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How To Tighten Your Vaginal Muscles And Have Sex Just Like The First Time!

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Ever wish you were as tight as you were when you had sex for the first time? Of course you have! After having kids and aging, your vagina likely doesn’t feel like it did to you or your partner. Here’s the one simple sex toy you can use to tighten your vaginal muscles and make every time feel like the first time all over again!

Kegel Exercises

Sure, you’ve heard of kegel exercises. Sit down (or stand up if you like – in fact, kegels can be done anywhere and anytime) clench your vaginal muscles as though you were stopping the flow of urine, hold for ten seconds or more and release. Repeat ad nauseam. Kegels are a very powerful way to tighten your vaginal and pelvic floor muscles, however, they’re not the only thing you can use and definitely not the best way to make your vagina feel like brand new again. For centuries, women have been using one secret sex toy to keep their vaginas tight and fit for sex and now you can too!

Ben Wa Balls

Ben Wa Balls are small, weighted balls that are inserted into your vagina and kept there for a period of time. You will naturally use all of your vaginal, anal and pelvic floor muscles to keep them inside your vaginal canal. This will completely and thoroughly exercise your muscles without you consciously having to do very much at all! There are so many different types of Ben Wa Balls available on the market and the best thing is that absolutely no one will know that you’re using them! For first time Ben Wa Ball users, start with lighter weight ones that have a string attached to them. You can get them in soft silicone or even the vibrating variety for extra pleasure! As you become a more advanced user, you can graduate to heavier balls, such as metal or glass balls, which will exercise your muscles more and more. Just like when exercising any muscle in your body, you need to start off small and build your way up to heavier equipment.

How To Get The Ultimate Tight Vagina

In addition to using Ben Wa Balls to tighten and improve the muscle tone in your vaginal walls, you can also use tightening and vaginal rejuvanation cream (such as PK24) to increase blood flow to your vagina and hydrate your vaginal walls. Creams and gels used for tightening aren’t long lasting, however, PK24 can last up to 24 hours. Other tightening products work for shorter periods, but can also be used right before sex to create even tighter sensations. Using Ben Wa Balls and tightening creams not only make sex better for your partner, but they will also make sex better for you! Women who use tightening creams and Ben Wa Balls regularly report having better, more powerful orgasms and that they’re able to reach orgasm more quickly and easily. If you’ve been living with vagina that you’re not happy with, don’t consider surgery or other drastic options until you’ve tried Ben Wa Balls first! They just might change the way you have sex forever!

Increase Your Sex Drive – Viagra Alternatives For Women

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You may or may not know this, but for women, sex is 50% physical and 50% mental. If we don’t feel balanced and healthy in both of those areas — the desire for sex just falls to the wayside. If we’re tired, stressed, or overwhelmed, we know that having sex will help us feel better, but often times, we just can’t get past the other “stuff” to want it much less enjoy it. This is where natural herbal supplements can help. They can help balance our hormones levels so that we feel more balanced, energized, and sexy. Here’s how women can increase their sex drive naturally – without harmful side effects.

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Sex For Women Starts On The Inside

It’s easy for day to day stresses to really take a toll on a woman’s psyche. After a long day at work, she’s probably not going to feel very sexy. Of course not! She’s tired – well, exhausted really – and her mind is going over a thousand things at once. She may be rushed and not eating balanced meals, which is going to make her body feel even more tired and worn down, and she may not have had time to get her hair and nails done or even get her eyebrows waxed. The point is, women can often feel very run down because of simple daily stresses and when this happens, they don’t feel very sexy at all. For a woman to feel really sexy, her body needs to be in balance. She needs to get the vitamins and nutrients she needs, as well as enough rest and enough time for personal hygiene.

