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The 5 Hottest Oral Sex Tips On The Planet – For Her

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When giving your girl oral sex, you’re bound to rock her world no matter which techniques you use because let’s face it – almost every girl out there loves oral sex. There are, however, some oral sex techniques that will blow the rest out of the water. Just about every girl responds with earth shattering orgasms with these top 5 oral sex tips, so read on to find out how you can make your lady’s thighs quiver with pleasure.

Flick Her Clitoris With Your Tongue

Stick the tip of your tongue out and form it into the shape of a firm point. Lick your partner’s clitoris firmly from side to side (or up and down, whichever she responds to best) with the tip of your tongue, flicking it as fast as you can. This will bring her to orgasm faster than just about any other oral sex technique out there, because you’re actually stimulating the entire clitoris when you do this. The clitoris that you see on the outside of her vagina is not all there is to it – the clitoris actually runs on either side of her vulva, underneath the skin. By flicking it quickly with a firm pointed tongue, not only are you stimulating it from the outside, but the vibrations you’re creating stimulates the part that you don’t see as well.

Say Your ABC’s

If you want to take your time when going down on your partner, slowly working her up to a toe curling, sheet grabbing orgasm, use this simple yet effective technique to drive her absolutely wild. Form your tongue into a firm point and trace the tip of it over your partner’s clitoris in an “ABC” pattern. You’ll start with the letter “A”, tracing either a capital or a lowercase “A” onto her clitoris with your tongue. Do this slowly and work your way through the alphabet, all the way to the letter “Z.” This is a technique that is best performed at a slow pace, but you can also speed up how fast you trace the letters depending on what she seems to like. You can also vary your speed to bring her closer to orgasm and back down again until she just can’t hold it in anymore.

Finger Her While Licking Her Clitoris

To give her a blended orgasm, finger her while you go down on her. As you’re licking her clitoris, slowly insert your finger into her vagina palm side up. Feel for her g-spot and once you find it, use the “come hither” motion to stimulate it. Switch back and forth between licking her and fingering her, until she’s close. Then you can begin doing both techniques at once. Your partner will love having you stimulate both of her hot spots at once and her orgasm will be wall shaking!

Pinch Her Nipples

The super sensitive nerves in your partner’s nipples are connected to the pleasure nerves in her clitoris and vagina, so pinching or rubbing her nipples as you go down on her will drive her absolutely wild. To tease her, start by stimulating her nipples with your mouth and stimulating her clitoris with your fingers. After you’ve gotten her good and aroused, switch to stimulating her nipples with your hands and using your mouth where your hands used to be. She’ll love the different sensations on each of her body parts. If you can keep your balance, try fingering her g-spot as you lick her clitoris and pinch her nipples. The multiple sensations will bring her to a climax like no other!

Don’t Spare An Inch

When going down on your partner, don’t leave an inch of her vulva or vagina unexplored. This is easier if she practices good genital hygiene habits, so if she’s not super fresh beforehand, start by taking a shower with her and soaping her up first (this will also help turn her on). As you begin to lick your partner’s clitoris, don’t stop there. Move your tongue in and out of her every fold. You can even penetrate her vaginal opening with your tongue or place your entire mouth over her vulva and suck. Just use your creativity here and make sure you don’t leave anything between her legs un-licked or sucked on. When performing oral sex on a girl, many guys stick to the clitoris only, which leaves many sensitive spots unexplored. You’ll treat her to dozens of new sensations as you “go where no other has gone before.”

Q&A: Condoms – What Size Do I Need?

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Condom shopping isn’t always easy because condoms come in a variety of different shapes and sizes. Condom sizes also differ from manufacturer to manufacturer, so it can be difficult to determine the best size for you in a particular brand. Getting the right size for you is important, because an ill fitting condom can reduce pleasurable sensations during sex at best or slip off and increase the risk of transmitting STD’s and unwanted pregnancy. Here’s how to find out what size YOU need!

Question:  According to a condom size chart I’m 5 inches long erect. What condom size do I need?

