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Swinger Danger! What To Do When Swinging Goes Wrong?

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Swinging can be fun, but sometimes one or more people find themselves in an uncomfortable situation. Can “swinging gone wrong” be prevented? How do you figure out what went wrong so it doesn’t happen again – or is there nothing you can do to keep uncomfortable swinger situations from cropping up?

A swinging situation involving rough sex goes wrong – what went wrong and how could it have been avoided? What you need to know to prevent swinging mishaps from happening to you!

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Communication, Communication, Communication

When it comes to communicating with your partner before swinging, and your potential swinging partners, there just isn’t enough. You simply can’t go overboard when you talk to your significant other and your friends before, during and even after each swinging session. The “before swinging” talk is the most important, especially if you’re with a new couple. Get to know your potential swingers before you actually swing. Talk about what you like, what they like and what you both don’t like or are uncomfortable with. The most common swinging “mishap” is when someone does something that someone else is uncomfortable with, but nobody said anything beforehand. Talk about your boundaries with your partner and your potential swinger friends. What are some things you aren’t willing to do? Cover your bases before you take your clothes of – you’ll save a lot of frustration and embarassment later. Don’t be afraid to hash out even the smallest of details. Don’t like red panties? Let it be known. Silly as it may seem, swinging is about people having fun together and it’s no fun if someone is uncomfortable.

Don’t Go Too Fast

When it comes to swinging, going slow is the way to go. You might be eager to jump in feet first, especially if you’re a first time swinger and have been thinking about it for awhile, but it’s difficult to go backwards with swinging. Start out by just making friends at first, or flirting a little. Have a few drinks with your potential swinging partners and get to know them. Talk about sex, and perhaps watch them having sex or let them watch you. Take baby steps. Doing a full swap right away can definitely be uncomfortable for first time swingers, and after a full swap, it can cause problems if you want to take it back to watching, or just oral sex.

Voice Your Concerns

So you’ve covered everything – at least you think you have – and you’re ready to start swinging. Your first swap goes great, until someone does something that weirds you out. What do you do? Keep quiet and say something afterwards? Let it bother you and ruin your fun? Absolutely not! While you want to be tactful and polite (even if something really bothers you), you want to be able to say something during the swap. That’s why it’s so important to swing with people you know and are comfortable with! If you let everyone know that something isn’t working for you, good swingers won’t judge you or criticize you. They’ll simply find another way to have fun that’s good for you too. If you swing with people who aren’t that way, find yourselves new swinger friends fast! Also, you want to be the kind of swingers that other people want to swing with too – so don’t be critical or judgemental if someone else pipes up with a concern. Take it all in stride and remember it’s about having a good time!

Female Orgasm Tip #6 – Clitoral Circles

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Whether you’re jumping in to our orgasm tips series now or have been following us since Tip #1, this next tip is going to be one of your “go to” moves in the bedroom. Tip # 6 is all about the clitoris – which almost every woman loves! While the g-spot can be difficult to find, the clitoris is usually not, and is one of the most sensitive areas on a woman’s genitals. In fact, the clitoris’ only job is to provide pleasure for a woman! It does absolutely nothing else. So watch this video and make this easy tip one of your partner’s favorites!

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Why Circles?

The clitoris is extremely sensitive – which is a good thing. But it can pose a problem if you’re angled the wrong way, because too much clitoral stimulation can be painful. For example, a tongue or finger stroke upwards from the bottom of the clitoris to the top is probably one of the worst moves you can make (except if your partner is very turned on and well lubricated). This move actually lifts the clitoral hood and exposes the sensitive inner clitoris, which can become painful if your partner isn’t turned on and for some women, it’s always painful. Clitoral circles provide stimulation to the clitoris without lifting the protective clitoral hood, giving your partner a great feeling without overdoing it.

Varying Your Strokes

All you have to do is move your tongue or finger in circles around your partner’s clitoris. It’s that simple and it’s a great technique to use during oral sex. If you’re looking for a more complicated, blow-her-mind-move, all you have to do with this stroke is vary the pressure and width of your circles. Start slowly, with wider, softer circles, and graduate to firmer, smaller circles right on the clitoris. Mix it up a little in between if you feel like it! Just remember that if you’re using your hands or fingers to make sure your nails are clean and trimmed and you use a generous dab of lube. Hangnails can hurt!