How Natural Supplements Can Help

Natural supplements for female libido can actually make a huge difference in a woman’s life. Natural supplements don’t have the same side effects as pharmaceutical libido enhancers (such as Viagra or Levitra), and often include lots of things that woman needs in her body on a daily basis anyways. Many natural libido supplements contain vitamins and minerals that will help a woman’s body function properly, as well as containing all natural herbal ingredients that will help balance hormone levels and make a woman feel, well, like a woman again.

Feeling Better, Naturally

If a woman’s body is balanced, she is better equipped to handle the daily stresses that would normally get her down. She’ll feel less tired after work (even though nothing has changed at the office) and she’ll feel better about herself in general. She’ll naturally feel more sexy and womanly, which translates directly into more sex for both her and her partner. Instead of focusing on treating the symptoms of a decreased sex drive like pharmaceutical remedies do, herbal libido enhancers to increase sex drive focuses on the real root of the problem.

When a woman’s body and emotions are out of whack, everything is out of whack and there’s really no way that she can fully let herself go to have great sex. Herbal supplements for female libido might not only increase her sex drive naturally, but also help her to feel better about herself all around because her body is more balanced and it’s working properly. Her mind, emotions and sexual needs are all on the same level and she will feel better in almost all respects, including but of course not limited to – sex!

Female Orgasm Tips – 5 Powerful Ways to Make Sure She Gets Thigh-Quivering Orgasms (Every Time!)

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Did you know that direct penetration during sex is the least effective way to bring a woman to an orgasm? That is true. Men and women are wired differently when it comes to sex. It is far easier to stimulate a man to an orgasm than a woman. Yet when a woman climaxes, she usually does so with greater intensity than guys.

It is not easy to bring a woman to an orgasm through intercourse alone. In fact more women are known to achieve a climax through self-stimulation than through sex! So what are the tricks to make sure she gets one when you make love to her? Keep reading – these tips would keep her orgasmic furnace burning hot…

Tip #1 – “Emotions In Tandem”

Men and women are different because men can achieve an orgasm in almost any situation. It is easier for a woman to achieve an orgasm if she develops an emotional attachment or trust for the man she is with. Having said that, it is important to ensure your woman is comfortable and satisfied. A quick session for you will only leave her in the ‘rut’, totally unfulfilled!

You may think that you know your woman inside out; if she is having a real orgasm; if she is totally aroused. But in reality, it is not that simple. The first secret to a woman’s orgasm is to make love to her passionately and not treat her as a sex object waiting to fulfill your sexual lust.

Female orgasms should be treated in a delicate manner and you should work towards it. The secret in triggering an orgasm in any woman lies in building up an erotic anticipation to the point that she craves for you to bring her around in a hurry.

Tip #2 – “Kiss To Tease”

The very act of kissing alone can bring a woman to an orgasm if done correctly. Therefore, this should give you a good idea how pleasurable the simple act of passionate kissing can be to a woman. So before you proceed to lovemaking, indulge in some passionate kissing. Take your time to kiss her slowly and passionately. Kissing can activate her senses and set her on fire. Tease her; fill her to the brim with the desire of wanting you.

Tip #3 – Clitoral Stimulation: The Right & Wrong Ways To Do It

A woman’s clitoris is a key instrument to bring her to an orgasm. Thus the way you stimulate this super erogenous zone is really vital. You see, when a woman is not properly aroused, touching or stimulating the clitoris may feel uncomfortable for her. The trick is to give her stimulation indirectly at first. Try running your fingers on each side of her clitoris shaft and caress her clitoral hood with your thumb. When she becomes aroused, you will feel her breathing heavily and the clitoral hood swelling up. This is when you know she is ready for more.

Tip #4 – The Rhythm Of Sex

Many men are mistaken that women are equally attuned to the speed and rhythm of a man’s touch. This is a fallacy. How you touch and caress her can vary in speed but the rhythm should not alter. Starting sex slowly is a great way to get her all warmed up to the act. As the sex progresses, women prefer the speed (including that of thrusting) to increase, culminating to a boil as an orgasm approaches. But make sure the overall rhythm or tempo remains the same.

