vaginal lubrication at all, or vice versa. If she’s not slick enough, penetration is going to be extremely uncomfortable or even painful for her, and she definitely won’t enjoy it or have any chance at reaching orgasm. Avoid this rookie error and insist on using lube.

Underestimating The Power Of The Clitoris

A man’s anatomy and how he uses it for sex is simple, and therefore, he assumes a woman’s anatomy must respond the same way his does. It feels good to him when he puts his penis in her vagina, so it must feel good to her to have his penis in her vagina. The harder he thrusts, the closer he gets to orgasm, so the same must be true for her. This of course, is pretty much the opposite of how a woman’s anatomy really works and one of the more common but frustrating sex mistakes for women to have to deal with. Many women can’t climax at all from vaginal penetration alone and the quickest way to bring a woman to orgasm is to stimulate her clitoris. Doing this in addition to penetration will give her much more pleasure than just penetration alone.

Not Making Any Noise

Whether he’s embarrassed or just thinks that silence in the sack is better, one of the most common sex mistakes that a man can make is not making any noise when he hits the sheets. If she’s giving you an amazing blowjob, she wants to hear how great you think it is – even if all you can manage is a few moans here and there. If you’re quiet, she may assume she’s doing something wrong and start trying to do something else – which can be completely frustrating for you if she was on the right track to pleasing you in the first place. Instead of being quiet, allow your inner animal to escape and don’t worry about how you sound. Your girl will get off on the fact that you can’t hold your pleasure in!

Sex Toys: What Is Your Favorite Cock Ring?

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One of the most popular sex toys out there are cock rings and many couples use them during sex – and some men even use them during masturbation. Cock rings are designed to keep blood in the penis during an erection, instead of allowing the blood to flow out. This can help men with erectile dysfunction get and maintain an erection, and it can also help enhance and magnify sensations during sex. There are so many different styles, colors, shapes and sizes of cock rings that are available – so which one is the best one to try?

Question:  Please tell us all about your favorite cock rings! My boyfriend and i use them all the time, and we’re always up for trying different ones out!

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Decide What Sex Toys You Are Looking For

Since there are so many different sex toys out there, it’s important to decide what you are looking for ahead of time. For example, if you are looking for a vibrator, start thinking about what you want it to do. Do you want it to have multiple speeds, be waterproof, or have attachments for anal penetration? The same goes for cock rings – decide what you want the ring to achieve before you go out and get one. Do you want one that vibrates so you can enjoy it as much as your partner? Or do you want something textured, or just a simple, metal ring? What size do you need? Thinking about the details first before you make a purchase will help keep you from being overwhelmed at all the choices that are available to you and help you narrow it down to what you actually want.

Safety Tips To Keep In Mind

When it comes to using sex toys, there are always safety tips that make things safer and therefore, more fun. While using a cock ring seems pretty straightforward, there are some things to keep in mind so you and your partner can both have fun in a safe way. Always use a good water or silicone based lube to slide the cock ring on. Trying to put one on without lube will either be very uncomfortable for your partner or you won’t be able to get it on at all. Never use a cock ring for more than thirty minutes. It is possible for the penis to swell beyond the point where you can actually get the ring off afterwards, which would require an emergency call to your doctor. Thirty minutes is about the maximum amount of time a man can safely wear a cock ring. Always use a good toy cleaner after use to keep your toys clean, and avoid putting jelly or silicone style cock rings together – they can actually adhere to each other!

Different Sex Toys To Try

Cock rings come in all different shapes, sizes and textures. There are many more options available than just your simple ring-style toy. Here are some different ones you can try:

His And Hers Rabbits Cockring: Two vibrating rabbits are attached to a silicone ring that slides over the penis. The rabbits’ ears are designed to stimulate her clitoris and his testicles at the same time!

Bong O Cock Ring: A silicone vibrating ring that has a weighted gold ball attachement that is designed to bounce over a man’s testicles and perineum for added stimulation for him.

Double Penetrator Cockring: A silicone toy with a dildo attached to the base of the ring to allow for double penetration. Use this to have vaginal penetration and anal sex at the same time!

 If you’ve never tried a cock ring before, start basic and work your way up to the more adventerous styles of sex toys. If you’re using one simply to help your erection last longer, a simple, metal style ring will work just as well – if not better – than some of the softer, silicone varieties. The soft, silicone toys are great for men and couples that are just having fun, but may lack enough substance to really keep your erection going strong. If you’ve already experimented with this type of stimulation before, don’t be afraid to try new ones and check out some different styles. While the actual ring is designed to make an erection stronger, the attachements that come on different styles are geared towards so many different things from amazing clitoral stimulation to anal sex and more. The great thing about this type of sex toy is that the different sensations that you can experience are never ending!