Why It Will Be One Of Her Favorite Moves

The clitoral circles technique will soon become one of your partner’s favorite moves and rightly so – it’s a fantastic feeling for her and easy for you to do! She’ll love it because she’ll get stimulation everywhere on her clitoris (and her vagina too if you use wide circles in conjunction with smaller ones) including the top, bottom and sides. Many clitoral maneuvers stick to just one area or side of the clitoris, providing pleasure but only in one spot. Clitoral circles will practically envelop her in pleasure! You can also use this technique in conjunction with clitoral sucking (not too hard) and g-spot stimulation. Don’t forget to utilize our other techniques as well while you’re using Tip #6, such as paying attention and getting your partner turned on and warmed up. As we go over each tip in the female orgasm series, it’s your job to put them all together and learn how to make them work for you so you can become the master of your partner’s orgasms – and a master of the bedroom!

Think you understand Female Orgasms? Take the Orgasm Quiz and find out!

Take just a minute to check out ‘The Female Orgasm Black Book’: “How To Give Her Mind Numbing, Leg Shaking Orgasms”

Female Orgasm Tip #5 – Are You Paying Attention?

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Giving a woman an orgasm can seem mystifying, but with a few tips and tricks, you’ll find yourself giving your partner more orgasms than you ever thought possible! You’ll definitely have her begging for more. So here’s another, much anticipated orgasm tip – one you need to add in the bedroom ASAP!

Do you really know how she’s feeling? Is she close to orgasm? How can you tell? Watch this video to find out!

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Awareness

Okay, awareness. That sounds kind of vague, right? Of course, but it’s an excellent principle to apply when you’re pleasuring your partner. When you’re giving your partner oral sex, massaging her g-spot or having intercourse with her, you’re trying to give her an orgasm. Simple. So why not pay attention to what she’s feeling? Sounds logical. You’d be surprised, however, at how many men think that “A + B = ORGASM” and only follow their “game plan” without being aware of how their partners are feeling in that very moment. Women, however, aren’t like mathematical formulas, and the same actions will not always get the same reaction at any given time. So to give your partner the type of orgasm she really wants, it’s time to learn how to pay attention to what she wants, how she wants it and when she wants it!

Cause And Effect

The most important part of great sex is being aware of what you’re doing and aware of your partner’s reactions to what you’re doing at all times. It sounds complicated, but it’s not. For example, if you’re giving your partner oral sex, listen to her moans, groans and body language to let you know if you’re doing it right or not. If your partner doesn’t seem into a certain move, change what you’re doing and listen and feel for the effect. Does she buck her hips, or let out a squeal? If so, keep doing what you’re doing. With every action there’s a reaction – and it may not always be in the form of “that’s perfect, stay right there” or “a little to the left” (although if you’re good at communicating with your partner, she might give you these types of directions) but she’ll definitely let you know if she’s liking what you’re doing or not in some way or another. You just have to pay attention!

Give Up Your Game Plan

To succeed at giving your partner an amazing orgasm (or many amazing orgasms) you first have to abandon your game plan. Having an idea of how to start pleasuring your partner is good, however, don’t get caught up in what you’re going to do next and after that and after that. It could all change depending on how your partner is feeling that day and what she likes. She may want it soft and subtle one day and hard and rough the next. Part of being an excellent lover and a master of female orgasms is being able to adapt yourself to your partner’s reactions and change what you’re doing based on what she’s communicating to you that she wants. Communication comes in a variety of different formats, including body language, non-descript vocalizations or straight up directions. You never know what you’re going to get, so make sure you’re paying attention for anything that comes your way and be ready to adapt to what your partner wants – she’ll be putty in your hands!

Think you understand Female Orgasms? Take the Orgasm Quiz and find out!

Take just a minute to check out ‘The Female Orgasm Black Book’: “How To Give Her Mind Numbing, Leg Shaking Orgasms”

How To Get More Sex In Your Relationship

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It’s common in a long term relationship or a marriage for sex to be on the bottom of your to-do list. It may escape you how it became a “to-do” at all, but most everybody at some point in their lives find that sex comes after chores, taking care of the kids and work. Most everybody wishes it were different though! Most people want to have more sex, better sex and hotter sex! Here’s how.

Not having as much sex as you once did? Has your sex life become a total bore? Here are some great ways to spice up your sex life and make it more interesting so that you both actually want to have sex more often!