Tip #5 – The Tantalizing Grind

Many men simply engage in straight thrusting motions during sex and wonder why their partners never get an orgasm. No matter how hard or how deep you penetrate her, you are unlikely to stimulate her enough to climax. The right way to perform penetration is this: instead of thrusting straight in, perform a grinding movement, using your hips to mimic a rotational motion. This works great for her because your pubic mound will rub against her clitoris as your penis stimulates her g-spot and sufficiently stimulate her to an intense orgasm.

Stop thinking about how well you will perform in bed for her! Focus on how she feels once you get started on her. Once you begin to realize that she feels great when you do sexual things for her, you will find your self confidence soaring and that you will actually achieve what most men fail to achieve in bed – bringing a woman to a spine-tingling series of orgasms!

Do Tongue Piercings Improve Oral Sex?

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You’ve probably heard that tongue piercings make make oral sex better, but is it true? How much of a difference does a tongue piercing really make when it comes to giving a blowjob or going down on a girl? Here’s the downlow on oral sex and tongue piercings and whether you should get one to please your partner.

Tongue Piercings And A Blowjob

Depending on the style of tongue ring worn, a tongue ring can definitely improve the sensations a guy feels during a blowjob. One of the most sensitive parts of a man’s penis is on the underneath, just below the head where the head meets the rest of the penis. The position of a tongue ring, even just one with a small ball on the top of the barbell is perfect for titillating this most sensitive spot and can really drive a man wild. Of course, the tongue ring will also stimulate other parts of the penis as well, and can provide tons of new sensations than just the tongue alone can. Other styles of tongue rings can be worn to create different sensations, such as “doorknocker” style tongue rings. These consist of a ring attached to the top ball of the tongue ring and the ring can move freely in a variety of ways. However, with the right skill set, a woman with or without a tongue ring can blow her partner’s mind during a blowjob!

Tongue Piercings And Cunnilingus

Tongue rings also have the potential to improve cunnilingus when a guy has his tongue pierced. During oral sex, the tongue ring will move around with the tongue, stimulating different parts of the vulva such as the clitoris while the tip of the tongue is stimulating an entirely different place. A man can use a tongue ring to drive his partner wild and give her incredible orgasms, even if he’s not schooled on how best to give a woman an orgasm through cunnilingus. There are many styles of tongue rings that are great for going down on a girl, however, the most interesting and titillating is the vibrating tongue ring. There are many tongue rings available that have a small vibrator attached to the top ball of the tongue ring and will vibrate as you lick your partner’s clitoris! Many women have trouble reaching orgasm through oral sex alone, however, a vibrating tongue ring can definitely put an end to that!

Should You Get A Tongue Piercing?

While there are many benefits that a tongue ring can bring to the bedroom, there are also risks involved as with any body modification, such as with genital piercings. Tongue piercings can get infected and cause major problems, and can also chip the backside of your teeth and reduce your gum line. Fortunately, piercings are removable and non-permanent so getting a piercing for your partner isn’t quite the committment getting their name tattooed on you would be. However, make sure you’re willing to go through the pain, swelling and healing period that comes with a tongue piercing and that you’re willing to take proper care of your piercing and keep it clean and infection free. Find a reputable, sterile piercing studio that has experience with tongue piercings and never, ever try to pierce your tongue yourself.

Sex Tip: Choosing The Best Lubricant For The Job

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Sexual lubricants are great products to use during all kinds of sex, including anal sex, vaginal sex and even masturbation for both men and women. Why do we like lube so much? It makes sex feel great and helps you last longer than if you’re relying on your body’s own lubricants or – eek! – saliva to do the job for you. Here’s the lowdown on the different kinds of lube on the market and how to use them.

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Why Do You Need Lube?