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Basic Condom Size Guidelines

If you look on the back of a condom box, each manufacturer provides basic guidelines on how large a condom is, in both length and width. You’ll also be able to find out what material it is made from and whether it comes lubricated or not. They may also provide information on how thick it is, so you can choose the thickness that provides the best and most pleasurable sensations. Most people will choose the thinnest condom that is available because this tends to allow both partners to feel more friction than their thicker counterparts. While getting a thin condom may help make sex better for you and your partner, it is much more important that you get the correct size, as this will make the biggest difference. Looking at the manufacturer’s specifications will give you a general idea of how large it is, and you can compare it to how large your penis is after you’ve measured it. Like most things though, the size of a condom will differ somewhat between manufacturers. An XL in one brand is not going to fit the same as an XL in another brand. Accurately measuring your penis and purchasing the correct size for it is an important part of having safer sex and preventing sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancies.

Making Sure The Condom Fits Comfortably

When a condom is stretched lengthwise, it is much more stretchy and resilient than if it is stretched widthwise. Keep this in mind when going shopping – unless you have a very long penis, you’ll want to judge it mostly by its width, since there won’t be much give in that respect. You will be much more comfortable in one that fits the width of your penis properly! A condom that fits well lengthwise should actually be a little longer than your penis, with enough space at the tip to hold your semen when you orgasm. A condom that fits comfortably is going to benefit you and your partner during sex in many more ways than you would think. You (and your partner) will enjoy sex more, because one that doesn’t fit right will either hug you too tightly and cause discomfort or be too loose and decrease the pleasurable sensations from having sex.

Giving Condoms A Test Drive

A great way to find out which condoms fit you well and which don’t is to purchase a variety of them and give each one a test drive. Once you have a basic idea of how they should fit, you’ll be able to decide which one fits best on you and feels better for your partner. Many stores that sell sex toys also offer several different types of “variety packs” which give you one or two of each type of condom for you to try. It may seem silly, but don’t be afraid to take notes about which ones feel better than others and which condoms your partner seems to like the best. Once you determine which one is the right one for you, it will become your “go to” condom. Keep a good supply of your favorite one available, but don’t keep them in your wallet, your jeans pockets or your car. Women should not keep condoms in their purses unless they are protected by a hard case of some kind. The friction caused by a pair of pants or a wallet can cause the wrapper to degrade, possibly making holes in the wrapper and compromising the integrity of the condom. Keeping it in your car will expose the material to extreme heat and cold, possibly causing the latex or polyurethane to degrade, thereby decreasing it’s effectiveness at preventing pregnancy and reducing the risk of transmitting STD’s. Your best bet is to keep condoms stored in a cool, dry place to keep it “fresher” longer. Always inspect the wrapper thoroughly before using it for tears or holes.

Q&A: Swinging & Threesomes – When Things Go Bump In The Night

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Lots of male/female couples are interested in swinging or having a threesome, but many guys are worried about having a threesome with another guy. That’s why most of the time, threesomes end up being between a guy and two girls, rather than a girl and two guys. Being nervous about a MFM threesome is common, but sometimes there may be pressure on you from your girl or the other guy to be ok with it. Before you jump into something you’re not sure about, there are a few things that come into play when discussing a threesome with your partner, from whether you’re comfortable with something to what’s ok and what’s not ok.

Question: (paraphrased from German-English…)

Hope we get the points correctly… I’ve been with my girlfriend for 1 ½ years and we’ve always been into fetishes and stuff. We’ve been going to a fetish club for a while and it’s really nice and the people are great. We thought about getting with another girl or a couple but the last time we tried to be a bit voyeuristic, a ‘guy’ tried to get with us. Since then I’m not sure what to think. I’m still interested in another girl or couple – but not sure about the guy thing?

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Communication Is Key

Communicating with your partner about having a threesome or a foursome is absolutely essential before you – and whoever else you’re planning on having sex with – step foot in the bedroom. Sit down and talk with your partner about how you feel about having a threesome or swinging and encourage them to open up about how they feel about it too. Keeping feelings and thoughts about having an open marriage is often what ends up causing trouble down the road after things have already gotten started and you can’t really go back. If you’re uncomfortable with something, or don’t want certain things to happen during the threesome, make your concerns known and talk about them with your partner. Talk about feelings of jealousy or trust issues and make sure you and your partner are both on the same page when it comes to having a threesome.

Define What You’re Uncomfortable With

When talking with your partner about what is ok and what is not ok during the threesome, don’t be afraid to define exactly what you’re comfortable with or uncomfortable with. Is kissing others on the mouth ok, or would you prefer to only kiss your partner on the mouth? Is oral sex or anal sex ok, or are those things you’d like to steer clear of? This is where you want to speak up if having another man in the equation is not something you’re comfortable with. If you’d prefer a MFF threesome instead of a MFM – or you’re totally against having a MFM threesome – let your partner know. Define exactly what you’re uncomfortable with (as well as what is ok) so there are absolutely no questions later.