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Variety Is Key

If you want more sex in your relationship, variety is key. It’s important to have variety in the bedroom to avoid getting into a sex rut. It’s easy to fall into a sex rut – some people have sex at the same time, in the same position and do the same things each and every time they have sex. While a sexual routine can be comfortable, you tend to put off “comfortable sex” for other things. It’s important to have variety to keep sex from becoming boring or “blah.” If the sex in your relationship is never or rarely the same, you’re going to be less apt to put it off and more apt to put it first.

Long Term Relationships Have More Sexual Benefits

Believe it or not, the myth that sex is better if you have sex with lots of different people is just that – a myth. You can actually experience the best sex of your life in a long term relationship. Why is that? When you’re more comfortable with someone, it’s easier to share your fantasies with them and try new and different things. Yes, getting comfortable with someone can easily lead to “comfortable” sex, but if you put a little effort into it, being comfortable with someone can equally end up in kinkier, hotter and better sex than you’ve ever had in your life.

How To Spice Up Your Sex

Roleplaying is a great way to add something different to your sex “routine.” You can experiment with different types of roleplaying, such as switching dominant and submissive roles, or you can act out fantasies such as the “teacher” and “student” or “maid.” Costumes are fun too and can make roleplaying seem more real. Another way to spice up your sex life is to give your partner different types of orgasms. Touch different areas on your partner, such as her clitoris, her g-spot, his penis, his scrotum, and his perineum. Don’t forget nipples, lips and neck too!

You can also try new positions with your partner. Different positions will feel different sexually and stimulate different areas as well. Another great way to spice up your sex life is to check into a hotel for a night or a weekend! It’s a perfect way to get out of the house and away from your responsibilities for something fun and different.

Does Masturbation Reduce Fertility In Men?

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There are many myths when it comes to male (and even female) masturbation. Some old wives tales continue to circulate, such as the myth that men get hairy palms or go blind if they masturbate. Fortunately, most of us have been able to sort out the truth from the lies, but some questions aren’t so bogus – what about masturbation, fertility and erections? What are the facts?

Many men want to know – does masturbation reduce fertility in men? Does it affect their ability to have an erection? Watch this video for the answer…

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The Straight Facts

Masturbation does not reduce fertility in men. This is a common misconception, but a generally a man’s testicles are able to reproduce sperm at a high rate. Frequent masturbation, such as daily masturbation or masturbation more than once a day, may temporarily reduce sperm count, but won’t affect fertility in the long term. Masturbation, especially during the teen years, won’t affect a man’s fertility at all in his life, although there are other factors (such as which type of underwear are worn) may affect fertility temporarily. Other things that can affect sperm count are exercise and medications. If you’re concerned about your fertility, see a doctor to discuss your lifestyle and daily habits to find out which ones are most conducive to being fertile.

Masturbation And Erectile Dysfunction

Masturbation also does not affect a man’s ability to get an erection, now or later in life. In fact, masturbation can help with sexual relief and can sometimes help with impotency (practicing getting an erection and finding out what is arousing), and even frequent masturbation won’t cause or speed up erectile dysfunction in later years. Erectile dysfunction can be caused by age, medication and some other factors. The best thing to do if you’re worried about erectile dysfunction or think you may have problems getting an erection is see your doctor. Your doctor can investigate different reasons you might be having erectile problems. Don’t worry – any erectile dysfunction you’re experiencing now wasn’t caused by frequent masturbation when you were younger.

If You’re Trying To Have A Baby

That said, if you’re trying to have a baby with your partner, masturbating frequently, such as every day or multiple times during the day, probably isn’t the best idea. Many fertility doctors will tell a man to discontinue masturbating and have sex with his partner instead to try to get their partner pregnant, but this is simply to provide more opportunity for sperm to reach an egg. It has nothing to do with masturbation lowering sperm count and affecting a man’s ability to get his partner pregnant.

Normal Masturbation?

Of course, male (and female) masturbation is normal and a healthy part of any sex life. It’s important to find out what pleases you and can be a quick way to relieve sexual frustration and provide satisfaction, especially if you’re not sexually active with a partner. Some people, however, think that frequent masturbation is too much – but how much is too much? That really comes down to personal preference. As long as it doesn’t become an addiction that adversely impacts your life in other ways, “right” is a different number for each of us.