If you haven’t used lube before, you definitely need to try it! Chances are, you’ll never go back to having sex without it. Sexual lubricant makes sex feel better, because it reduces the amount of friction during sex. Sex feels smoother, slicker and lasts longer than if you’re just using saliva or not using anything at all.

Water Based Lubricants

Water based lubes are by far the best lubes out there. They’re simply made of water and glycerine and are extremely cost effective. They’re easy to use and easy to clean – in fact, you can clean up water based lube with just water, no soap required! It doesn’t stain your clothes or your sheets, but it will wear out quickly since it’s a thinner style lube that closely mimics a woman’s natural lubricant. You can’t use water based lube in the water, because it will rinse off quickly, but other than that, water based lube is definitely your go-to lube. Keep it by your bedside and use as necessary. Many lubes even come with a convenient pump that makes using it a breeze.

Silicone Based Lubricants

Silicone based lubes are a little thicker and are much better to use in the water because they don’t rinse off as easily. You can still clean up silicone lubricant easily with soap and water (and maybe a little elbow grease) but it’s great if you’re having sex or masturbating in the shower or pool. It also lasts longer than water based lubricant, so it’s a little better for those marathon sex sessions. Silicone based lube is safe for most sex toys, but it cannot be used with toys made from silicone! If you have a silicone toy, you’re better off using water based lube. Silicone lube isn’t recommended for frequent vaginal use because although the vagina is self cleaning, it’s difficult to get the silicone based lube out.

Oil And Petroleum Based Lubes

Oil and petroleum based lubes are the hardest to clean and are very thick. They can stain your clothes and sheets and can’t be used with latex at all. If you use latex condoms or have a latex sex toy, oil or petroleum based lubricant will begin to break down the latex. Not so bad if you’re just using a sex toy, but if you’re using a condom to prevent pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases, oil or petroleum lube can make the condom completely ineffective. Water or silicone based lubes are definitely better choices all around! If you must use an oil based lube, use it only for male masturbation. Women can use it during masturbation too (if the toys aren’t latex) but it is extremely hard to clean the vagina afterwards.

Flavored And Scented Lubes

Flavored or scented lubricants can be both silicone or water based (most likely water based) and are excellent to use for oral sex or just simply if you want a lube that smells and tastes good. There’s no difference between the effectiveness of a flavored or scented lube and a plain one, so it’s definitely a personal choice. There are many different flavors on the market, including yummy ones like strawberry or strawberry-kiwi.

Warming Lubes

Warming lubes can also be silicone or water based, but are most likely water based. A component within the formula of the lube makes the lube warm up during sex, and continue to get warmer during intercourse or masturbation. Warming lubes are great to have on hand if you want something a little different during sex, however, some people aren’t fond of just how warm and tingly warming lubricants can get when using them. If a warming lube is too hot for you, try diluting it with some regular lube for just a little extra kick.

Numbing And Desensitizing Lubes

There are numbing and desensitizing lubes and creams available on the market, but they do not come recommended. These are most often used for anal sex, since anal sex (especially the first time) can be quite painful. Numbing lubes will ease the pain of anal sex or even first time vaginal sex, but being pain free doesn’t necessarily mean there isn’t something wrong going on. You may not be able to feel the pain if your anus or lower colon tears, but tears can still happen and land you right in the emergency room. To put it bluntly, you need to be able to feel pain during anal sex so you can stop if something gets to painful or you feel like something might be wrong. Anuses aren’t made to accomodate large objects such as toys or penises (although they can) and the result can be a tear or even a bowel perforation. Don’t use numbing or desensitizing lube during anal sex because if you start to feel a lot of pain, it’s time to stop.

All Natural And Sensitive Skin Lubricants

An uncommon yet growing category of sexual lubricants are ones that are made for people with very sensitive skin. These lubes can be made with all natural ingredients and without dyes and perfumes that can be potentially irritating. If you have very sensitive skin and are using “free & clear” detergents and soaps in your home, consider using an all natural or sensitive skin lube during sex too.