Nobody Takes One For The Team

In a threesome situation, there is no such thing as “taking one for the team.” It is not ok to pressure someone to try to like something or be okay with something just so you can enjoy yourself and the same goes for if you’re uncomfortable with something – you don’t have to “try” to like something or pretend you’re ok with something during a threesome so your partner and whoever else is involved can have fun. If you’re not into anal sex, don’t let someone pressure you into “just trying it out” to see how you like it. Make it clear that it’s something that is not ok, before heading to the bedroom. Hopefully, you’ve had a chance to not only talk to your partner about what you aren’t ok with, but also with the other person or couple who will be joining you. If you’ve done this already, chances are, things you’re not ok with (and things other people aren’t ok with) won’t even come up during the situation. On occasion, couples will go to sex clubs and end up meeting someone that they want to take home with them that night, and there’s not really time to discuss the ins and outs of what you want to happen during the threesome. If this is the case, don’t be afraid to speak up during sex and say, “This is not something I’m comfortable with, can we try something else?” Your partner should have your back, especially if you’ve already talked with them about the threesome.

Homemade Sex Toys – Part 2

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Homemade sex toys are definitely a popular alternative to professional sex toys because they’re often much more convenient to purchase (especially for girls and guys under the age of eighteen) and use. Many things – such as phallic shaped vegetables – you can purchase at the grocery store, and others you already have lying around your house. However, does that mean that homemade sex toys are better to use? Not exactly. Here are some popular homemade sex toys, as well as some professional alternatives that just might serve you a little better.

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Cucumber Or Zucchini

A very popular homemade sex toy is the cucumber or zucchini. Many girls like to experiment with these instead of a traditional dildo, because it is easy to experiment with different sizes, shapes and textures. Other popular vegetables that can be used in place of a dildo include carrots and celery. These types of vegetables are popular sex toys among teenage girls and women alike, because they do not require a special trip to an adult toy store – instead, they’re available everywhere, including your local grocery and convenience stores. The downsides to using phallic shaped sex toys in lieu of professional sex toys is that many vegetables have cuts or knicks in them that can harbor bacteria. This bacteria can be transferred to the vagina or anus and can cause an infection in the body. If you must use a vegetable instead of a sex toy, slip a condom over it.

Adam & Eve Alternative: Slim Pink Pleaser or The Illumination by Doc Johnson.

Spinning Toothbrush

Some women enjoy using a spinning or sonic toothbrush on the clitoris in place of a vibrator. This will actually definitely work well in a pinch, especially if you’re traveling and don’t want to take your favorite sex toy with you. However, this is probably not something you want to use long term, because frankly, there are just so many better things out there to use to massage and stimulate the clitoris to achieve orgasm. Besides, you don’t really want to put your toothbrush back in your mouth after you’ve just gotten done using it down there, do you? Professional sex toys designed for clitoral stimulation are probably the best choice here, because many of them are just as discreet and easy to use. Think of a soft, squishy yet textured clitoral vibrator that feels just like a tongue – plus more.

Adam & Eve Alternative: The Illumination by Doc Johnson or The Clitoral Kisser

Toilet Paper Roll

Many guys use a toilet paper roll for masturbation instead of their hands – ouch! They achieve a “vagina like feel” by stuffing a grocery bag inside the roll and squirting lube inside to allow it to slide up and down the penis. While this is definitely a cheaper alternative than a professional male masturbator, there are definitely some disadvantages to using this type of homemade sex toy. First of all, a male masturbator made from latex or silicone just feels better, and can come textured or ribbed for your pleasure. Paired with a good lube, a male masturbator will make it feel more like a vagina. Male masturbators are surprisingly inexpensive and easy to purchase – plus they can be turned inside out and cleaned thoroughly (with either special sex toy cleaner or good old fashioned hot soapy water) to make it last longer.

Adam & Eve Alternative: The Super Head Honcho Masturbator

Clothespins

Men and women have both been known to use spring clothespins as nipple clamps. This is actually a very bad idea! Clothespins cannot be adjusted at all to make them squeeze harder or softer, and usually they squeeze really, really hard (unless they’re broken). Clothespins can squeeze too hard and hurt or bruise the nipple, making it painful for days afterwards. Instead, try to find professional nipple clamps with a sliding adjuster on it that will allow you to control how hard the clamp will squeeze. If you like rough sex, move the slider so that the clamp squeezes harder. If you prefer vanilla sex, adjust the clamp so that it only gives you a light pressure sensation.

Adam & Eve Alternative: Feather Fetish Nipple Clamp or Micro Vibrating Nipple Clamps

DIY Anal Beads

Some people who enjoy anal sex are using marbles, golf balls or other round objects of varying sizes and placing them in a condom to create a homemade set of anal beads. They either tie the condom in knots between the round objects or use string to tie them. While this will work to provide stimulation of the prostate gland, it is a very dangerous homemade sex toy to use. The condom can easily break and the objects inside can get lost inside the anal cavity, causing you a very expensive and embarrassing trip to the emergency room. Most anal beads are inexpensive and come in a variety of sizes for people who enjoy different anal sensations. Anal beads are also safer to use because they can be cleaned thoroughly with a toy cleaner or soap and hot water. It is extremely important to keep your anal sex toys clean and wash them after each and every use!

Adam & Eve Alternative: x10 Anal Beads

How To Make Morning Sex Better

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Morning sex has its own special appeal – many couples like morning sex better than they like regular “after-the-kids-go-to-bed” sex or even “anniversary-sex.” While having sex with your partner in the morning before work can definitely make your whole day turn out better, sometimes morning sex can be a little lackluster. Here’s a few things you can do to have better sex in the morning – and maybe make your partner want it later that day too!

Set The Alarm Early

Morning sex is great, but when it’s rushed and one or both partners don’t get to reach orgasm, it can lose its appeal very quickly. If you and your partner are in the mood and start fooling around, only to be interrupted by the realization that you both are going to be very late for work, it can quickly put a damper on things. Not only will you and your partner find it difficult to reach climax when you’re rushed like that, you may have to end things before one or both of you get to have an orgasm so you can get to work on time. Instead, set the alarm fifteen to thirty minutes early to allow you and your partner both enough time to have an orgasm. If you and your partner aren’t in the mood, feel free to set the snooze alarm or get up and make yourself a cup of coffee and read the newspaper. If you do decide to have morning sex though, you’ll both be grateful for that extra few minutes that will allow you to finish on a good note.

Go To The Bathroom And Brush Your Teeth

Chances are, you or your partner (or both of you) are going to have to get up and use the bathroom before having sex in the morning. After holding it all night long, you might find it difficult to have an orgasm if your bladder is full of urine. This goes for both men and women, so make sure to head to the restroom soon after your alarm goes off. While you’re at it, go ahead and give your teeth a quick brush. One of the biggest complaints about morning sex is that partners don’t want to start kissing each other when they both have morning breath and that a blowjob will taste a little different when there is a buildup of plaque on your teeth and in your mouth. You don’t have to spend a lot of time brushing your teeth before morning sex (after all, you’re probably antsy to get busy while you still have time) because you can always go back later and do a more thorough job before heading off to work. But giving your mouth a good once over before heading back to bed for some hanky panky can make a big difference when getting close to your partner.

Keep The Lube Nearby

Most of the time, morning sex ends up being a quick or at least semi-quick affair. A woman’s body takes a few to several minutes getting warmed up enough to produce natural lubricant – so if you put two and two together, you’ll figure out that the time for mornings sex may be over before she even gets wet enough to have sex comfortably and even have a shot at having an orgasm. Instead of having a dry, uncomfortable quickie in the morning, keep the lube nearby so you can use readily use it. Sex with lube – whether it’s in the morning or at any other time during the day – is much better and will enhance the pleasurable sensations and make orgasms that much better!

Shower Together Afterwards

After having sex, you’ll probably want to take a shower, especially if it’s on your morning to-do list before heading off to work. Instead of trying to fit in quick showers separately while getting ready, take a shower together. This few minutes of non-sexual intimacy will help you and your partner really connect to each other, and give you both an even bigger dose of feel good hormones that will help last through the day. Wash her hair for each other and make sure to scrub each other’s backs with the loofah. You can also use the time together to talk to each other about the upcoming day and what each other’s plans are. Meeting up with each other to connect is an important part of any relationship and shower time after morning sex is a perfect way to fit emotional and physical intimacy and connection in your busy schedule!